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Andeyhollawho said:
I offered my kid's mom 50-50. I had it worked out. He get's 3 months off in the summer for school. One month off for Winter break and with the weekends thrown in we talking 50-50. Hell I even offered to keep paying her the child support and keep him with me AND allow her as much visitation as she wants.

What did I get...:smh:

But if you ask her I'm a deadbeat because I won't do what she ask when she ask. I buy all his clothes, shoes, haircuts, pay for school functions, get him every other weekend religiously AND pay child support. Plus the fact that we live like 30 miles apart AND I work like 45 miles away from home. I just got finished arguing with her because now I'm a deadbeat because I can't pick my son up from school 3 times a week and wait for her to get off from work. :smh:

Do you realize how long it takes to make a 75 mile trip in Atlanta traffic? I get off from work at 6 or 7 sometimes and he get out of school at 3. So we talking me leaving at like 1:30 from my job. Driving 75 miles to get him, drop him off at the sitter, drive BACK 75 miles, work and then come back 45 miles home. :smh: Or just miss half a day three times a week. :eek: How the fuck do I pay for either the gas to do that or the damn child support with a schedule like that? Her answer? Maybe you should have though of that before you took a job that far away? :eek:

Sorry for the rant but fuck that bitch (sorry but it fits in my eyes). Women make this shit difficult man. And no offense if I wasn't raised the way that I was I would have been like these other dudes. I would have been like fuck it, but I'm better than that. I want my son to know me. But I don't know him. Not like I should. So am I wrong for sometimes just saying fuck it all. :smh:
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Man your situation sounds like mine. I swear I buy 80% of my daughters cloths and shoes, I also pay 50 dollars every other week to get her hair braid,twist, or platted. She calls me a deadbeat and will tell anyone who listens that she does it all alone.

I tell her if you do it alone its because you choose to, I'll admit there are gaps in between me seeing my daughter but its because she with holds her from me. I tell her look at how much I do for our daughter and she says well she lives with me I have to rent, light, gas, car payment, insurance, school loans credit cards.

I try to tell her that because you try to keep up with the Jone's. I have apt she has a house, I have a bucket( I manly drive my company car) she has an 07 altima, I have one credit card she has 4.

She just doesn't get that her lack f money is due to her wanting live beyond her means.

As for the bold part that's a how I feel sometimes.
 
I truly feel for you brothers. All I can say is keep doing what your doing because when your kids get older they will see the truth regardless of what the mother says. Going thru shit like that this has to wear on a brother over the years buy your kids will know that you always loved them and thats worth all the bullshit you have to go thru. Much props to you all.

Dlateshow
 
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