Any of you ever had to cut of immediate family before? If so, how long did it last?
I'm going on 10yrs with immediate and 20 yrs for the rest.
I'm going on 10yrs with immediate and 20 yrs for the rest.
Cutting off family
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How much money they owe you fam?
i am the 2nd of 7
i speak to one occasionally
i speak to one occasionally
Of course and I don't regret doing it either and they can talk til the sun stop shining and I don't give a fuck.
Cousins/neices,nephews/friends want to be so street/hood/ghetto that they have nothing else to stand on but bullshit that it's held them back besides their own bad habits and pretending to be more than what they really are.....I'm over talking and dealing with them types of niggas.Good riddance.
The people that only call you when they have an issue or problem,I can't help you anymore matter of fact I need your help and the people go silent and all I hear is a dial tone.FUCK YOU,TODAY,TOMORROW,NEXT WEEK,IN A FEW MONTHS,NEXT YEAR AND THE REST OF THE YEARS YOU'RE HERE.
My father used to tell us "If you hang around someone that can't tell you nothing,not even how to do wrong...get the fuck from around them" and I stay the fuck away from them.
Have a brother I only see on holidays. Anytime he’s on caller ID its problems. His or his wife’s.
My wife’s family always needs money. Or is stealing from her mother’s retirement or household funds.
So while not cut off - we never call them first and never pick up when they call. Just call them back if they leave a message and it’s a true emergency.
How can you call your sister and ask for shoes and school supplies for your own child, while at the same time on Facebook you’re flossing on vacation.
I like solving problem. But if you have the same problem, on a regular basis, that shit is not a problem, it’s a habit. I don’t pay for habits…
My wife’s family always needs money. Or is stealing from her mother’s retirement or household funds.
So while not cut off - we never call them first and never pick up when they call. Just call them back if they leave a message and it’s a true emergency.
How can you call your sister and ask for shoes and school supplies for your own child, while at the same time on Facebook you’re flossing on vacation.
I like solving problem. But if you have the same problem, on a regular basis, that shit is not a problem, it’s a habit. I don’t pay for habits…
Sure. There are countless family members I have been content to only see at funerals. They're not our friends. We chose our friends. Family are folks you are born into a connection with. Whether or not you wanted be associated with them in any way. I cut off a gang of family members. As well as people I was friends with in the past. As reunions with them led me to the assessment I must avoid all future contact with them. Grown ass niggas talking about "the firmament". 
The day my moms passed away is the 1st time I spoke to my lil brother in about 3 yrs.... over some shit that never happened the way it was said it happened. His wife has a lot to do with it & the inability for US to discuss it & move on. She doesnt want to.
I always knew she didnt really like me & she pretended to very well.
He hadnt been to my moms house in a good 20 yrs so he forgot how big it is... after using the bathroom.... he comes back & asks me if he can rent a room. He was in the market for a side bitch spot. I didnt say anything but to myself I was like wtf??? You ask me that on the day my moms leaves???
Had plenty of convos about business ideas but in like.... what type of family business can we have if family members dont communicate?
We kicked it thru most of the pandemic then 1 night @ a family function i ran into his wife & acted like I didnt see her.
I was intending to call him prior to that but after it seemed like id be doing so just to see what he would say so i didnt & still havent spoken to him & dnt really care anymore.
Him & his moms greed fuked up the money left from the sale of my father's house too.... they would rather see the state keep ALL the money ($65/$70k) vs splitting it 6 ways.
In less than 3 years after my moms passed.... I dnt communicate w/ my sisters & they dont / didnt really speak to each other prior to that. The oldest who lived 6 blocks away did NOTHING to help my mom & the middle sister did but she has a history of vanishing on the family.... 20 yr trips. She stopped talking to me over $150. She knew I wassnt "working" & looking for a job.
I would eventually slid the money under her door.
My oldest sister said she had NO MONEY FOR THAT.... when it came to us getting the money together to pay for my mothers services. I didnt say anything until last month... i got tired of her trying to use me / get over & her perpetual state of victimhood. You have to know she is gonna beat you outta some money some kinda way. Everytime!
I posted the story of her telling me she had NO MONEY for our mothers services even though she is a registered working nurse on fb for the majority of our family to see .
So in less than 3 yrs of my moms leaving Ive realize how alone / on my own I am & its all good. They cant ask me for anything, there isnt a need for us to speak, or visit.
I had nothing to say.... I just embraced the space / dustance. The distance is peaceful.
Wit my sisters it feels like we just people that know each other & the only thing we have in common is the fact that we came out the same person.
I always knew she didnt really like me & she pretended to very well.
He hadnt been to my moms house in a good 20 yrs so he forgot how big it is... after using the bathroom.... he comes back & asks me if he can rent a room. He was in the market for a side bitch spot. I didnt say anything but to myself I was like wtf??? You ask me that on the day my moms leaves???
Had plenty of convos about business ideas but in like.... what type of family business can we have if family members dont communicate?
We kicked it thru most of the pandemic then 1 night @ a family function i ran into his wife & acted like I didnt see her.
I was intending to call him prior to that but after it seemed like id be doing so just to see what he would say so i didnt & still havent spoken to him & dnt really care anymore. Him & his moms greed fuked up the money left from the sale of my father's house too.... they would rather see the state keep ALL the money ($65/$70k) vs splitting it 6 ways.
In less than 3 years after my moms passed.... I dnt communicate w/ my sisters & they dont / didnt really speak to each other prior to that. The oldest who lived 6 blocks away did NOTHING to help my mom & the middle sister did but she has a history of vanishing on the family.... 20 yr trips. She stopped talking to me over $150. She knew I wassnt "working" & looking for a job.
I would eventually slid the money under her door.
My oldest sister said she had NO MONEY FOR THAT.... when it came to us getting the money together to pay for my mothers services. I didnt say anything until last month... i got tired of her trying to use me / get over & her perpetual state of victimhood. You have to know she is gonna beat you outta some money some kinda way. Everytime!
I posted the story of her telling me she had NO MONEY for our mothers services even though she is a registered working nurse on fb for the majority of our family to see .
So in less than 3 yrs of my moms leaving Ive realize how alone / on my own I am & its all good. They cant ask me for anything, there isnt a need for us to speak, or visit.
I had nothing to say.... I just embraced the space / dustance. The distance is peaceful.
Wit my sisters it feels like we just people that know each other & the only thing we have in common is the fact that we came out the same person.
We live in a dome son! The earth is flat, the queen was a cunt bitch & the king is a faggot. Sure. There are countless family members I have been content to only see at funerals. They're not our friends. We chose our friends. Family are folks you are born into a connection with. Whether or not you wanted be associated with them in any way. I cut off a gang of family members. As well as people I was friends with in the past. As reunions with them led me to the assessment I must avoid all future contact with them. Grown ass niggas talking about "the firmament".
Ten fucking paragraphs..... this explains a fucking lot about you, and why you need a therapist real bad.... and explains why you make posts like this, the very first reply in the thread..... With absolutely nothing even being said to you.... ur a "textbook case" in some professional therapists case fileThe day my moms passed away is the 1st time I spoke to my lil brother in about 3 yrs.... over some shit that never happened the way it was said it happened. His wife has a lot to do with it & the inability for US to discuss it & move on. She doesnt want to.
I always knew she didnt really like me & she pretended to very well.
He hadnt been to my moms house in a good 20 yrs so he forgot how big it is... after using the bathroom.... he comes back & asks me if he can rent a room. He was in the market for a side bitch spot. I didnt say anything but to myself I was like wtf??? You ask me that on the day my moms leaves???
Had plenty of convos about business ideas but in like.... what type of family business can we have if family members dont communicate?
We kicked it thru most of the pandemic then 1 night @ a family function i ran into his wife & acted like I didnt see her.
Him & his moms greed fuked up the money left from the sale of my father's house too.... they would rather see the state keep ALL the money ($65/$70k) vs splitting it 6 ways.
In less than 3 years after my moms passed.... I dnt communicate w/ my sisters & they dont / didnt really speak to each other prior to that. The oldest who lived 6 blocks away did NOTHING to help my mom & the middle sister did but she has a history of vanishing on the family.... 20 yr trips. She stopped talking to me over $150. She knew I wassnt "working" & looking for a job.
I would eventually slid the money under her door.
My oldest sister said she had NO MONEY FOR THAT.... when it came to us getting the money together to pay for my mothers services. I didnt say anything until last month... i got tired of her trying to use me / get over & her perpetual state of victimhood. You have to know she is gonna beat you outta some money some kinda way. Everytime!
I posted the story of her telling me she had NO MONEY for our mothers services even though she is a registered working nurse on fb for the majority of our family to see .
So in less than 3 yrs of my moms leaving Ive realize how alone / on my own I am & its all good. They cant ask me for anything, there isnt a need for us to speak, or visit.
I had nothing to say.... I just embraced the space / dustance. The distance is peaceful.
Wit my sisters it feels like we just people that know each other & the only thing we have in common is the fact that we came out the same person.
^^^^^We live in a dome son! The earth is flat, the queen was a cunt bitch & the king is a faggot.
And explains why there's always a faggot in your imagination
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I think I posted it before about my nieces husband who is from WV that was in the Navy with my. Him and his family parted ways cause he broke the family cycle of graduating high and not becoming a coal miner and marrying a black woman. Has spoke to them since 98 his sister jump ship and moved up he in 2000 after years of abuse and for defending her brother's choice. His parent don't even know they have grandchildren, one of his cousins came to visit during Christmas saying the family is completely divided between 45 supports and those who aren't.
Bro, let me tell you something,
I have a cousin who used to do tile work. He’s really good. Anyway, he also sold drugs. He gets caught and goes to the pen.
After he gets out, he comes to my house crying, talking about how he can’t get a contractor’s license, because of the felony. He asks me if I can get the license, we’ll split the profits 50/50. I said, “Ok.” I know it takes a while to earn money so I didn’t say anything for a year.
A broker friend (I'm a Real Estate Broker as well) of mine calls me and say’s “Hey man, I have an issue with your cousin. He wants me to help him do a deal, but he said that he doesn’t want you to know.” I told my friend to do the deal. We’ll work everything out later.
I found out that my cousin had earned $150,000. But he didn’t pay me anything. He kept on making it like he wasn’t earning anything. So, I called the Contractor’s License Board, and told them that I’m pulling my license.
This MoFo is driving a Bentley now, but he doesn’t come around me… He called me one day out of the blue and said, “Hey, if you ever want to use the Bentley to go to Vegas, come and get it.” I said, “If you ever see me behind the wheel of a Bentley, that car is going to be mine.”
Greed is a MoFo… it makes people do strange things, and it can blow familial relationships to smithereens.
I have a cousin who used to do tile work. He’s really good. Anyway, he also sold drugs. He gets caught and goes to the pen.
After he gets out, he comes to my house crying, talking about how he can’t get a contractor’s license, because of the felony. He asks me if I can get the license, we’ll split the profits 50/50. I said, “Ok.” I know it takes a while to earn money so I didn’t say anything for a year.
A broker friend (I'm a Real Estate Broker as well) of mine calls me and say’s “Hey man, I have an issue with your cousin. He wants me to help him do a deal, but he said that he doesn’t want you to know.” I told my friend to do the deal. We’ll work everything out later.
I found out that my cousin had earned $150,000. But he didn’t pay me anything. He kept on making it like he wasn’t earning anything. So, I called the Contractor’s License Board, and told them that I’m pulling my license.
This MoFo is driving a Bentley now, but he doesn’t come around me… He called me one day out of the blue and said, “Hey, if you ever want to use the Bentley to go to Vegas, come and get it.” I said, “If you ever see me behind the wheel of a Bentley, that car is going to be mine.”
Greed is a MoFo… it makes people do strange things, and it can blow familial relationships to smithereens.
On Super Bowl Sunday I saw my mother for the first time in almost 3 years. In February 2020 her brother, my uncle died on my birthday. I was told not to come to the hospital because she was there.
I get to his funeral the following week and my mother is being the fake that she is. She's smiling and telling her co-workers who showed up, "This is my oldest boy"
In November 2021, I called my sister because I'd lost my mother's new number that didn't transfer to my new phone. My sister didn't give me the number. She put me on hold, call to my mother to ask permission to give me the number, clicked back over and said "she's going to call you." (Still didn't give me the number)
My mother then proceeds to call me from a private number
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My brother and I got into a beef in October 2020. He came to my house for the Super Bowl party in 2021 but acted unsocial.
December 2021, we haven't spoken all year, he sends me a 28 Page Letter in the mail. On the first page he says, "I don't know what our mother did to deserve such a vile, disloyal, piece of shit like you for a son"
I still haven't read that letter and I never will. Mind you my brother is 44 years old and has never left home. He still stays at home with our mother. He doesn't even have his own car. He drives her car
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I don't necessarily have a problem with my sister. We used to talk every now and again, go over each other's house and watch movies or whatever, but after I fell out with my brother all of that stopped.
Before this year's Super Bowl party at a friend of mine's house that they know, the last time I saw my sister was June 2021.
The Super Bowl party, I saw my mom and sister. We hugged. My brother showed up later with a friend of his. When I went to shake his hand, say what's up he ignored me and walked right past me. He proceeded to ignore me for the rest of the night
He spent the night sulking sitting on the couch furthest from the TV. He even ignored my friend's 2-year-old, which bothered my friend.
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I do me. I don't worry about them. I don't need them in my life and I don't give a fuck. I sent my brother a text a couple months ago, "Let's end this shit. For real. What do you say?"
As I expected from his Petty ass, I didn't get a response
I'm the middle kid. I'm the most independent. I was the first to leave the house and stay gone. I've been married and of course divorced, but my family just... they're just different from me
I get to his funeral the following week and my mother is being the fake that she is. She's smiling and telling her co-workers who showed up, "This is my oldest boy"
In November 2021, I called my sister because I'd lost my mother's new number that didn't transfer to my new phone. My sister didn't give me the number. She put me on hold, call to my mother to ask permission to give me the number, clicked back over and said "she's going to call you." (Still didn't give me the number)
My mother then proceeds to call me from a private number
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My brother and I got into a beef in October 2020. He came to my house for the Super Bowl party in 2021 but acted unsocial.
December 2021, we haven't spoken all year, he sends me a 28 Page Letter in the mail. On the first page he says, "I don't know what our mother did to deserve such a vile, disloyal, piece of shit like you for a son"
I still haven't read that letter and I never will. Mind you my brother is 44 years old and has never left home. He still stays at home with our mother. He doesn't even have his own car. He drives her car
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I don't necessarily have a problem with my sister. We used to talk every now and again, go over each other's house and watch movies or whatever, but after I fell out with my brother all of that stopped.
Before this year's Super Bowl party at a friend of mine's house that they know, the last time I saw my sister was June 2021.
The Super Bowl party, I saw my mom and sister. We hugged. My brother showed up later with a friend of his. When I went to shake his hand, say what's up he ignored me and walked right past me. He proceeded to ignore me for the rest of the night
He spent the night sulking sitting on the couch furthest from the TV. He even ignored my friend's 2-year-old, which bothered my friend.
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I do me. I don't worry about them. I don't need them in my life and I don't give a fuck. I sent my brother a text a couple months ago, "Let's end this shit. For real. What do you say?"
As I expected from his Petty ass, I didn't get a response
I'm the middle kid. I'm the most independent. I was the first to leave the house and stay gone. I've been married and of course divorced, but my family just... they're just different from me
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Mom's and pops passed over 20 years ago and i don't talk to any of my other family members.a couple I had problems with and the others we just drifted apart and never reconnected. I wish em all the best though.
I've been a loner since I was a kid and my girl is the same.just us and our cat and we keep it like that.
I've been a loner since I was a kid and my girl is the same.just us and our cat and we keep it like that.
The ones closest to you be the ones that try your patience the most because they believe you'll just keep forgiving them!
FUCK EM CUT EM OFF!
FUCK EM CUT EM OFF!
What is the reason
We skipped our usually family union the year before COVID-19 hit and was the greatest regret my family had cause we lose multiple family members young and old including my mother. I glad to say the family is tighter then before. My wife's family is old school one member has a problem the whole family comes together and solves it.
the actions of OTHER people could never have a negative impact on me. That's their choice just like you choose to be a cunty faggot.
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this was you putting all of this together...
this was you typing, copying & pasting....
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Cutting off the crumb snatchers.
Much needed distance in order to have peace of life, other things too (like mishandling money or property to help the family), but peace was the main one.
Yea it sucks that when you have to do family like this but your sanity and peace is way more important.
I hope those who can fix the relationship are able to, but if not I understand
I hope those who can fix the relationship are able to, but if not I understand
The loner shit does get a little lonely sometimes, but it doesn't have the stress of having idiots in your life or people in your life you can't trust or don't like or don't like/are jealous of youMom's and pops passed over 20 years ago and i don't talk to any of my other family members.a couple I had problems with and the others we just drifted apart and never reconnected. I wish em all the best though.
I've been a loner since I was a kid and my girl is the same.just us and our cat and we keep it like that.
My sister and I cut off our little brother (later my sister cut off our mother). It's been almost 10 years now. Nothing was done to me personally it was between them (sister and brother), but my brother was in the wrong and at the time of the split I had a closer relationship with my sister. I won't lie, I miss him dearly, but it would take a lot of forgiveness, prayers and therapy to overcome the rift.
Yes sir, ten years, no turning back.
Get some help for yourself and that cunt that liked your reply.... another lame troll that probably has mental problems far worse than you.... I almost..... feel sorry for the two of you.... but the entertainment factor of you two owning yourselves is.... pricelessthe actions of OTHER people could never have a negative impact on me. That's their choice just like you choose to be a cunty faggot.
sidebar: both of you have a lot in common..... faggotry spills from both of your mouths, and the faggotry rants.... they speak volumes
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Call him and tell him you just calling to say whats up and leave it at that...don't go in with any big expectations of happy reconciliations, just call...if something bad happens, you'll be sorry you didn't
I'm just going off the little bit of info you provided...obviously you know your situation 1000 times more than I ever will
Cut my old man and a gang of folks on my moms side out. Not worth the headache and you can’t deal with folks who’ve never progressed in life and are cemented to the same hood, mentality and lack of growth that plagued prior generations of the family. I’m good on all of them and don’t even want my seeds interacting with them, for what?
My grandparents raised me and both of them passed 20 years ago. I only keep in touch with two cousins. Not sure what kind of relationship my mom and dad had, because after I was born they dropped me off with my maternal grandparents and bounced. My mom calls on holidays, havent seen her in person in 5 years.
Many on my mom’s side never liked my dad. My parents divorced in 1996. The last time I ever saw many of them was 1992 and 1999. They kept their distance and never reached out, nor did I. Haven’t met many of their kids, etc.
Reconnected with other members of her family the past 20 years so that has been good. Some are decent, others are assholes who think their shit doesn’t stink. I say hi to them but pay them no attention otherwise.
Surprisingly one cousin’s husband is the nicest person of all. He lost both parents recently, and is estranged from both his sister and brother. But he has a heart of gold and is salt of the earth. Give you the shirt off his back. First time I met him when visiting Winnipeg at 12yo, he took me and my cousin to the university campus to play pool and shoot hoops. Then took us out for dinner. Then to the waterslides a week later cruising around town in his Scirocco. Cool as ever, that guy.
As for cutting ties with family ... mostly keeping interactions limited with certain people. People that couldn’t give 2 fucks about you. I don’t invest effort in them in return. They’re too easy to read.
Reconnected with other members of her family the past 20 years so that has been good. Some are decent, others are assholes who think their shit doesn’t stink. I say hi to them but pay them no attention otherwise.
Surprisingly one cousin’s husband is the nicest person of all. He lost both parents recently, and is estranged from both his sister and brother. But he has a heart of gold and is salt of the earth. Give you the shirt off his back. First time I met him when visiting Winnipeg at 12yo, he took me and my cousin to the university campus to play pool and shoot hoops. Then took us out for dinner. Then to the waterslides a week later cruising around town in his Scirocco. Cool as ever, that guy.
As for cutting ties with family ... mostly keeping interactions limited with certain people. People that couldn’t give 2 fucks about you. I don’t invest effort in them in return. They’re too easy to read.
It's sad. My uncle (who is a few years older than me) raised his kids in the same run down, roach infested house I grew up in.
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