Habits definitely changes, so adaptability is also key as well. You can always create new good habits while in the relationship that you didn’t have before because your adapting.
When the wife (or husband) faces the death of a parent or sibling, especially unexpectedly, then this introduces an entire new realm of caring. That’s unfamiliar territory for many men. Other trials exist, too (job loss, sick child, etc.)
The problem with some ideas we have about relationships is the stability factor and not thinking your partner will hit rough patches that explicitly need intervention and assistance from the mate. And you can’t put a time table on it either.
I don’t agree that, men are responsible for upholding certain mental states of a woman. I also don’t 100% disagree with what she said in the video.
I’ve been with my wife for 20 years now. We’ve experienced a lot together and we’ve had to bring each other out of certain states of mind at some point. That’s how it should be, imo.
