Dilemma: Could U EVER Be A Stay-At-Home Dad?
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Hell yeah. I already do most of my job from home, but my daughter goes to day care. When I have some down time from my work, I'm normally doing stuff around the house that needs to be taken care of or running errands. Considering the cost of day care where I live, it if made financial sense to stay home because the cost of day care equaled or was more than my salary and my wife's salary could comfortably sustain us, I would absolutely be a stay at home dad.
damn...that is impressive as hell!
basketball is easy for a superstar, but that doesnt mean ITS EASY.
ninja you the Michael Jordan of parenting.
i bet your ass gets MVP trophies and shit for fathers day.
got a statue of you slammin' a diaper in your front lawn.
when them new Air Daddys comin out?
That's a tough one.
I mean if it's necessary and you are able to offer the time and your womans employment status is better.
Fatherhood is so narrowly defined by our obligations and I honestly don't think women can really appreciate that from a man. Men are always judge by their financial contributions or lack of. Even if you are fulfilling a necessary emotionally supportive position for child development it doesn't get the same respect. It just doesn't. They will look at you as a freeloader lazy and living off your woman. Then if the tables turn your left vulnerable when they up and don't need your help anymore or you are dependent on them to feed you.
Nobody will take kindly to being responsible for a man not working or earning even if the person is in a position to take care of him.
Props and respect to fathers who do it. That's a big sacrifice to your manhood for the child that will be scarcely appreciated unless you are already rich.
I mean if it's necessary and you are able to offer the time and your womans employment status is better.
Fatherhood is so narrowly defined by our obligations and I honestly don't think women can really appreciate that from a man. Men are always judge by their financial contributions or lack of. Even if you are fulfilling a necessary emotionally supportive position for child development it doesn't get the same respect. It just doesn't. They will look at you as a freeloader lazy and living off your woman. Then if the tables turn your left vulnerable when they up and don't need your help anymore or you are dependent on them to feed you.
Nobody will take kindly to being responsible for a man not working or earning even if the person is in a position to take care of him.
Props and respect to fathers who do it. That's a big sacrifice to your manhood for the child that will be scarcely appreciated unless you are already rich.
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Please don't take this wrong way, but my Mom did the same thing. It took me years to fully understand how hard that must have been. Props to you. When your kids get older, I am sure they will appreciate you doing that.
And a level headed brotha, who won't let the alpha male crowd get in their heads.
I can def be a stay at home dad. I love kids (probably saying that because i aint got non). I mostly run my business from home. Only difference is my GF doesnt make more than me and i pay the bills. She chips in $800 for rent and thats about it.
For example, in my situation, problems arises when she thinks her $800 is making a dent in our expenses. I have to remind her that our total month bills is about $3500, so her little $800 doesn't do anything.
I believe in sharing expenses. I believe that women have to pay for SOMETHING to keep them busy. I won't let anyone live off me for free, nor will i live off anyone for free.
For example, in my situation, problems arises when she thinks her $800 is making a dent in our expenses. I have to remind her that our total month bills is about $3500, so her little $800 doesn't do anything.
I believe in sharing expenses. I believe that women have to pay for SOMETHING to keep them busy. I won't let anyone live off me for free, nor will i live off anyone for free.
I had to quit a good job when the wife got promoted. Up unt that point, I had worked a second shift job, so I was with my kids a lot during the early years anyways. But I was out of work for a year, and at first it was nice to have a bit of a break from working, and just focusing on the kids and family. I coached my son's basketball and baseball teams, was the ONLY man that participated in my daughter's girl scout stuff (could of fucked all them soccer moms, but I wasn't about that life
). But after about 6 months, I did start to feel a bit emasculated. Not being the bread winner can make a man feel some sorta way. Although we did have to be more fiscally responsible, I think we did more that year as a family than we've ever did. I loved being home at the same time, dinners together, weekends together, etc. And I think that year, me and wifey's sex life was off the chain! I was home, so I wasn't tired or stressed from work. Like one previous bgol'er stated, I had time to do shit like run her a bath or give her massages and shit. All that aside, it was a slight setback for me, and once I did get back to work, it took me a while to get back to my previous earning potential, and I did put a sizable dent in my 401k and savings plans. To this day, my wife still asks me when is it going to be her turn to not work for a year, lol!
). But after about 6 months, I did start to feel a bit emasculated. Not being the bread winner can make a man feel some sorta way. Although we did have to be more fiscally responsible, I think we did more that year as a family than we've ever did. I loved being home at the same time, dinners together, weekends together, etc. And I think that year, me and wifey's sex life was off the chain! I was home, so I wasn't tired or stressed from work. Like one previous bgol'er stated, I had time to do shit like run her a bath or give her massages and shit. All that aside, it was a slight setback for me, and once I did get back to work, it took me a while to get back to my previous earning potential, and I did put a sizable dent in my 401k and savings plans. To this day, my wife still asks me when is it going to be her turn to not work for a year, lol!
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