Don't you hate...

[Cleopatra_J]

when people only call you with an agenda???



Ok.. so here's the story. I have a guy friend who is still in college. I mean, half my friends still are, I just graduated in May... But anyway, my friend, "Jay" is taking some English this semester about African American fiction novels, and when he told me about it, I was interested, asked him what books he was reading because I was an English minor and focused primarily on African American novel classes. So anyway, lately I only feel he calls me when he wants help with his papers. Like we go weeks or even months without a conversation, but he'll call me 3 times a week the days before his papers are due. Asking me questions, how do I feel his thesis statement is, yadda yadda. Emailing me rough drafts of his papers. Now, I don't mind helping a fellow student out, especially with stuff like this because I'm passionate about reading and English and all that... but I feel slightly used...I mean, he called me tonight and he hadn't even read the whole book that he was asking my help on... how can we actively dissuss then in a way to help you if you haven't even read it...


You guys ever feel like that? How do you handle it?

 

[mcguyver]

copy cat.

You gotta cut him off. I never had to deal with that.

 

[gonzo8402]

when people only call you with an agenda???



Ok.. so here's the story. I have a guy friend who is still in college. I mean, half my friends still are, I just graduated in May... But anyway, my friend, "Jay" is taking some English this semester about African American fiction novels, and when he told me about it, I was interested, asked him what books he was reading because I was an English minor and focused primarily on African American novel classes. So anyway, lately I only feel he calls me when he wants help with his papers. Like we go weeks or even months without a conversation, but he'll call me 3 times a week the days before his papers are due. Asking me questions, how do I feel his thesis statement is, yadda yadda. Emailing me rough drafts of his papers. Now, I don't mind helping a fellow student out, especially with stuff like this because I'm passionate about reading and English and all that... but I feel slightly used...I mean, he called me tonight and he hadn't even read the whole book that he was asking my help on... how can we actively dissuss then in a way to help you if you haven't even read it...


You guys ever feel like that? How do you handle it?

Well, being that he didn't even read the book, I wouldn't help him on this assignment. But any other assignment that he came to me prepared for and asked for help I'd assist in. Good karma

 

[BrownTurd]

when people only call you with an agenda???



Ok.. so here's the story. I have a guy friend who is still in college. I mean, half my friends still are, I just graduated in May... But anyway, my friend, "Jay" is taking some English this semester about African American fiction novels, and when he told me about it, I was interested, asked him what books he was reading because I was an English minor and focused primarily on African American novel classes. So anyway, lately I only feel he calls me when he wants help with his papers. Like we go weeks or even months without a conversation, but he'll call me 3 times a week the days before his papers are due. Asking me questions, how do I feel his thesis statement is, yadda yadda. Emailing me rough drafts of his papers. Now, I don't mind helping a fellow student out, especially with stuff like this because I'm passionate about reading and English and all that... but I feel slightly used...I mean, he called me tonight and he hadn't even read the whole book that he was asking my help on... how can we actively dissuss then in a way to help you if you haven't even read it...


You guys ever feel like that? How do you handle it?

I mean do you like this guy? It sounds like you do

 

[Cleopatra_J]

I mean do you like this guy? It sounds like you do

Eh... i used to, but our schedules don't really fit.. and there are some things about him that don't sit well with me. So we've become pretty good friends since we first started talking

 

[Eva Hornae]

I so feel you my gemmy sis, I hate when peopple only call when they want something from me.


You could do one of two things or both, either confront him about his behavior or cut him off, if he can't call you without an agenda then there is no reason to have him around, fucking users!


I used to have friends like that and I found out all they wanted was to take my kindness for weakness, so I just cut them off without remorse!

 

[Crown&Coke]

Cut him off. I know people like that and now they dont call cuz they know I wont pick up or if I do, as soon as they ask for something I am hanging up. I dont mind helping people but if the only time we talk is when you want something then we aint friends.​

 

[CT's Finest]

Cut him off. I know people like that and now they dont call cuz they know I wont pick up or if I do, as soon as they ask for something I am hanging up. I dont mind helping people but if the only time we talk is when you want something then we aint friends.​

Co-sign!

 

[auggiedoggy]

Do you call him? If you do what do you conversate about when you do?

 

[MCP]

Cleo,

Every now and then you will come across those so called 'friends' who you don't hear from in ages, but only out of the blue they will call you for a favour. I feel that he is only using you here.

I had the same situation so I decided to cut them off, all of them. Now they wondering on why I don't bother calling them anymore.

 

[Harlem's Angel]

I say mention it. If things don't change then ease away from him. If you guys can go months without speaking you won't be missing anything anyway. My brothers are like that. They call me when they need something not just to say hi. So I remind them of it everytime they call. Jackasses.