Did I give the wrong advice?

[nawlinsn931]

Long story short, I did security at Brian McKnight concert. Seen one of my guys there with his wife, took a few pictures of them for em. No big deal. Well now we at work(healthcare) and he's pissed because she posted pictures and videos of the concert and he's no where to be found. Everything is "I enjoyed myself, I had so much fun at the concert" like he wasn't even there. She even posted a few selfies but nothing of them together.
Asked me how should he handle it. I told him simply"stop taking her places, stop doing shit for her until she shows appreciation, and be selfish and go have fun without her" now I ain't tell him to cheat but I did tell him he needs to enjoy life without her. Was I wrong

 

[Z MONSTER]

I know a female who does this on Facebook every day for the past 10 years.

 

[Heavenlywings77]

Yall know that means she's fucking another dude and it's someone whose on her friends list on Facebook right?
Case closed, tell him I said your welcome!

 

[scullydog]

I don't think you did.

 

[REDLINE]

Yes you gave him the wrong advice. How about have him ask him wife why's she posting like he wasn't there or in her life?




But if the answer to everything is to cheat, then you gave him the right advice.


Friend: Hey @nawlinsn931, my wife doesn't good that much anymore.

@nawlinsn931: Cheat and find a woman that does cook.


Friend: Hey @nawlinsn931, my wife doesn't like sports like she used to.

@nawlinsn931: Cheat, find a woman that does like sports.


Friend: Hey @nawlinsn931, is it gonna be hot tomorrow?

@nawlinsn931: Cheat, find a woman that's hot or cold.

 

[Temujin]

Why the fuck would he want to get posted? He must not got no hoes. LOL But she do. lol

BTW I was married for seven years and I don't even have wedding pictures. lol Bitch gonna have to catch me in real life.

 

[Heavenlywings77]

Why the fuck would he want to get posted? He must not got no hoes. LOL But she do. lol

BTW I was married for seven years and I don't even have wedding pictures. lol Bitch gonna have to catch me in real life.

I think it's the sentiment behind opting to appear single and going through the motions to edit him out of her life.
Not so much as the let's share our lives on social scenario.

People are willfully ignorant. If it looks like someone doesn't fuck with you like that -

 

[tallblacknyc]

Nigs want to be all on the video, dancing in the background. Nigs is more attention whores than broads.. nig wanted as many likes as his wife.. she probably gonna cheat now since he sensitive in not being included in her selfies like some bitch

 

[nawlinsn931]

Nigs want to be all on the video, dancing in the background. Nigs is more attention whores than broads.. nig wanted as many likes as his wife.. she probably gonna cheat now since he sensitive in not being included in her selfies like some bitch

She's probably cheating now which is the reason she doesn't show she's in a marriage.

 

[tallblacknyc]

She's probably cheating now which is the reason she doesn't show she's in a marriage.

Just off those pics you think she’s showing she’s not married? Is she a consistent poster that puts up pics everyday posting her day to day. Does she claim single in her social media? Or is dude blowing the story out of proportion cause he couldn’t be diddy in her pics

 

[nawlinsn931]

Just off those pics you think she’s showing she’s not married? Is she a consistent poster that puts up pics everyday posting her day to day. Does she claim single in her social media? Or is dude blowing the story out of proportion cause he couldn’t be diddy in her pics

She's a consistent poster from what he tells me. I don't have social media so IDK. He says her status is married but we all know that don't mean fuck. But my question is, if you share everything, show pix when you out with your girls, why when you do things with your husband you show it like you were solo

 

[Helico-pterFunk]

Yall know that means she's fucking another dude and it's someone whose on her friends list on Facebook right?
Case closed, tell him I said your welcome!

 

[tallblacknyc]

She's a consistent poster from what he tells me. I don't have social media so IDK. He says her status is married but we all know that don't mean fuck. But my question is, if you share everything, show pix when you out with your girls, why when you do things with your husband you show it like you were solo

If it says married than she obviously claims him.. somebody want to be diddy in her pics that’s what it is.. I never knew nigs to be so thirsty to be in pics b4. In fact most dudes would be like keep me off the net cause I don’t want people all in my biz.. unless you promoting something or making money why you trying to be all in the camera.. fucking new nigs

 

[nawlinsn931]

Ahhh yes, the insecurity angle. If you speak on it you're insecure etc but if you let go on and it comes out she been fucking around then what?

 

[ZuluSam]

He should be telling her NOT to post him. Just let it ride. Mine knows don't be posting me willy nilly.....a WHOLE lot of her stuff looks like she alone and I don't gives a fuck.....I just don't like muhfuckas knowing my business like that. When I made that shit known, her response was to post without me...and I am good with that.

 

[KoolJay]

He should be telling her NOT to post him. Just let it ride. Mine knows don't be posting me willy nilly.....a WHOLE lot of her stuff looks like she alone and I don't gives a fuck.....I just don't like muhfuckas knowing my business like that. When I made that shit known, her response was to post without me...and I am good with that.

Yoooo, I thought I was the only one. We do take some pics, and I'm kool if she post them, but more times than not she doesn't. And when we go on vacation, I tell her azz not to post until we get back home! I'm not big on social media, so I wont see that shyt most of the time.

 

[ZuluSam]

Yoooo, I thought I was the only one. We do take some pics, and I'm kool if she post them, but more times than not she doesn't. And when we go on vacation, I tell her azz not to post until we get back home! I'm not big on social media, so I wont see that shyt most of the time.

Bruhhhh....if you are really a friend of mine, then I'm gonna text you a pic of that big fish I caught or this bomb ass vacation house on the ocean I am at.....but those are the same niccas I might be drinking with if I am not on vacation....but the whole world..nahhhh, ain't their business what I am doing.

 

[ZuluSam]

Ahhh yes, the insecurity angle. If you speak on it your insecure etc but if you let go on and it comes out she been fucking around then what?

You think it matters to the nicca she fucking around with whether she posts her husband? LOL.....the side nicca gonna know her situation....and probably wants her to stay married, cause she a hoe and he don't want her like that.

 

[tallblacknyc]

He should be telling her NOT to post him. Just let it ride. Mine knows don't be posting me willy nilly.....a WHOLE lot of her stuff looks like she alone and I don't gives a fuck.....I just don't like muhfuckas knowing my business like that. When I made that shit known, her response was to post without me...and I am good with that.

Bruhhhh....if you are really a friend of mine, then I'm gonna text you a pic of that big fish I caught or this bomb ass vacation house on the ocean I am at.....but those are the same niccas I might be drinking with if I am not on vacation....but the whole world..nahhhh, ain't their business what I am doing.

Yoooo, I thought I was the only one. We do take some pics, and I'm kool if she post them, but more times than not she doesn't. And when we go on vacation, I tell her azz not to post until we get back home! I'm not big on social media, so I wont see that shyt most of the time.

These guys get it

 

[DJCandle]

I have to fight my woman to NOT post our selfies cause she’ll post left right and center for family. In my experience, women are EXACT about their presentation to the world. Whether it’s clothing, makeup or posting to social media.. they know exactly what they’re doing so it’s safe to say that if ol boy was omitted from being posted, that’s by design.

She knows exactly why he wasn’t posted.

 

[nawlinsn931]

I have to fight my woman to NOT post our selfies cause she’ll post left right and center for family. In my experience, women are EXACT about their presentation to the world. Whether it’s clothing, makeup or posting to social media.. they know exactly what they’re doing so it’s safe to say that if ol boy was omitted from being posted, that’s by design.

She knows exactly why he wasn’t posted.

This is my point.
Shit is very strategic.
But posters are right, cause I know people with couple profile pix and they both fucking off. I haven't had social media in years and don't plan on getting it. The need for attention and other people validation via insecurity is terrible with some people

 

[tallblacknyc]

Ahhh yes, the insecurity angle. If you speak on it you're insecure etc but if you let go on and it comes out she been fucking around then what?

So if she post his pics is that gonna mean she not gonna suck somebody else dick? Do selfie pics with your significant other = faithfulness? .. I guess having a wedding ring automatically means completely faithful also.. or maybe if she gonna cheat she gonna cheat no matter what fake presentation of happiness she put out of them

 

[nawlinsn931]

So if she post his pics is that gonna mean she not gonna suck somebody else dick? Do selfie pics with your significant other = faithfulness? .. I guess having a wedding ring automatically means completely faithful also.. or maybe if she gonna cheat she gonna cheat no matter what fake presentation of happiness she put out of them

I completely agree with you my guy. But I guess certain people's relationships are based upon what others think, but like you said the whole thing is for show

 

[nawlinsn931]

I'm thinking there's other issues at play and this is just a focal point. But I do understand him though, if I take you out to dinner, take you to see your favorite singer, etc and you post pix of everything BUT me, that means you were using me or I'm not that important

 

[Database Error]

I'm getting tooo old for this shit. Plot twist she didn't have any pictures of them together to post you took all the pictures of them together on his phone. He doesn't like her messing with his phone. But on the real who gives a fuck? That's what I would've told him. Their business is their business.

 

[ZuluSam]

I'm thinking there's other issues at play and this is just a focal point. But I do understand him though, if I take you out to dinner, take you to see your favorite singer, etc and you post pix of everything BUT me, that means you were using me or I'm not that important

If you beat the lining out of the pussy after dinner, you still feel the same way?

 

[REDLINE]

I have to fight my woman to NOT post our selfies cause she’ll post left right and center for family. In my experience, women are EXACT about their presentation to the world. Whether it’s clothing, makeup or posting to social media.. they know exactly what they’re doing so it’s safe to say that if ol boy was omitted from being posted, that’s by design.

She knows exactly why he wasn’t posted.

This guy gets it.

 

[nawlinsn931]

If you beat the lining out of the pussy after dinner, you still feel the same way?

Sounds like a fair exchange

 

[REDLINE]

Ahhh yes, the insecurity angle. If you speak on it you're insecure etc but if you let go on and it comes out she been fucking around then what?

It’s not insecurity. If they go on vacation, take lots of pics together and she only posts pictures of her she’s sending a message.

It’s not about him wanting to be in the camera and posted, it’s about why she’s purposely not posting her husband in her pictures.

 

[ebone84]

He needs to tell her every thing he feels it’s between them too.......

 

[tallblacknyc]

It’s not insecurity. If they go on vacation, take lots of pics together and she only posts pictures of her she’s sending a message.

It’s not about him wanting to be in the camera and posted, it’s about why she’s purposely not posting her husband in her pictures.

She didn’t post pics of him at a brian McKnight concert was that the end of the marriage? He wanted to be diddy at a brian McKnight concert.. he acting like she never post them or has a whole page where she dosent acknowledge she’s in a relationship.. one night and this nig acting like a full bitch.. dude wanted the likes and now crying and wants to unfriend her

 

[Darrkman]

Long story short, I did security at Brian McKnight concert. Seen one of my guys there with his wife, took a few pictures of them for em. No big deal. Well now we at work(healthcare) and he's pissed because she posted pictures and videos of the concert and he's no where to be found. Everything is "I enjoyed myself, I had so much fun at the concert" like he wasn't even there. She even posted a few selfies but nothing of them together.
Asked me how should he handle it. I told him simply"stop taking her places, stop doing shit for her until she shows appreciation, and be selfish and go have fun without her" now I ain't tell him to cheat but I did tell him he needs to enjoy life without her. Was I wrong

The advice was wrong because it was out of order, you jumped all the way to the end right away.

What the dude needed to do was ask her what the hell was going on and why was she posting like he didn't exist. If he didn't like the answer she gives then you go to the part about not taking her anywhere.

 

[REDLINE]

She didn’t post pics of him at a brian McKnight concert was that the end of the marriage? He wanted to be diddy at a brian McKnight concert.. he acting like she never post them or has a whole page where she dosent acknowledge she’s in a relationship.. one night and this nig acting like a full bitch.. dude wanted the likes and now crying and wants to unfriend her

You're taking it to the extreme end of the spectrum and that's your right if that's your thinking.

I personally don't think he wanted to be Diddy or any other photo hungry person. It sounds like they took many pics together and she conveniently and possibly purposely posted pics that he wasn't in.

We'd have to ask @nawlinsn931 to ask him is this a common thing. If it's done all the time then they should've been had a convo about it.

 

[tallblacknyc]

You're taking it to the extreme end of the spectrum and that's your right if that's your thinking.

I personally don't think he wanted to be Diddy or any other photo hungry person. It sounds like they took many pics together and she conveniently and possibly purposely posted pics that he wasn't in.

We'd have to ask @nawlinsn931 to ask him is this a common thing. If it's done all the time then they should've been had a convo about it.

He literally said dude bitch about her not posting photos of them at the Brian McKnight concert.. he didn’t say ole boy complained about her not acknowledging him ever on her social media page. He was so mad he didn’t get to be diddy one night he held in his anger and actually approached another dude about the situation and asked for his opinion and advice about it. Think her not posting you in the background for one night had you so tight you came to work the next day with that energy like I was all in the videos and she didn’t show me dancing , how dare she deny my diddy

 

[REDLINE]

He literally said dude bitch about her not posting photos of them at the Brian McKnight concert.. he didn’t say ole boy complained about her not acknowledging him ever on her social media page. He was so mad he didn’t get to be diddy one night he held in his anger and actually approached another dude about the situation and asked for his opinion and advice about it. Think her not posting you in the background for one night had you so tight you came to work the next day with that energy like I was all in the videos and she didn’t show me dancing , how dare she deny my diddy

Below is what he said. You can read and have read into it anyway you want, I didn't see it that way.



"She posted pictures and videos of the concert and he's no where to be found. Everything is "I enjoyed myself, I had so much fun at the concert" like he wasn't even there. She even posted a few selfies but nothing of them together".




You see it as him wanting to be Diddy and I don't.