Bi-Women Misconceptions...?

[sakinnuso]

So a woman i know wanted me to explain to her - from my experiences - the differences between dating a bi-sexual woman and straight women.
When I was between 22-27, it seemed like ALL the women I was attracted to were bisexual. Now, at 33, I'd *much* prefer straight women.

Anyway, if this comes off ignorant I apologize in advance. I'm only parlaying MY experiences and would LOVE to be educated on it myself if I'm wrong.


Bi women are more sexually liberated: This might seem obvious, but I'm even referring to their PERCEPTIONS on sex. Many straight women enjoy sex, but more in the sense of vigorous (albeit pleasurable) EXERCISE. Sex with bi-women tends to be about the experience each time. Everything is explorable. Creativity is encouraged. Best of all, very little is taboo. Likening this to food, sex with a bi-woman is like going Wine-Tasting, chasing that with chocolate covered Strawberries, then going to a great Japanese Sushi spot for dinner. It's all about the quality presentation, tasting here and there, then eating a really HEALTHY high-quality dinner. Overall, you remember the experiences and the feelings over the actual dishes.

On the other hand, my experiences with straight women (and I've only had a couple), tend to be like eating a solid steak dinner. Sexually, no, they're nowhere NEAR as interesting. However, they're all about YOU - or should I say your TOOL. The downside of that is that your performance is MUCH more important for the success of your relationship. It's like trading fun for stability. The woman wants to be fucked. Regularly. Properly. And as long as you do the job right, as well as fulfill your other duties as man, that straight woman is yours for life.

Bi-women, on the other hand, can NEVER be satisfied. The thirst for new experiences can be quenched for a short while, but it's VERY difficult for them to actually commit and want YOU and ONLY YOU...even if they're in "love". No matter how they feel about you, that itch for the other side will inevitably come, and like an alcoholic, if they can't suppress it, the two of you must work out how to allow that into your relationship. This doesn't just 'go away' with marriage. Basically, Bi-women are maaaaaaad insatiable.

Outside of sex, I've had the most fun with bi-women as their sense of adventure, the world, and what's 'fun' tends to be more open-minded. I'd bet that if i wanted to go bungie jumping or take a trip to Peru or Ghana, the chick more willing to go (and not to some touristy resort) would be a bi-girl. And we'd goof-off about pop-culture stuff all the while

Straight women tend to be more rigid. Their biggest advantage is that they can be more devoted.

Anyway, that's what I told her. Thoughts?

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

You have got to be kidding me about Bi-Women never being satisfied.I am testimony to that being false. It has nothing to do with the fact she is bi,but with who is supposedly satisfying her.

 

[sakinnuso]

Both bi-women that i know currently are in committed relationships and question how long they can stay monogamous. They love their mates. One is married. However, they admit that the itch overtakes them and they don't quite know how to deal with that. That's what I mean by being insatiable.

On the sexual side, I can certainly give examples

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

Both bi-women that i know currently are in committed relationships and question how long they can stay monogamous. They love their mates. One is married. However, they admit that the itch overtakes them and they don't quite know how to deal with that. That's what I mean by being insatiable.

Ok.Because not all bi women mess with men and women at the same time,unless its together. If I mess with a woman then I am not messing with a man.

 

[thoughtone]

You have got to be kidding me about Bi-Women never being satisfied.I am testimony to that being false. It has nothing to do with the fact she is bi,but with who is supposedly satisfying her.

Typical of a woman, not taking ownership for their own personal needs. The only one that can satisfy you is you!

 

[sakinnuso]

I just copied this from another thread. This is actually Onyxfemme. This pretty much captures exactly what I'm saying:

"...Really I dont know if I am bi or just a freak. I can tell you what type of woman make my clit pulsate. I love a ultra-feminine thick woman with nice hips and full breasts. I am pretty sure I have a breast fetish. And yes I am married, but I am greedy. No 3 somes unless it is me w/ 2 other women...
Speaking of which......."

From my experience - and this is in NO way meant to disrespect Onyxfemme who I quoted - bi women are insatiable. She said Greedy. That works too. And the implication wasn't that you must have both simultaneously. I'm saying that you must have both inevitably.

Worse, it's often by your rules. One bi girl I know would be committed to her dude, but had to go to 'girls only' parties, or wanted a 'committed girlfriend' on the side that her bf would be cool with. This didn't mean threesomes. It meant two relationships.

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

Typical of a woman, not taking ownership for their own personal needs. The only one that can satisfy you is you!

Are you serious?? Did I place the blame entirely on the other person. You can typical woman me all you want.I know how to satisfy myself and what satisfies me,but just because I let whomever I am fucking know what I like doesn't mean they are going to do it right. Ya'll dudes kill me.

 

[thoughtone]

So a woman i know wanted me to explain to her - from my experiences - the differences between dating a bi-sexual woman and straight women.
When I was between 22-27, it seemed like ALL the women I was attracted to were bisexual. Now, at 33, I'd *much* prefer straight women.

Anyway, if this comes off ignorant I apologize in advance. I'm only parlaying MY experiences and would LOVE to be educated on it myself if I'm wrong.


Bi women are more sexually liberated: This might seem obvious, but I'm even referring to their PERCEPTIONS on sex. Many straight women enjoy sex, but more in the sense of vigorous (albeit pleasurable) EXERCISE. Sex with bi-women tends to be about the experience each time. Everything is explorable. Creativity is encouraged. Best of all, very little is taboo. Likening this to food, sex with a bi-woman is like going Wine-Tasting, chasing that with chocolate covered Strawberries, then going to a great Japanese Sushi spot for dinner. It's all about the quality presentation, tasting here and there, then eating a really HEALTHY high-quality dinner. Overall, you remember the experiences and the feelings over the actual dishes.

On the other hand, my experiences with straight women (and I've only had a couple), tend to be like eating a solid steak dinner. Sexually, no, they're nowhere NEAR as interesting. However, they're all about YOU - or should I say your TOOL. The downside of that is that your performance is MUCH more important for the success of your relationship. It's like trading fun for stability. The woman wants to be fucked. Regularly. Properly. And as long as you do the job right, as well as fulfill your other duties as man, that straight woman is yours for life.

Bi-women, on the other hand, can NEVER be satisfied. The thirst for new experiences can be quenched for a short while, but it's VERY difficult for them to actually commit and want YOU and ONLY YOU...even if they're in "love". No matter how they feel about you, that itch for the other side will inevitably come, and like an alcoholic, if they can't suppress it, the two of you must work out how to allow that into your relationship. This doesn't just 'go away' with marriage. Basically, Bi-women are maaaaaaad insatiable.

Outside of sex, I've had the most fun with bi-women as their sense of adventure, the world, and what's 'fun' tends to be more open-minded. I'd bet that if i wanted to go bungie jumping or take a trip to Peru or Ghana, the chick more willing to go (and not to some touristy resort) would be a bi-girl. And we'd goof-off about pop-culture stuff all the while

Straight women tend to be more rigid. Their biggest advantage is that they can be more devoted.

Anyway, that's what I told her. Thoughts?

"Straight women tend to be more rigid. Their biggest advantage is that they can be more devoted."​

Any correlation between this and the lack of marriages and also long term marriages?



Insatiable!

 

[MissStarKitty]

Lmao @ you saying that bi-women are sexually liberated, I was just telling my kids father that the other day....


As far as us bisexual women never being satisfied, that is a lie, I mean you have people who claim to be "bi" just because they think it's cool and like the sound of it, but as a true bi-sexual, I personally believe (and it's my belief so don't attack me), that in order to be bi-sexual you must be able to know what you like.

I know for a fact that I enjoy the touch, the feel, and caress of a woman, it's just more in depth, and sensual, and understanding.

But when it comes to a man, I know that I like the company of a man, I like to hang out, I like to laugh, and when I wanna be truly FUCKED, I prefer the company of a man.

It is also a HUGE misconception that people that are bisexual do not know how to maintain a stable and steady relationship, because they want to have their cake and eat it too.
I don't think that is true either, from my pasts experiences, I have had exclusive relationships with women, and exclusive relationships with men. I have been in relationships, where my partner has wanted to incorporate another person (which isn't my style because I often do not like to share, but I have done it), but never have I maintained two relationships with both sexes at the same time, it's hard enough trying to make time for one person, but to try and miaintain a relationship with two people, is setting yourself up for disaster...

 

[thoughtone]

Are you serious?? Did I place the blame entirely on the other person. You can typical woman me all you want.I know how to satisfy myself and what satisfies me,but just because I let whomever I am fucking know what I like doesn't mean they are going to do it right. Ya'll dudes kill me.

"You have got to be kidding me about Bi-Women never being satisfied.I am testimony to that being false. It has nothing to do with the fact she is bi,but with who is supposedly satisfying her."

Did I read this wrong?

"Ya'll dudes kill me"

Now who’s generalizing?

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

"You have got to be kidding me about Bi-Women never being satisfied.I am testimony to that being false. It has nothing to do with the fact she is bi,but with who is supposedly satisfying her."

Did I read this wrong?

"Ya'll dudes kill me"

Now who’s generalizing?

You are right,some of ya'll dudes,better

 

[elchoccolatte]

Interesting READ...




& I'm all ears...

 

[thoughtone]

You are right,some of ya'll dudes,better

Cool. I am guilty of that sometimes too.


I'm not saying being insatiable is a bad thing, just that loyalty is good too.

 

[SinaminDelite]

Damn! I have to put my two cents in on this, but it's gonna have to wait till later on tonight....

 

[Blu Diablo]

Watches and reads wth interest.

 

[dic_lit77]

Lmao @ you saying that bi-women are sexually liberated, I was just telling my kids father that the other day....


As far as us bisexual women never being satisfied, that is a lie, I mean you have people who claim to be "bi" just because they think it's cool and like the sound of it, but as a true bi-sexual, I personally believe (and it's my belief so don't attack me), that in order to be bi-sexual you must be able to know what you like.

I know for a fact that I enjoy the touch, the feel, and caress of a woman, it's just more in depth, and sensual, and understanding.

But when it comes to a man, I know that I like the company of a man, I like to hang out, I like to laugh, and when I wanna be truly FUCKED, I prefer the company of a man.

It is also a HUGE misconception that people that are bisexual do not know how to maintain a stable and steady relationship, because they want to have their cake and eat it too.
I don't think that is true either, from my pasts experiences, I have had exclusive relationships with women, and exclusive relationships with men. I have been in relationships, where my partner has wanted to incorporate another person (which isn't my style because I often do not like to share, but I have done it), but never have I maintained two relationships with both sexes at the same time, it's hard enough trying to make time for one person, but to try and miaintain a relationship with two people, is setting yourself up for disaster...

Yeah, I'm feeling this post. I 'came out' when I was 20 as bisexual, then I only dated women seriously for almost the last 10 years, fucking men when I wasn't in a relationship.

Two pussies, two clits, two sets of titties? I was in heaven! There ain't nothin like a 69 with a woman that has a nice, juicy ass you can grab onto. I was convinced that no man would EVER eat my pussy like a woman could. I firmly believe that women know what feels good to them so it's natural for them to please other women (I think the same for gay men--sorry, but I do).

Sex with my last girlfriend was phenomenal--the oral sex, penetration (I had my very 1st vaginal orgasm with her), and we even dabbled in BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadomasochism--we're both geminis so we were easily bored AND I was bisexual-she wasn't) but our relationship was shit. There was too much damned estrogen floatin around!

I'm ready for a man to balance out the hormonal overload I been through. Now I'm about to marry my high school sweetheart from 10th grade, a man with the biggest dick I've ever taken (we never fucked in HS--only recently since we reunited) and I honestly feel like I would forsake EVERY dick and EVERY pussy that comes my way for this man's lovemaking. He knows about my past relationships and says he will be okay with me still fucking women-that may change if I were to actually bring a woman home...but I know I'll still be attracted to women for as long as I live, I just honestly feel like I'll be committed to him and him only so any urges I have to be with women will be squashed. He's really the only one I want now. We live in different states right now though and I COULD have sex with any of my female or male cut-buddies but I have no desire to. Wanting HIM again has got me feeling insatiable.

So this bi-girl is NOT greedy--I know how to keep my clit under control.
My vibrator will suffice until my baby can get me bodied.

 

[SinaminDelite]

Ok.Because not all bi women mess with men and women at the same time,unless its together. If I mess with a woman then I am not messing with a man.

Thank you. I think this is the biggest misconception about bisexual people altogether. Somebody's inability to be in a monogamous relationship has NOTHING to do with sexual orientation. My straight friends have had more infidelities than my bi and gay friends.

I hate the generalizations most people have about bisexual woman, because they are so inaccurate. Please don't be fooled by music videos and movies, because you will be disappointed.
-Bi women CAN be in a committed, monogamous relationship. Been there, done that, patiently waiting for it to happen again
-We can be satisfied with ONE partner at a time, no need or urge to cheat (a cheater is a cheater regardless of sexual orientation). I have yet to be in a relationship and turn to my S.O. with some crap like "You know I love you, but I think I need some pussy/dick tonight."
-We may seem more sexually liberated, but that has more to do with the fact that some straight women are uncomfortable with their bodies & do not know what pleases them. Most of my female friends have never had an orgasm and do not masturbate. Any woman who is sexually liberated has a complete understanding of what makes her body tick, gay, straight, or bi.
-We don't have "twice the chances to get laid". You can be bi and have standards, believe me. I'm not fucking any old thing just because it's offered to me.
-We are NOT confused. Hence us "labeling" ourselves as bisexual. Trust me, it would be so much more acceptable to say "I'm straight" and call it a day. If we do seem confused, it's because we live in a society where everything must be This or That, and if it doesn't fall in either category, it's wrong. Straight and gay people do not understand the idea of being able to find love in both sexes.

My $0.02...

 

[sakinnuso]

I would hope that what you're saying is true. Some of my best female friends are bi, and it's tough counseling them when there's that barrier that I just can't understand. I always thought that they infidelity with them was inevitable, and that I'd have to loosen up my preconceptions of what cheating is when it comes to bi-women.

But maybe they're just cheaters.

I'll tell 'em that.

Still doesn't change the fact that I've had some of the most fun in my life -sexually and mentally - with bi-women. I'll chalk that up to coincidence, though...

 

[AlexandMorgan]

Chatting with a bi chick on line so she claimed she told me about her lifestyle.

She had a boyfriend and a girlfriend but she was exclusive with both. No threesomes allowed. Her g/f could not go with anybody else and neither could her b/f get with the g/f. And if he did get with someone else that was cheating and she would fuck him up.

So u can fuck another woman but he is not even allowed to get piece on the side. When i asked this she started to get on stink so i just and said i hope it works out for u.

[flash]http://www.youtube.com/watch/v/slw9L1AkI8w[/flash]

 

[SinaminDelite]

Chatting with a bi chick on line so she claimed she told me about her lifestyle.

She had a boyfriend and a girlfriend but she was exclusive with both. No threesomes allowed. Her g/f could not go with anybody else and neither could her b/f get with the g/f. And if he did get with someone else that was cheating and she would fuck him up.

So u can fuck another woman but he is not even allowed to get piece on the side. When i asked this she started to get on stink so i just and said i hope it works out for u.

Now that's a greedy chick. She wanted to have her cake and eat it too, which is why she caught that attitude when you called her on her shit.

 

[AristotlesOwn]

Thank you. I think this is the biggest misconception about bisexual people altogether. Somebody's inability to be in a monogamous relationship has NOTHING to do with sexual orientation. My straight friends have had more infidelities than my bi and gay friends.

I hate the generalizations most people have about bisexual woman, because they are so inaccurate. Please don't be fooled by music videos and movies, because you will be disappointed.
-Bi women CAN be in a committed, monogamous relationship. Been there, done that, patiently waiting for it to happen again
-We can be satisfied with ONE partner at a time, no need or urge to cheat (a cheater is a cheater regardless of sexual orientation). I have yet to be in a relationship and turn to my S.O. with some crap like "You know I love you, but I think I need some pussy/dick tonight."
-We may seem more sexually liberated, but that has more to do with the fact that some straight women are uncomfortable with their bodies & do not know what pleases them. Most of my female friends have never had an orgasm and do not masturbate. Any woman who is sexually liberated has a complete understanding of what makes her body tick, gay, straight, or bi.
-We don't have "twice the chances to get laid". You can be bi and have standards, believe me. I'm not fucking any old thing just because it's offered to me.
-We are NOT confused. Hence us "labeling" ourselves as bisexual. Trust me, it would be so much more acceptable to say "I'm straight" and call it a day. If we do seem confused, it's because we live in a society where everything must be This or That, and if it doesn't fall in either category, it's wrong. Straight and gay people do not understand the idea of being able to find love in both sexes.

My $0.02...

Everything you've said I've heard from my bi female friends before in one form or another. What I have in bold is important because In this society, hell bent on pummeling us with puritanical hypocrisy, religious views have many women afraid to explore themselves and that shit ain't right. How do you know what you like and how can you let you partner know what you like if you don't give yourself pleasure The reason I'm usually given is because it's morally wrong to touch yourself But you're butt naked sitting in front of me about to receive my dick gtfoh

 

[DaleMabry]

Ok.Because not all bi women mess with men and women at the same time,unless its together. If I mess with a woman then I am not messing with a man.

In fact from my experience MOST bi women do not mess with men or women at the same time, and don't wish to. That's why when dudes date a bi-girl and feel they hit the jackpot, they can find themselves OH so wrong...

One bi girl I know would be committed to her dude, but had to go to 'girls only' parties, or wanted a 'committed girlfriend' on the side that her bf would be cool with. This didn't mean threesomes. It meant two relationships.

Yeah a lot of bi-women (not all) have issues with men and see their sexual exploration with women as a break from men and male energy. They don't want the mix at all. I know so many bi women who have fucked around on their man, or didn't want their man involved at all...

Granted a sexually adventurous / fulfilled lover can only make her a better lover, but once you introduce that selfish mentality, that "cake and eat it too" it can be disastrous.

On the other hand, a repressed woman who can't tap into her bi side out of faithfulness to you--that has it's own head trip associated with it.

And furthermore, if she says "I can have side-pieces and you can too" it's a temptation / distraction that often hurts the relationship.

I don't really know the answer. It seems like an impossible paradox.