Women can't define what a good man is because they will set the bar where it's suitable for them. Just like men. If a man is broke and dusty and hates women and you ask him "what is your definition of a good black man" do you think he's going to exclude himself out of that definition?
Same with women. Like you see a woman that's fat and she say's she's thick. Knowin that she crossed the borderline of fat a long time ago. But everytime she gains 5 pounds she says she is thick and says "i'm not going to let a man define what thick is, i know what thick is".
That's like why a lot of black women are fucked up all over the place. Men will do everything to get a woman. But women feel as though they dont have to do shit to keep him. (yes ablanket statement but i dont feel like dancing around the specifics of the truth in that one)
When we hear what women like
we get that. Women say they want a man with game swag, bad boy, smell good....we do that shit. Men says he wants a woman with no kids, no weave, isn't 500 lbs and women
dont try to get like that. But what do women do, not dress to impress men, they dress to impress other women. How dumb is that? If you want a man why aren't you dressing to impress men? By being what men say they want. Ya know back in 3rd grade there were girls that wanted guys with certain qualites. And if they didn't have those qualities they didnt get picked. So eventually by high school we learn to incorporate what women like into ourselves. If we didn't we were lames and couldn't get any pussy.
Same thing that's going on for women. Women are those 11th grade boys that just didn't quite know how to adapt to what men want so they aren't getting picked for marriage.
There is no reason to dress to impress a woman. Dress to impress a man. We dress and act a certain way to get women do the same.
If you're trying to attract a bear why are you setting out gator bait? 
So when women try to come with that.....oh i'm attractive and she isn't....
It's like "ok hello, we are the judges, we are the ones that are supposed to be attracted to you, so ultimately what we feel is attractive is more important then what you feel.
Like any of ya'll men ever have a girl come up to you and try to convince you a pretty girl is ugly? And she's saying "i dont think she's pretty, she dresses like a tomboy" and you're like "it doesn't matter what you think i'm the one with the dick here".
Conclusion: men determine what they are attracted to in a woman.
Women determine what they are attracted to in a man. But the opposite sex doesn't determine what is a good "black" anything. That's something your gender decides. Now mind you like i said just because you say "this is a good black woman" and she has weave and 3 kids and 40 lbs overweight doesn't mean we have to or should be attracted to her.
That why it kills me when educated black women have this sense of entitlement as if they should be married. Whenever you hear a educated woman talking aobut why she is marriage material you never hear her talk about her character. you allways here them talk about their personal accomplishments that men aren't attracted to. Men aren't the ones looking for a provider. Why should we like you because you have a doctoratte degree? You have tons of atheletes that marry waitresses so if that isn't proof that we aren't attracted to your accomplishtments then some of ya'll will never get it.
Generalizations usually are not good to make, but at least qualify it: where I live in the hood, where I meet girls at the hole in the wall club, when I throw myself at men, etc.
