Longest i ever went without was three years and that was the longest three years of my damned life.
But i survived to tell the tale.
How can a woman have sex without being intimate? We are letting you inside our body!May I ask, when you say "dealing with men in the simplist of ways" how is that frustrating? And although we as men can be difficult. Could you ever seperate the desire for intimacy from the B.S. and still have sex? Or do they go hand in hand?
Over a year. Like Shadow said it was a physical and mental cleansing. It makes one a lot stronger on the inside. In my own experience anyways.
Interesting post
May I ask, when you say "dealing with men in the simplist of ways" how is that frustrating? And although we as men can be difficult. Could you ever seperate the desire for intimacy from the B.S. and still have sex? Or do they go hand in hand?
lol sorry i wasnt more clear MB 
my humble apologies can you forgive a sista It was the best thing I could have done for myself. Getting hooked up with a man when your mind isn't where it should be is not healthy.
hmm maybe it was a requirement of the position??
Over a year I didn't say this year.
I went through a life change and wasn't vibing anything but me for a minute
Why are you surprised? Damn baby i love sex but there are times when one requires a respite of sorts. Get your mind and body in sync.
Yes I'd do it again.
So in short your saying that you just want us to treat you like a lady/person and not some sexual object, right?
I gotta admit often times I fail to say much because of the vibe I might feel from ladies in those type of settings, i.e. grocery store line, etc. unless something happens to make the connection. Also I always hold the door for the ladies no matter what she looks like, its just how I was raised. And smiling is just second nature for me when I catch a ladies eye, which has gotten me in trouble on more than a few occasions because really I'm not wanting anything but it doesnt always come accross as such.
In short what I am saying is this, in my opinion, we as men are just like women, in that we both want the same thing but go about achieving it and expressing it in different ways. In no way is this an endorsment of the behavior of some immature brothas you may have encountered. But, my hope is this, that in no way this dictates how you live your life and most of all deprive yourself the company of a good man. Ever heard the term "A Diamond In The Rough"? They, Good Men / Diamonds are there, but after you've shut the door and checked out! When he knocks will you hear and if you hear will you not answer because of the negative you've heard and immature encounters you've had? I know lifes experiences dictate who we are and how we react to what life offers. But, in my opinion, to not keep trying is to never know and like I have said before to never know is to never live.
i love sex but there are times when one requires a respite of sorts. Get your mind and body in sync.
Yes I'd do it again.
. That would be telling a lie. I enjoy men immensely with and without their clothes on and I think I'm just one of those people that runs on a lot of sexual energy.
I agree Lady S, but I don't like it
Celibacy for me is like cold turkey to break a habit. Sometimes I must do that if I've found myself off center. I'm partially celibate now to break a particular habit (he has a name of course!)...but in truth I'd rather be fucking. I also feel too old to do the fuck buddy thing...but I waiver on that too sometimes
Edit: Been a few months (maybe 6) I don't know?
I did it once before because I felt I needed to enlighten, but I chose a bad time and it didn't last too long! I don't view having sex as unenlightening anymore (that was a rather immature perspective to take). It wasn't the sex, it was my using the sex as an avoidance mechanism. I think its important to distinguish the act from our poor intentions. Sex is a beautiful thing and once I get my stuff sorted out I hope to not be without it again!
