I like how you stated this, and I don't disagree. Most women are raised to be competitive in that nature because, we are approached or chosen based on looks first.
Men tend to be selected on their perceive ability to provide and protect. Thse are both changing to some degree.
On thing we are taught for success is that if they can do it, you can do it. We are taught to mimic the successful. For the women on the sideline who wants xyz, being passed by in favor of the surgically enhanced, then the natural next step is to do what they do to get the results they have.
Y'all (and I'm speaking generally) say y'all want xyz, but are out here pursuing hij. Most of ya'll want xyz for when you are ready to be serious about life but like to keep the option of hij around. Most women don't recogize y'all compartmentalize like that. They are going to try to do and be what y'all are actively showing you want.
Very true.
Insecure people date what i call: the eraser. Donald Trump is the prime example. She's a beautiful worthless woman who couldn't parlay into acting or real modeling, so she married the guy who owned the pageant. He, in turn, was able to shrug off any criticism of his manhood by wifing a submissive, so-called model. This washes away any gay, ugly, broke, or insecure rumors about him. This is why men today find some type of way to find value in a gram or thot chick. "Man, she bad as fuck!" makes them appear more manly to men who probably cant meet that type of woman. That shows how whack the man is, because you are the company you keep, man or woman.
I used to want to keep my options open as well. Swore i would never get married because i was doing okay with the ladies. Then i realized my success. I'm world traveled, rose through the ranks, own a nice crib, invest, etc. In no way would i ever date the finest in the room if she can't add to my growth. That's how accomplished men think. Not what can you do for me, but can we take this ride as a team. The women i used to pull dont measure up to the women i have had unforgettable conversations with. That takes growth on both parts. I dont know who coined the phrase: i can't believe what you say because i see what you do, but that's the golden rule. You cant be pulling your bathing suit all up into your crotch, then posing in the exact same thot poses that all these broads use, then get mad when you pic is added as an example when you are every aspect of the example. You just mad your pic got used. I don't care what that woman says, i saw what she did. That's woman is not redeemable. And the man who would spend any money or time on her, falls into the same lane. Whack.