Dilemma: Could U EVER Be A Stay-At-Home Dad?

[KevDebiasie]

Man this shit is not easy at all...I been home with my son since he was born a year n a half ago..I just moved to the US and aint got ma shit str8 yet so I cant work...

My wife just graduated...and got a job so her shit is cool..I had cake movin over here so we didn't really have to worry about much...but I can see her trying to act like she payin all the bills n shit...although its damm near 60/40...and we spendin my $

It gets real frustrating, but I love my kid to the death and I dont wanna put him in daycare so I can just have time alone...Just depends on what kind of guy you are I guess

 

[LSN]

If I was rich and the "wife" (never getting married) felt the need to go work for w/e reason...then ya I would stay @ home after the child is like 2 y.o. that would be the only justifiable scenario for me

 

[largebillsonlyplease]

raising children is the hardest thing ever
its nice to have people depend on you...its hard though, gotta be careful in every step.. my biggest problem is time, and they're always around me except at work....
watching them learn and grow is still the single most amazing thing on this planet you can experience though.

 

[Non-StopJFK2TAB]

I could but I would still have to maintain some type of employment just to have something to talk about to her other than the kids (and I wouldn't even have that to talk about with our son being 14 and stays gone all the time). The job of the homemaker is to maintain stability and stay interesting.

thats my situation right now. i go to school and work part time because a) i evntually want to own my business and b) its better for the child in the long run.

 

[LSN]

Man to this day I remember spending a day w/ my godson...he was walking so he had to be maybe a bit under/over a year...man I thought it'd be easy...like ya I'm just have this lil dude follow me around the house while I get my work done and he gonna go wherever I go and shit...na man it was the other way around...I had to go where HE decided he was gonna walk/run/crawl that day lil man was ALL OVER the place and there was no way in hell I coulda just left him by himself

 

[(0_0)..l.. finger]

work on getting my master degree and taking little man to daycare, while wifey working? Shit!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Hell yea. My woman have three more years of school, until she a lawyer. When she is finish, I'm going back to school and she's paying all the bills, until I'm done. So, I guess my answer is yes.

 

[4North1Side2]

glad i got a chance to do it with my son til his first day of school this year. it will amaze and fill u with pride how much more receptive kids are learning from dad than mom r/t plus u know the older they get the more dad is forgotten lol you teach them to run, throw, and catch etc and soon as they score a td or hit the game winning shot i love u mom is the first thing out their mouth lol plus getting back in the work force was not hard far as adjustment cause thats just what us men do

Yes, one of life's most rewarding experiences ever. It's almost impossible for your children to fall off into the wrong path when Daddy was there to help them along since day 1.

 

[playahaitian]

work on getting my master degree and taking little man to daycare, while wifey working? Shit!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Hell yea. My woman have three more years of school, until she a lawyer. When she is finish, I'm going back to school and she's paying all the bills, until I'm done. So, I guess my answer is yes.

not so fast bro...

YOU would be the DAYCARE!!!

 

[Damn Right]

if a dude has a REAL home based business and can still take care of the kid than i don't see anything wrong with that

 

[CUB2006]

most of us are.. Y u think we on bgol all god damn day...

 

[DaAssWatcher]

Men aren't wired for that shit.Like if you were still trying to get back to work and it was for a couple of months yes or a few if you were working on some certifications but just to be a straight up stay at home dad is a negative.Long term stay at home dads who see nothing wrong with it are cuckolds whether they know it or not.

 

[(0_0)..l.. finger]

not so fast bro...

YOU would be the DAYCARE!!!

They have daycare in college??? Are you talking about a newborn???

 

[playahaitian]

work on getting my master degree and taking little man to daycare, while wifey working? Shit!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Hell yea. My woman have three more years of school, until she a lawyer. When she is finish, I'm going back to school and she's paying all the bills, until I'm done. So, I guess my answer is yes.

not so fast bro...

YOU would be the DAYCARE!!!

They have daycare in college??? Are you talking about a newborn???

You have a 1 year old...

for some personal reasons she dont want a nanny...

your parents can't watch the kid...

you have experience with kids growing up raising your siblings...

She asks YOU to stay home just until the child turns 3 and can go to preschool...

She even offers to pay for school if you want to go back...

WHAT DO U DO???​

Pt. 2

How would U explain the 2 years being a DAD on your RESUME???

Oh wifey looking like this...

 

[D-TOWN REP]

damn right shit I dont like going to work everyday

would do that shit and wouldnt even feel bad

yeah im lazy but at least I dont act upon my laziness

 

["THE MAN"]

I could. The biggest hurdle is having a secure woman that wouldn't feel like just because she earned more money, she was wearing the pants.

You can still be a "man" without being the biggest earner.

BTW...That also means you as a man needs to be secure with yourself.

I agree with this. You need a woman who understands that this is a joint effort and won't hold it over your head.

 

[BGLR1212000]

i already played that role. never again. long story short, me and old girl had a kid. i had graduated and moved to ATL. She was still in school with my shorty, so i moved back to bumfuck GA to help her take care of the kid. I worked sporadically that year but we had foodstamps out the ass, and she graduated. If I had a work from home situation, that would be a different story.

 

[Notorious P.I.M.P.]

Ok where's this vid

 

[beg4mercy]

It sounds fun but I couldn't do it. It's just somethin about a woman pullin the rug from under me that I'm not comfortable with. I prefer to be control over my own destiny.

 

[Darrkman]

I stayed home for a year with my daughter. The industy was shaky, the wife makes more than me anyway and I don't think kids should go to daycare before they're one year old. It's very hard but I did enjoy the time with my daughter. She was my "running buddy" when I hit the mall or stores. By staying home we saved about $11,000 in daycare costs for the year.

When I went back to work I told agencies that I was laid off and that I just had a daughter so I stayed home for a year to save money. Most will understand, especially in this economy.

Sent from my EVO Shift

 

[BDR]

The man ain't lying. My 3 year old called my name 174 times within the first 2 hours after waking up. Daddy x 174

Daddy can you this, daddy can you that. Daddy daddy daddy!

Mannnnnn listen thats my 3 yr old... took my eyes off her for 10 secs and she done poured all the fish food in the fish tank talkin bout "daddy i'm feeding the fishes""" i'm sitting here like

 

[playahaitian]

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[Hellfish]

The person that handles the bills controls the household. I would never risk putting myself in a dependency situation, not even for a child.

 

[playahaitian]

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[playahaitian]

glad i got a chance to do it with my son til his first day of school this year. it will amaze and fill u with pride how much more receptive kids are learning from dad than mom r/t plus u know the older they get the more dad is forgotten lol you teach them to run, throw, and catch etc and soon as they score a td or hit the game winning shot i love u mom is the first thing out their mouth lol plus getting back in the work force was not hard far as adjustment cause thats just what us men do

wow..

great story man

good luck and god bless to the family

 

[Mrfreddygoodbud]

If you weren't out fucking married women you might still have a job and not on bgol asking about a try to get my job back letter...................

LOL,

yall both WAAAAAAAAY outta control!!!

 

[Mrfreddygoodbud]

Hell yea I could do that shit with ease....!!!

and when she comes home I could make her a bath

and massage her down...

Id make her feel so good ereday she wont even be thinkin

bout another dude, sexually or emotionally...

have healthy dinners and fresh juices for her and all that...


but that would be if I was ready for that life... Im still a lil selfish with my me time...

so that wont be happening no time sooon...

 

[Dannyblueyes]

In my wife's final months I stayed home to take care of her and the kids. It is grueling thankless work. You have everyone calling you a bum and asking when you're going to get a real job forgetting all the time you spent holding down three. If the relationship ends during that time you're dead in the water. You have no means to maintain your home which means you can't keep the kids. All that time you spent bonding and growing together goes out the window.

My old roommate used to be a stay at home dad. Aside from a part time job he did all the child rearing duties. By the time his wife divorced him he was so broke he stayed on her couch for six month before moving into my old place. She changed the narrative telling the kids their father had run out on them. She even took the kids to Peru for several months without even telling him.

Being a stay at home dad leaves you vulnerable to the courts, your wife, her family and anyone else who can and will fuck with you. Don't do it unless you absolutely have to.

 

[2Klub]

Wife and I may be in this situation as I will be looking to start my doctoral studies when we are also probably going to conceive. If it could work out, I would hope to get some type of stipend or grant to bring in some money.

 

[marca]

ninja you better make sure you stay getting checkups, cause if you aren't you may be a ticking timebomb.

and no it IS NOT easy.

kids between the ages of 7 months and 3 years need all kinds of attention.

wont judge any man but I cant say its hard either or @ least wasnt they way I did it
left out 4:30am went to work got in between 12-1pm would take kids (two daughters) from wifey for the rest of the day, she never had to lift a finger not even cook once i had kids till i left out next morning for work.
did this till they started school, never had an issue .

 

[BigDaddyBuk]

wont judge any man but I cant say its hard either or @ least wasnt they way I did it
left out 4:30am went to work got in between 12-1pm would take kids (two daughters) from wifey for the rest of the day, she never had to lift a finger not even cook once i had kids till i left out next morning for work.
did this till they started school, never had an issue .

i defy anyone who says its easy. yall just blocking the complications out. dr's visits, checkups, pooptastropies, fighting, crying over telepathic punches from the other kid(s)...etc. it may not be so complicated as to make you want to jump off a bridge, but it IS NOT easy.

 

[marca]

i defy anyone who says its easy. yall just blocking the complications out. dr's visits, checkups, pooptastropies, fighting, crying over telepathic punches from the other kid(s)...etc. it may not be so complicated as to make you want to jump off a bridge, but it IS NOT easy.

dude no disrespect but i did all that, still doing all that, school visits kid parties and then some , its just part of being a parent, making them clean up do homework , braiding their hair, yes i do that too , dye and relax it its all apart of my job, im their father , their parent its just a apart of the package.

 

[BigDaddyBuk]

dude no disrespect but i did all that, still doing all that, school visits kid parties and then some , its just part of being a parent, making them clean up do homework , braiding their hair, yes i do that too , dye and relax it its all apart of my job, im their father , their parent its just a apart of the package.

then it IS NOT EASY. you are just GOOD at it.

 

[The Plutonian]

can and will, no issues with it to me if your money is already made

 

[marca]

then it IS NOT EASY. you are just GOOD at it.

I feel I do no different from any other parent but understand we all have different strengths.

 

[jack walsh13]