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How old were you when you became a father?

carsun1000

carsun1000

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Hey Fam

In two to three weeks my woman whom I have known for almost ten years (Married for almost three) will bring our child into this world. I am almost forty year old (Will be in august) and just having my first child. I wanted to wait and make sure that all the conditions were right. You know, things like secure jobs for wife and I, some money saved up in banks, my education ( I have two masters degree and the wife is working on hers).
The point I am just trying to make here is did you get a chance to set your priorities straight before you had your child(ren)?
Did having a child at a younger age turned you into a hussler to make ends meet? Or you took your time? We always learn from each other on this board and that is what I like about coming here. I have heard enough baby mama and baby daddy stories to make sure i made the right choice. Did you do the same?
 
So your child's classmates in Junior hs will tell them I just saw your grandfather in the office.

nah seriously my father had me when he turned 40 but I wasn't the first.

i had my first when i was 19 and my last when i was 37.
 
ballscout1 said:
So your child's classmates in Junior hs will tell them I just saw your grandfather in the office.

nah seriously my father had me when he turned 40 but I wasn't the first.

i had my first when i was 19 and my last when i was 37.
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Trust me, I already thought about what it is going to be chasing a young gun around in the next five years !!!!
 
Alphamax30 said:
My goal was to wait til I was both over 25 and married, so 28 and 31.
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if you can do that then you are really making a good choice. there is nothing less exciting than having a child you are not ready for or don't even want.
 
carsun1000 said:
Trust me, I already thought about what it is going to be chasing a young gun around in the next five years !!!!
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Just come to the door wearing a wife beater some boxers and a shoulder holster with your jammy in it. That visual will spread and give you at least a few additional years..
 
I inherited 2 stepsons so I became a father @ 29. I just had my first biological son @ 37. :yes::yes:
 
Had my son at 21. I was a junior in college. Forced me to grow up real quick. I went from college kid with no responsibilities except going to school, to hustlin like crazy in 9 months. Took me a while to grasp the concept of being a dad. I really didn't pick up on it fully until I had my daughter at 25. My wife and I really wanna squeeze in another one next year and probably 1 more after that.
 
marca said:
^^^ummm i dont mean to be picky but 16+18=34 sooo :confused:


to ans op 27 congrats and good luck
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it's great because they are both remediable students at the local community college and they can cheat on quizzes.

There also sounds like a blur in the line between parent and road dog.
 
justfacts said:
Had my son at 21. I was a junior in college. Forced me to grow up real quick. I went from college kid with no responsibilities except going to school, to hustlin like crazy in 9 months. Took me a while to grasp the concept of being a dad. I really didn't pick up on it fully until I had my daughter at 25. My wife and I really wanna squeeze in another one next year and probably 1 more after that.
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Hey at least you learned from your mistakes. Good luck with the future. I am just a lil nervous on what to expect other than that i think i will be a great dad
 
No kids yet at 33 but my dad had me at 50 (Not his First) but my moms first at 41. Just to put your mind at ease..I missed NOTHING from having parents older than my friends. A stable household and two loving parents are all a kid needs and I got that in abundance. Kinda sucks now cause I have to deal with situations and choices most 33 y/o don't but thats another conversation. I'm sure you'll do great and congrats!!
 
19. Hasn't been easy but worth it. Glad I gave her my last name since I married her mom eventually.
 
carsun1000 said:
Hey at least you learned from your mistakes. Good luck with the future. I am just a lil nervous on what to expect other than that i think i will be a great dad
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Stuff I learned the hard way:

Learn to change diapers...quickly. When they're infants, it's not bad. But older babies will run while they're getting changed.

Don't buy an infant movement monitoring system. The first time the baby rolls off the crib sensor and that alarm goes off, you will fuck any and everything up trying to run in the room and check on the baby.

Get a separate, more masculine diaper bag.

Don't feel guilty about getting your sleep. Especially, if your wife is breastfeeding.

For the most part, most diapers are equal. Although I've had problems with Luvs in the past.

NEVER forget about your wife. Seems basic, but so many times people get caught up in the new baby and people coming over to visit and take pictures of the baby, that sometimes your wife can just fade into the background. Especially if she's pumping in the other room. Let the baby entertain guest and spend a few moments with the wife.
 
carsun1000 said:
I know, I already have a bad back from military service (army)
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Have a kid later in life and throw your back out lifting your kid

have a kid early in life and throw your back out lifting your grandkid.


the moral is you have to learn proper lifting technique .


:lol::lol::lol::lol::lol:
 
CobraKai said:
No kids yet at 33 but my dad had me at 50 (Not his First) but my moms first at 41. Just to put your mind at ease..I missed NOTHING from having parents older than my friends. A stable household and two loving parents are all a kid needs and I got that in abundance. Kinda sucks now cause I have to deal with situations and choices most 33 y/o don't but thats another conversation. I'm sure you'll do great and congrats!!
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Good to know fam and good luck with the decisions you have to make
 
carsun1000 said:
Hey Fam

In two to three weeks my woman whom I have known for almost ten years (Married for almost three) will bring our child into this world. I am almost forty year old (Will be in august) and just having my first child. I wanted to wait and make sure that all the conditions were right. You know, things like secure jobs for wife and I, some money saved up in banks, my education ( I have two masters degree and the wife is working on hers).
The point I am just trying to make here is did you get a chance to set your priorities straight before you had your child(ren)?
Did having a child at a younger age turned you into a hussler to make ends meet? Or you took your time? We always learn from each other on this board and that is what I like about coming here. I have heard enough baby mama and baby daddy stories to make sure i made the right choice. Did you do the same?
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I had my first Son at 19 and my second Son at 21. My priorities weren't totally in order when I had my first but I didn't need to hustle either.

They are 4 and 2 now, my Wife and I make this family thing so easy.
 
Oddly, I've set my deadline at 38, which will put me right @ 55 when he/she is completing high school. I know it sounds like overplanning, but that's my roadmap.

BTW, congrats to the OP.
 
ok this may sound like a stupid question so don't laugh. one thing i notice is that when dudes get older that they lose a little bit of their willingness/ability to appear affectionate to children. i saw that with my dad at least. usually if there is a little kid in the house (say a visitor's child), everyone is real gentle/playful/affectionate etc. but sometimes i notice that the older cats sometimes seem even repulsed. now i dont know if that's just a symptom of the whole "everyone gets crankier with age" thing, but it's something ive seen. so to OP, if you find yourself acting that way just know that you will have to go out of your boundaries as far as acting in that way since children demand (and even deserve) it.

anyone else know what im talking about tho? like my dad, we could be in a room full of little kids and whereas the other people are like "awww s/he is cute," my dad is like "get away from me, u booger eating shitty pants, now knowing where ur hands been all day azz nigga!" (ok not in those words but u get my drift)
 
justfacts said:
Stuff I learned the hard way:

Learn to change diapers...quickly. When they're infants, it's not bad. But older babies will run while they're getting changed.

Don't buy an infant movement monitoring system. The first time the baby rolls off the crib sensor and that alarm goes off, you will fuck any and everything up trying to run in the room and check on the baby.

Get a separate, more masculine diaper bag.

Don't feel guilty about getting your sleep. Especially, if your wife is breastfeeding.

For the most part, most diapers are equal. Although I've had problems with Luvs in the past.

NEVER forget about your wife. Seems basic, but so many times people get caught up in the new baby and people coming over to visit and take pictures of the baby, that sometimes your wife can just fade into the background. Especially if she's pumping in the other room. Let the baby entertain guest and spend a few moments with the wife.
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Dilly noted Sir!!
 

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