How do you deal with a baby mamma's boyfriend that used to be your friend?

Dannyblueyes

Aka Illegal Danny
BGOL Investor
I swear, this whole soap opera has gotten so complicated that only a woman could figure it out.

My ex and I were married for 6 years and have two kids together. We broke up about 3 years ago. Shortly after we broke up she started seeing a close friend of mine. I cut him off immediately and have hardly spoke to him since.

My ex wife and I however have remained on friendly terms. We have very separate lives, but we've always come together on important issues, especially when the kids are involved. Occasionally we even have a friendly chat on the phone to see how the other is doing. It was during one of those chats that she mentioned her boyfriend is paranoid that she's been having an affair with me. This is completely untrue. Never happened. I'm not quite sure where he gets this idea from.

This issue has strained their relationship near the breaking point. Now normally I wouldn't care, except that my children love this dude like a father and I would hate for them to lose someone that important to them over something that isn't even true. I'm thinking it might be time to have a chat with him, but I'm not sure what to say. Does anyone have an idea or insight?
 
This some sick shit man.. how ya ex gonna fuck wit ya friend and yall still be cool. Thats fucking grimey. e grimey too to fuck wit ya ex wife. I dont know man.. i aint got no answers for this one. :smh:
 
Hummm, Interesting stuff here! You cut him off because he hopped on your ex before you were even sure it was over. Now, you're calling her just to see how she's doing, then you come in here trying to make it sound like he's the one who's buggin. Interesting.

Actually I called her to settle some legal issues involving the children. A few other points of conversation came up along the way.

And no, I didn't cut him off because I wasn't sure if it was over. I knew it was over at the time, but IMO when your friend breaks up with his woman that woman is immediately off limits unless she's family or a jumpoff. You don't even talk to her if you can help it. To act otherwise suggests betrayal.
 
dude is insecure, if he can't handle her past, then tell him he needs to be her past.

cause as long as that shit stays on his mind, he'll never be able to look at her the same.
 
Worry about your kids, man. That other shit is secondary.

But, if you feel you need to, talk to him ONCE and tell him not to worry about you and your ex having some shit going on. Your dealings with each other is strictly business (children).

If he still can't come to grips, tell your ex to be out for her sake. Dude is about 2 exits from Psycho on the Turnpike and travelling about 150MPH.
 
Worry about your kids, man. That other shit is secondary.

But, if you feel you need to, talk to him ONCE and tell him not to worry about you and your ex having some shit going on. Your dealings with each other is strictly business (children).

If he still can't come to grips, tell your ex to be out for her sake. Dude is about 2 exits from Psycho on the Turnpike and travelling about 150MPH.

I think you're on point with this one. Last year someone, not sure who, started a rumor that I was the father of his child. Again, it wasn't true, but he was still trying to fight me in my apartment lobby. Ex intervened and took him home. A few days later he threatened a friend of mine at work because he thought the dude was spreading the rumor. Again, probably not true and even if it was threatening someone on the job is a bitch move.

Yeah, it's definitely time for a man to man chat. This advice rings true. Thanks.
 
Your friend's amnesia is just wearing off, thats all. In the heat of passion & betrayal, he conveniently forgot one of the oldest rules in the book: if she let him slide in behind you; she might let you slide in behind him. Doesn't matter if you're seeing her or not, the fog is lifting - and obviously, for him, its a frightening prospect. :D

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Your friend's amnesia is just wearing off, thats all. In the heat of passion & betrayal, he conveniently forgot one of the oldest rules in the book: if she let him slide in behind you; she might let you slide in behind him. Doesn't matter if you're seeing her or not, the fog is lifting - and obviously, for him, its a frightening prospect. :D

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It's real simple indeed. Chickens come home to roost, an Danny, there ain't shit you say gonna help the way he feels.

When something is actually happening, people can talk about it, agree to disagree, etc.

When the wrong is imaginary . . . :smh: . . . people will hang on to imaginary shit they can't prove, till the day they DIE.

:hmm:
 
Damn, if it wasn't for the kids. I'd say fuck him.

I went through something similar... my girl was cheating on me and the nigga knocked her up and that nigga got the nerve to be nervous and not want her to associate with me and wonder if the baby might be mine... I'm like, "Nigga, you was in the wrong and was dumb enough to wife an unfaithful bitch."

That's that nigga's fear of kharma.

Don't do some dirty shit and be nervous... If you talk to dude remind him of that.
 
They don't need to talk; they might explode at any time and leave the children daddy/step-less and the other in jail; they share a common fuse: same pussy.
 
Damn, if it wasn't for the kids. I'd say fuck him.

I went through something similar... my girl was cheating on me and the nigga knocked her up and that nigga got the nerve to be nervous and not want her to associate with me and wonder if the baby might be mine... I'm like, "Nigga, you was in the wrong and was dumb enough to wife an unfaithful bitch."

That's that nigga's fear of kharma.

Don't do some dirty shit and be nervous... If you talk to dude remind him of that.

No dirty shit on my part. I told them what I thought years ago. Since then I've realized that nothing I do would make it better. Even if I killed him she could still go poach another one of my friends. Then I would lose another one, plus my freedom if i ever got caught. I can sleep well enough knowing he's good to the kids.

Reminding him of that karma might be a good idea. Might have to get him drunk first though.
 
They don't need to talk; they might explode at any time and leave the children daddy/step-less and the other in jail; they share a common fuse: same pussy.

Nah. The only way i would ever get violent with him is if he attacked me. In that case I'll knock him flat on his pink panther looking ass in a clear cut case of self defense.

The other option is to just call him. He doesn't know where I live now and I'm leaving for the Bay in a couple of months.
 
thats what thay mufucka get for going after your ex wife. That against the rules. You never deal with your partnes ex's or their sisters. And your wife should have know better too.
 
sounds to me like hes waiting on the 'get back'. its never a good look to hop on your friends ex- he knows this and feels like you may retailiate. sounds kinda childish to me, but to each his own. dont stop having a mature relationship with the mother of your kids over it- they need to see that you 2 can get along. what can you do about your ex's relationship issue? damn dude, idk about that.. part of me says talk to him just ot clear the air... but i think i'm leaning toward leave it alone- stay out of it... if hes on some childish stuff anyway, talking to him isnt going to do anything but add fuel to the fire..
 
send that man an old pick of your dick in her pussy and ask him... "do want to see the now pic?"

on the real any woman who consults, admits, tells you about other dick is reaching for 2 things..... your advice and your dick.

now which one you want her to have? .... or both?
 
send that man an old pick of your dick in her pussy and ask him... "do want to see the now pic?"

on the real any woman who consults, admits, tells you about other dick is reaching for 2 things..... your advice and your dick.

now which one you want her to have? .... or both?

Neither. Her and I get along too well. I don't want to ruin that with fucking.
 
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