How Attracted Are You To A Mans Looks/Body/Physique?

[Mello Mello]

Of course looks aren't everything personality intelligence and sense of humor also play a role in mate selection. But only focusing on the physical here, how much do a mans looks account for in your attraction to him? What body types do you all consider average, attractive or extremely attractive? Do well built men tickle your elmo more than average athletically built men?

Also how much money would a man have to make for you to overlook his shortcomings on looks?

Imo, I think women are just as attracted to a mans looks as men are to women.

Inspired by this thread. The Body Counts: Girls Love Muscle!

 

[onyxfemme]

This order of importance for me:
1-How he treats me
2-Pretty smile
3-Cleanliness


I have never been w/ someone for the money they had....Maybe because I have my own money and am a hustler. A nice body, good looks is simply a plus in my book.

 

[Mello Mello]

Those are nice qualities for any man to have in beginning a relationship, but as far as pure sexual attraction goes? What gets you going?

 

[onyxfemme]

A sexy smile, confidence and a take control attitude

Those are nice qualities for any man to have in beginning a relationship, but as far as pure sexual attraction goes? What gets you going?

 

[Mello Mello]

A sexy smile, confidence and a take control attitude

So you like it caveman style .

I'm not the best looking and not the most physically built but that resonates with me. Confidence can get you far.

 

[Izayoi]

Of course looks aren't everything personality intelligence and sense of humor also play a role in mate selection. But only focusing on the physical here, how much do a mans looks account for in your attraction to him? What body types do you all consider average, attractive or extremely attractive? Do well built men tickle your elmo more than average athletically built men?

Also how much money would a man have to make for you to overlook his shortcomings on looks?

Imo, I think women are just as attracted to a mans looks as men are to women.

Inspired by this thread. The Body Counts: Girls Love Muscle!

1. They factor in A LOT on first impression same as men. Looks are funny though. Some people you overlook then you get to know them and then notice how fine they are. They may also just have a sexy way about them- the sneak up on you charisma types. It's like some blinders are lifted but initially looks are important. Yeah yeah I know I'm supposed to be on the righteous path and that sound superficial but it's the truth! Women don't sit around and be like ooooh that ninja is Ugly I wanna fuck him! Come on stop it. I'm amused that men think looks don't count.In my experience, women talk about abs, arms, height, hair, complexion, and dick! Don't think they don't.

2. I love a slim, muscular man. I'm not a fan of the big swole look, but mildly buff is nice. An extremely attractive build to me would be the SLIM Vin Diesel in Pitch Black. When he puts on swole weight I'm not nearly as impressed. I also thought Edward Norton's slim but athletic build in American History X was great and I'm not an Ed Norton fan.

In a reversal for most women, I like short athletic dudes too.


3. Not enough money to overlook short comings. Other things like charisma, sex appeal, comedy, and intelligence (big on intelligence) CAN overcome looks....but you have to be mighty smart with at least nice teeth for me. A pretty smile and good conversation could definitely win me over. Oh and if a man has a bonafide TALENT. Women love talents. That's why broke artists still get play.

However, if you are obese you need to work out period. Not work out to be skinny or buff or to get women, but because it's healthy. I can't get with a dude that treats his body like a toilet. That really bothers me. If you don't value your temple, why should I? You don't have to have a six pack but at least take a walk everyday and eat right.

 

[Mello Mello]

1. They factor in A LOT on first impression same as men. Looks are funny though. Some people you overlook then you get to know them and then notice how fine they are. They may also just have a sexy way about them- the sneak up on you charisma types. It's like some blinders are lifted but initially looks are important. Yeah yeah I know I'm supposed to be on the righteous path and that sound superficial but it's the truth! Women don't sit around and be like ooooh that ninja is Ugly I wanna fuck him! Come on stop it. I'm amused that men think looks don't count.In my experience, women talk about abs, arms, height, hair, complexion, and dick! Don't think they don't.

2. I love a slim, muscular man. I'm not a fan of the big swole look, but mildly buff is nice. An extremely attractive build to me would be the SLIM Vin Diesel in Pitch Black. When he puts on swole weight I'm not nearly as impressed. I also thought Edward Norton's slim but athletic build in American History X was great and I'm not an Ed Norton fan.

In a reversal for most women, I like short athletic dudes too.


3. Not enough money to overlook short comings. Other things like charisma, sex appeal, comedy, and intelligence (big on intelligence) CAN overcome looks....but you have to be mighty smart with at least nice teeth for me. A pretty smile and good conversation could definitely win me over. Oh and if a man has a bonafide TALENT. Women love talents. That's why broke artists still get play.

However, if you are obese you need to work out period. Not work out to be skinny or buff or to get women, but because it's healthy. I can't get with a dude that treats his body like a toilet. That really bothers me. If you don't value your temple, why should I? You don't have to have a six pack but at least take a walk everyday and eat right.

1.) Right on. This is what I've know. That's what tripped me out about that discussion. I think a lot of dudes are in denial. They must really believe that beauty and the beast shit but it's only in fairy tails. You can't walk around looking like Goonie-goo-goo and expect most women to just look past that and see your great inner personality. I believe honesty is the best policy. I know females can be just as attracted to looks as men can. Not a problem for me. If I'm not attractive to a women she does me no favors by trying to pretend she's attracted to me when she's not. That's a relationship awaiting failure.

2.) That seems to be the body build I hear most women around me say they like. Of course this varies woman to woman. But they always mention Vin Diesel, Idris Elba etc. As body types they like on men. Most of them aren't too big on the heavily muscular dudes and actually find a lot of muscles disgusting. They like more of the slender lean look.

3.) Talent. That's one thing I think was overlooked and might be a determining factor that gets a lot of guys over with the ladies. Because if a rich guy is hideous with a dime on his arm she's most likely a gold-digger. If he wasn't rich there's no other way she'd be with him unless he was extremely talented and smart.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

6'4 250lbs. Big chest, Shoulders, arms. Powerfully built. Dark skin. Baldy and a low ceasar. Trimmed goatee. Doesn't need neccasarily a 6pack. Never smiles. A rough n tough exterior. I think it's just as important for a woman to be attracted to her man as he is to her. I don't know where this stuff came from that you're supposed to not find your dude physically appealing.

I'm VERY particular about men. If you're not exactly as i descrribed odds are not in favor of me liking you.

And no amount of money can sway me.

 

[Mello Mello]

6'4 250lbs. Big chest, Shoulders, arms. Powerfully built. Dark skin. Baldy and a low ceasar. Trimmed goatee. Doesn't need neccasarily a 6pack. Never smiles. A rough n tough exterior. I think it's just as important for a woman to be attracted to her man as he is to her. I don't know where this stuff came from that you're supposed to not find your dude physically appealing.

I'm VERY particular about men. If you're not exactly as i descrribed odds are not in favor of me liking you.

And no amount of money can sway me.

You like them nig ol'biggas. A woman who knows what she wants. Gotcha! So I assume your husband fits this description? ...or doesn't he?

 

[Top_Bunk]

6'4 250lbs. Big chest, Shoulders, arms. Powerfully built. Dark skin. Baldy and a low ceasar. Trimmed goatee. Doesn't need neccasarily a 6pack. Never smiles. A rough n tough exterior. I think it's just as important for a woman to be attracted to her man as he is to her. I don't know where this stuff came from that you're supposed to not find your dude physically appealing.

I'm VERY particular about men. If you're not exactly as i descrribed odds are not in favor of me liking you.

And no amount of money can sway me.

U just described 1/10 club bouncers are security guards. Out of that 1/10 you must have a high tolerance for their short comings. One thing I've noticed is that people that appreciate the bigger picture are usually more flexible then the super picky ones. I think ray j could pull u no problem.

 

[Cleopatra_J]

6'4 Big chest, Shoulders, Powerfully built. Dark skin. ceasar. Doesn't need a 6pack.

You hit many qualities I like. That's not to say those are the only types of guys I've been with. In fact, my long-term ex was light skin, 5'11, nice build... but we had so much in common and had a good time together that it didn't matter. We had a different type of attraction that went beyond the physical

Things like that can make someone look overlook the physical... Money isn't enough to attract me or keep me.

However, anyone who says physical attraction doesn't matter is lying. SOMETHING has to initially draw you to a person and you damn sure don't know how good their personality is..

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

You like them nig ol'biggas. A woman who knows what she wants. Gotcha! So I assume your husband fits this description? ...or doesn't he?

That's exactly how my husband was. I like BIG guys. I'm small so i believe i see them as able to protect me. I loved being picked up by my husband. Just thrown around. Somoene who could pick me up and manhandle me was such a turn on to me. I felt womanly with him. Small protected, invulnerable in a way. A friend of mine said to me the other day he was my sword and shield. He was a linebacker and ex marine force recon. He was not to be trifled with. But he was such a big teddy bear nerd. He read comic books voraciously and for his past time he'd read medical journals, books on philosophy, Popular science. He'd come to BGOL just for those kookie threads those far out dudes would post about egypt and other ancient civilizations just to get some kind of discourse about them.

He was my superman.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

U just described 1/10 club bouncers are security guards. Out of that 1/10 you must have a high tolerance for their short comings. One thing I've noticed is that people that appreciate the bigger picture are usually more flexible then the super picky ones. I think ray j could pull u no problem.

I don't understand what you're saying in the bold. Ray J couldn't pull my 16 yr old daughter. Let alone me. He's the pretty boy type. I find that type of male useless and just as feminine as my wife. I have a woman i'd need a MAN. My husband wasn't fussy about looks. He didn't get his nails done. He didn't even go get hair cuts. He did it himself.

Small guys, i don't even know how big Ray J is but he looks small. And plus i dislike how he talks. I like deep bass voiced men. When my husband yelled you HEARD it. You FELT it. It rumbled through you. When he spoke and he was close to me i felt it in my bones.

My gf liked them pretty boys until she met my husband and came to see what a MAN was. (Don't mean to offend anyone just my opinion)

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

You hit many qualities I like. That's not to say those are the only types of guys I've been with. In fact, my long-term ex was light skin, 5'11, nice build... but we had so much in common and had a good time together that it didn't matter. We had a different type of attraction that went beyond the physical

Things like that can make someone look overlook the physical... Money isn't enough to attract me or keep me.

However, anyone who says physical attraction doesn't matter is lying. SOMETHING has to initially draw you to a person and you damn sure don't know how good their personality is..

I'm a leo. So i'm vain as hell. In all honesty i just couldn't care how much money a guy had. And i like to LOOK. I'm like a guy in how visual i am when it comes to attraction. I wrecked my husbands car once looking at girls. Twice. I just don't see how you could wake up everyday looking at this ugly mugg person just because they were rich.

And don't even get me started on the chicks who're with the OLD. Oh my GOD!

 

[dHustla]

6'4 250lbs. Big chest, Shoulders, arms. Powerfully built. Dark skin. Baldy and a low ceasar. Trimmed goatee. Doesn't need neccasarily a 6pack. Never smiles. A rough n tough exterior. I think it's just as important for a woman to be attracted to her man as he is to her. I don't know where this stuff came from that you're supposed to not find your dude physically appealing.

I'm VERY particular about men. If you're not exactly as i descrribed odds are not in favor of me liking you.

And no amount of money can sway me.

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[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Ving is a very handsome man in my book. I don't know how tall he is. But honestly more my style is Ving Rhames in Baby Boy, that was much more indicative of how my husband was.

Awww i just found out how tall he was. Oh well.....He's still a decent looking dude. Good attitude. Good looks. Nice smile. Deep voice. This other actor guy i liked was the writer werewolf guy in Underworld. He's a good size. Dark skinned. Strong faced man.

 

[LoneStar29]

A man's looks dont play too much into my attraction to him ... it's more about his personality and how he carries himself and interacts with me

In terms of body types I dont have one that I consider the sexiest out of others cuz its all about how a man carries it

No buffer guys dont tickly my elmo more lmao

No money will not make make him cuter to me ... there HAS to be an attraction physically as well as all the other "ally"'s

Looks do play a part in it but I dont think its as much as for men

 

[followup]

Of course looks aren't everything personality intelligence and sense of humor also play a role in mate selection. But only focusing on the physical here, how much do a mans looks account for in your attraction to him? What body types do you all consider average, attractive or extremely attractive? Do well built men tickle your elmo more than average athletically built men?

Also how much money would a man have to make for you to overlook his shortcomings on looks?

Imo, I think women are just as attracted to a mans looks as men are to women.

Inspired by this thread. The Body Counts: Girls Love Muscle!

looks are about half of my attraction, starting with the smile. Most attractive to me is not too tall and muscular. But not too muscular where you got that funky thick neck. Soccer players, cornerback type of build. Don't like obese guys and can't stand a pot belly in men my age. But I would rather have a pot belly with a big dick than a fit guy with a little one.

Money can never over come the looks. You are attractive or you are not. LMAO. But with money you can attract a lot more gold diggers who are willing to overlook your appearance

 

[Izayoi]

He was my superman.

You really had some love LI.

looks are about half of my attraction, starting with the smile. Most attractive to me is not too tall and muscular. But not too muscular where you got that funky thick neck. Soccer players, cornerback type of build. Don't like obese guys and can't stand a pot belly in men my age. But I would rather have a pot belly with a big dick than a fit guy with a little one.

Money can never over come the looks. You are attractive or you are not. LMAO. But with money you can attract a lot more gold diggers who are willing to overlook your appearance

My girl.

 

[Izayoi]

I believe honesty is the best policy. I know females can be just as attracted to looks as men can. Not a problem for me. If I'm not attractive to a women she does me no favors by trying to pretend she's attracted to me when she's not. That's a relationship awaiting failure.

and the real thing is that if you are at least halfway decent looking, look healthy and carry yourself with some self esteem people will be GENUINELY attracted to you for at least one of your finer features, even if it's just your smile.

 

[followup]

My girl.

Just saying...

and the real thing is that if you are at least halfway decent looking, look healthy and carry yourself with some self esteem people will be GENUINELY attracted to you for at least one of your finer features, even if it's just your smile.

That's the truth

 

[melonpecan]

I used to think Big Pun was cute

 

[LoneStar29]

But I would rather have a pot belly with a big dick than a fit guy with a little one.

My girl follow lmaoooooooooo

I used to think Big Pun was cute

Eugh

I dont do obese ... out of shape, overweight is one thing, but he is just too damn big and sloppy and I cant imagine having all that weight over me and I mos def can't imagine always having to be on top cuz the mofo cant move around too much ... may he R.I.P.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

My girl follow lmaoooooooooo



Eugh

I dont do obese ... out of shape, overweight is one thing, but he is just too damn big and sloppy and I cant imagine having all that weight over me and I mos def can't imagine always having to be on top cuz the mofo cant move around too much ... may he R.I.P.

Yeah....no. I mean granted you're supposed to love a persons inner self and all that. But i never quite got how you could get over some guys big huge stomach gut. And then him on top of you and just sweating from just rolling on top of you. And then his big nasty stomachgut on you. Hairy... And then he can't even breathe right. It's not my cup of tea that's for sure. I mean i'm not saying you should want a triathelete. But golly gee. And then you hear them breathing...hunnnnnh..ehhhh hunnnnnhhh. Absolutely NOT!

 

[LoneStar29]

Yeah....no. I mean granted you're supposed to love a persons inner self and all that. But i never quite got how you could get over some guys big huge stomach gut. And then him on top of you and just sweating from just rolling on top of you. And then his big nasty stomachgut on you. Hairy... And then he can't even breathe right. It's not my cup of tea that's for sure. I mean i'm not saying you should want a triathelete. But golly gee. And then you hear them breathing...hunnnnnh..ehhhh hunnnnnhhh. Absolutely NOT!

You just damn near made my vagina hole close up

You forgot about the smell ... deodorant only protects a man THAT big for so long

Like I said I can deal with out of shape or a bit overweight but if I have to lift rolls to get to the dick Pass and I dont give a fuck how much money he has

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

I can't mess with a smelly person. I've never been that close to a big fat man to smell him like that. I can't even imagine actually having sex with 1. I think my vagina hole has closed up as well. I've been with big women but not Big Pun big.

 

[Rossini]

OP you won't get a truthful answer here, you see every female has said money doesnt matter.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

OP you won't get a truthful answer here, you see every female has said money doesnt matter.

7 women have said money doesn't matter. Do you believe it should? I don't think money matters to a woman who's already gotten what she needs and wants. From a tertiary glance about these women in this post, it seems alot of them are adult and with someone. So money won't matter to a guys physical attractiveness to make her want to have sex with him. I believe that's the question of the thread. One of them anyway.

Now whether or not a man with ample funds can take care of you and you don't find him attractive is a whole nother thing. Women by and large need security. And she will alot of times weigh the security this man can provide over his looks, depending on the level of security he can provide.

This doesn't go for ALL women. I don't even think it goes for MOST women in this day and age. I think maybe you operate under the assumption that most women are golddiggers?

 

[LoneStar29]

I think maybe you operate under the assumption that most women are golddiggers?

Most of them think this way about women

I dont feel like I need to prove myself so if you dont believe me it's all good

 

[melonpecan]

My girl follow lmaoooooooooo



Eugh

I dont do obese ... out of shape, overweight is one thing, but he is just too damn big and sloppy and I cant imagine having all that weight over me and I mos def can't imagine always having to be on top cuz the mofo cant move around too much ... may he R.I.P.

But I see what ya'll saying. I said he was cute, I didn't say nothing about fucking one of his stature.



I do like em a bit chounky though...big boy husky...I guess that's what you call it. And depending on the person the sweat isn't that bad...taste like sugar water.

 

[LoneStar29]

But I see what ya'll saying. I said he was cute, I didn't say nothing about fucking one of his stature.



I do like em a bit chounky though...big boy husky...I guess that's what you call it. And depending on the person the sweat isn't that bad...taste like sugar water.

You are so fuckin random, I love it

I got a homegirl who only likes really husky out of shape guys ... like she for real only dates fat dudes

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Melon what sweat you tastin tastes like sugar water? lolmao.

I have a friend she likes hefty guys. I don't knock it. I don't knock people for what they like. I don't fully understand it. She's a lil bitty beanpole. I like big men in the sense of muscular, tall. Someone i know that can protect me.

She gets with big fat guys i'm like they just gonna protect they lunch.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

You are so fuckin random, I love it

I got a homegirl who only likes really husky out of shape guys ... like she for real only dates fat dudes

I'm not understanding the sugar water either. That made me tilt my head to the side like a puppy and be like"...........................what?"

 

[SaKem]

OP you won't get a truthful answer here, you see every female has said money doesnt matter.

I'm gonna have to agree with yo bitch ass lol A lot of bullshit answers in here. Most likely because most people don't have the intelligence to understand how a persons mind really works. I think they're literally thinking about green paper when someone says money. When in actuality women are attracted to POWER over all. Money = Power. Power makes men attractive, security as well. I don't give a fuck what they say in here 9 outta 10 of them will not turn a multi-millionaire down without giving him a shot or a fuck.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

I'm gonna have to agree with yo bitch ass lol A lot of bullshit answers in here. Most likely because most people don't have the intelligence to understand how a persons mind really works. I think they're literally thinking about green paper when someone says money. When in actuality women are attracted to POWER over all. Money = Power. Power makes men attractive, security as well. I don't give a fuck what they say in here 9 outta 10 of them will not turn a multi-millionaire down without giving him a shot or a fuck.

I think you'd be surprised at the number of women who would turn down a multimillionaire based on his looks. Women are just as visual as men. We just have other things that effect our total decision making process.