Date Like A White Girl

[Blunt]

If they are not taking care of them why would that affect your dating? Might affect if you want to date them knowing the potential but a man with kids who don't bring them around is not the same as a woman with kids who has them around.

Huh??? A man with multiple kids out of wedlock who doesn't even bother to take care of them (the way a woman does) is exhibiting an EXTREMELY negative character trait. The "effect" it has on dating is that he's a LOSER and should be avoided at all costs (though unfortunately, black women don't have the option to do this as easily as white women do since far too many black men fall into this category and pickings are already very slim for black women, especially those who have limited exposure to the world outside of an all-black urban setting).

 

[Andeyhollawho]

Huh??? A man with multiple kids out of wedlock who doesn't even bother to take care of them (the way a woman does) is exhibiting an EXTREMELY negative character trait. The "effect" it has on dating is that he's a LOSER and should be avoided at all costs (though unfortunately, black women don't have the option to do this as easily as white women do since far too many black men fall into this category and pickings are already very slim for black women, especially those who have limited exposure to the world outside of an all-black urban setting).

I said very plainly that a man with multiple uncared for kids might change if you want to date him.

It's been my experience that women who get pregnant are kind of required to take care of their kids unless they want to give them up for adoption. Women bear children. Biological fact. Sometimes the choices they make in who to bear them with has unintended consequences. But again what does that have to do with dating a man?

If after you date him you find out this "character flaw" as you see it then you can simply back away. Does not sway your ability to date them.

And you do realize white men are just as likely to have children out of wedlock don't you?

 

[HALO2]

despite what looked like a typo/omission of a word, it's a simple statement.

i still question the apparent negativity to his statement. would it have been more reasonable if someone else said it?

It's ok Don, just let it go. I let things go all the time. There are alot of kids on here so we never know who we are really talking to. And keep in mind alot of people do not have common sense. Makes no sense to argue with someone that has no common sense. Thanks for posting.

 

[Mr MajestiK]

The fact that HALO said it only makes it less remarkable and right now it appears that I've devoted way to many words to his post.

Why so?

Regardless of HALO's penchant for almost exclusively "loving up" white women does that negate his right to contribute to this discussion or in fact, invalidate what he's said so far?

I personally do not have a problem with HALO and as such, feel that some of the animosity aimed towards him on this board is somewhat a bit over the top.

As to the subject being discussed, I feel that sistas are fully entitled to excercise caution and discretion when considering who to date as long as they remain open minded and conscious of the fact that brothas come in a variety of facets and mind sets.

Brothas also need to be more understanding of the fears that most sistas have nowadays in relation to dating and adjust their behaviour and overall approach to sistas accordingly.

White women may or not have a different way of selecting dates, but it's worth bearing in mind that their mode of socializing is quite different from ours and as such, their approach or receptiveness to being approached will differ somewhat from our norms.

There's nothing sinister in this.

It's just nature.

 

[sean69]

Why so?

Regardless of HALO's penchant for almost exclusively "loving up" white women does that negate his right to contribute to this discussion or in fact, invalidate what he's said so far?

I personally do not have a problem with HALO and as such, feel that some of the animosity aimed towards him on this board is somewhat a bit over the top.

Come on son. I could give a fuck what he's "loving up" to and/or whatever his gimmick is. That's a tertiary factor and I rarely ever if not never have responded to any of his threads/posts.

My bullshit Doppler Radar went off and I just posted a comment. That's all. I'm not stripping him of his SOL Civil Liberties.

Two: not all black women are hoochie baby making machines with weave and gold teeth.

WTF is this? LOL. Some kind of pioneering revolutionary finding? Come on.

"Not all Arabs are suicide-bomb wielding camel herding towel heads with jacked up teeth."

"Not all African American men are lazy hand-out expecting socially degenerate drive-by shooting gangstas."

"Not all single mothers were irresponsible slutty harlots." etc, etc ... blah blah blah


No fucking shit.

And the bastard starts all this off by stereotyping white women?

Really? No seriously. Really?

 

[JofromthaNO]

^^^ Sean, I get your concern here.

The nature of the Essence article was stereotyping the way BOTH white and black women date in the U.S. One doesn't need to sling anymore stereotypes about black/white women in order to prove (or disprove) another's point.

Should black women date "like white women" because we're at a loss for finding dates and because white women seem to be of interest to many black men? No, but we could stand to open ourselves up to dating others...

 

[HALO2]

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[HALO2]

This fool is crazy.

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[Louis Koo]

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this bitch thinks ppl dont want to date black women/men only because of their skin color. it is far beyond that, it is about values, education, personality, social networks, etc.

 

[JofromthaNO]

Interesting how this thread has become about interracial dating, when it has nothing to do with dating outside of your race

It is more about do white women, in general, having dating "down to a science" better than black women, regardless of who they are dating...

The poster who keeps implying (and posting) things relevant to interracial dating, in my opinion, is privy to post in this thread, but let's not throw it off track here. If you choose to be in an interracial dating situation, great! But, it's not relevant to the topic at hand here... but, DO black women need a how-to guide to tell them HOW to date men?

 

[HALO2]

this bitch thinks ppl dont want to date black women/men only because of their skin color. it is far beyond that, it is about values, education, personality, social networks, etc.

What video did you watch. She said she made this in response to a survey on interracial dating among college students. One black woman said she didn't like to see black men with white women. The girl in the vid was saying that is not right and that she shares the same ideas and feelings as any person regardless of color, why should it make a difference. That is what she said and then she asked for feedback.

 

[sean69]

 

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Interesting how this thread has become about interracial dating, when it has nothing to do with dating outside of your race

It is more about do white women, in general, having dating "down to a science" better than black women, regardless of who they are dating...
The poster who keeps implying (and posting) things relevant to interracial dating, in my opinion, is privy to post in this thread, but let's not throw it off track here. If you choose to be in an interracial dating situation, great! But, it's not relevant to the topic at hand here... but, DO black women need a how-to guide to tell them HOW to date men?

Agreed I don't think that white women in general have dating down to a science better than black women, as you would say, they just have a different mindset, when it comes to men. For example, when you dating white woman, damn near everything goes and I'm not talking about sex. I'm talking about doing what you want, saying what you want and going anywhere reasonable without worrying about being judge for your actions, on the first date!!! Most black women don't understand that when you're going on a date, your not supposed to look for husband or boyfriend. Dating is only for you to have fun and find out what qualities you like in the opposite sex or the same....I'll add more if you want...

 

[JofromthaNO]

Agreed I don't think that white women in general have dating down to a science better than black women, as you would say, they just have a different mindset, when it comes to men. For example, when you dating white woman, damn near everything goes and I'm talking about sex. I'm talking about doing what you want, saying what you want and going anywhere reasonable without worrying about being judge for your actions, on the first date!!! Most black women don't understand that when you're going on a date, your not supposed to look for husband or boyfriend. Dating is only for you to have fun and find out what qualities you like in the opposite sex or the same....I'll add more if you want...

Thanks for the info...

So, how does a woman let a man know she wants to take it past the "dating phase" and into something more serious without scaring him with those ultimatum questions, like, "Do you ever want to get married?" or, "Can you see yourself marrying me?"

I think most women are ok with having fun initially, but ultimately want to be chosen for something more in the long run...especially if it's by a man they can see a foreseeable future with...

 

[Louis Koo]

What video did you watch. She said she made this in response to a survey on interracial dating among college students. One black woman said she didn't like to see black men with white women. The girl in the vid was saying that is not right and that she shares the same ideas and feelings as any person regardless of color, why should it make a difference. That is what she said and then she asked for feedback.

you're right. i stopped after 30 seconds

 

[Crown&Coke]

Thanks for the info...

So, how does a woman let a man know she wants to take it past the "dating phase" and into something more serious without scaring him with those ultimatum questions, like, "Do you ever want to get married?" or, "Can you see yourself marrying me?"

I think most women are ok with having fun initially, but ultimately want to be chosen for something more in the long run...especially if it's by a man they can see a foreseeable future with...

Just dont use the ultimatum questions. . . .if you into a guy and wanna take it a lil more serious and get exclusive then let him know but also be prepared for him to maybe tell you he dont wanna take it there cuz he may not be ready. ​

 

[HALO2]

you're right. i stopped after 30 seconds