Does Matriarchy Create Ghettos??
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I'd add, education and to some extent culture.
Fuzzy_McNut
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The key is prevention. Not fixing it after the baby comes.
Some of You all would. Myself and my friends all had married white collar corp parents ie Mom and Dad at home.
Very true man
But lets be real
As long as there are welfare programs, and other safety nets, it wont go down like that.
It has been beaten into society this shit is cool now, shame has been totally removed from the equation
And telling women the false reality of you can have your cake and eat it too, and finding out the cake is made of shit with piss frosting, they get kinda
Very true man
But lets be real
As long as there are welfare programs, and other safety nets, it wont go down like that.
It has been beaten into society this shit is cool now, shame has been totally removed from the equation
And telling women the false reality of you can have your cake and eat it too, and finding out the cake is made of shit with piss frosting, they get kinda
this is basically it, none of the women in this thread who disagree with the youtubers premise will want the end of govt support for women who have those children, god forbid those women are held responsible..its amazing to me, that the women who have a problem with what she is saying would be all "we did it by ourselves" for any modicum of success on an individual or social level, but refuse to take responsibility for the failures...
Info what about holding the hood demon that made the child with the hood chic help create the kid accountable?
Grown boys need to think about more than sex. Many grown boys are oversexed. Its sex, weed and beer/liquor for them. They need to become the person they want to be with ie a responsible well put together black man and go find the sista they want.
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Fuzzy_McNut
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Some of the goverment support is already dieing down fr single parents. At least here in detroit at least. It's not that uncommon to see a female that has cildre and is homeless goin hotel to hotel or sleepin over at other peoples house or suckin dick on the side.
Either that or these hoes don't know how to milk the system
the men are held accountable by default, they take all the blame, see legacy infinities response earlier, both parties are at fault but one side refuses to acknowledge it in favor for the "no good nigga" narrative
Bullshit. Many hood niggas run like Cops are chasing them when they know they helped create a child. Legacy is a wishy washy dyke bitch she doesn't count.
I totally agree with you but I think we are debating about what came first? the Chicken or the egg? Do these low life thug "man child" act the way they do because that is what black woman respond too (sexually)? or do woman respond to thuggery because that's what black men put out there? What the hell could any woman see in a lil wayn or Snoop dog is beyond me but they have to beat woman off.
Personally I think a guy is going to do what ever it takes to get the pussy! If that meant looking like Erkel and going to MIT, you can bet that's what they would be doing!
Its seem black woman go from one extreme to the other. Ether he has to be a low life thug out on parole till his next incarceration or he has to be and NBA ball player with a big contract.
Most wont give a hard working black man the time of day.
this is a convenient way for women to avoid responsibility, what is not mentioned is that the men have demands of their own that, when not met, will be satisfied elsewhere. The women have not "followed" brothas since they substituted feminism for the black power movement, which was headed mainly by men.
If some chick doesn't understand delayed gratification ( ie brothas in gradschool or a brotha working/ working his own business on the side. FUCK HER AND KEEP IT MOVING.
Women are suppose to be together themselves and follow a responsible focused man. That's the way God intended. Men and Women are suppose to build families. Many people 18-45 Men and Women are so fucking selfish its sicking. I thank God I've got mine. I never did the become a male hoe route. I
Fuzzy_McNut
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The goverment support goes like this. She has a child has to go on a waiting list. She now has a dead beat boyfriend "in and outa lock down I ain't got a job now" ass nigga and she fucked. So she has to find a baby sitter to and pay out that. She was livng check to check before now her car is one mistake away from putting her in a deep debt.
She may lose her car and have to catch the bus back and forth to work and to pick up her kids. That's a lot. Of time so she can't get as much shit done if she doesn't have a strong support system.
Last but not least she statsto rack up debt while she is on the waiting list for gov. To help her with baby sitting and housing. So while this debt is running the banks restrict her. She may lose her bank account or the bank may not acknowledge her. So she has to look for a house or place were they accept bad credit. . .and has to get a job where she gets a pay check and not direct deposit. Because if she gets direct deposist the bank d-bos that shit and put it towards her debt so se won't get a dime. A lot of these bitches are in a whole by the time they get section 8. . .then there is bank rupty
She may lose her car and have to catch the bus back and forth to work and to pick up her kids. That's a lot. Of time so she can't get as much shit done if she doesn't have a strong support system.
Last but not least she statsto rack up debt while she is on the waiting list for gov. To help her with baby sitting and housing. So while this debt is running the banks restrict her. She may lose her bank account or the bank may not acknowledge her. So she has to look for a house or place were they accept bad credit. . .and has to get a job where she gets a pay check and not direct deposit. Because if she gets direct deposist the bank d-bos that shit and put it towards her debt so se won't get a dime. A lot of these bitches are in a whole by the time they get section 8. . .then there is bank rupty
Right, guys like you and I might see it that way and keep on moving but the problem are the thugs and black woman that are fucking indiscriminately creating a social under class and making it harder for the rest of us.
Commercials work on that inner mind to get you to try/buy into something they are selling/promoting. They do it with imagery and music. Turn on BET,VH1,MTV etc. etc. and watch what Black oriented videos are selling.
Self fulfilling prophesies.
All true but couldn't that be avoided by not fucking lame as NIG(%*S to begin with?
They know from the start whether a guy is any good or not, whether he is going to be in and out of prison or there for them in the long run? But they like that edge, that bad boy persona.
Then they want to cry and bitch when he doesn’t provide for her or their children. You knew he was no good when you fucked him!
Very true!! Thats why black people need to turn off BET, VH1, MTV and pick up a book!!
all that whining is just damage control, these women are responsible for what they do regardless and they know what they are getting into....they dont care
I never watch BET nor MTV Jams. My folks had me with a Passport. When I was in elementary ,middle and high-school we would travel abroad for the summer. The same thing was the case for my friends and clasmmates. I have my God kids reading,playing peewee soccer and baseball. They are learning Spanish and other languages in school. I take my God kids different places out of state and abroad. We are bringing them up to be responsible adults living in a global world. I take them to the bank. They watch me deposit and withdrawn money. They also see me pay bills. My friends (their parents) and I have them save a big ticket item. Ie a video game. We could buy it for them but it re-enforces real life. Their college tuition will be paid in full by the time they become 18.
Fuzzy_McNut
Banned
It could. . .but women. . .some. . .women don't think about the consequences of their actions. She know the nigga ain't shit or may even have other baby mothers. But she thinks with emotion. Men may think with their dick but what's worse is women think and make decisions wit their emotions.
These women are truly fucked in a lot of ways. I remember living in te hood and having to overdraft and getting direct deposit and staying with my grandma. . .shit wasn't cool at all. If I had a child to support under those circumstances. . .
What kind of 10 year olds response is that...'It's not my fault, it's hers'....?
When there's a child,it's no longer about the woman or trying to see whose fault it is. It's about the child.
You've just got to man up and deal with your situation.
If you don't want kids for a woman you don't deem worthy, strap up or don't fuck her.
Otherwise deal with your situation!!!
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SO are the grown boys that create them. Only a beta male would blame the woman he laid down with for the lack of well being for his child.
Fuzzy_McNut
Banned
A woman should take a lot of percaution when choosing a man to have a child out of wedlock with. A lot. Even if he is there for his kids and they break up. . .what if he gets 3 other baby mamas? Now he has to stretch his support out and divide it up amongest his other children which means less money for her.
The woman is the one rasing the child. . .so her actions are more going to reflect a lot.
It takes 2 parents to raise a child. You are absolving the man of his responsibility to his child. Its like you give in to the single parent household role.
the keyword is "should" but those who take the least amount talk the most shit about what brothas supposedly "are not" as a group, which is a deflection from her own irresponsibility...
This sista had a very good definition for Ghetto that I think I will borrow from now on. Its a community that's broken and stays broken.
When you think about the cycle that we are in, this definition is very fitting. Although women claim to understand that men should be the leaders, many if not most are reluctant to follow = broken. We both cant lead, and if I lead I don't need you second guessing me all the way.
I don't need a man = broken.
Telling a sista to submit to her man its like asking her to drink poison or something. The reason why this cycle is so broken is because these women know that they are attracted to men who are not submission worthy. The men who would actually carry on the role of leader in the most responsible manner is seen as corny and often times appreciated more by women of other communities, so they have to take their leader attributes elsewhere where they will be appreciated. This guarantees this cycle continues= stays broken.
When a man recognizes this and purposely takes on the attributes of a thug just so he can attract women and gain acceptance with the other losers equals broken.
When you can't even call the police to ensure that children will have a safe community to grow up, means the cycle will continue.
Although Men claim to be leaders, most are reluctant to accept full responsibility for their actions as well . Men might not be able to change the game overnight, but at least you can do yourself and the community a service by not participating in this dumb ass cycle. When you have sex without condoms, that's participating. When you act as if child support of the child you actually brought into the world is some type of government conspiracy, then you are participating.
When you even entertain these hoodrats who you would never take seriously, you are allowing these chicks to live in a fantasy world that will perpetuate in the next generations. Most women who have numerous baby daddy's have no realization that this behavior is killing their chances of a stable home because some dude is always up their ass, they cant tell the difference in a man wanting to smash and wanting to wife.
They literally think a "real man" should take on me and my 4 kids. The reason they think this way is because many men want to be around them, but don't want anything else but sex. So they want the pleasure without responsibility. Which in of itself is true, under any other circumstance you should take on the good and the bad of any situation you willingly place yourself into. Thats why its important not to even entertain a women who you would not take seriously to begin with.
When you think about the cycle that we are in, this definition is very fitting. Although women claim to understand that men should be the leaders, many if not most are reluctant to follow = broken. We both cant lead, and if I lead I don't need you second guessing me all the way.
I don't need a man = broken.
Telling a sista to submit to her man its like asking her to drink poison or something. The reason why this cycle is so broken is because these women know that they are attracted to men who are not submission worthy. The men who would actually carry on the role of leader in the most responsible manner is seen as corny and often times appreciated more by women of other communities, so they have to take their leader attributes elsewhere where they will be appreciated. This guarantees this cycle continues= stays broken.
When a man recognizes this and purposely takes on the attributes of a thug just so he can attract women and gain acceptance with the other losers equals broken.
When you can't even call the police to ensure that children will have a safe community to grow up, means the cycle will continue.
Although Men claim to be leaders, most are reluctant to accept full responsibility for their actions as well . Men might not be able to change the game overnight, but at least you can do yourself and the community a service by not participating in this dumb ass cycle. When you have sex without condoms, that's participating. When you act as if child support of the child you actually brought into the world is some type of government conspiracy, then you are participating.
When you even entertain these hoodrats who you would never take seriously, you are allowing these chicks to live in a fantasy world that will perpetuate in the next generations. Most women who have numerous baby daddy's have no realization that this behavior is killing their chances of a stable home because some dude is always up their ass, they cant tell the difference in a man wanting to smash and wanting to wife.
They literally think a "real man" should take on me and my 4 kids. The reason they think this way is because many men want to be around them, but don't want anything else but sex. So they want the pleasure without responsibility. Which in of itself is true, under any other circumstance you should take on the good and the bad of any situation you willingly place yourself into. Thats why its important not to even entertain a women who you would not take seriously to begin with.
You say a lot of real shit. I find myself agreeing with alot of your points as do many others who are probably afraid to admit it. Real talk, I'd like to hear what you have to say about this.
First let me say that ideally there should be a mom and dad in every house, but we know that's not always situation. I'm not trying to debate who's fault that is right now.
Judging from statements you've made you recognize that popular culture, the media and other sources can have a negative influence on kids; especially those who don't have parents like yours and mine. Can we agree that one result of these negative influences are the "thugs" and "hoes" you speak so passionately about? Well, I submit that these "thugs" and "hoes" are VICTIMS. They are the result of what happens when a plan to destroy a people comes together perfectly.
My question is this; by turning our backs on our young brothers and sisters, are we not feeding into that plan? If those of us who know better turn our backs on our kids, what force will resist this attack? If we say "Fuck'em," aren't we just as guilty as the forces that are attacking them? If so, don't we have to share some responsibility for them becoming "thugs" and "hoes?"
It could. . .but women. . .some. . .women don't think about the consequences of their actions. She know the nigga ain't shit or may even have other baby mothers. But she thinks with emotion. Men may think with their dick but what's worse is women think and make decisions wit their emotions.
Strangely enough, emotional thinking is on a higher level than instinctual thinking.
