How do women choose bitch ass men repeatedly?

[Rick Ronson]

Its easy maybe once or twice, but to develop a pattern requires some skill.

What is the best way to get caught up over and over again with the same
caliber of sorry ass nigga.

Is it like an image thing where sorry ass niggas just seem to have mastered
the look?

Does a successful type dude sound and act like a nerd and wear his belt too high?

Do you like jeans or slacks..sneaks or shoes...does this even matter?

Is "hey ma" or just "hello" more appropriate.

Im a good dude and hear of yall getting the shit dogged out of yall.

Just got off the phone with my sister talking about my two female
cousins with dr degrees and 6 figures continuously meeting bad
men.

I guess you have to do this shit when you are young and build or
anything goes out here. Everybody gets in defense mode after
getting all beat up...When in defense you cant really go forward.

To all you women who have a man and value what you have...props.

To all those that dont....i cannot say its your fault based on shit i see.

It takes a certain caliber of woman for a man to put faith in

It also requires a man who gives a fuck about all of that.

But bitches are making it hard for black women.

Im just sayin....​

 

[DeSiRe]

ignoring the red flags

thinking it will get better

thinking you can fix him

 

[BCAA2009]

Crickets.............

....... As expected.

 

[Rick Ronson]

Crickets.............

....... As expected.

Its rhetorical

I know damn well i wont get no answer out of that question.

I could have made the title why are these niggas so sorry if i wanted responses.

I want these women to realize that choices is what its all about.

If they got caught up with a bitch ass nigga its because they chose him.

He didnt turn into a bitch ass nigga during the dating process.

It doesnt take much to fool yall....yall really need to work on that.

Women seem to run a tight ship and are selective but it seems
when many finally take a chance on someone its a bitch ass nigga.

You dont have to admit your mistakes as long as you dont make the same mistakes.

Think about what you did that last time or what drew you in.

Try something different next time.

If yall have enough respect for a black man to listen you all can learn.

If you dont really have respect for him you will never understand him or keep one.

If you think its all about you .....it will be.....all about you.

 

[DeSiRe]

did my reply not show up

 

[Rick Ronson]

did my reply not show up

props

i look around and see good men and good women out here

people are bullshitting making poor choices excuses half ass
trying and getting distracted out here.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

It's a very complicated thing, something you guys seem to be looking for 1 answer too when it's a many headed creature. The same thing can be said from my point of view really.

 

[melonpecan]

ignoring the red flags

thinking it will get better

thinking you can fix him

Oh my goodness you hit it on the head.


If you see a red flag what makes you think if you stay, or cook dinner, or get pregnant that things will change? It's the same logic a chick got to act like A, get married and then act like B.


Another thing, chicks need to not think that they need to find a man with one thing. Oh well I need a car but I don't work....ok let me find a man with a car. Well I want to move out...let me find a man with his own house. I want to make money...let me find an entrepreneur. Or my favorite - he light skinned...but he don't work...let me find you a job. He ain't got no ambition but the sex good! GTFOH.

If chicks stopped settling for that they think they need cause they want to floss they could find a good man and the losers will straighten their act. If chicks stopped getting with dudes with their pants hugging their knees maybe hey would pull that shit up.



Now I know the question was rhetorical but I have to answer. A 'hello' will get you MUCH MUCH FARTHER than 'hey pretty thang' or trying to say something that you think is clever but you really just end up sounding like an idiot. But of course the chick won't tell you...we too afraid you hiding glocks. If a chick keep dealing with dudes that come to them WRONG, it's because they like the flattery...once that shit wear off the relationship go downhill and hey get to see how much of a loser dude really is.




But don't mind me.

 

[DeSiRe]

Oh my goodness you hit it on the head.


If you see a red flag what makes you think if you stay, or cook dinner, or get pregnant that things will change? It's the same logic a chick got to act like A, get married and then act like B.


Another thing, chicks need to not think that they need to find a man with one thing. Oh well I need a car but I don't work....ok let me find a man with a car. Well I want to move out...let me find a man with his own house. I want to make money...let me find an entrepreneur. Or my favorite - he light skinned...but he don't work...let me find you a job. He ain't got no ambition but the sex good! GTFOH.

If chicks stopped settling for that they think they need cause they want to floss they could find a good man and the losers will straighten their act. If chicks stopped getting with dudes with their pants hugging their knees maybe hey would pull that shit up.



Now I know the question was rhetorical but I have to answer. A 'hello' will get you MUCH MUCH FARTHER than 'hey pretty thang' or trying to say something that you think is clever but you really just end up sounding like an idiot. But of course the chick won't tell you...we too afraid you hiding glocks. If a chick keep dealing with dudes that come to them WRONG, it's because they like the flattery...once that shit wear off the relationship go downhill and hey get to see how much of a loser dude really is.




But don't mind me.

u forgot the woman who meets a guy "down on his luck"

no car...no job...no place

but a few months ago (before she met him of course) he was ballin outta control and was able to do all these things...and once he gets back on his feet he can live that life again

ol girl is sadly sold a bunch of empty dreams cause ol boy was never shit and he never will be shit

 

[DeSiRe]

props

i look around and see good men and good women out here

people are bullshitting making poor choices excuses half ass
trying and getting distracted out here.

yep...people got fucked up priorities

 

[mikemagic63]

Women get comfortable and they get set in their ways. A different dude that would do different wouldn't appeal. Because he's different.

 

[Boo_Slim]

Who gives a shit about these women?

There are a lot of women who seek out and find good dudes?

It takes a smart woman to fall in love with a good man.

 

[djbreeze]

bitch-ass fathers

 

[JofromthaNO]

Misplaced priorities...

Another poster said it well about women looking for "wants" instead of compatibility and things that will equate to long-lasting relationships...

And, once you're deep into a relationship with a bitch-ass man, it's hard to get out...cause your loyalty takes over and you want to stay...

It's sad, but if women took the time to know and understand themselves better, they probably wouldn't end up with men who weren't worth their time...

 

[Blunt]

A better question would be, why are there so many "bitch ass men" out there for women to choose from?

 

[SuchATease]

ignoring the red flags

thinking it will get better

thinking you can fix him

Exactly! I agree....We get caught up in the butterflies, compliments etc. that we don't see the red flags or think oh well it could be worse...etc

 

[melonpecan]

u forgot the woman who meets a guy "down on his luck"

no car...no job...no place

but a few months ago (before she met him of course) he was ballin outta control and was able to do all these things...and once he gets back on his feet he can live that life again

ol girl is sadly sold a bunch of empty dreams cause ol boy was never shit and he never will be shit

Then there is no surprise when they end up on the couch doing shit for the past three months and you come home and ain't nawn cookie left in the jar.

A better question would be, why are there so many "bitch ass men" out there for women to choose from?

*raises hand




I got to be wary of you Blunt but yeah, I agree with this.

 

[dHustla]

u forgot the woman who meets a guy "down on his luck"

no car...no job...no place

but a few months ago (before she met him of course) he was ballin outta control and was able to do all these things...and once he gets back on his feet he can live that life again

ol girl is sadly sold a bunch of empty dreams cause ol boy was never shit and he never will be shit

This struck a nerve with me because I'm down on my luck, DeSiRe.

Bay, this ain't always true.

I took a loss, hell, I had a losing year to where I lost just about everything.

I had a loft apt close to downtown ATL, truck, biz....Now I have none of it. I'm building now... but I'm basically saying you can't look at what the nigga has or where he is in life, you have to look at the characteristics he has.

I still work hard, even harder than when my bank account was straight.
I still have self-discipline.
I have even more self-respect now.
I have more humility now.
I have better professional communication skills now(always had 'em but never had to use 'em)
I'm a better judge of character now.
I could go on...... but I hope you understand.

I'm not saying I was balling outta control though. I was just comfortable...

I feel like you just shitted on me

 

[dHustla]

Oh my goodness you hit it on the head.


If you see a red flag what makes you think if you stay, or cook dinner, or get pregnant that things will change? It's the same logic a chick got to act like A, get married and then act like B.


Another thing, chicks need to not think that they need to find a man with one thing. Oh well I need a car but I don't work....ok let me find a man with a car. Well I want to move out...let me find a man with his own house. I want to make money...let me find an entrepreneur. Or my favorite - he light skinned...but he don't work...let me find you a job. He ain't got no ambition but the sex good! GTFOH.

If chicks stopped settling for that they think they need cause they want to floss they could find a good man and the losers will straighten their act. If chicks stopped getting with dudes with their pants hugging their knees maybe hey would pull that shit up.



Now I know the question was rhetorical but I have to answer. A 'hello' will get you MUCH MUCH FARTHER than 'hey pretty thang' or trying to say something that you think is clever but you really just end up sounding like an idiot. But of course the chick won't tell you...we too afraid you hiding glocks. If a chick keep dealing with dudes that come to them WRONG, it's because they like the flattery...once that shit wear off the relationship go downhill and hey get to see how much of a loser dude really is.




But don't mind me.

You seem to describe women that don't know what they want.

And it appears that of the women that do know what they want, many of them don't know how to get what they want.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Dh for as you talk about yourself, there's 100,000 other guys out there who are just like what Desire said.

 

[Rick Ronson]

My moms stayed single after divorce.

Dated but was content with her solitude and peace of mind.

I cant say being single is a bad thing if aint shit out there.

This struck a nerve with me because I'm down on my luck, DeSiRe.

Bay, this ain't always true.

I took a loss, hell, I had a losing year to where I lost just about everything.

I had a loft apt close to downtown ATL, truck, biz....Now I have none of it. I'm building now... but I'm basically saying you can't look at what the nigga has or where he is in life, you have to look at the characteristics he has.

I still work hard, even harder than when my bank account was straight.
I still have self-discipline.
I have even more self-respect now.
I have more humility now.
I have better professional communication skills now(always had 'em but never had to use 'em)
I'm a better judge of character now.

Stay on point shit is crazy right now.

Bitch ass niggas make it hard for you also.

 

[Cleopatra_J]

Hhmmmhh.. I think its a combination of many things mentioned here and also some women haven't quite realized their own self worth to actually say I deserve someone on par with me or better. They think they have to settle for what they have, "he doesn't have a job buuttt he's a good person and he accepts me .." Despite what some women project they aren't as confident or secure as they pretend to be.

 

[DragonXJC]

Same reason we choose dumb hoes, too worried about the surface. Every cat wants a bad bitch and have the consequences of a dumb broad.

Women go through his also, they give into temptation.

 

[GET YOU HOT]

Taken out of context, but this is the only point I don't fully agree with...

To all you women who have a man and value what you have...props.

To all those that dont....i cannot say its your fault based on shit i see.

Value heard!


A man’s worth is not measured by his wealth but by his beliefs. If he stands for what he believes in he is truly a man. And he then has worth.



Read more: http://socyberty.com/people/a-mans-worth/#ixzz14vfTZu7D



Some women don't have a man, because they don't want to deal with bullshit. Keep it short and sweet, sex and good bye...

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Taken out of context, but this is the only point I don't fully agree with...




Value heard!


A man’s worth is not measured by his wealth but by his beliefs. If he stands for what he believes in he is truly a man. And he then has worth.



Read more: http://socyberty.com/people/a-mans-worth/#ixzz14vfTZu7D



Some women don't have a man, because they don't want to deal with bullshit. Keep it short and sweet, sex and good bye...

I like this. This is how it should be. But it's not in alot of places, in a lot of minds.

 

[Top_Bunk]

There are a lot of bitch ass men and women. If someone has a habbit of choosing piss poor men/women then that speaks on their choice.

 

[DeSiRe]

This struck a nerve with me because I'm down on my luck, DeSiRe.

Bay, this ain't always true.

I took a loss, hell, I had a losing year to where I lost just about everything.

I had a loft apt close to downtown ATL, truck, biz....Now I have none of it. I'm building now... but I'm basically saying you can't look at what the nigga has or where he is in life, you have to look at the characteristics he has.

I still work hard, even harder than when my bank account was straight.
I still have self-discipline.
I have even more self-respect now.
I have more humility now.
I have better professional communication skills now(always had 'em but never had to use 'em)
I'm a better judge of character now.
I could go on...... but I hope you understand.

I'm not saying I was balling outta control though. I was just comfortable...

I feel like you just shitted on me

im not talking about someone like you

the ecomony and the recession have alot of people hurting out here...honest i know few people who are doing better overall than they were a few years ago

trust me i understand that things happen to good people...

im talking about some men that basically lie...or over exaggerate about themselves or their past

 

[dHustla]

im not talking about someone like you

the ecomony and the recession have alot of people hurting out here...honest i know few people who are doing better overall than they were a few years ago

trust me i understand that things happen to good people...

im talking about some men that basically lie...or over exaggerate about themselves or their past

Apology accepted. I forgive you.

Now, come gimme some sugah so I can let you off the hook.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

I know a guy exactly what you're talking about Desire. He got with a friend of mine and told her all kinds of lies about what he used to do, an what he USED to have right before he met her. And she believed all of that nonsense. He never got his stuff together with her and they were together for 5 year. And then there you go. She finally got it in her head that he wasn't gonna be anything. And she left him.

 

[geist]

Lot of truth in this thread....

 

[BCAA2009]

Keep it short and sweet, sex and good bye...

and the bastard child created by this will make her think twice about keeping it short and sweet, especially if they guy vanishes into thin air.


Remember, she CHOSE to live that life. She CHOSE that man.

 

[DeSiRe]

Apology accepted. I forgive you.

Now, come gimme some sugah so I can let you off the hook.

i think u should punish me instead

I know a guy exactly what you're talking about Desire. He got with a friend of mine and told her all kinds of lies about what he used to do, an what he USED to have right before he met her. And she believed all of that nonsense. He never got his stuff together with her and they were together for 5 year. And then there you go. She finally got it in her head that he wasn't gonna be anything. And she left him.

yes...i know too people women who have gotten caught up in that

i had a homegirl...met a guy down on his luck...but drove a lexus and had nice things...and he bragged about his past and how he is "capable of all these things" and once he "gets back on things will be 1000times better"

well...come to find out...the lexus is in his baby mamma's name...as well as all the other fancy shit he had

 

[RepostKing]

man I just saw this nice looking honey with this bum ass philly nigga in the dinner. They both walk up to the cash register, the dude pockets some gum and walks away. The chick had to go in her pocket and pay the bill. Bad shit was he had a little girl too. Fucking bum ass niggas out here with decent looking low self esteem chicks I swear

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

i had a homegirl...met a guy down on his luck...but drove a lexus and had nice things...and he bragged about his past and how he is "capable of all these things" and once he "gets back on things will be 1000times better"

well...come to find out...the lexus is in his baby mamma's name...as well as all the other fancy shit he had

It's why i warn young ladies on the continuous....do NOT give a damn about what a guy has. Screw what he looks like, and do not commit your life to him if he's down on his luck or whatever. Number of reasons, if he has a whole bunch of stuff now? It won't be there for long. Shiny cars and jewels show a multitude of personality frailties in a male.

Having nothing, and being down on his luck? The last thing he needs to concern himself with, is a woman. He needs to focus on getting himself up and at'em and then a proper woman will find her way to him. I will never ever in my whole existence understand....oh just thought of this example. This guy i know, been in prison for 15 years. Comes out of prison last year and is currently living with his gf in his mothers house!

No job? Nope. Nothing of his own. Not at all. Now he's worried and upset about her leaving him because, guess what? She's tired of struggling because guess what? He told her, "i'mma be."

The young ladies i talk too, i tell them, let him BE. Keep him in mind and when he shows you what he IS. Instead of what he will BE then....if you're up on your own shiz? THEN ya'll can get together. Then it's a good time to get together. Not before that.