Daughter spends last moments calling and texting dad for help

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Julia Martin knew the right thing to do would be to return her engagement ring.

She’d broken it off with her boyfriend of the past three-or-so years about six months ago, according to her father, Derrick Martin.

When her ex came over on the premise of collecting the ring Friday night, he forced open the door and stabbed her repeatedly before jumping to his death from her apartment in the 3000 block of South King Drive, according to police.

Martin, a 27-year-old from Detroit, tried to save her own life. She grabbed her phone and called police. She asked them to send an ambulance for her. She told them the name of the man who stabbed her.

Then she called her dad.

“Not only did she call me, she texted me while she was going through all this,” Derrick Martin said Monday. “She was calling everybody, saying that she wanted help. She called another friend and she was panting over the phone, trying to get her breath. He thought it was a prank and he hung up on her. He feels so bad.”

He’s not alone. Martin doesn’t check his phone often and didn’t see the text message from his eldest daughter until much later. It read: “Call me ASAP.”

Julia Martin was taken to Northwestern Memorial Hospital, where she was pronounced dead from multiple sharp force injuries. The Michigan State graduate and human resources supervisor at a local architecture firm had never given her father any reason to worry that the man she spent so much of her life with was dangerous.


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She recently told him that she had started dating again, her father said. As of Monday afternoon, the ex-boyfriend had not been formally identified by the Cook County medical examiner's office.

“There was no indication he was dangerous … I never would’ve thought that in a million years,” Derrick Martin said.

She did call her dad awhile back and ask that they connect and meet in person to talk. Just last weekend, he drove down from Detroit to spend time with his church-going, go-getter girl.

“She never went into that much detail about how bad it was, she was just telling me that they had broke it off and that she was planning on giving the ring back,” he recalled.

The pair went to a winery and enjoyed each other’s company, he said. “God works in mysterious ways,” Derrick Martin said. “He must’ve known it was going to be my last time to see her.”

Julia was the adventurous and ambitious type, her father said. Once she graduated college, she took a human resources job in Houston because she was always looking for ways to challenge herself, like recently obtaining a certificate in her field that led to a raise, her dad said.

“She was strictly into her career, always striving for greatness,” he said. “She was never satisfied being stuck in one position, she always tried to get higher and higher and higher.”

Julia Martin just received her passport for a New Year’s trip she was planning to Africa, her dad said. She traveled all over the country and hoped to one day live and work in New York City. After living far away in Houston, her family was happy she was living in Chicago, close by.

She had a little sister, Jasmin Martin, 22. Her mother died two years ago, from heart complications, after 20 years of marriage, Derrick Martin said. The day they buried his wife, Jasmin told her dad she was pregnant.

Derrick Martin also has recently buried his mother, father and brother. He’s having Julia’s body moved back to Detroit for burial. Now, Jasmin and her son, Cameron, are the only close family Derrick Martin has left.

“I just pray, I just ask God to give me strength," he said. "It’s like he keeps taking people that’s close to me and I don’t know why. You can’t question God, you just figure there’s a plan. And you pray.”
 
some folks could hide thier mental illness very well,

like this dude did..

anyone who cant let go and move on, is not thinking with a full deck..

I have told and will tell any chick, after I make sure they are all right..

If you must go...

move forward and never look back....

because I wont... toooooooooo much

coochie out in there and chicks to meet

to handcuff anything..

especially if you are young..

it seems like she was waaay too ambitious for the type of dude

she was dating..
 
Damm man... I need to check my phone more often. My lady will send texts I won't answer for hours sometimes. I say I'm working but in reality I just take it for granted. I feel for her pops. I know he's playing it out, what if. I hate weak niggas. Pussy ass if I can't have her, no one else will ass niggas.:angry::smh:
 
Sad reminder. Get in your kids grown or not business be Parents. Tell ya peoples You love em and answer the damn phone call or Text although not while driving.

R.I.P sista. I can't fathom what he's going through. Prayers up.

Its a lot of weak willed it can't take NO for an answer bitches. Its many a ladies out here of all shapes, shades, locations and colors.
 
'“Not only did she call me, she texted me while she was going through all this,” Derrick Martin said Monday. “She was calling everybody, saying that she wanted help. She called another friend and she was panting over the phone, trying to get her breath. He thought it was a prank and he hung up on her. He feels so bad.”"

you had 1 job. just 1
he won't ever get over it and he shouldn't just live with it dude.
your baby girl called you for help for her life and you hung up on her
 
Yeah i showed my wife this last night sum sad crazy stuff! I hope sum can read this article n learn from it, but most literally gotta go through the bullshit.. just sad man..
 
Bgol Dads don't be on some that was me back in the day young brothas will be brotha shit when the tack head boy comes to the house. Clean the tools, follow if need be.
 
I ALWAYS check my phone. Can't be ignoring shit if you have a family. I have a special ring tone for texts from the wife or family.
 
Damn that's sad man... I don't know what's up with these young cats. I think the problem is we are not raising our sons to be husbands and fathers. Too many of these lil motherfuckers are too emotional. They don't think logically.
 
Where the fuck was his fatherly/parental intuition at? Hung up in her face while she dying. C'mon dad. :smh:

Never thought something might be wrong dad?

And to these "I can't live without you mutha fuckas", bitch niggas of the highest order.

Get a fucking life. If you can't live without her you don't need her.
 
Damn that's sad man... I don't know what's up with these young cats. I think the problem is we are not raising our sons to be husbands and fathers. Too many of these lil motherfuckers are too emotional. They don't think logically.

There are definitely many problems.

And I think part of the problems we face is that we tend to dismiss emotion as a big part of human nature. Sometimes your homeboy just need a hug or someone to talk with. That ain't on no fag shit neither. Men are human too. We have emotions the same as women. A person just doesn't become logical. You can't raise a person to be logical if that's not their personality. But logical people tend to get confused when emotions are involved (especially men) because emotions are chaotic. emotions are chemical related in our body.

What if the guy that killed the sister actually tried to talk to his homies, but they dismissed the seriousness of his mental state? I know I am guilty of that. I dismissed my homie's cry for help when he was stressed and depressed. Told me he was going to rob a bank and I didn't believe him. Now that I look back, the signs were there. I was just blind to it.

We are blind to a lot of things as humans. Logic doesn't always makes sense either. It's only make sense to you and those that think like you.
 
Damm man... I need to check my phone more often. My lady will send texts I won't answer for hours sometimes. I say I'm working but in reality I just take it for granted. I feel for her pops. I know he's playing it out, what if. I hate weak niggas. Pussy ass if I can't have her, no one else will ass niggas.:angry::smh:

yea he went out like pure bitch...

hey if you want out.. cool thats your life...

but what he did was beyond weak....

I only cried once when a chick left me, but I was in

tenth grade and that was my first piece of real pussy...

my homies were tryin to tell me she a ho fuckin the whole

block, but I aint care.. once I realized that being free is better than being locked down..

and the older an wiser you get, the more pussy you get, it was on an poppin..

right in time for senior year...

folks be thinkin they in love.. it takes years, of going through bullshit with a chick,

before you even see and feel real love.

real love takes over coming trials and tribulations.....and still wanting to wake up

and see the same face every morning..

these fools just be in lust...
 
Where the fuck was his fatherly/parental intuition at? Hung up in her face while she dying. C'mon dad. :smh:

Never thought something might be wrong dad?

And to these "I can't live without you mutha fuckas", bitch niggas of the highest order.

Get a fucking life. If you can't live without her you don't need her.

I remember when I got my heart broke the first time. Yeah, I'm going to admit it in this thread. I was about 19 years old. Fine redbone from the Bronx. Being a southern kid, I had a thing for NYC chicks. Long story short, chick didn't want to be with me anymore and I LOVED her, lol. I was sad and depressed. Listening to old rnb and shit, crying like a bitch. Sending her emails on some "baby I miss you" type shit, lol.

I was broken, fam. Bitch destroyed my reality much like many of us in this thread are guilty of doing to women.

Did I want to kill her or myself? No, but I didn't stay down long enough to take my thoughts any further, but if it wasn't for certain people telling me the right things, then I don't know what would have become of me (or her). We live and learn and sometimes our thoughts when we are hurt are darker than we want to admit.
 
Such tragedy. :smh:

Both sides of the family suffers. Sometime we never know the full extent of someone's crazy until it's too late.

I've had this happen to a very very close family member...

Seriously father brother uncles...

Make sure the women in your life take these things seriously and support them and stress that they be careful no need for them to be alone.

That man is no longer their friend or lover.

It's over, it's over. It's not a game u aint cool he isn't harmless it isn't funny.

Break it off move on. You can mail the ring drop it off bring it to his job have one of the men do it.

Please take stuff like this serious

My condolences to the family

I hate that I haven't even thought about her in months and took another murder to remind me.
 
I've had this happen to a very very close family member...

Seriously father brother uncles...

Make sure the women in your life take these things seriously and support them and stress that they be careful no need for them to be alone.

That man is no longer their friend or lover.

It's over, it's over. It's not a game u aint cool he isn't harmless it isn't funny.

Break it off move on. You can mail the ring drop it off bring it to his job have one of the men do it.

Please take stuff like this serious

My condolences to the family

I hate that I haven't even thought about her in months and took another murder to remind me.

A lot of distractions in life now of days bro. We can't always be where we think we should be.

We try the best we can and even a slight slip up could be a costly moment. That's a tough aspect of life.
 
R.I.P. Young Angel.

Unfortunately another case of REDFLAG, and too late to do anything about it.

Black Men raise your sons the right way so this unfortunate example, won't be duplicated anymore.

Who am I kidding right? :dunno:
 
yea he went out like pure bitch...

hey if you want out.. cool thats your life...

but what he did was beyond weak....

I only cried once when a chick left me, but I was in

tenth grade and that was my first piece of real pussy...

my homies were tryin to tell me she a ho fuckin the whole

block, but I aint care.. once I realized that being free is better than being locked down..

and the older an wiser you get, the more pussy you get, it was on an poppin..

right in time for senior year...

folks be thinkin they in love.. it takes years, of going through bullshit with a chick,

before you even see and feel real love.

real love takes over coming trials and tribulations.....and still wanting to wake up

and see the same face every morning..

these fools just be in lust...

But that what love means to you. While I agree that you have to overcome problems in a relationship to experience love, not everyone is going to understand and have to learn it the hard way.

Luckily for you and I we learned it early. That helps. But us and people that share similar experience as us know, that loves comes in different forms and at different rates.
 
A lot of distractions in life now of days bro. We can't always be where we think we should be.

We try the best we can and even a slight slip up could be a costly moment. That's a tough aspect of life.

I hear you I've just been going to so many damn funerals so much so I got sick myself with walking pneumonia...it was the stress. So much saddNess and death it messes with u

and then I remembered her...

That coward not only killed her but her mom...who came to live with them leaving her own husband by himself just to help out when they were having issues. And he killed them both, he could have just fucking left. But he had to destroy everything and the coward didn't even have the decency to kill himself.

Man let stop talking about this

Again fellas protect our women against this fuck boys out here.
 
Damn that's sad man... I don't know what's up with these young cats. I think the problem is we are not raising our sons to be husbands and fathers. Too many of these lil motherfuckers are too emotional. They don't think logically.


You can raise all you want at some point kids grow up to be adults and make their own choices. The bottom line is People kill people for all kinds of reasons. You can never change that fact.
 
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