Have you ever been in a relationship, but found yourself crushing over someone else?

[Deuterion]

Have any of you ladies ever been with a man for more then a year who you loved tremendously but suddenly found yourself crushing over another man? If you have what was the reason for it? Was your man not holding you down like he was supposed to or was it because the other man was just attractive and you couldn't help yourself? In addition, did some of you see what your man lacked in the other one thus igniting the flame? Lastly, what kept you from acting on your crush with the other man? Was it the love for your man, your love for wanting to make it work, you giving your man time to fix whatever it was he lacked, or did you run off with the other man?

 

[femmenoire]

Re: Have you ever been in a relationship, but found yourself crushing over someone el

Hmm, you mean lusting over another man?

I've lusted after men while being in relationships but I found that I didn't love the guy as much as I thought I did or something was definitely not right within the relationship. Something was suffereing.

 

[HoneyBerry]

Re: Have you ever been in a relationship, but found yourself crushing over someone el

I think that just because I'm in a relationship, it doesn't make me stop noticing and appreciating other people. That doesn't mean that I will act on a physical/mental attraction and cheat, because I'm not a cheater. But there are a lot of "people" that think that when they get married they will change their cheating ways.

 

[BS2011]

Re: Have you ever been in a relationship, but found yourself crushing over someone el

That shit is just human nature. Doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with the relationship. Just as long as shit is put into perspective and no one crosses the line and disrespects the relationship. Doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you or that you or the relationship is lacking something.
I'm married to a wonderful woman but still find my lusting about other women that I come in contact with.

 

[DarkCity]

Re: Have you ever been in a relationship, but found yourself crushing over someone el

I think that just because I'm in a relationship, it doesn't make me stop noticing and appreciating other people. That doesn't mean that I will act on a physical/mental attraction and cheat, because I'm not a cheater. But there are a lot of "people" that think that when they get married they will change their cheating ways.

That's me right there. Maybe not when I get married but when I get in a relationship that is more convenient for me. I have been in a couple long distance relationships that I haven't been faithful in. Shit is hard.

But I do believe if I had someone at home or at least within a 20 minute drive then I would keep it at home. I don't really go out of my way to cheat or cheat just cause I see something I like. It's more to fill a void. And I am not attempting to justify it by any means.