Does Monogamy Really Exist For African American Men?

[King Natty]

I'm a one woman man

 

[Nobody]

it depends on your priorities.

you can have polygamy if you are capable of meeting the needs of your family. can you have multiple wives with children by those women and raise them all to be well adjusted adults? if so, more power to you.

but if you are concerned with the amount of pussy available to you then you should just consider staying single.

 

[Nobody]

Been married 13 years and have never crept on my wife. Like any Dude I've been tempted, had mad opportunities, but my wife and family means too much to me. When my 3 year old runs into my bedroom every more with his arms up yelling DADDY with that big ass smile on his face... I realize every day that not piece of spare pussy is worth losing my family or destroying my son or the complications it brings with it. I love family too much for that shit real rap...

Props.

Thats what it's about in the end. Im not married but I could never have a "side chick" because I just felt that even if she never found out, me knowing how shady I'm being is enough to disrupt the energy of the relationship.

Now if I'm dating, that's a different story.

 

[donwuan]

brothers arent marrying one woman much less more than one. all these broken homes are killing the black community.

 

[Dr. Truth]

Problem is yall think it has to be either or. You can raise a family and be normal and still fuck side hoes. You just married the wrong women who think never tasting another pussy is rational

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

African-American men and women are unfortunately too whitewashed to practice the lifestyle of their ancestors.

 

[D-TOWN REP]

i am monogamous...

and it very very difficult...

Extremely

And I'm gettin all type of shit thrown my way

I turned down a threesome fam

A threesome

 

[Built4Life]

Humans aren't monogamous even though we try to practice it. If we were monogamous then this would never be an issue. It is only for social reasons that people think monogamy is the only way because of a sexist vantage point. Meaning women aren't allowed to be fully sexual. Their sexuality must be contained while men are fully able to express their under the context of male dominance. Women are just as sexual and even moreso than men and desire to be with multiple men but rarely act on it for social reasons. Women are punished for having sex. It is one of many contradictions between male/female sexuality and relationships. We oftentimes have to lie to one another.

Sent from Nexus

 

[Sampson]

No one's sexuality is more scrutinised than the black man's. Fact.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

i am monogamous...

and it very very difficult...

i love my wife and only want to be with her (really)...but we go thru droughts and that shyt is hard on a brother...

It's hard on her too.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Been married 13 years and have never crept on my wife. Like any Dude I've been tempted, had mad opportunities, but my wife and family means too much to me. When my 3 year old runs into my bedroom every more with his arms up yelling DADDY with that big ass smile on his face... I realize every day that not piece of spare pussy is worth losing my family or destroying my son or the complications it brings with it. I love family too much for that shit real rap...

Best post i think i've ever seen from you.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

wow ..... EDUCATION, CAREERS WITH GREAT PAY, A GENERAL SENSE OF UNITY, OWNING OUR OWN BANKS, OWNING OUR OWN TECHNOLOGIES, I'm sure that's more in need to heal the black community than how many women a man can have as his wife..........this (polygamy strengthening the black community) is the most foolish senseless bullshit of all time, a great way to fuck chick without your wife getting mad......but to say THAT is a tool to heal the community is more foolish than a white man back in the day saying to Africans "all you problems in Africa will go away if you get on this boat with me and come to America" - Next the argument will be changing religions will strengthen the black community - PURE BULLSHIT

The family is the basis of everything you spoke of. Without the family you really can't achieve much in this world. Without the proper family you can't be much a WHOLELY GOOD person i should say. And the community family is vital as well. I don't think anyone is saying polygamy is the all in all problem solver. But it's definitely a corner stone to build on.

 

[D-TOWN REP]

Been married 13 years and have never crept on my wife. Like any Dude I've been tempted, had mad opportunities, but my wife and family means too much to me. When my 3 year old runs into my bedroom every more with his arms up yelling DADDY with that big ass smile on his face... I realize every day that not piece of spare pussy is worth losing my family or destroying my son or the complications it brings with it. I love family too much for that shit real rap...

Yep

The risk ain't worth the reward and that's just what it boils down to homie

 

[cocobeauty]

wow ..... EDUCATION, CAREERS WITH GREAT PAY, A GENERAL SENSE OF UNITY, OWNING OUR OWN BANKS, OWNING OUR OWN TECHNOLOGIES, I'm sure that's more in need to heal the black community than how many women a man can have as his wife..........this (polygamy strengthening the black community) is the most foolish senseless bullshit of all time, a great way to fuck chick without your wife getting mad......but to say THAT is a tool to heal the community is more foolish than a white man back in the day saying to Africans "all you problems in Africa will go away if you get on this boat with me and come to America" - Next the argument will be changing religions will strengthen the black community - PURE BULLSHIT

Thank you

 

[Non-StopJFK2TAB]

I think there have been studies showing that polygamist societies don t do well.....

If wealth is created with small families, why are people insisting on starting multiple families?

 

[Non-StopJFK2TAB]

Yep

The risk ain't worth the reward and that's just what it boils down to homie

Everyone doesn't share the same aversion to risks. There is the prevalent thought that the greater the risk, the greater the reward.

 

[IT IS WHAT IT IS]

Props.

Thats what it's about in the end. Im not married but I could never have a "side chick" because I just felt that even if she never found out, me knowing how shady I'm being is enough to disrupt the energy of the relationship.

Now if I'm dating, that's a different story.

Mos Def. I have a couple close friends who've crept, gotten caught and 'worked' it out with their wives, but Dude its never the same. It's been both the male and female who has crept too, and in both instances, the lives of the cheater is miserable, and frankly, the regret has been much worse. A few of them are just existing now...

Best post i think i've ever seen from you.

Yep

The risk ain't worth the reward and that's just what it boils down to homie

Dude, just the thought of not being able to see my family everyday, especially my only child, makes creeping not even a thought. A lot of Dudes glorify creeping, and I don't judge them, but it's not for me man! My wife has held me down from day one, good woman man. I'd be a fool to destroy what I have! Not sure how many of you brothers have kids, especially younger ones, but it's something about hearing your lil Dude yelling Daddy, Like I said, no spare pussy is worth losing that man...

 

[Nobody]

How can you say this:

Best post i think i've ever seen from you.

And then this?

The family is the basis of everything you spoke of. Without the family you really can't achieve much in this world. Without the proper family you can't be much a WHOLELY GOOD person i should say. And the community family is vital as well. I don't think anyone is saying polygamy is the all in all problem solver. But it's definitely a corner stone to build on.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

How can you say this:



And then this?

Polygamy is for the benefit of all. The community. Like i said i see it as a cornerstone. Whites and their view of marriage is what's got us so mangled in our relationships.

BUT if you're going to be monogamous? Stick to your vow. Be an adult and stick to your word.

It's a characteristic not many men have. Keeping a promise is 1 of the best traits i look for in a man. Gotta love a guy who can be counted on.

 

[Nobody]

Polygamy is for the benefit of all. The community. Like i said i see it as a cornerstone. Whites and their view of marriage is what's got us so mangled in our relationships.

BUT if you're going to be monogamous? Stick to your vow. Be an adult and stick to your word.

It's a characteristic not many men have. Keeping a promise is 1 of the best traits i look for in a man. Gotta love a guy who can be counted on.

Can you explain how it's a cornerstone, a benefit for all.

 

[tarriqq]

these white devils just passed a law in all 50 states that faggots, dykes, sissies and bulldaggers can marry yet it is still illegal for a black man to have more than one wife. In the bible, polygamy was damn near all of the marriage examples. In islam as taught by the honorable elijah muhammad, we can have up to 4 wives.

co sign!!

 

[playahaitian]

 

[Flawless]

I will bet these same cats who would love to have multiple wives would pull the hair out their head if they knew some other guy was blowing their girl's back out.