Do you find people to be interesting and conversations with strangers to be easy?

[Rembrandt Brown]

“If you’re curious about human nature at all, there’s an endless menu of things you could talk about. I don’t care who it is. You could pull somebody out of a car on the street, and if you’re curious, you can talk to them because everyone has a different take on life. Everyone has a different walk.” – Dr. Phil

Exchange at 1:00:40-1:02:05, podcast notes here​

 

[tallblacknyc]

If you run around NYC you'll find it easy.. From getting something from the store and somebody asking you how is that product or what's good to get, to riding public transportation, to sitting on a bench in a park or area with lots of people, from chilling at a parade/event, casino, lounge/club, to playing a sport, etc...if you look approachable or look like you might be informed about a scenario people will come to you and spark a convo from females to males , diff ages, diff nationalities

 

[4 Dimensional]

I have a knack for people telling me their entire life story when I ask “Hey, how are you doing?”

Plus, since I’m a meteorologist, I have the universal conversation starter. Lmaooo. “The Weather sure is nice today.”

For me to be as introverted as I am, I do really well conversing with people. I guess it helps me expound on my perspective of humans. You never know where you might learn something useful to you.

 

[4 Dimensional]

If you run around NYC you'll find it easy.. From getting something from the store and somebody asking you how is that product or what's good to get, to riding public transportation, to sitting on a bench in a park or area with lots of people, from chilling at a parade/event, casino, lounge/club, to playing a sport, etc...if you look approachable or look like you might be informed about a scenario people will come to you and spark a convo from females to males , diff ages, diff nationalities

That’s what’s awesome about the big city. Country folks are different. I love my country folk though, but I can’t talk about some of the same stuff as I can with someone from the big cities. And it’s usually limitations to where they have been and the amount of people they are around.

I know I’m not very approachable (I’m always angry looking), but I have learned from my foreign folks about how to seem non threatening just by simple hand gestures and facial expressions.

 

[Rembrandt Brown]

I have a knack for people telling me their entire life story when I ask “Hey, how are you doing?”

Plus, since I’m a meteorologist, I have the universal conversation starter. Lmaooo. “The Weather sure is nice today.”

For me to be as introverted as I am, I do really well conversing with people. I guess it helps me expound on my perspective of humans. You never know where you might learn something useful to you.

My daddy told me when motherfuckers start talking about the weather, keep your hand on your wallet.

 

[4 Dimensional]

My daddy told me when motherfuckers start talking about the weather, keep your hand on your wallet.

I never thought about that part of the film!! I’m dead right now.

 

[Rembrandt Brown]

I have a knack for people telling me their entire life story when I ask “Hey, how are you doing?”

Plus, since I’m a meteorologist, I have the universal conversation starter. Lmaooo. “The Weather sure is nice today.”

My daddy told me when motherfuckers start talking about the weather, keep your hand on your wallet.

On a serious note-- Weather as a conversation starter, to me, is so universal it reeks of cliche and hackiness. I ran into an old colleague a few weeks ago and he talked to me about the weather for what felt like five minutes. It had to have been at least two. It always strikes me as a very clear sign that someone is talking but doesn't have much to say.

For me to be as introverted as I am, I do really well conversing with people. I guess it helps me expound on my perspective of humans. You never know where you might learn something useful to you.

I think that's a healthy perspective, but I'm closer to the "Most people are boring and conversations are like pulling teeth" end of the scale.

 

[4 Dimensional]

Seriously-- Weather as a conversation starter, to me, is so universal it reeks of cliche and hackiness. I ran into an old colleague a few weeks ago and he talked to me about the weather for what felt like five minutes. It had to have been at least two. It always strikes me as a very clear sign that someone is talking but doesn't have much to say.




I think that's a healthy perspective, but I'm closer to the "Most people are boring and conversations are like pulling teeth" end of the scale.

Trust, the way I talk about weather is much different, but you’re right. It’s very cliche way to start a conversation.

I can agree that people for the most part can be uninteresting. But I also find that people have a tendency to measure intelligence based on how a person talks (which I disagree with, btw). For the most part I let an individual take control of the conversation so I can gauge how I can communicate with that individual.

My momma (wife too) said “I talk too much,” so I have learned to listen more to what people say. Which has been a great benefit to my learning experience with humanity.

 

[Helico-pterFunk]

Pretty good with conversation. I find the best (or worst) interactions are on elevators. Especially if you're somewhat familiar with the people, or misread them. You're either going to be uncomfortable as they grunt and stare at their phone and avoid all eye contact, or they attempt to engage in an in-depth conversation for all of 10 - 20 seconds.

On a related note ... I went to an AGM a few weeks ago. Bumped into a neighbor there who I see in passing a few times a month. Casual everyday shit - "what's new? - how's work and sports, etc?" Anyway ... his wife used to be a part of the AGM council. She resigned from her position last year. I casually brought that up, and he noted she now has terminal cancer (she's in her early-60s). Super bubbly person. A positive force. Man, that hit me hard. Went from sitting there making simple small-talk to some serious discussion for 20 mins beforehand sitting with them, and for another 10 - 15 mins afterward. Real-life shit. I then bumped into him twice the following week, followed by his wife a night later.

 

[850credit]

There's a book called The Small Talk Handbook. I borrowed it from a friend. Trying to make time to read it cause the older I get the worse I am at meeting new people.

 

[Rembrandt Brown]

Pretty good with conversation. I find the best (or worst) interactions are on elevators. Especially if you're somewhat familiar with the people, or misread them. You're either going to be uncomfortable as they grunt and stare at their phone and avoid all eye contact, or they attempt to engage in an in-depth conversation for all of 10 - 20 seconds.

This reminds me of the example Adam Silver provided when he was talking about NBA players being unhappy:

“If you’re around a team in this day and age, there are always headphones on,’’ Silver said. “[The players] are isolated, and they have their heads down.’’ Silver, who assumed office in February 2014, called Jordan’s Bulls “a band of brothers’’ who were able to strengthen their relationships via the constant travel that comes with being a professional athlete. As 12-time NBA All-Star Isiah Thomas told him, “Championships are won on the bus.’’ But things are different now. Referencing a conversation he had with a superstar ahead of the second game of a back-to-back earlier this season, Silver said the player’s unhappiness and isolation were “to the point where it’s almost pathology.’’ “He said to me, ‘From the time I get on the plane to when I show up in the arena for the game, I won’t see a single person,’ ’’ Silver relayed. “There was a deep sadness around him.’’
https://www.boston.com/sports/nba/2019/03/01/adam-silver-sloan-nba-unhappy​

It seems technology is producing more introverts, providing so much constant entertainment and other stimuli that human interaction takes a backseat.

 

[Helico-pterFunk]

It seems technology is producing more introverts, providing so much constant entertainment and other stimuli that human interaction takes a backseat.

Thanks for the quote. Yeah - it's definitely about having that balance. Having the "me" time, as well as the social interactions. I'm always amazed when people can seemingly be "on" all the time. I.E. - stressful jobs and chaotic social & family lives with little to no down time. I guess it works for them. But damn ... that has to be tiring. Exhausting, really. When do they actually decompress?

On the flip side ... all this social media shit over the past decade ... yet many studies find that people are lonelier than ever before.

The world's an interesting place.

 

[850credit]

I feel what they saying but that same constant stimuli gets me through my workday. But I hate my job so there's that.

I use that hate to motivate me to take night classes at the University here. Nothing feels better than zoning out for 8 hours for that guaranteed paycheck with benefits, then going to class to one day walk outta the office on my own terms...sorry for the off topic rant but maybe it'll help someone in the same boat.

 

[playahaitian]

Trust, the way I talk about weather is much different, but you’re right. It’s very cliche way to start a conversation.

I can agree that people for the most part can be uninteresting. But I also find that people have a tendency to measure intelligence based on how a person talks (which I disagree with, btw). For the most part I let an individual take control of the conversation so I can gauge how I can communicate with that individual.

My momma (wife too) said “I talk too much,” so I have learned to listen more to what people say. Which has been a great benefit to my learning experience with humanity.

Real talk...

On more than one occasion your weather topics have become discussions in my kids classroom.

 

[playahaitian]

If you run around NYC you'll find it easy.. From getting something from the store and somebody asking you how is that product or what's good to get, to riding public transportation, to sitting on a bench in a park or area with lots of people, from chilling at a parade/event, casino, lounge/club, to playing a sport, etc...if you look approachable or look like you might be informed about a scenario people will come to you and spark a convo from females to males , diff ages, diff nationalities

I have a knack for people telling me their entire life story when I ask “Hey, how are you doing?”

Plus, since I’m a meteorologist, I have the universal conversation starter. Lmaooo. “The Weather sure is nice today.”

For me to be as introverted as I am, I do really well conversing with people. I guess it helps me expound on my perspective of humans. You never know where you might learn something useful to you.

All facts...

My dream in life was to have a talk show centered around EXACTLY that.

No "famous" people really

A meteorologist a stripper a janitor a plumber a chef a teacher a homeless person performing on the subway...

Hell most of the brothers and sisters on bgol

Too me?

That is FAR MORE interesting convo

And i was cursed with the same thing...

I've had people on the subway tell me their WHOLE life story and even a very rare chance encounter with famous people yielded the same.

I once had a bus driver in the city so wrapped up in convo he made a wrong turn!

I've had women miss their subway stops etc etc.

That is the worse thing about social media

We losing the ability to communicate face to face.

 

[tallblacknyc]

All facts...

My dream in life was to have a talk show centered around EXACTLY that.

No "famous" people really

A meteorologist a stripper a janitor a plumber a chef a teacher a homeless person performing on the subway...

Hell most of the brothers and sisters on bgol

Too me?

That is FAR MORE interesting convo

And i was cursed with the same thing...

I've had people on the subway tell me their WHOLE life story and even a very rare chance encounter with famous people yielded the same.

I once had a bus driver in the city so wrapped up in convo he made a wrong turn!

I've had women miss their subway stops etc etc.

That is the worse thing about social media

We losing the ability to communicate face to face.

I will never lose the natural interaction between individuals face to face... It's my natural element.. I've gotten more random puss y or numbers juss off natural interaction... Countless free s hit or connects... People always ask how I've gotten access to do much s hit in nyc and even outta state and I tell them natural conversation... The age old saying about who you know is 1 of the big keys to maneuver in this world... That's why I say being cool, calm, and having a great personality can get you into more places than you can ever imagine...also being funny is a great thing to

 

[playahaitian]

I will never lose the natural interaction between individuals face to face... It's my natural element.. I've gotten more random puss y or numbers juss off natural interaction... Countless free s hit or connects... People always ask how I've gotten access to do much s hit in nyc and even outta state and I tell them natural conversation... The age old saying about who you know is 1 of the big keys to maneuver in this world... That's why I say being cool, calm, and having a great personality can get you into more places than you can ever imagine...also being funny is a great thing to

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[playahaitian]

I will never lose the natural interaction between individuals face to face... It's my natural element.. I've gotten more random puss y or numbers juss off natural interaction... Countless free s hit or connects... People always ask how I've gotten access to do much s hit in nyc and even outta state and I tell them natural conversation... The age old saying about who you know is 1 of the big keys to maneuver in this world... That's why I say being cool, calm, and having a great personality can get you into more places than you can ever imagine...also being funny is a great thing to

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Even being cool on the internet has its advantages, and many hook ups have been gained from bgol too.

Trolling don't really get you sh*t off or online.

 

[playahaitian]

I will never lose the natural interaction between individuals face to face... It's my natural element.. I've gotten more random puss y or numbers juss off natural interaction... Countless free s hit or connects... People always ask how I've gotten access to do much s hit in nyc and even outta state and I tell them natural conversation... The age old saying about who you know is 1 of the big keys to maneuver in this world... That's why I say being cool, calm, and having a great personality can get you into more places than you can ever imagine...also being funny is a great thing to

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