Dilemma- So I am taking it to the board

[kjxxxx]

any man thats objective is to be kept is not a real man.

Let me just slit my wrists now...


Cause I'm too in love with myself to be kept by a man and I also can not stand a man that has to be kept either. Both of situations turn me completely off!

Man I hate this question damnit

I don't like pussy men but I can't stand a brotha telling me what to do all the time either

I still don't know

Bullshit. A kept, semi-kept, quasi-kept, pseudo-kept, cartoon-kept or whatever is a loser!

And a bitchass.

No excuses.

TRUTH!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I dont mind bringing home the bacon......If he cooks it!

I THINK ALL THESE RESPONSES ARE HYPOCRITICAL.

While I respect the fact that you know this is not the lifestyle for you and that this will not work for you as a family unit as you would rather break up the marriage and the family than work this plan if it is the best for your unit. I respect that.

What I hate is that you believe you are superior to other man or others that chose this as the solution to having a happy and healthy family unit. If we go with your definition of what a real man is, then as long as the woman makes more money than the man then he will be a pussy. And he is a pussy because he cant figure out how to make more money than her and work the plan. He is a pussy because she contributes more to the household than he does and if he says they go 50/50, then she still feel superior to him because she brings in more. That's for the men who think the man at home is a pussy.

As for the women who think he is a pussy. HYPOCRITE. You can reverse your gender role but the mans role must still be the same!! ALL I WANT TO SAY IS IF YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND OR FAMILY MEMBER THAT HAS CHOSEN THIS SOLUTION OR FOR WHATEVER REASON THAT IS THE ONE THEY HAVE. STAY THE FUCK OUT. KEEP YOUR DAMN OPINIONS TO YOURSELF. LEAVE PEOPLE BUSINESS ALONE.

AH. Yes I am am taking it personal because it is something I have been passionate about since my early days of college. I HATE HYPOCRISY. IT'S EITHER YOU ARE MY EQUAL OR I AM SUPERIOR OR INFERIOR. IF YOUR DOING A JOB MAKES YOU NO LESS A WOMAN OR MORE A MAN; THEN A MAN DOING THE THE SAME JOB MAKES HIM NO LESS A MAN OR MORE A WOMAN.

Now let me add an insult to it for the woman. If that man keeps house better than you I guess that pussy ass man is more of a woman than you. I HATE HYPOCRISY!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PASSIONATELY

I hope you macho men never get hit with a disability to where you get laid up. she is either your equal or you are superior. If you are in a monogamous relationship you are as kept as kept can be.

 

[kjxxxx]

In that case....I would take the kept men...I am too independent, spoiled and busy to do what ever a man says...ALL THE TIME!
I could end up in prison.

I respect that you are open minded to take this side of the question. The real test comes when you get around people like those in opposition of this lifestyle and are vocal about it. Will you edify your man or will it become a source of contention?
That will be the test.

 

[LoneStar29]

Me saying I don't know what to choose is being hypocritical You're trippin'

 

[kjxxxx]

Me saying I don't know what to choose is being hypocritical You're trippin'

You hate pussy men (referring to the male spouse who is a stay home dad) - THIS IS WHAT I SEE AS HYPOCRISY.


You are not confused. I can add some more other choice words there but that is unnecessary. You said it yourself. You hate pussy men . Thus you have eliminated that as a choice so you are stuck with the other choice.

You would rather be happy than right (your response from another thread). You want a man who will lead but you cant stand listening to a man all the time. So you don't want to lead but you want to fight the leader. Sounds like you want to be right. So you want to pick someone who will lead you and then fight with him when he is leading. By the way. Good leaders were at some point good followers and the day when they believe they can't follow anyone then that's when their downfall begins. Good leaders know when to yield and let someone else run the project.

Here is a suggestion. Strive for harmony in your relationships and if it means that you want to lead then get someone who knows when to yield to you. If you want someone that will lead you, learn to yield (submit). Men in relationships yield to their women all the time. The problem usually comes up when something is important to him the women never yield. Ponder on which side you really want to be on. Otherwise, I see you as nothing but a contentious woman looking for men to breakdown and the worse fucking part about it is you will have no problem finding well intentioned men to break down.

 

[IntelligentDyme]

You hate pussy men (referring to the male spouse who is a stay home dad) - THIS IS WHAT I SEE AS HYPOCRISY.


You are not confused. I can add some more other choice words there but that is unnecessary. You said it yourself. You hate pussy men . Thus you have eliminated that as a choice so you are stuck with the other choice.

You would rather be happy than right (your response from another thread). You want a man who will lead but you cant stand listening to a man all the time. So you don't want to lead but you want to fight the leader. Sounds like you want to be right. So you want to pick someone who will lead you and then fight with him when he is leading. By the way. Good leaders were at some point good followers and the day when they believe they can't follow anyone then that's when their downfall begins. Good leaders know when to yield and let someone else run the project.

Here is a suggestion. Strive for harmony in your relationships and if it means that you want to lead then get someone who knows when to yield to you. If you want someone that will lead you, learn to yield (submit). Men in relationships yield to their women all the time. The problem usually comes up when something is important to him the women never yield. Ponder on which side you really want to be on. Otherwise, I see you as nothing but a contentious woman looking for men to breakdown and the worse fucking part about it is you will have no problem finding well intentioned men to break down.

I must admit that I was attempting to not entertain you long-winded, fluff made posts that had nothing to do with the original question, but fuck it..

The OP never mentioned that the kept man was a stay-at-home dad, you are the ONLY ONe who brought this up.... the OP stated that she was keeping the man, not because she had a better paying job and children, but because the mofo did not want to or intend to work... it seems you are bringing your own personal feelings of insecurity into a post that had nothing to do with you personally..NOBODY knocked a stay-at-home dad, they KNOCKED a grown ass man living off of a woman....and another grown ass man trying to control his woman by money.... Your finger pointing and fluffing of this story to fit your own perception of reality to thereby, create an argument that never existed, only to dispute it with yourself, and, in effect, thwart your own lack of confidence and feelings of self-worth onto others is a suggestion that perhaps you need to seek support and a way to express yourself in another format, therapy maybe...

 

[kjxxxx]

I must admit that I was attempting to not entertain you long-winded, fluff made posts that had nothing to do with the original question, but fuck it..

The OP never mentioned that the kept man was a stay-at-home dad, you are the ONLY ONe who brought this up.... the OP stated that she was keeping the man, not because she had a better paying job and children, but because the mofo did not want to or intend to work... it seems you are bringing your own personal feelings of insecurity into a post that had nothing to do with you personally..NOBODY knocked a stay-at-home dad, they KNOCKED a grown ass man living off of a woman....and another grown ass man trying to control his woman by money.... Your finger pointing and fluffing of this story to fit your own perception of reality to thereby, create an argument that never existed, only to dispute it with yourself, and, in effect, thwart your own lack of confidence and feelings of self-worth onto others is a suggestion that perhaps you need to seek support and a way to express yourself in another format, therapy maybe...

So are we to assume that all the posters draw the line at stay at home dads ?

If not for family why does one want a kept man or woman and for how long do you keep or be kept ?

Now I can understand a person being a kept man or woman for another person in a relationship but other than that... Why?

 

[LoneStar29]

You hate pussy men (referring to the male spouse who is a stay home dad) - THIS IS WHAT I SEE AS HYPOCRISY.

No ... pussy men do not equal stay at home dads to me ... the OP's question was very vague ... she made it seem as if we have to either choose from a domineering rich man or a man that we have to provide for ... to be completely honest with you the thought of that person being a stay at home dad never crossed my mind ... I thought of it as a lazy boyfriend that doesn't wanna work but still loves you or some corny shit like that ... that is who I would consider a pussy man and that is who I wouldn't want in my life ... also I do not like being bossed around by anybody ... my impression of the question was that the rich man would have me like his maid or some shit ... that is why I was confused

Stay at home dads get as much respect from me as stay at home moms

And please ... don't try and act like you know my mind frame from reading a few of my posts ... I am a very case-by-case sorta person

I hope we cleared that up

Edit: Oh shit I didn't even read Dyme's post before I posted mine *dead*

 

[IntelligentDyme]

So are we to assume that all the posters draw the line at stay at home dads ?

If not for family why does one want a kept man or woman and for how long do you keep or be kept ?

Now I can understand a person being a kept man or woman for another person in a relationship but other than that... Why?

That was our point too. that some men want to be kept to avoid being an adult and having responsibilty so they live off of woman. they stay at home all day and may clean up, but that's all.... I have no problem with a man or waying staying at home to take of their children if they both agree, its not my business, but if a man chooses to sit on his ass just because, i do not and will not respect it.

If a man or woman is a stay-at-home parent, that is not being kept, being a parent and managing a home is a job, so both are providing and doing what they should.

 

[bigirl]

OK, let me explain what I mean by "semi kept"; When I am really busy and he is less busy, he is so kind as to help me get the house stuff done and the dogs and stuff but then when he is real busy and I am off I will fix him nice meals and stuff and sometimes when I busy and he real slow I will actually hire him and pay him to do other jobs and stuff so its really just like sharing and nobody being scared to do "pussy shit" or whatever the fuck people are calling it

 

[sean69]

OK, let me explain what I mean by "semi kept"; When I am really busy and he is less busy, he is so kind as to help me get the house stuff done and the dogs and stuff but then when he is real busy and I am off I will fix him nice meals and stuff and sometimes when I busy and he real slow I will actually hire him and pay him to do other jobs and stuff so its really just like sharing and nobody being scared to do "pussy shit" or whatever the fuck people are calling it

Bullshit.

You shit.

 

[bigirl]

Bullshit.

You shit.

you shit lasagna

 

[kjxxxx]

That was our point too. that some men want to be kept to avoid being an adult and having responsibilty so they live off of woman. they stay at home all day and may clean up, but that's all.... I have no problem with a man or waying staying at home to take of their children if they both agree, its not my business, but if a man chooses to sit on his ass just because, i do not and will not respect it.

If a man or woman is a stay-at-home parent, that is not being kept, being a parent and managing a home is a job, so both are providing and doing what they should.

OK. I still maintain my equal rights position. I have no problem with a man being a kept man. If this is what she desires then she should have it and it's no ones business and he in no less of a man than any kept woman. There is a shortage of men out there and if she wants to have her cake and eat it then why the fuck not ?

Now that I think of it, I wouldn't mind being a kept man with a nice stipend; would work perfectly with my daytrading. Better yet I would like to have 1 or 2 kept women. That is a marvelous freaking idea. Trade them in when they get to 25 like. hahahahaha. Damn it I took over her thread. I wont post in it anymore unless it's been directed at me.

 

[onyxfemme]

dayum what was this thread about again?

 

[shywriter]

I guess I'm in the minority here. I would never want to keep a man or support him financially unless I had to, if he fell bad on his luck, or was going to school or starting a business. I wouldnt want a man to do everything I say, especially in a situation like that, b/c I know he is doing it because I'm the breadwinner...I would find him to be annoying, not manly, and I probably wouldn't respect him...Honestly I find it hard to respect any man who would willingly live off of a woman, and I know alot of men wouldn't respect it either... some may even give him props in face, but would dog him out behind his back.

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