Do Women Really Want to Hear the Truth??

thoughtone said:
This is the difference between men and women. Women are perfect and you had better damn well believe it. I know, a girlfriend told me so. Making a typographical error is not going to lower my self esteem. If fact, you pointing it out will make me a better person. The fact that you try and indict me for bring up this question explains everything.
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And that was my only intent. :D I am far from perfect i mean you should know you corrected me once before. I couldn't handle perfect it would be a tad boring don't you think? I'd never try to even attempt to lower another's self esteem. Again not my intent. However you do the same thing correcting others why can it not be done to you?


To answer you original question....I am a straight forward pretty blunt individual and it gets people's feelings hurt a lot because they can't deal with that. I am not a sugar coat it kinda girl. If you have something to say then say it.How I deal with it is up to me.


Peace
 
No, nobody wants to know the complete truth. Ignorance is bliss, safety, comfort. knowledge is power, and with great power comes great responsibility. I can live as carefree as I like if i don't have responsibilities(knowledge).

would you want your husband/wife to tell you that they don't really love you and you were just the best they though they could do? Hey, it might be true but not too many people could shrug that off.

would you want to know your significant other thinks about other people when they nut?

Let's face it. some stuff you just don't want to know.

so in my opinion the answer is no. they dont want to know when they don't satisfy us either but its really our over stimulated imagination coupled with excessive amounts of pornography does the trick.


I'd apologize for being too much of a realist, but that's the only way I know how to give it to y'all:lol:
 
xfactor said:
Were you joking here? You can't be serious saying that the truth is overrated. Thankfully, the delusions potrayed here aren't the same of the majority of women out there.
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No, I'm not joking! I do think its overrated... It's greatly appreciated, but overrated. Like I said before, everyone wants the truth, but "you can't handle the truth" it really is true! I always appreciate being told the truth, but sometime s that shit hurts... and sometimes even when the truth is staring right back @ me, I ignore it. we all want it.. but sometimes we don't know what the hell to do with it...
 
ladyscorpio said:
And that was my only intent. :D I am far from perfect i mean you should know you corrected me once before. I couldn't handle perfect it would be a tad boring don't you think? I'd never try to even attempt to lower another's self esteem. Again not my intent. However you do the same thing correcting others why can it not be done to you?


To answer you original question....I am a straight forward pretty blunt individual and it gets people's feelings hurt a lot because they can't deal with that. I am not a sugar coat it kinda girl. If you have something to say then say it.How I deal with it is up to me.


Peace
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Feel free to check me in the future.
 
You have to selectively tell the truth to most women. This was a hard learned lesson for me. One time an ex asked me if I thought her best friend was attractive. I said yes, huge mistake on my part. Long story short, her insecurity became a wedge in the relationship.

The secret to avoiding confrontation is finding the underlying reasoning for whatever question is asked and respond craftily. You basically have to be a politician and respond without responding unless it's something serious. Then you just need to suck up the verbal lashing.

my 2 cents
 
AristotlesOwn said:
One time an ex asked me if I thought her best friend was attractive. I said yes, huge mistake on my part.
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Well I think that people should not ask questions if they are not ready for both possible answers. And she probably knew her friend was cute too... so why did she have to ask?
 
AristotlesOwn said:
You have to selectively tell the truth to most women. This was a hard learned lesson for me. One time an ex asked me if I thought her best friend was attractive. I said yes, huge mistake on my part. Long story short, her insecurity became a wedge in the relationship.

The secret to avoiding confrontation is finding the underlying reasoning for whatever question is asked and respond craftily. You basically have to be a politician and respond without responding unless it's something serious. Then you just need to suck up the verbal lashing.

my 2 cents
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C/S
Women claim they want an honest men but when told the truth it either gets flipped or a grudge is held for a very long period of time. Men lie because it is easier to do. It is better for us to allow the woman to chase or lies then for her to know the truth.
 
followup said:
Well I think that people should not ask questions if they are not ready for both possible answers. And she probably knew her friend was cute too... so why did she have to ask?
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In his situation he messed up. You never answer a question without knowing the reason why it was asked.
 
AristotlesOwn said:
You have to selectively tell the truth to most women. This was a hard learned lesson for me. One time an ex asked me if I thought her best friend was attractive. I said yes, huge mistake on my part. Long story short, her insecurity became a wedge in the relationship.

The secret to avoiding confrontation is finding the underlying reasoning for whatever question is asked and respond craftily. You basically have to be a politician and respond without responding unless it's something serious. Then you just need to suck up the verbal lashing.

my 2 cents
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I feel you on this 100%.

IMO, women very often "rationalize" things nondeterministically (cause ≠ effect). Any attempt at a reductionist clarification of "what you meant to say" is almost always swiftly met with a vehement rebuttal with long lasting, chronic consequences. It is this preferred stochastic and holistic approach they adopt, because they don't know any better (God Bless their souls) that throws us guys off. :smh:

And it is for this same reason, that I'm about to get the business for my response ...

:lol:
 
sean69 said:
I feel you on this 100%.

IMO, women very often "rationalize" things nondeterministically (cause ≠ effect). Any attempt at a reductionist clarification of "what you meant to say" is almost always swiftly met with a vehement rebuttal with long lasting, chronic consequences. It is this preferred stochastic and holistic approach they adopt, because they don't know any better (God Bless their souls) that throws us guys off. :smh:

And it is for this same reason, that I'm about to get the business for my response ...

:lol:
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:hmm: Hell naw!!! :angry:
 
To quote a friend's mom..."There's a difference between being honest and just saying shit."

For men AND women in general, I think that it's all about communication. I don't think it's possible to truly connect in a relationship if you can't communicate well. When you have the right kind of connection, you'll know exactly how to convey any message to your mate. It's not about sugarcoating, it's about tact and empathy. If you want someone to get what you're saying you have to tailor the message for the audience - you know, present it in a way that they can actually HEAR you. Otherwise you're wasting your time.

For instance, the family dog dies. You have to give the bad news to everyone. You're probably going to talk to your 6 year old differently than you would your 15 year old. You'd have yet another way to tell your spouse. The delivery changes, but the message stays the same, right?
 
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Well I think that people should not ask questions if they are not ready for both possible answers. And she probably knew her friend was cute too... so why did she have to ask?
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She had to ask because she was insecure; she claimed "she wanted to know". She had attractive friends and she knew it. The fact of the matter was that she was very attractive herself, but the best looking women are usually the most insecure anyway in my opinion. The screwed up thing was that I actually really liked her before the downward spiral; I never cheated and never had a reason to with her [and her cooking was beyond words!!]. Oh well, like I stated before, lesson learned :lol:
 
hmmm interesting


well i am a person who often dished blunt honesty and had a some issues taking it when i was younger but now that im older im just as honest maybe not as blunt (cuz it was borderline cold) and i expect my sig other to be the same way.

yeah it may not feel good hearing it but i would rather that moment of discomfort than living a lie.

i can dish it and take it now.

just don't be spiteful and call it "the truth"
 
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