Did your up bringing effect your sexual nature???

[KTonic]

Ok, While I was responding on another topic I thought of this....

Did the way you were raised, (how touch was exhibied in your family) effect how you exhibit intimacy???

Can you attribute stuff in your past to current actions (meaning how a man/woman touched you leave imprssions)???

Does exposure to sexual content at an early age help or hinder development?

(sits back to see the responses)

 

[femmenoire]

I definitely think so.

I was raised in a strict household with old school West Indian values.

All of my siblings are male.

And I witnessed the humiliation that my dad put my mom through.

 

[black again]

No brainer, here...Of course all that stuff affects your sexuality. I can count the times I saw my folks kiss on one hand. I grew up with good ol fashioned catholic guilt..as I found out years later, from many females, it'll make ya a helluva freak.

 

[thighsneyez22]

yes...bgol is my therapy for it though...lol

However, every time you guys call a girl a slut/whore for doing something you want her to do (yes I am openly referencing the "if-you-let- your-wife-swallow-your-cum-she-is-a-slut" thread)...I am reminded that its not only my upbringing thats against the full expression of female sexuality but society as a whole.

 

[SinaminDelite]

I definitely think so.

I was raised in a strict household with old school West Indian values.

All of my siblings are male.

And I witnessed the humiliation that my dad put my mom through.

Same here. Add the fact that everything sexual was taboo.

 

[KTonic]

Wow...to say the least, I didn't realize so many women came up in similar strict up bringing....cant say that about myself affection and PDA's were common in my household, and my Dad adores my mom and shows it. I mean know that up bringing effects how you see sexuality but I guess For me it was more positive, not saying others aren't but by just 2 of the responses, citing strict upbrining as a reason experimentation and inhibition or trying to break that guilt ridden, and taboo way of thinking is why they are what they are today...and like some of the other guys around....dang where was i when all this was needed to be experinced..lolol

 

[black again]

Gotta c/s the BGOL as my therapy..Yeah, I just check out the site for the articles But on the real, it's SOOO hard finding a female (unless you're on this site) who isn't afraid of her sexuality..who doesn't have the negative baggage that society tries to heap on them..who doesn't think that if she does WHATEVER, that she'll be judged harshly. Our morals haven't changed MUCH in generations. Can you imagine how hot sex would be if women were raised to openly explore their sexuality?

 

[Chicutie]

I went to catholic school all my life. And the nuns were very strict about sex and sin. But at home it was totally different. My mother never condoned sex at all, but she told me about sex in a very real way and she said she did this because she didn't want me to make a wrong decision because I was naive about it. I think that this was the best way to do it. And as crazy as it seemed back then, I'll probably do the same with my children.

 

[lilsexii]

I was raised in a Christian household so my parents passed on those values. They were honest about the fact that sex was a good thing, and they had/have a great relationship. But they mainly stressed that the only way to do it was to keep it in the right context - marriage. My dad was also in the military and I think the openness I have came from living in Germany as a teen. People assumed that everybody was doing it, but NOBODY CARED. There was no stigma attached to sex at all and that really stuck with me as the way it should be - live and let live.

 

[thighsneyez22]

Can you imagine how hot sex would be if women were raised to openly explore their sexuality?

The Europeans dont have to imagine...as lilsexii said...they LIVE it everyday

 

[JEverettL]

I agree that your upbringing affects your views on sexuality immensely. My brother and I where raised by a single mom. She attempted to talk to us about sex but neither one of us was trying to hear it. Some things you don't want to hear from your mom, but I did know she was there to talk if need be so it eliminated any kind of negative stigma. Wifey on the other hand was raised by a strict mom whose only sexual advice was "YOU'D BETTA NOT GET PREGNANT!!" So wifey is very uncomfortable discussing things of a sexual nature, or discussing sexuality in any kind of detail. Even now after years of marriage, she'll almost never initiate intimacy because of some guilt trip her mom put her on when she was little. I did get her to read a couple of the web boards on BGOL, and she was very VERY fascinated.

 

[Damian Stone]

yes...bgol is my therapy for it though...lol

However, every time you guys call a girl a slut/whore for doing something you want her to do (yes I am openly referencing the "if-you-let- your-wife-swallow-your-cum-she-is-a-slut" thread)...I am reminded that its not only my upbringing thats against the full expression of female sexuality but society as a whole.

Hummmmmmm

 

[MTL]

yes...bgol is my therapy for it though...lol

However, every time you guys call a girl a slut/whore for doing something you want her to do (yes I am openly referencing the "if-you-let- your-wife-swallow-your-cum-she-is-a-slut" thread)...I am reminded that its not only my upbringing thats against the full expression of female sexuality but society as a whole.

Great point!
Dammed if you do. Dammed if you don't!

 

[femmenoire]

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Great point!
Dammed if you do. Dammed if you don't!

I decided if I'm going to be damned, then I'm just going to do.

 

[MTL]

Sex was not openly discussed in my family. But i was exposed to it from an early age. I've had some great discussions with my grandmother about sex and sexuality. Just knowing that she's done some of the stuff that thought were "new or taboo" makes me I figure i get the love of lingerie and high heels from my mother and latex from my father.