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demere

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I've been reading the "faking it" thread....and it seems like a lot of men are saying women should be honest about things. I've ran into a lot of men who really can't handle the truth...their egos just can't take it.

Example: A guy I was seeing was telling me that he knew he had a large penis. Then he asked me, about it, and I told him the truth. Truth was, it was much shorter then the average penis I'd seen, and probably average in circumference. After that....he became very insecure, and he and I quickly grew apart.

Example: A friend of mine and her man have been seeing each other for a while, and he is extremely pissed off that he can not make her cum. She is not faking it, but feels like things would be better if she did. He is freaking out because he can't make her cum during intercourse unless she uses her had, for some reason that pisses him off, and sex is starting to create arguments. She does enjoy the sex however, she is not complaining at all.

So....it seems a lot of men claim they want to know the truth, but can most men really handle it?
 
i can handle truth...i would like a girl to be honest wit me i dont care if it comes to sex or anything else but i know i would feel much better about myself...why lie now if the truth is gonna come out later...you might as well tell me the truth now
 
In the words of Jack Nicholson..."YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH" People, that is, especially about their sexuality. Men and women are the same here. All men wanna think they'll put ya ass to sleep, and they got a tree trunk between their legs. All women wanna think their punani is divine, and ANY man would willingly crawl a mile over broken glass to just touch it.
 
jaybar82 said:
i can handle truth...i would like a girl to be honest wit me i dont care if it comes to sex or anything else but i know i would feel much better about myself...why lie now if the truth is gonna come out later...you might as well tell me the truth now
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C/S :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes:
 
black again said:
In the words of Jack Nicholson..."YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH" People, that is, especially about their sexuality. Men and women are the same here. All men wanna think they'll put ya ass to sleep, and they got a tree trunk between their legs. All women wanna think their punani is divine, and ANY man would willingly crawl a mile over broken glass to just touch it.
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Men can handle the truth. In fact, we live in a truth based existence. Women and men are not the same when it comes to this.
 
I never bragged on my dick to women. If a chick complements
me it's all good if she don't it's all good. cause I'm trying to
hit it right regardless. Chicks thats underestimate me are
the fun ones. One chick talked me till nausea how she dated this
and that NFL ninja and she use to these dudes approaching her:yawn:...
after I hit that with a vendatta:angry:..... her lil' monday night football ringtone was going to her voicemail holla.....:lol::dance:


Also I feel if a women is not in-tune with the sexual experience
or communcation is not there she is not gonna cum.
For some women I found that clitoral stimulation
is more gratifying ......than me thrusting to find the g-spot.
some sexual experinces take work and get better overtime.
but two incompatible people makes for bad sex.
 
I think that in general everyone wants to know the truth, but in a way that doesn't make them feel bad. I respect a person's honest opinion, but it's all about the way you say it. It's hard to respect someone telling you the truth if you feel like they aren't mindful of your feelings.

So yes, I think men want the truth. . . sometimes. But you gotta know when to bite your tongue.
 
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Chicutie said:
I think that in general everyone wants to know the truth, but in a way that makes them feel bad. I respect a person's honest opinion, but it's all about the way you say it. It's to respect someone telling you the truth if you feel like they aren't mindful of your feelings.

So yes, I think men want the truth. . . sometimes. But you gotta know when to bite your tongue.
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Co-Sign!!!!
 
demere said:
I've been reading the "faking it" thread....and it seems like a lot of men are saying women should be honest about things. I've ran into a lot of men who really can't handle the truth...their egos just can't take it.

Example: A guy I was seeing was telling me that he knew he had a large penis. Then he asked me, about it, and I told him the truth. Truth was, it was much shorter then the average penis I'd seen, and probably average in circumference. After that....he became very insecure, and he and I quickly grew apart.

Example: A friend of mine and her man have been seeing each other for a while, and he is extremely pissed off that he can not make her cum. She is not faking it, but feels like things would be better if she did. He is freaking out because he can't make her cum during intercourse unless she uses her had, for some reason that pisses him off, and sex is starting to create arguments. She does enjoy the sex however, she is not complaining at all.

So....it seems a lot of men claim they want to know the truth, but can most men really handle it?
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The truth about orgasm oppose to the physical attributes is not a good example of men not being able to handle the "truth" IMO. Telling the man what you need for orgasm is more in line with what I understand WE mean when we say don't fake orgasm.
 
The male ego is the most fragile thing on the face of this earth. Especially in black men with our misconceptions of manhood. Most men who grew up in single parent homes get all there validation from women (there mom). So there ego was built by a women and consequentely they are constantly looking for validation from women. In my opinion it is the cause of the lack of real manhood among us black males. When a man has truly become a man the truth no longer hurts.

So the answer is yes real men want to hear the truth. Insecure shallow men (which 90% of todays men are) ask questions because they don't know the truth. These men want to hear something that will reinforce their ego however misguided. Real men don't ask questions they don't want the answer to.

I was raised to have a strong sense of self. My opinion of myself is the most important everyone elses opinion I will listen to but the only opinion at the end of the day that matters (about myself) is mine.
 
I would rather be told the truth to begin with. Dont wait till later cuz then its your fault you put up with whatever the problem was. If you had a problem with something from the start and dont say nothin then thats your fault.​
 
shanebp1978 said:
Why make a new thread if it was being discussed in the other one?
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Because this is a more general question.

Temujin said:
The male ego is the most fragile thing on the face of this earth. Especially in black men with our misconceptions of manhood. Most men who grew up in single parent homes get all there validation from women (there mom). So there ego was built by a women and consequentely they are constantly looking for validation from women. In my opinion it is the cause of the lack of real manhood among us black males. When a man has truly become a man the truth no longer hurts.

So the answer is yes real men want to hear the truth. Insecure shallow men (which 90% of todays men are) ask questions because they don't know the truth. These men want to hear something that will reinforce their ego however misguided. Real men don't ask questions they don't want the answer to.

I was raised to have a strong sense of self. My opinion of myself is the most important everyone elses opinion I will listen to but the only opinion at the end of the day that matters (about myself) is mine.
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Very interesting.

Chicutie said:
I think that in general everyone wants to know the truth, but in a way that doesn't make them feel bad. I respect a person's honest opinion, but it's all about the way you say it. It's hard to respect someone telling you the truth if you feel like they aren't mindful of your feelings.

So yes, I think men want the truth. . . sometimes. But you gotta know when to bite your tongue.
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I think this is true. Its just that a lot of people tell you they want the unadulterated truth, but, I have found that not to be the case.
 
I love brutal honesty. It keeps me grounded. If i'm fucking up, or you disagree about something I say, let me know and i'll be able to evaluate your thoughts and determine if there could be some truth in them (especially if I respect you). I may not agree, but at least I will know where we stand on the issue.
 
demere said:
Because this is a more general question.
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The subject curve and responses of the original thread shows it's ability to answer a myriad of general thoughts and discussions.

You use two examples of a sexual nature to support your thought and question.

This is not a general, " Do men really want to hear the truth . . . about ANYTHING? " Thread.

This thread is, " Do men really want to hear the truth . . . about their sexual performance.

More spotlighting, than general.

So that leaves me to ponder another question.

Do women ever tell the truth!?
 
shanebp1978 said:
Why make a new thread if it was being discussed in the other one?
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Damn... it's uncanny how you did that, Shane. Word for word, too.

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First off...I never ask a question that I really don't want an answer to. And I do love the truth. With that said...if you are in tune with a female, listen and observe well...you will know how to handle your business to make sex "very" enjoyable for both parties. Most communication is non-verbal anyway. :yes:
 
It's not about the truth. It's about the relationship. I can handle anyone telling me anything as long as we have a good relationship, friendship, whatever.
 
shanebp1978 said:
The subject curve and responses of the original thread shows it's ability to answer a myriad of general thoughts and discussions.

You use two examples of a sexual nature to support your thought and question.

This is not a general, " Do men really want to hear the truth . . . about ANYTHING? " Thread.

This thread is, " Do men really want to hear the truth . . . about their sexual performance.

More spotlighting, than general.

So that leaves me to ponder another question.

Do women ever tell the truth!?
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Women fail too see or wanna admit that men and women are very similiar. Men are more passive while women are more direct.
 
If they don't too bad. I'm going to tell it.

I tell everyone the truth. Man, woman, child.

I think it's insulting not to.
 
Temujin said:
The male ego is the most fragile thing on the face of this earth. Especially in black men with our misconceptions of manhood. Most men who grew up in single parent homes get all there validation from women (there mom). So there ego was built by a women and consequentely they are constantly looking for validation from women. In my opinion it is the cause of the lack of real manhood among us black males. When a man has truly become a man the truth no longer hurts.

So the answer is yes real men want to hear the truth. Insecure shallow men (which 90% of todays men are) ask questions because they don't know the truth. These men want to hear something that will reinforce their ego however misguided. Real men don't ask questions they don't want the answer to.

I was raised to have a strong sense of self. My opinion of myself is the most important everyone elses opinion I will listen to but the only opinion at the end of the day that matters (about myself) is mine.
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c/s
 
Im Not Sure What I Want To Hear .... But I Know That If Everbody Deserves To Be Satisfied So If Can Do Somthing Differntly To Acomplish That Then By All Means Let Me Know Yeah My Pride May Be Hurt At First But I Rather See My Partner Happy Then Selfish To Tno Hearing The Truth
 
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Lying is not an option.
Select truth is not an option.

THE WHOLE TRUTH AND NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH, SO HELP ME GOD!!!
 
black again said:
In the words of Jack Nicholson..."YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH" People, that is, especially about their sexuality. Men and women are the same here. All men wanna think they'll put ya ass to sleep, and they got a tree trunk between their legs. All women wanna think their punani is divine, and ANY man would willingly crawl a mile over broken glass to just touch it.
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Me and my tree trunk aint crawlin no where!! We might drive but I be dam if I scratch the trunk crawlin! That's definately out!!!:lol::lol::lol:
 

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