How do i know the baby is mine though?

[20746]

I had a liason with a lady i met off facebook back in Oct of 07. It was a 1 time thing. I sorta igged here thereafter and ignored her phone calls and emails, as she didn't give a good conversation and i didnt intend to mislead her. I know that this hurt her pride and pissed her off.

1 month & 4 days later after we were together, she emails me informing me that's she's pregnant.

Now, i'm 34 and have never, ever in my life gotten someone pregnant, or anything close to it. She has 2 kids by two other dudes.

I'm sweating bullets as 'my child' will be here, supposedly in July 08. She doesn't want to talk to me or allow me to see her or nothing. I talked to her mom about 3 weeks ago and she informed me that her daugther is indeed 6 months preggo. I have a suspiscion that she might've already been about a month pregnant when we were together but i can't prove it. (her birthday is in september, she could've gotten pregnant then)

She won't allow me to see her, or allow me to stop by so that we can talk like adults (she's 35, i'm 34) or plan for the future of 'our child' but says that i can be in the delivery room when the baby comes. She says that she has high blood pressure and that i have acted like an ass by denying this pregnancy and putting her through stress. I thinks that that is some real B.S.

I want to go with her when she visit's the doctor for sonograms to determine the exact age of the child but i'm afraid that im too late to be trying to patch things up with her, and besides, i don't think she would allow it anyway. I don't know if she scheming and just wants that good child support money. Oh, she lives in her mothers apartment, with her mother and her mothers boyfriend and her 2 kids. I believe she is unemployed as well.

I'm really scared. Her mother is backing her and won't allow me to talk to her daughter but informed me that when the baby is here, then, they'll contact me. I had to threaten her about going to their rental office and trying to get to the bottom of this tht prompted her mother calling me informing about her 6 month pregancy status. Her moms sounded like a straight up hood rat too. (she isn't, but her moms, i dunno)

I don't and will not run from my responsiblities but does she at all sound unreasonble to you'll ladies?

What can i do besides a dna test when the baby arrives? I'm getting really stressed out and this will be about the 4th or 5th time this has happened to my dumb ass.

 

[Andeyhollawho]

Sorry I had to.

I may read that shit later though!

 

[mrjody]

I read a little.
If you fucked a jumpoff raw, then busted in her, you deserve whatever you get.
AND
You owe it to the kid to find out if you are indeed his dad.
If you are, act in accordance..

 

[YouLikeMyStyle]

Since she's being so unreasonable, which raises my suspicions that it may not be yours, you really can't do anything until the baby is born. If she allows the test when the baby is born, cool. If not, I would bring a paternity suit in your state. You are trying to be reasonable and I commend that.

Did you have unprotected sex with this chick? Is there any certifiable reason it could be yours?

 

[Crown&Coke]

Get tested when the baby comes. Also try to find out about when the conception date was. If it is around the time you had sex, then there is a good possibility.​

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

I read a little.
If you fucked a jumpoff raw, then busted in her, you deserve whatever you get.
AND
You owe it to the kid to find out if you are indeed his dad.
If you are, act in accordance..

Ditto,and if she doesnt want to give you a partenity test. You request it and pay for it yourself if necessary

 

[20746]

Yes, it was unprotected and i got tested the day she emailed me. Negative.

Within 2 to 3 minutes of meeting her i was fondling her breasts in my car and she was giving me head. (this was around 9:30 pm)

She told me that she had to put her kids to bed and asked if i could come back and pick her up at 11:00 pm, which, being the dumbass that i am, came back without a condom.

I didn't even take her to my home or get a hotel room but took her to an abandoned area and we were through (or at least i got my nutt off) within 2 to 3 minutes tops. I just needed a release, she just needed whatever she needed. She's a big girl (a lil smaller than Monique the comedian, as desperate times called for desperate measures and i was in a serious drought, the next step was to pay for it on craiglist if we didn't get together)

She believes that i'm a player, but i'm not. I was just really horny, horny & lazy enough to forgo buying a 99 cent condom.

I have a feeling she going email telling me that the baby came early and run mad game on me. I'm so scared to sign a birth certificate and it not be my child. I believe that she is pushing for tension between us, as she wants to hit me with some child support papers.

I'm praying that this child isn't mine. (Please God?!?!?!?!) I want to be married, not nobody's baby daddy. I damn sure wasn't raised that way. Both my parents were in my household and couldn't imagine having anything other than that for my child.

I don't know if she trying to humble me by dragging me through this for 9 months with her to teach me a lesson or what. I don't know how DVA testing even works? Is it a long wait? Is it just a swab test? My mouth, her mouth, the babies mouth?

She hasn't asked 1 thing of me yet but i believe all hell is going to break loose when 'our child' arrives.

Has any of ya'll ran a game like this on a guy before? How'd he pull your card? I need all the help i can get, thanks in advance.

signed,
another sleepless night

 

[Shadow]

first of all, be a fucking man. This may be the women's side, but they don't want to see no bitchassness over here.

Secondly, dumbass. You ain't no father yet. Don't sign a fucking birth certificate if you don't believe you are the father. That's going to catch you up in more legal bullshit. Plenty of brother's paying for children they didn't sire because they signed the BC and "assumed" responsibility for the child.

Lastly, don't go to the fucking hospital. Accept the child as your own when SCIENCE (not hood rat momma's or big girl parking lot jump offs) proves the child is yours. When and if that happens, man up and do your job as a father. If you distrust the ability of the mother to raise your child, get custody and do it yourself.

Please don't post again. You have seriously fucking played yourself in here.

 

[mzmillion]

first of all, be a fucking man. This may be the women's side, but they don't want to see no bitchassness over here.

Secondly, dumbass. You ain't no father yet. Don't sign a fucking birth certificate if you don't believe you are the father. That's going to catch you up in more legal bullshit. Plenty of brother's paying for children they didn't sire because they signed the BC and "assumed" responsibility for the child.

Lastly, don't go to the fucking hospital. Accept the child as your own when SCIENCE (not hood rat momma's or big girl parking lot jump offs) proves the child is yours. When and if that happens, man up and do your job as a father. If you distrust the ability of the mother to raise your child, get custody and do it yourself.

Please don't post again. You have seriously fucking played yourself in here.

CO-SIGN....

First all, your just nasty...... I'm sorry but ain't no fucking drought and 2 mins of could-be AIDS infested pussy worth it. Second of all, calm the fuck down with the whining.... let the bitch pop out her kid, you get it tested, if she is against you having it tested, that pretty much is your answer. If you are going to pay for the test(it's expensive) and she says no to the baby's mouth getting swabbed, that means 99% it ain't yours.

If it is yours...... I bet you'll think about that .99 for the next 18 years huh

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[Cleopatra_J]

Um, well simple math says oct to july is ten months not really 9... I mean especially if it was early oct...

And really, ur talking to her moms yet she won't talk to you? Your 35 on facebbok?? Not even myspace...35 and can't have sex in a bed house???? I mean sure outdoor sex is great and all but with a stranger, I'm shaking my head in shame at the both of you . . . . Why would she want to have a baby by someone she doesn't even know???? Wtf is wrong with people??

 

[Harbinger]

Scam.

This whole thing screams "set up". Get proof that she's even pregnant. If she is, be waiting in the delivery room for a paternity test.

You think you're the first/only dude that after a few minutes had his dick in her mouth?

Hah! Not bloody likely!

And fellas, leave these low self-esteem having hoes alone.

You will get caught up, one way or another.

 

[mzmillion]

Um, well simple math says oct to july is ten months not really 9... I mean especially if it was early oct...

And really, ur talking to her moms yet she won't talk to you? Your 35 on facebbok?? Not even myspace...35 and can't have sex in a bed house???? I mean sure outdoor sex is great and all but with a stranger, I'm shaking my head in shame at the both of you . . . . Why would she want to have a baby by someone she doesn't even know???? Wtf is wrong with people??

I was thinking the same thing.....both these mofo's are in there mid 30's on fucking facebook.... a fucking shame. This nigga's a idiot screaming that this shit happened to him 4 or 5 times before which means you fucked that many bitches without a condom that they turn around and try to pin a baby-daddy stamp on him, what does that say about the type of women he is fucking with and not too many girlfriends will scream your the baby daddy and he not be.... so they had to be jump offs....sad man. He fucking with a bitch with two kids, living with her moms, in an apartment , and the bitch is 34.... all those scream "Get away nigga, run fast" and he still fucked her......without a condom.... fucking fool!

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[Harbinger]

I was thinking the same thing.....both these mofo's are in there mid 30's on fucking facebook.... a fucking shame. This nigga's a idiot screaming that this shit happened to him 4 or 5 times before which means you fucked that many bitches without a condom that they turn around and try to pin a baby-daddy stamp on him, what does that say about the type of women he is fucking with and not too many girlfriends will scream your the baby daddy and he not be.... so they had to be jump offs....sad man. He fucking with a bitch with two kids, living with her moms, in an apartment , and the bitch is 34.... all those scream "Get away nigga, run fast" and he still fucked her......without a condom.... fucking fool!

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Your Resident Phone Madame!

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Ouch.

Harsh.

But sadly, too true.

 

[infamous-online]

simple, just get a test, it's not that hard. depending on your state, the test will cost a good chunk of change, but i say it should be mandatory for all births in this country, to prevent shit like this from happening.

 

[20746]

THESE ARE SOME OF HER EMAILS TO ME

I dont even know what to say to you. This whole time I've been trying not to be pissed at you for the way you've acted towards me. So now all of a sudden you believe me or is this just more bullshit? I have high blood pressure, I dont need to be stressed out by you. It really hurt me, all the things you've said to me and accused me of. I told you what I went through with my first childs father and I thought there could never be anyone who was as much of an ass as he was and you proved me wrong. I am sorry if I'm just a little hesitant to have any type of conversation with you. If you want to be there for the birth then I have no problem with that. Just let me know. We can deal with whatever you've bought then. And just so you know, it's going to be a boy

 

[20746]

Email # 2
AFTER I TOLD HER THAT I TRIED TO STOP BY UNNANOUNCED SO THAT WE CAN TALK. HER BUILDING HAS A KEYPAD ON IT SO I COULDN'T GET IN. I WAITED FOR SOMEONE TO EITHER GO IN OR COME OUTSIDE HER BUILDING

First of all, learn how to spell. You're a very ignorant person, that's why I don't want to deal with you while I'm pregnant. Stay away from where I live until you're invited. I will get a restraining order if I have to. I tried to be up front with you from the beginning about the baby but you chose to handle it the way you did and upset me so this situation is nobody's fault but your own. You don't know me so how would you know how I would act. You keep saying that you don't even believe me so what differnce does it make for you to meet my family. My mom knows everything even how it happened and even she doesn't understand your motives. I'm going to say this to you for the very last time. I am having your son. I have been honest with you from day one. I have no reason what so ever to lie. You need to tell your family and you need to apologize to me. The alternative is you getting a call from an 18 year old wondering where you've been all his life.

 

[20746]

EMAIL #3 AFTER I TOLD HER I WANTED TO TO A DNA TEST

Let me make this clear. It's not about what you want til the baby is born. Get your little DNA test to make sure I've been telling you the truth this whole time, which I have been, then we go from there. Right now, I'm doing everything I can to make sure I have a healthy baby. I don't care about what you want right now. I don't want to dislike you for our child's sake. I don't want to keep going back and forth like this with you. He is due in July, if I choose to see you before then, you need to chill and let me make that decision. But as long as you keep being hostile towards me and still saying you don't believe me, it's not happening. How am I stressing you, you got me pregnant. I was not ready to have another child but I felt good about it til I told you. If you truly want to meet my family, you say you don't want to spring a baby on your parents, tell your mom to call my mom and set it up. 301-XXX-XXXX Christine. But right now, I don't want to talk to you.

 

[20746]

EMAIL #4 I INFORMED HER THAT I WAS GOING TO HER RENTAL OFFICE TO GET TO THE BOTTOM OF THIS MATTER, THAT'S WHAT SHE CALLS A THREAT!

Something is wrong with you. What business? I'm not a child I don't play games. Keep on threatening me. Then YOU will see. I told you why I don't want to see you.You don't seem to understand anything I've written to you. It's all about what (SHE USES MY GOVT NAME HERE) wants and if he doesn't get his way he wants to call people names and stalk them. What type of parent are you going to be? Is that what you're going to teach him? Going to tell him how you called his mother a fat bitch? You don't want to see how much of a bitch I can be. Even after every nasty email you've sent to me I still don't hate you yet because I know I'm right and maybe you've been speaking from fear because this is something you weren't prepared for. And because of the fact that this is not about you or me, the baby comes first. But you are pushing me to my limits. I've been adult about this situation from day one. I didn't have to tell you. I almost didn't. But when I did you chose to act a fool so why should I talk to you?

 

[20746]

EMAIL #5 WE WERE TOGETHER ON OCTOBER 13,2007 TO BE EXACT. SHE NOTIFIED ME ON NOVEMBER 14, 2007 THAT SHE WAS 1 MONTHH PREGNANT, DUE IN JULY.

You really need to calm down. Like I said, you don't know me, so you dont know how I would act. And you can't throw situations at me just to see if I would react like you want me to and when I don't I'm a liar. That's playing games. You are not going to jail. Where did that come from? All I want is for you to be there for your child. But you will go to jail if you come around univited. I am truly sorry if I haven't acted the way you think I should act. I'm being selfish right now for our child, not for me. I may not have wanted to have a baby but I definitely don't want to lose one. I wasn't in a relationship with you so I never saw why I should include you in the pregnancy. Especially when you've been so cruel to me. And still continue to be. You can call me anything you want but don't call me a liar. It wasn't about springing a baby because if that were true you wouldn't have known til the birth. And I was in love with my kid's fathers, and they loved me, they never doubted me.

 

[20746]

EMAIL #6 THERE'S MORE, BUT I'LL STOP HERE

You just don't know how to be decent do you? No, I wasn't with anyone for a year and a half before you. I chose to have sex with you because you seemed to be a cool person and we had some things in common. My mistake. I don't have sex with just anyone and I seem to remember you damn near begging me that night. You may not have gotten anyone else pregnant but you're the nasty one going around putting your penis into just anybody without protection I have gone years without sex with no problem and after you I'll probably never have sex again. Black men ain't shit and you've proven that. I only wanted to be your friend but you wanted a one night stand. If you had just been honest with me I wouldn't have had a problem. I know I wouldn't have told you about the baby then. Yes you do reap what you sew cause you've just made it so I don't ever want to talk to you now. Does that make since to you? Stay away from me.

 

[DeSiRe]

(a lil smaller than Monique the comedian, as desperate times called for desperate measures and i was in a serious drought, the next step was to pay for it on craiglist if we didn't get together)

u gotta be fucking kidding me

 

[DeSiRe]

It's all about what (SHE USES MY GOVT NAME HERE) wants and if he doesn't get his way he wants to call people names and stalk them. What type of parent are you going to be? Is that what you're going to teach him? Going to tell him how you called his mother a fat bitch? You don't want to see how much of a bitch I can be. Even after every nasty email you've sent to me I still don't hate you yet because I know I'm right and maybe you've been speaking from fear because this is something you weren't prepared for.

u posting these emails she is sending you is pointless

cause based off all this i can understand why ol girl has an attitude

u were unskilled getting her pregnant and based off her responses nothing has changed

wait to get the test...in the meantime chill out dude

 

[LoneStar29]

I only read your 2 posts but not any of the e-mails ... so here is my 2 cents ... I'll save the whole judgement on your character cuz it looks like you already got chewed out about it ... the only way to know if you are the dad is by 1)finding out exactly how far along she is and doing the math to see if the dates of when you were together add up 2)a paternity test ... don't sign the birth certificate until after a paternity test ... she is playing games so don't take anything she says to you at face value ... if she turns around and says you aren't the dad don't trust it still take the paternity test cuz she may come back in a couple years saying you didn't take responsibilty and get you on some back child support triflin' shit ... good luck ... and stop fucking girls all random and raw like that

 

[charlie dark]

Your 35 on facebbok?? Not even myspace...35 and can't have sex in a bed house???? I mean sure outdoor sex is great and all but with a stranger, I'm shaking my head in shame at the both of you . . . . Why would she want to have a baby by someone she doesn't even know???? Wtf is wrong with people??

stop please my sides are hurting!!!!

 

[mzmillion]

By the emails you have posted is more a reason for me to think you are an idiot. Damn, ole girl said stay away, nigga, stay away, save money for that test and chill out. You houndin a bitch and callin her names for what?? So she can let you in her house, you probably sound like a pyscho to her, going to her place waiting for someone to open the door then going to the rental office, what bullshit, teenage shit is that???

She sounds just as childish, going through her mother for permission like she 15 and telling your mom to talk to her mom to see if its ok......wtf!!!! Both yall fucked up.....stop emailing her, respect that she said stay away and understand that YOU CAN'T DO SHIT UNTIL THE BABY IS BORN!! Get that part through your head.

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[Adam Knows]

FTP........

y'all keep fallin for it....

 

[LoneStar29]

MzM that new sig is FIYAH girl

 

[mzmillion]

MzM that new sig is FIYAH girl

thank ya, thank ya.....I'm tryin to keep up with DA

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[Cinamiss]

I had a liason with a lady i met off facebook back in Oct of 07. It was a 1 time thing. I sorta igged here thereafter and ignored her phone calls and emails, as she didn't give a good conversation and i didnt intend to mislead her. I know that this hurt her pride and pissed her off.

1 month & 4 days later after we were together, she emails me informing me that's she's pregnant.

Now, i'm 34 and have never, ever in my life gotten someone pregnant, or anything close to it. She has 2 kids by two other dudes.

I'm sweating bullets as 'my child' will be here, supposedly in July 08. She doesn't want to talk to me or allow me to see her or nothing. I talked to her mom about 3 weeks ago and she informed me that her daugther is indeed 6 months preggo. I have a suspiscion that she might've already been about a month pregnant when we were together but i can't prove it. (her birthday is in september, she could've gotten pregnant then)

She won't allow me to see her, or allow me to stop by so that we can talk like adults (she's 35, i'm 34) or plan for the future of 'our child' but says that i can be in the delivery room when the baby comes. She says that she has high blood pressure and that i have acted like an ass by denying this pregnancy and putting her through stress. I thinks that that is some real B.S.

I want to go with her when she visit's the doctor for sonograms to determine the exact age of the child but i'm afraid that im too late to be trying to patch things up with her, and besides, i don't think she would allow it anyway. I don't know if she scheming and just wants that good child support money. Oh, she lives in her mothers apartment, with her mother and her mothers boyfriend and her 2 kids. I believe she is unemployed as well.

I'm really scared. Her mother is backing her and won't allow me to talk to her daughter but informed me that when the baby is here, then, they'll contact me. I had to threaten her about going to their rental office and trying to get to the bottom of this tht prompted her mother calling me informing about her 6 month pregancy status. Her moms sounded like a straight up hood rat too. (she isn't, but her moms, i dunno)

I don't and will not run from my responsiblities but does she at all sound unreasonble to you'll ladies?

What can i do besides a dna test when the baby arrives? I'm getting really stressed out and this will be about the 4th or 5th time this has happened to my dumb ass.

Hey I know we didn't have sex but I think i'm pregnant by you to.

 

[20746]

Hey I know we didn't have sex but I think i'm pregnant by you to.

right.....

 

[DarkCity]

FTP........

y'all keep fallin for it....

I was thinking it the whole time.

I hope this dude is an FTP because if this is real then he is a very very sad excuse for a man.

If this is real. Then by the emails she sounds like she is being straight up with dude. Sit back till the baby is born and take the appropriate actions.

 

[hottmixx]

Um, well simple math says oct to july is ten months not really 9... I mean especially if it was early oct...

And really, ur talking to her moms yet she won't talk to you? Your 35 on facebbok?? Not even myspace...35 and can't have sex in a bed house???? I mean sure outdoor sex is great and all but with a stranger, I'm shaking my head in shame at the both of you . . . . Why would she want to have a baby by someone she doesn't even know???? Wtf is wrong with people??

Acually cleo, full term pregnancy is considered to be 10 months(40 weeks) I found this out when I was pregnant. I don't know why they say 9 months but it is actually 10(40 weeks)




And to the op, I agree with mzmillions statement in it's entirety even though I didn't quote her she is on point.

And to any spellcheckers in here, if I misspelled any word in my post do not correct me cuz I really don't give a fuck.


2 fingas
XAT MAFIA BITCH

 

[AlexandMorgan]

If you touch or even think about your dick near a woman and she gets pregnant sorry to say son it is yours.

Even thinking about having unprotected sex with someone you met off the internet and know nothing about them makes you.

Reading anymore of these replies will make me so i will and my way out of here now.

 

[Shadow]

Acually jo, full term pregnancy is considered to be 10 months(40 weeks) I found this out when I was pregnant. I don't know why they say 9 months but it is actually 10(40 weeks)




And to the op, I agree with mzmillions statement in it's entirety even though I didn't quote her she is on point.

And to any spellcheckers in here, if I misspelled any word in my post do not correct me cuz I really don't give a fuck.


2 fingas
XAT MAFIA BITCH

They induce at 10 months, but full term is 9 (36 weeks).

As long as the baby comes anywhere between week 36-40 it's all good.

 

[hottmixx]

They induce at 10 months, but full term is 9 (36 weeks).

As long as the baby comes anywhere between week 36-40 it's all good.

Well shadow when I was pregnant I delivered my son at 37 weeks and I was told he was three weeks early and full-term was considered 40 weeks...but hey what do I know I just popped the kid out I'm not a doctor, are you?