Confirmed Bachelor Or Scared Little Boy? Which Are You?

[Black Sexxxploitation]

http://planetill.com/2010/01/confirmed-bachelor-or-scared-little-boy-which-are-you/

Confirmed Bachelor Or Scared Little Boy? Which Are You?

By Jordan Forrester

I’ve known forever and a day that single (and some married) men carry around rule books in regards to single female sexual behavior. There’s a long list of do’s that they long for you to provide. Providing said do though will immediately brand you skank and have you relegated to the late night drunk dial rotation. What I didn’t know was how deep the disdain ran and how contrived it is. I guess my question is do men go out of their way to hook up with women they deem offensive? And if so is this yet another sign that men are horrified of being men?

When I suggest a fear of manhood I’m talking about the conventional roles that men play in the family; the husband, provider, father, protector role that is. The first step on that path logically is finding a suitable mate. If no one is suitable you’re always at step one. If you are always at step one, you un-invite yourself from the responsibility that comes with creating a family unit, and something our community is in desperate need of right now.

On one of the very rare occasions when I was allowed to hang out in the basement with my husband and his friends during “man night” without being mistaken for Hazel the Do Girl, I was invited into a very interesting conversation. One of his single friends was going on about some scallywag (his word, not mine) he met at like the gas station or something. He got her number. He called her a few days later and they hooked up the same night. While I do crinkle my nose up a bit at the idea of sex with strangers, I also realize that’s a rule I live by because it works for me so if she felt like giving up the cookies to ole boy, then fine. Of course he felt her behavior was inappropriate and detailed how inappropriate she became that evening. But he called her in the hopes that all of that would happen? He also would have had another set of complaints if she had been the good girl he allegedly respects. She would have been a tease, a prude or a freeloader looking for a sugar daddy without keeping her end of the bargain. It’s a silly catch 22 that just made him appear to either hate women or need an escape route for anything deeper than a booty call.

The cause for this desire to have a hands on physicality with women while having a hands off emotional mentality could be many different things and I will acquiesce enough to admit that some men are just not built for a life of his and hers. However, it’s been my experience that men who are comfortable with their confirmed bachelor status extend that comfort to the women in their lives. Those who are truly happy flying their lives solo accept and enjoy the lustful treats they get from the fairer sex and spend a lot less time dogging them out for their sexual empowerment. Men who spend half their time begging for sex and the other half blasting those who say yes just seem like frightened little boys who want to assert their manhood with their penis and their penis only because the rest of the man ride would be too much for them to handle.

Everybody’s definition of being a man is different, but few thinking folks have boiled it down to one action. It’s usually a combination of several traits that when mixed create a strong, able individual. Regardless of what all these characteristics are, it’s a balancing act for the man involved and it gets challenging at times. But you can’t run from that by blaming the actions of women for your indifference, especially if they are giving you what you ask for. How much sense does that make? None.

http://planetill.com/2010/01/confirmed-bachelor-or-scared-little-boy-which-are-you/

 

[Mo-Better]

Man and no definition is needed. The idiosyncrasies described above do not apply to the masses especially with black men. An the thought of "man night?"

 

[dHustla]

I’ve known forever and a day that single (and some married) men carry around rule books in regards to single female sexual behavior. There’s a long list of do’s that they long for you to provide. Providing said do though will immediately brand you skank and have you relegated to the late night drunk dial rotation. What I didn’t know was how deep the disdain ran and how contrived it is. I guess my question is do men go out of their way to hook up with women they deem offensive? And if so is this yet another sign that men are horrified of being men?

When I suggest a fear of manhood I’m talking about the conventional roles that men play in the family; the husband, provider, father, protector role that is. The first step on that path logically is finding a suitable mate. If no one is suitable you’re always at step one. If you are always at step one, you un-invite yourself from the responsibility that comes with creating a family unit, and something our community is in desperate need of right now.

On one of the very rare occasions when I was allowed to hang out in the basement with my husband and his friends during “man night” without being mistaken for Hazel the Do Girl, I was invited into a very interesting conversation. One of his single friends was going on about some scallywag (his word, not mine) he met at like the gas station or something. He got her number. He called her a few days later and they hooked up the same night. While I do crinkle my nose up a bit at the idea of sex with strangers, I also realize that’s a rule I live by because it works for me so if she felt like giving up the cookies to ole boy, then fine. Of course he felt her behavior was inappropriate and detailed how inappropriate she became that evening. But he called her in the hopes that all of that would happen? He also would have had another set of complaints if she had been the good girl he allegedly respects. She would have been a tease, a prude or a freeloader looking for a sugar daddy without keeping her end of the bargain. It’s a silly catch 22 that just made him appear to either hate women or need an escape route for anything deeper than a booty call.

The cause for this desire to have a hands on physicality with women while having a hands off emotional mentality could be many different things and I will acquiesce enough to admit that some men are just not built for a life of his and hers. However, it’s been my experience that men who are comfortable with their confirmed bachelor status extend that comfort to the women in their lives. Those who are truly happy flying their lives solo accept and enjoy the lustful treats they get from the fairer sex and spend a lot less time dogging them out for their sexual empowerment. Men who spend half their time begging for sex and the other half blasting those who say yes just seem like frightened little boys who want to assert their manhood with their penis and their penis only because the rest of the man ride would be too much for them to handle.

Everybody’s definition of being a man is different, but few thinking folks have boiled it down to one action. It’s usually a combination of several traits that when mixed create a strong, able individual. Regardless of what all these characteristics are, it’s a balancing act for the man involved and it gets challenging at times. But you can’t run from that by blaming the actions of women for your indifference, especially if they are giving you what you ask for. How much sense does that make? None.

Good thread.

You know what, though? I'm a little of both, a scared confirmed bachelor. Read on...

"...fear...the conventional roles that men play in the family; the husband, provider, father, protector role..."

This is so true for me, but for so many different reasons. I don't fear a family, that's what I eventually want, but I do fear being a husband to a woman that is not a lady and not finding out until I'm over 35, have given this bitch the best years of my life (yeah, I know, too many romantic comedies), and have given her my all in order to be the best husband I can. I fear being a provider to a 'person' that possesses the power to undermine everything that I stand for and that I have built for my family and myself. I fear fathering a child or children with a woman that may very well be a wonderful bitch, but an awful mother, and a vindictive lover.
I stand to lose more than I stand to gain.

"...desire to have a hands on physicality with women while having a hands off emotional mentality..."

Can you blame us? It's safer. I can only speak for myself (trying to avoid the broad sweeping statements that BGOL is known for and that dissolve threads into sparring matches), but a woman can't hurt me physically if I don't allow her to. She can hurt me emotionally, though, even if I don't want to give her the power to. Y'all, women, really don't know the power y'all possess. And, yes, since some have abused this power then the all must suffer for the wrongs done by a few.

"He also would have had another set of complaints if she had been the good girl he allegedly respects."

This ain't me.

"...I will acquiesce enough to admit that some men are just not built for a life of his and hers."

So very true.

"However, it’s been my experience that men who are comfortable with their confirmed bachelor status extend that comfort to the women in their lives. Those who are truly happy flying their lives solo accept and enjoy the lustful treats they get from the fairer sex and spend a lot less time dogging them out for their sexual empowerment."

This is me.
I love me a slut. Yes, I do. I want her to suck my schlong off the rip, let me {ahem} reach my zenith in her mouth, {uhm} swallow... and aggressively mount me. Take initiative and hold the back of her own legs when I'm pile-driving her, clutch her own ass cheek while riding my dick reverse cow-girl, lick and suck her own pussy juice off my dick during a position change........whoo!

Ok, I'm back. But, uhm.... I gotta go. I hope all that makes sense. This is some strong wine.

 

[PrettyToney]

Good thread.

You know what, though? I'm a little of both, a scared confirmed bachelor. Read on...

"...fear...the conventional roles that men play in the family; the husband, provider, father, protector role..."

This is so true for me, but for so many different reasons. I don't fear a family, that's what I eventually want, but I do fear being a husband to a woman that is not a lady and not finding out until I'm over 35, have given this bitch the best years of my life (yeah, I know, too many romantic comedies), and have given her my all in order to be the best husband I can. I fear being a provider to a 'person' that possesses the power to undermine everything that I stand for and that I have built for my family and myself. I fear fathering a child or children with a woman that may very well be a wonderful bitch, but an awful mother, and a vindictive lover.
I stand to lose more than I stand to gain.

"...desire to have a hands on physicality with women while having a hands off emotional mentality..."

Can you blame us? It's safer. I can only speak for myself (trying to avoid the broad sweeping statements that BGOL is known for and that dissolve threads into sparring matches), but a woman can't hurt me physically if I don't allow her to. She can hurt me emotionally, though, even if I don't want to give her the power to. Y'all, women, really don't know the power y'all possess. And, yes, since some have abused this power then the all must suffer for the wrongs done by a few.

"He also would have had another set of complaints if she had been the good girl he allegedly respects."

This ain't me.

"...I will acquiesce enough to admit that some men are just not built for a life of his and hers."

So very true.

"However, it’s been my experience that men who are comfortable with their confirmed bachelor status extend that comfort to the women in their lives. Those who are truly happy flying their lives solo accept and enjoy the lustful treats they get from the fairer sex and spend a lot less time dogging them out for their sexual empowerment."

This is me.
I love me a slut. Yes, I do. I want her to suck my schlong off the rip, let me {ahem} reach my zenith in her mouth, {uhm} swallow... and aggressively mount me. Take initiative and hold the back of her own legs when I'm pile-driving her, clutch her own ass cheek while riding my dick reverse cow-girl, lick and suck her own pussy juice off my dick during a position change........whoo!

Ok, I'm back. But, uhm.... I gotta go. I hope all that makes sense. This is some strong wine.

I co-sign this post 100%.

Every man has the fear of marrying the wrong woman, particularly in the society in which we live where we stand to lose a great deal (money, parental rights, lost years of our lives, etc.) if the marriage fails...even if the failure is not our fault.

That being said, I eventually do want to marry (my parents have been married for pretty much my entire life), but I'm not in any kind of rush. I want to find the right woman to build a life with, but how can you trust that a woman is "the one" if you're fuckin her on the first night? If it was that easy for me, chances are it would be just as easy for the next nigga.

I think a lot of women just want to be married b/c of family/friend/societal pressure, a lavish wedding, or because their biological clock is almost at it's end...but personally, from what I've seen, very few women are actually ready to be wives. Just as I'm expected to be the protector and provider, I would expect the woman to be a nurturer and a helper.

Bottom line, I feel like this...whatever woman I end up with will be PRIVILEDGED to have me as a husband, and I should feel the same way about her. But there are billions of women in the world...it's quite a daunting task to go about finding the one that you truly know that you are meant to be with. Children are a whole different ballgame too...a lot of folks take it for granted, but it's truly a blessing to be able to create life with the woman you love. To me, it's not something that you "just do"...my seed is precious to me, and I refuse to let an unworthy woman bear my child. It's a pretty high stakes game, so you don't wanna fuck it up.

 

[Duece]

marked.

 

[dHustla]

ahem!

 

[dHustla]

I'd really like to see some more perspectives on this, men and women.

I ain't finna give up $10, it's the principality of the situation, but I do enjoy threads of this nature.

 

[JofromthaNO]

Wow, this is a really interesting thread, and I'm sorry I never took the time to read it before...

What it appears the writer of the article (and several of the attitudes of the men expressed here and in BGOL, in general) is vulnerability: no man wants to take the shot of putting all his love, time, dedication etc. to a woman why just may not be worth it all.

Do women experience the same thing? SURE. But, as one previous poster mentioned, the societal pressures of getting married, having a baby, etc. overrule that fear of picking someone who might, for a lack of better words, dog us out. Also, as several other posters on BGOL have pointed out, men do have more FINANCIALLY to lose from a failed marriage (particularly if children are involved).

However, would I still give up the joys of sharing my life with my best friend for fear of the unknown? NO. I've shard before, on this board, how my mother called for my ailing father. Through it all, I found it to be the most selfless, beautiful act I think I've ever seen her do. I envied having that for myself, or being that woman to someone. She was a good wife, and I only hope a black man gives ME the shot of being as good a wife. Do I know that black men might try and size me and consider, before they get to know me, who I am and what I am good for (sex or otherwise)? Sure, I get that...but, I have been with a man who understands my worth and value and it exceeds the warmth of what I have between my legs...

 

[Cock Head Jones]

bookmarked

 

[dHustla]

marked.

bookmarked

Y'all niggas kill me.....TYPE SOMETHING!

These women share their thoughts, why won't you? Don't have the time? Just start typing, it'll fly by.

I say that because this is the first time I've expressed how I felt about this topic so eloquently and in detail. I wanna know other men's take on it. Y'all feel the same way?
If not, why? And how DO you feel?


We need a gif for niggas that ain't never got time for a full reply. Similar to Colin Powell, or Fantasia(which I think is just wrong because I love her) "not reading all that shit".

 

[dHustla]

Good thread.

You know what, though? I'm a little of both, a scared confirmed bachelor. Read on...

"...fear...the conventional roles that men play in the family; the husband, provider, father, protector role..."

This is so true for me, but for so many different reasons. I don't fear a family, that's what I eventually want, but I do fear being a husband to a woman that is not a lady and not finding out until I'm over 35, have given this bitch the best years of my life (yeah, I know, too many romantic comedies), and have given her my all in order to be the best husband I can. I fear being a provider to a 'person' that possesses the power to undermine everything that I stand for and that I have built for my family and myself. I fear fathering a child or children with a woman that may very well be a wonderful bitch, but an awful mother, and a vindictive lover.
I stand to lose more than I stand to gain.

"...desire to have a hands on physicality with women while having a hands off emotional mentality..."

Can you blame us? It's safer. I can only speak for myself (trying to avoid the broad sweeping statements that BGOL is known for and that dissolve threads into sparring matches), but a woman can't hurt me physically if I don't allow her to. She can hurt me emotionally, though, even if I don't want to give her the power to. Y'all, women, really don't know the power y'all possess. And, yes, since some have abused this power then the all must suffer for the wrongs done by a few.

"He also would have had another set of complaints if she had been the good girl he allegedly respects."

This ain't me.

"...I will acquiesce enough to admit that some men are just not built for a life of his and hers."

So very true.

"However, it’s been my experience that men who are comfortable with their confirmed bachelor status extend that comfort to the women in their lives. Those who are truly happy flying their lives solo accept and enjoy the lustful treats they get from the fairer sex and spend a lot less time dogging them out for their sexual empowerment."

This is me.
I love me a slut. Yes, I do. I want her to suck my schlong off the rip, let me {ahem} reach my zenith in her mouth, {uhm} swallow... and aggressively mount me. Take initiative and hold the back of her own legs when I'm pile-driving her, clutch her own ass cheek while riding my dick reverse cow-girl, lick and suck her own pussy juice off my dick during a position change........whoo!

Ok, I'm back. But, uhm.... I gotta go. I hope all that makes sense. This is some strong wine.

...

 

[q_the_truth]

I can only speak for myself. I know I have no hatred of women, but I have not met a women that I cannot live without. Until I find someone I deem irreplaceable, I will remain single. However I have physical needs. I am a very good communicator and cherish the close relationships I have fasten over the years with warm, kind, supportive and intelligent ladies.

I do have rules, but they are for me.
1. Never get to high or low things can always be better or worse.
This keeps me at that even keel level that works for me and makes me happy

2. Expect nothing and try to be prepared for anything.
This limits disappointments and builds self reliance. Also it keeps you from being shocked and pulled into drama.

3. Their are select times when you should lie.
Yes I said it. To keep the peace, to not to hurt someone who is emotionally fragile and a few others.

4. Follow my instincts on a lady, be them them positive, neutral or negative.

5; Listen and evaluate fairly.

I am an independent man and to the dismay of many women most of them can little other than sex to the table for me. I no thats offends a lot of females but it is true.

I own my own business and employ a few people. I own my home. I can clean, cook and do my own laundry.(I cook far better than almost all my female friends.) I have a masters degree. I am not afraid to disgust any subject with anyone at any time. I will compromise ar admit I was wrong.

I'll be back, just realized I need to get ready for a friend who coming past. Also, I like the variety of companionship I receive from my rotation of female friends. This is me and I will not apologize for it. I have had many friends who thought they could mold or change me, make me see the err of my ways(LOL) and on and on.

Have a good day all

 

[q_the_truth]

I don't type well so please fill in some words and ignore the typos. Thank you

 

[dHustla]

Let's run 'em back

 

[JofromthaNO]

I am an independent man and to the dismay of many women most of them can little other than sex to the table for me. I no thats offends a lot of females but it is true.

I own my own business and employ a few people. I own my home. I can clean, cook and do my own laundry.(I cook far better than almost all my female friends.) I have a masters degree. I am not afraid to disgust any subject with anyone at any time. I will compromise ar admit I was wrong.

I'll be back, just realized I need to get ready for a friend who coming past. Also, I like the variety of companionship I receive from my rotation of female friends. This is me and I will not apologize for it. I have had many friends who thought they could mold or change me, make me see the err of my ways(LOL) and on and on.

Have a good day all

The frack?!?! What is an independent man?

To me, saying you're an independent man is just as bad as women who claim they're independent...

I can understand your other arguments, particularly about liking the variety of friendship that different kinds of women can provide. However, I think once men find their match, all of this goes out the window...

However, that's more of an argument re: are humans meant to be monogamous rather than is it a choice for a man to be in a relationship/marriage or not...

 

[BlackSmurf]

hmm some days i wana fuck as many hos as i can then other days i want a queen then i want to be single then,,,,, well you get wat im saying

 

[JofromthaNO]

hmm some days i wana fuck as many hos as i can then other days i want a queen then i want to be single then,,,,, well you get wat im saying

The simplest response to this can just be, "Don't jump into something you're not ready for."

If you have feelings like that on the regular, without being in a relationship, maybe now it isn't for you...maybe it's never for you...

The worst thing, though, would be forcing it...if you find a woman and it's meant to be, it'll be...

 

[dHustla]

I think last 2 posters went off topic

 

[Naha-Nago]

Will read later


*two cents*

 

[dHustla]

I think oftentimes we forget that men don't need women, women need men. And instead of playing the part of trying to fit into a man's world as a help mate, we have these women that project that we, men, don't fit their idea of a 'model' man..... when they have never even known a 'model' man themselves in any capacity. Their idea or image of a 'model' man is fathomed from their fantasies.

This isn't always the case, but oftentimes it is.

But to be fair, it's not all the fault of the women. A few people have to drop the ball for women to get to this point... fathers, uncles, cousins, grandmothers, mothers, brothers, etc.

So instead of women holding those that are resposible for dropping the ball accountable, she projects her disdain for lackluster men on me..

 

[PrettyToney]

I think oftentimes we forget that men don't need women, women need men. And instead of playing the part of trying to fit into a man's world as a help mate, we have these women that project that we, men, don't fit their idea of a 'model' man..... when they have never even known a 'model' man themselves in any capacity. Their idea or image of a 'model' man is fathomed from their fantasies.

This isn't always the case, but oftentimes it is.

But to be fair, it's not all the fault of the women. A few people have to drop the ball for women to get to this point... fathers, uncles, cousins, grandmothers, mothers, brothers, etc.

So instead of women holding those that are resposible for dropping the ball accountable, she projects her disdain for lackluster men on me..

Truer words have never been spoken...women KNOW this shit though, we just live in a society that encourages them to be ridiculous. Think about it...no woman wants a dude who will cater to her every need and whim b/c she'll get bored w/ the nigga and think he's a pussy. Instead, they prefer to chase the niggas who make it clear that they don't need them. But nowadays, by virtue of years of being placed on pedestals, broads have got it in their head that they are the prize, and that we need to try to fit into their images of what a man should be.

 

[dHustla]

They ain't got nothin else to say, huh?

 

[Deacs]

This is as bad as the ignorant comments made on the men site. It is not a question on choices, it is a shameing manifesto while again not taken into account that both sexes are indeed whores, that both set were amoral in their behavior, and only think with their flesh.

This same argument when placed in reverse could be said that since good men lose out to miscreants due to the woman's choice of mate makes her less than a woman.

To be quick about it:
Men should not be confused with whores, pimps, and the like.
Women should not be confused with whores, sluts and the like.

The behavior shown at present is based on the enthropy of our moral norms which has been on a generational spiral since the 1940s. With each generation and relaxing of those rules, the acts which were deemed minor but still taboo weren't as much with them, and with each chip in the foundation, the bottom fell out. Now you have sex association with everything, education which was an overall enhancement has become more specialized and technically, dumbed down, and now it is ok to have meaningless flings with whosoever you have the excuse to bang at the speed of thought to movement. You can't impose morals which barely exist in a society of heathens which believe the words commitment and forever is as long as the agreement could be breached legally.

The behavior of both sexes are equally disgusting, yet both sides take the time to write bull about the other and place the blame rather than simply... stop fucking those you don't want to invest a possibility of forever. While you can't turn back the clock where those who indulge in this type of behavior were shunned, and the result of this behavior being a child out of wedlock caused doubly shunned. Now the behavior is a norm, and the acts which led to this behavior is a textbook example of the word insanity.

men and women don't collaborate with this behavior, but as a man, let me say this.

Men have never been scared to commit, love, cherish, and stand with their chosen mate. It is true it does take some longer than others to weed through the same exact scumbag sluts as women have to do with scumbag men, but hopefully with a strong screening process (which they called courting back in the day), the good are able to find each other without pressures of time and harmful advice.

As with anything, it is a choice. That dude chose to sleep with a whore, he chose to seek out one and sleep with her. The female in agreement to this act, also chooses the man as well. Both should have no allusions of permanency, because both of them are said whores.

so, by virtue of the number of times I used the word whore, it would be known as the true problem on both sides of the argument, and it is used asexually.

And plus, a woman has no right on defining a man as a man could define what a woman is. The opinion will always be biased to the needs and wants of the person at hand and will never match their naive requests of reality, since it is borne of opinion in their op-ed which research came technically from a conversation of conquest boasting on men's night... which is often plagued with LOD disease.

 

[dHustla]

What?


"just cause don't nobody understand you ...don't make you deep" -Talib Kweli

 

[dHustla]

bump

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Being a man is a task many are not ready to bear. And will never be.

 

[dHustla]

Being a man is a task many are not ready to bear. And will never be.

you following me?


Stay on task.... read the OP and the whole thread before posting!

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

I did. And i'm not following you. By the time you respond or i respond my sign lights up. Apologies.

 

[Black Limey]

Truer words have never been spoken...women KNOW this shit though, we just live in a society that encourages them to be ridiculous. Think about it...no woman wants a dude who will cater to her every need and whim b/c she'll get bored w/ the nigga and think he's a pussy. Instead, they prefer to chase the niggas who make it clear that they don't need them. But nowadays, by virtue of years of being placed on pedestals, broads have got it in their head that they are the prize, and that we need to try to fit into their images of what a man should be.

I have been saying this for years. I was ready to wife this sista at work.

Engagement, Wedding, the whole thing. But she wants to fuck some married dude and be his secret weekend pussy instead.

Let's not forget that there are some scared ass women with low self-esteem that don't even want a'good'man.

Seems to me that there are many women who just don't want a full relationship that is going somewhere.

Maybe, I need to piss my money up the wall and get marrried then cheat to make myself more appealing

 

[True Real Info]

why, when many articles like this turn up, they ASSUME that they know why men are not marrying many women??? But when articles about women pop up, they GO AROUND AND ASK those women why they are not getting married??? Sorry,but until they start to really be concerned for the welfare of the nation (which includes the men) than they have no place to say whether or not we fit into their psychological projections and insecurities they hide behind shaming tacttics and attacks on our masculinity...

 

[dHustla]

I wouldn't mind hearing MelonPecan and musichick's take on this

 

[prophet2009]

Good thread.

You know what, though? I'm a little of both, a scared confirmed bachelor. Read on...

"...fear...the conventional roles that men play in the family; the husband, provider, father, protector role..."

This is so true for me, but for so many different reasons. I don't fear a family, that's what I eventually want, but I do fear being a husband to a woman that is not a lady and not finding out until I'm over 35, have given this bitch the best years of my life (yeah, I know, too many romantic comedies), and have given her my all in order to be the best husband I can. I fear being a provider to a 'person' that possesses the power to undermine everything that I stand for and that I have built for my family and myself. I fear fathering a child or children with a woman that may very well be a wonderful bitch, but an awful mother, and a vindictive lover.
I stand to lose more than I stand to gain.

"...desire to have a hands on physicality with women while having a hands off emotional mentality..."

Can you blame us? It's safer. I can only speak for myself (trying to avoid the broad sweeping statements that BGOL is known for and that dissolve threads into sparring matches), but a woman can't hurt me physically if I don't allow her to. She can hurt me emotionally, though, even if I don't want to give her the power to. Y'all, women, really don't know the power y'all possess. And, yes, since some have abused this power then the all must suffer for the wrongs done by a few.

"He also would have had another set of complaints if she had been the good girl he allegedly respects."

This ain't me.

"...I will acquiesce enough to admit that some men are just not built for a life of his and hers."

So very true.

"However, it’s been my experience that men who are comfortable with their confirmed bachelor status extend that comfort to the women in their lives. Those who are truly happy flying their lives solo accept and enjoy the lustful treats they get from the fairer sex and spend a lot less time dogging them out for their sexual empowerment."

This is me.
I love me a slut. Yes, I do. I want her to suck my schlong off the rip, let me {ahem} reach my zenith in her mouth, {uhm} swallow... and aggressively mount me. Take initiative and hold the back of her own legs when I'm pile-driving her, clutch her own ass cheek while riding my dick reverse cow-girl, lick and suck her own pussy juice off my dick during a position change........whoo!

Ok, I'm back. But, uhm.... I gotta go. I hope all that makes sense. This is some strong wine.

I too have to cosign your post 100%

I saw another cat mention something about being independent. and women say that shit all the time like you deserve a cookie or some shit.

my feeling is that its a fucking cop out. we as men are designed to protect, provide, and conquer. the same women are designed by nature to nurture, love, and support.

Ill go through all of it for "dumb ass moments" but they are easy enough to understand. but before i begin I want to say I'm just getting over the 35 mark and I am Single and a happy bachelor. and yes I have a career, and yes I make a descent living. It has to be said because some people are superficial like that.

Ive witnessed break ups and custody nightmares my homeboys and female friends have and are going through. people (men and women) tend to complicate things with a relationship that nature dealt with for us a long time ago.

yes it is that simple.

protector
as men we are designed by nature to protect our loved ones AKA Family (wife and children). there's no such thing as being independent. we are the stronger of the two sexes physically and the more assertive. we are designed to lead but it doesn't mean control. It is an insurance policy. granted some of us are defective as men but it is what it is.

Provider
Disclaimer- this is not to say women cant earn their own wages or are not as smart as men.
As men we need to provide resources and opportunity for growth in a relationship, financially, physically, and intellectually. bottom line make things better and OK if they're bad.

Conqueror
We all no most men lack emotional skills, but that doesn't mean we are defective. we are decision makers. I'll say it again WE ARE DECISION MAKERS!! meaning we are best at detaching from making emotional decisions and embracing logical ones. this is why the stereotype " women can't decide" comes from or "women aren't better drivers then men". we can make quicker and more sound decisions, and when we are dealt with a situation, it looks as if it doesn't affect us as much as it does the opposite sex. emotional detachment allows for a better decision.

and for the ladies.......

Nurturer
Ladies I need you to stop defending the mother status as if we are only saying you need to be "barefoot, pregnant, and in the kitchen baking a fucking pie". we need to hear we are wonderful the same way you do. we love the kisses and hugs when we come home, and we listen to the stories and crisis you bring to the table and yes we do care, but that's your fucking job! that is your forefront. that is the moment we take a back seat to the relationship. when its caring time you are in charge. bottom line, when emotions are involved we let you handle it. a man cannot teach child love better than a women can. and FYI the nine month of carrying extends to us also.

Lover
to i really need to touch base on that. you guys are far better at expressing love then we are. That is where most of our energy comes from. we cant do the things men can without it. its our motivation, our fuel, and our reason.

Supporter
which brings me to support. a Great king always has a great Queen beside him. not front, not behind, but beside. get the fucking picture. Support your fucking man. as you can see this is my biggest pet peeve about a woman lol. if you want him to show you that you are his reason for existence, act like it. you'll be surprised by the outcome.

If both parties play their role it can be that simple.

as for my gay BGOL folks you a hybrid. this does not apply to some extent. do your thing but God AKA nature did not intent to evolve that way. Reproduction opportunities are not there.

my bad on the long response. i get pissed when I see complications when its not needed.

I'm okay, I'm good now. had to vent lol

 

[dHustla]

*sticks chest out and buffs nails*

I did break that down like new edition in '93, huh?

 

[bighurt2k7]

"On one of the very rare occasions when I was allowed to hang out in the basement with my husband and his friends during “man night” without being mistaken for Hazel the Do Girl, I was invited into a very interesting conversation. One of his single friends was going on about some scallywag (his word, not mine) he met at like the gas station or something. He got her number. He called her a few days later and they hooked up the same night. While I do crinkle my nose up a bit at the idea of sex with strangers, I also realize that’s a rule I live by because it works for me so if she felt like giving up the cookies to ole boy, then fine. Of course he felt her behavior was inappropriate and detailed how inappropriate she became that evening. But he called her in the hopes that all of that would happen? He also would have had another set of complaints if she had been the good girl he allegedly respects. She would have been a tease, a prude or a freeloader looking for a sugar daddy without keeping her end of the bargain. It’s a silly catch 22 that just made him appear to either hate women or need an escape route for anything deeper than a booty call."










This is not true for all men. I don't have a problem with not sleeping with a woman on date 1. I actually try not to do this anymore. I'm cool with her not giving it up quickly (especially if she's not on no goldigger shit)..shows me where her head's at.

 

[LordSinister]