This judgemental attitude is the exact reason why people don't come out and tell the truth with this topic.
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This judgemental attitude is the exact reason why people don't come out and tell the truth with this topic.
:es: and she's a mod, she's supposed to be setting an example. Damn shame is what it is.
I dont think sister Femme meant his whole statement was ignorant. I think she meant the part about him not wanting kids w/ a dark sister because he is dark and the children would look like ois was ignorant.....Actually I was happy the brother told the truth about his preferences. But..yeah, the thing aboout the children...that was an uneducated statement.
I am dark as night and so was my eldest sons father. When my son was born hr was very light. Now he is more of a reddish-peanut butter complexion.
I am dark as night and so was my eldest sons father. When my son was born hr was very light. Now he is more of a reddish-peanut butter complexion.
I dont think sister Femme meant his whole statement was ignorant. I think she meant the part about him not wanting kids w/ a dark sister because he is dark and the children would look like ois was ignorant.....Actually I was happy the brother told the truth about his preferences. But..yeah, the thing aboout the children...that was an uneducated statement.
I am dark as night and so was my eldest sons father. When my son was born hr was very light. Now he is more of a reddish-peanut butter complexion.
Yes Onxy that was the impression I got and the point I was trying to make.
I don't think Femme was knocking his preference in women.
Yep, thats me!
Umph, umph, umph! I LOVE these!
Girl, you better be careful, when you ain't lookin', somebody is gonna stick a ring on your finger for real.
Umph, umph, umph! I LOVE these!
Girl, you better be careful, when you ain't lookin', somebody is gonna stick a ring on your finger for real.
Lololol actually I am married
I have highblood pressure and it causes my fingers to swell sometime so, in that pic I didnt have my ring on
Lololol actually I am married
Shit must be contagious because you giving me high blood pressure too.
Lololol actually I am married
You're married? Really?
That sound you hear? That's the collective sigh of men all across America going 'awwwww mannnnnnn, she ain't have no ring on'.
You really should stop teasing these men.
Complextion doesn't matter to me.
Co-Sign.
Touchy subject....I lost some lovin' over this one. As said before, beautiful is beautiful, no matter what skin tone....BUT....a beautiful dark skinned woman is just really sexy and exotic to me.
This does NOT mean there are not many beautiful dark skinned women, nor does it mean that dark women don't look as good as light women. I called this dark skinned girl exotic and she got all bent out of shape!
Most non-black men also prefer darker black women by a wide margin. (Not to knock my light skinned sistas)
On the other hand, I am dark brown, and I do find that dark women in the Atl prefer red dudes and red women prefer darker guys.
This does NOT mean there are not many beautiful dark skinned women, nor does it mean that dark women don't look as good as light women. I called this dark skinned girl exotic and she got all bent out of shape!
Most non-black men also prefer darker black women by a wide margin. (Not to knock my light skinned sistas)
On the other hand, I am dark brown, and I do find that dark women in the Atl prefer red dudes and red women prefer darker guys.
Sounds like a fear of his own color
Please tell me where you got the stats that show the preference of non-Black men. Or is that just YOUR opinion?
No stats, just damn near 40 years of locker room conversations with people of different races.
Probably the best stat is the reason for the thread....there are a hell of a lot of lighter complexion people in the US, we all came Black, and there has never been a shortage of White women....that stat speaks for itself..
BEAUTY IS IN THE BEHIND OF THE BEHOLDEN.
I don't care what anyone says. People have preferences.
What's wrong with that. I think skin is, one of the sexiest parts of the female body, and I love brown and dark skin.
Mostly because I hate all you Yellow muthafuckas!!
As for me,
When I was younger I was attracted to mixed / redboned looking girls like my own complexion, and then I got deeper into puberty and developed the stereotypical thing for pretty chocolate women, which I still have to some degree...
...then later in life I got obsessed with the brownie-brown Gaugin painting looking women...
I basically find skin to be very beautiful and sensual, so pretty skin is my focus foremost rather than a particular skin tone per se. My only serious girlfriends were milk chocolate to dark brown complected. But it all works.
Again, that Langston Hughes poem "Harlem Sweeties" comes to mind.
Just flashin' through, as usual.
On point, I just know where you come from, and appreciate the way you [MOST of my fellow African Americans] find a way to survive the BS of the society we live in.
I appreciate also the comment about the Langston Hughes poem, Langston's writings make accessible the lives we have lived and are living. Anyone reading LH can appreciate us.
A Black Woman loving Black Man.
On point, I just know where you come from, and appreciate the way you [MOST of my fellow African Americans] find a way to survive the BS of the society we live in.
I appreciate also the comment about the Langston Hughes poem, Langston's writings make accessible the lives we have lived and are living. Anyone reading LH can appreciate us.
A Black Woman loving Black Man.
I don't know why this statement is not seen as being truthful, M; those are my sentiments exactly. I happen to have the good fortune of being surrounded by literally thousands of gorgeous black females everyday, and there are sisters of EVERY shade that are absolutely stunning.... There are jet jet jet black sisters, with charcoal skin, that make my tongue get hard (there skin is sooooo smooth....), and there are really light sisters that do the same. Yes, there is some lingering "light is alright" bullshit alive and well, but for me, I just love black women- whatever shade they come in. And if folks can't accept that for truthful, oh well....
I like my women like the nasty jelly bean, and the back of Forest Whitaker's neck!!!!!!!! black. I don't know why. Some say because I'm light and deep down i hate my light skin, because its a sign of the rape of my people, lol. I just like how they look naked.
I like my women like the nasty jelly bean, and the back of Forest Whitaker's neck!!!!!!!! black. I don't know why. Some say because I'm light and deep down i hate my light skin, because its a sign of the rape of my people, lol. I just like how they look naked.
Bruh, I'm having a hard time following your reasoning. Even if you were in a locker room with non-Black men everyday (first, I would find it hard to believe that you would be discussing their female preferences that often, but hey..that's you)you COULDN'T POSSIBLY speak to enough non-Black men to back up that statement. Let's just say for the last 40 yrs you went to the gym everyday. You spoke to 100 guys a day..365x100= 36,500x 40 yrs = 1.46 million guys. Even if EVERYONE of them claimed to like darker women, you wouldn't have scratched the durface of the opinions of non-Black men! The second thing you wrote about, "Probably the best stat is the reason for the thread....there are a hell of a lot of lighter complexion people in the US, we all came Black, and there has never been a shortage of White women....that stat speaks for itself.." That's not a stat either. Matter of fact, I don't even understand what you're trying to say. I ain't saying you're a bad guy. Most people try to pull stats outta thin air and pass em off as facts. I just ain't buying that without proof.
I know this is a very old post but while looking around for some pictures of some redbone sista's I ran across this. Guess my first sentence states my position on the matter. Most of the light skinned women Ive dated have had the absolute best sex drive and attitude toward loving their black man. I love them redbones !!!!
LoneStar29
Banned
Too much frontin' in this thread
I'm most attracted to dark skinned and brown men ... I find super light skinned men to be very unattractive ... personality overrules everything
I'm most attracted to dark skinned and brown men ... I find super light skinned men to be very unattractive ... personality overrules everything
I'M MARRIED NOW,
BUT IN GENERAL,
WHOEVER'S FEELING ME AND GIVES ME THE TIME OF DAY IS WHO I ROLL WIT. RACE AND/OR COMPLEXION IS NOT AN ISSUE. OF COURSE THERE HAS TO BE SOMETHING VISUALLY ATTRACTIVE ABOUT YOU TO ME AND VICE VERSA.
WE SPEND SO MUCH TIME TRYING TO PICK OUT THE BEST CAMERA WHEN ALL YOU WANT IS A NICE PICTURE
MY 2
I've read through these posts and I find it interesting that men who said they preferred dark skinned women are "liars, frontin" and then when a man says he prefers light skinned women he is "color struck"... SMH damned if they do damned if they don't.
Secondly, I find it interesting that some people on here and in real life say " oh when i went to the club with my light skinned friends guys approached them first and pay me no attention...cause im dark? wtf.... Could it possibly be that YOU just weren't his type, YOU didn't dress how she dressed, etc...why is him not approaching you always back to your complexion...
I have yet to hear a light skinned woman say "oh he chose her because she is dark skinned", and if she ever does all hell will break lose.
It appears to me that sometimes a man may not like you because of you..not your complexion..maybe he likes ass or breasts and you didn't stack up in that area..or maybe you simply carried yourself in a different way.. IN other words, there could be a lot of other reasons why a random stranger happened to approach your friend who is light skinned and not you.. it seems that perhaps there is a heightened sense of paranoia almost to the point that every rejection one has is because of complexion and nothing else.
Im not saying that some don't prefer light or dark, or that some light skinned people don't perceive themselves as being better, but it seems that dark skinned folks feed into that perception a lot of time as well... and to always attribute your complexion to why you are rejected and another is accepted is unfair and IMO untrue...and actually can sometimes say more about you than anybody else. We all have preferences, that is life, as long as we don't use them as prejudices, I say to each his own.
Secondly, I find it interesting that some people on here and in real life say " oh when i went to the club with my light skinned friends guys approached them first and pay me no attention...cause im dark? wtf.... Could it possibly be that YOU just weren't his type, YOU didn't dress how she dressed, etc...why is him not approaching you always back to your complexion...
I have yet to hear a light skinned woman say "oh he chose her because she is dark skinned", and if she ever does all hell will break lose.
It appears to me that sometimes a man may not like you because of you..not your complexion..maybe he likes ass or breasts and you didn't stack up in that area..or maybe you simply carried yourself in a different way.. IN other words, there could be a lot of other reasons why a random stranger happened to approach your friend who is light skinned and not you.. it seems that perhaps there is a heightened sense of paranoia almost to the point that every rejection one has is because of complexion and nothing else.
Im not saying that some don't prefer light or dark, or that some light skinned people don't perceive themselves as being better, but it seems that dark skinned folks feed into that perception a lot of time as well... and to always attribute your complexion to why you are rejected and another is accepted is unfair and IMO untrue...and actually can sometimes say more about you than anybody else. We all have preferences, that is life, as long as we don't use them as prejudices, I say to each his own.
c/s
the darker the better.
went out with a few light chicks, but never liked the blue vein thing.
The reason why people believed that the male answers were "fronting" is because it seems everyone "preferred" darker women when society and media shows the opposite. The same reason why people think/thought some of the ladies were "fronting" when they all say they loved to suck dick or all can cook.
It's a basic fact that in the Black community, lighter women w/ some European features are preferred. Well maybe preferred is the wrong word. But they are definitely seen as the more attractive on average. It's nature. In women, there's less colorstruckness though it is there. Some women also prefer a lighter man so that their children come out lighter (because it is believed that lighter children are more beautiful, perpetuating the cycle). There are certain women that won't go out with a man because he's too dark and they don't want dark children. :shrug:
The reason why people believed that the male answers were "fronting" is because it seems everyone "preferred" darker women when society and media shows the opposite. The same reason why people think/thought some of the ladies were "fronting" when they all say they loved to suck dick or all can cook.
I get that, but the issue is if these men are telling you what they prefer and you still don't believe it, what's the point? Just because a man prefers darker women, doesn't mean that he will automatically prefer YOU, and that he is fronting. I think the sucking dick thing is a bit different, but I shall role with your example...Again, it may not be that just because she loves sucking dick that she will love sucking yours.
It's a basic fact that in the Black community, lighter women w/ some European features are preferred. Well maybe preferred is the wrong word. But they are definitely seen as the more attractive on average. It's nature. In women, there's less colorstruckness though it is there. Some women also prefer a lighter man so that their children come out lighter (because it is believed that lighter children are more beautiful, perpetuating the cycle). There are certain women that won't go out with a man because he's too dark and they don't want dark children. :shrug:
I get your point Leroy, but again I think it is unfair to always think that if a man approached the lighter woman before the darker woman, that is purely because of complexion... I also think its unfair to assume that light women only get play because they are light, as if there is nothing else they have to offer that is attractive. I'm not saying colorstruckness is not a real issue, but I also think this has to do with availability heuristics and illusory correlations, that once someone has been played for being dark, he or she will always attribute their rejection to being dark, and that every time a lightskinned person gets promoted over him or her, gets asked out more than him or her, it is only because of complexion and nothing else...In this way darker skinned people perpetuate the very thing they loathe.
I get that, but the issue is if these men are telling you what they prefer and you still don't believe it, what's the point? Just because a man prefers darker women, doesn't mean that he will automatically prefer YOU, and that he is fronting. I think the sucking dick thing is a bit different, but I shall role with your example...Again, it may not be that just because she loves sucking dick that she will love sucking yours.
It's a basic fact that in the Black community, lighter women w/ some European features are preferred. Well maybe preferred is the wrong word. But they are definitely seen as the more attractive on average. It's nature. In women, there's less colorstruckness though it is there. Some women also prefer a lighter man so that their children come out lighter (because it is believed that lighter children are more beautiful, perpetuating the cycle). There are certain women that won't go out with a man because he's too dark and they don't want dark children. :shrug:
I get your point Leroy, but again I think it is unfair to always think that if a man approached the lighter woman before the darker woman, that is purely because of complexion... I also think its unfair to assume that light women only get play because they are light, as if there is nothing else they have to offer that is attractive. I'm not saying colorstruckness is not a real issue, but I also think this has to do with availability heuristics and illusory correlations, that once someone has been played for being dark, he or she will always attribute their rejection to being dark, and that every time a lightskinned person gets promoted over him or her, gets asked out more than him or her, it is only because of complexion and nothing else...In this way darker skinned people perpetuate the very thing they loathe.
It's not that there weren't believed on an individual basis, but that EVERY male that answered preferred dark sisters or stated they DIDN'T prefer lighter sisters made some skeptical because that flies in the face of what happens in the real world. No one is stating (well, I don't remember) that THEY specifically weren't chosen because they were darker, well lemme change that. The main point of contention in this thread wasn't that any single person was rejected because they were darker or whatever, but merely to state the existence of a phenomena. My example was simply an analogy to show the, for lack of a better word, absurdity of every answer being contrary to the reality of the world.
I agree with this for the most part. A person cannot correlate their rejection to a preference for skin tone without taking into account all other factors. Unless you were rejected for your light-skinned twin
Any person that does probably needs to self-reflect. My point, like I stated earlier, was just that this exists.