how is it possible that obviously pretty girls feel like they're not pretty??

[dopemcee]

posted this in the other subforum but realize it will be better suited here


you know the ones that everyone recognizes as very pretty but yet have low self esteem to the point where they feel they;re not pretty..

how is it remotely possible though? when they look at the mirror and look at the way other females look how can they really think the thought that they're not pretty??

it really perplexes my cranium, how do they convince themselves that all the 95 percent of ppl out there that consider them pretty are wrong...?

 

[ladyscorpio]

You answered your own question....Self esteem is lacking. If they were not given the tools to work with to build inner strength and confidence they will probably always think of themselves in that light.
It also depends on one's perception of "pretty"

 

[lilsexii]

Self esteem in a nutshell.

People can tell them, but it doesn't matter unless they believe it themselves.

 

[femmenoire]

Well with so many women that may have been sexually abused as a child, it's easiy to come across that if they associate their looks with the reason why they were attacked.

 

[bigirl]

reading some comments on BGOL about a flawless woman and they still rip her apart, it would be hard for anyone to feel pretty

 

[Cleopatra_J]

Because pretty only gets you so far. Beauty fades. For every pretty girl, there is someone else equally as pretty.


And she may not have always known she was pretty. Having a childhood and adolescence filled with teasing and shit does not go away quickly. It takes time for the scars to fade and really realize that you are "pretty"

 

[AristotlesOwn]

Because guys are intimidated and won't talk to them. It sends a message and makes them feel like they aren't pretty. I know every guy in here has had a moment where they saw a woman and thought "damn, she's too beautiful, she would never go out with me" or "she thinks she's the shit, I don't want to gas her head up". I learned quickly that usually isn't the case, in fact, I wrote a piece of prose about this very thing in the poems and inspiriation thread. Turned out she was as interested in me as I was in her. Never again will I make that mistake.

 

[TRUFICTION]

"Our Perception Of Ourselves
Is Often Very Different Than
The Way Others Perceive Us."

Trufiction 2007
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[thighsneyez22]

1. Bad Parents
2. Bad Relationships

 

[Izayoi]

"Our Perception Of Ourselves
Is Often Very Different Than
The Way Others Perceive Us."

Trufiction 2007
​

It's like looking in a distorted mirror.

 

[SirRahX]

"Our Perception Of Ourselves
Is Often Very Different Than
The Way Others Perceive Us."

Trufiction 2007
​

Word!!!

 

[bigirl]

Because guys are intimidated and won't talk to them. It sends a message and makes them feel like they aren't pretty. I know every guy in here has had a moment where they saw a woman and thought "damn, she's too beautiful, she would never go out with me" or "she thinks she's the shit, I don't want to gas her head up". I learned quickly that usually isn't the case, in fact, I wrote a piece of prose about this very thing in the poems and inspiriation thread. Turned out she was as interested in me as I was in her. Never again will I make that mistake.

ah yes i have been on both sides of this situation

 

[SuperGenius]

Excellent points in here....good thread.

 

[bigirl]

@ the HUGE difference in replies on this thread here vs BGOL

 

[Mo-Better]

There's a number of reasons like failed romances. Not being able to land that special guy. Beauty is only skin deep and I've found some beautiful women to be very self centered and spoiled. I once saw a woman enter the office looking for a new job and I knew the moment I saw her she would be hired. I knew my boss.

For some their beauty is all they have. But what happens when beauty doesn't help you land that job or get that guy? These failures work on ones self esteem. So suddenly they don't feel so beautiful.

 

[Ciel]

because they're idiots.

I have a couple of friends who are absolutely gorgeous... I mean cause-car-accidents-on-the-street-type pretty, and they are always going on about how they need to get plastic surgery to fix some non-existent flaw or they're so ugly. Coincidentally, they're not exactly the brightest bulbs in the bunch... so I just equate it with them being dumb. I know it's a simplistic theory but I can't come up with any other reason.

I figure if a half dozen or more people comment on your beauty every damn day, perhaps you should believe them.

 

[BRUCE LEROY]

One Word: Society. Who else has (wrongly) determined what the standard of beauty is.

 

[easlib1]

knew a girl named elaine she had a sister most thought were better looking named della but i thought elaine was better looking by a lot. she was more approachable and easy to talk too if i had been older (we were kids) i would've tried to talk to her before her sister. she even believed she was less than.

who knows there are others like crystal and terry, sherry and tiny its only my opinion but these were pretty girls over shadowed by less pretty more popular older sisters

 

[thoughtone]

Because pretty only gets you so far. Beauty fades. For every pretty girl, there is someone else equally as pretty.


And she may not have always known she was pretty. Having a childhood and adolescence filled with teasing and shit does not go away quickly. It takes time for the scars to fade and really realize that you are "pretty"

Yea, pretty may be enough to get them too “Hello, I noticed you standing over there, I think you are very pretty, my names is…” but to some women, that is all they think they have.

 

[thoughtone]

because they're idiots.

I have a couple of friends who are absolutely gorgeous... I mean cause-car-accidents-on-the-street-type pretty, and they are always going on about how they need to get plastic surgery to fix some non-existent flaw or they're so ugly. Coincidentally, they're not exactly the brightest bulbs in the bunch... so I just equate it with them being dumb. I know it's a simplistic theory but I can't come up with any other reason.

I figure if a half dozen or more people comment on your beauty every damn day, perhaps you should believe them.

For me, I don’t care how pretty you are perceived to be, if ya open up your mouth and cobwebs come out, I’m gone!