BGOL, I Did It Wrong Right?

[Deuterion]

its hard to concentrate on your studies if youre getting played by so many niggas.

You're really starting to sound like someone who knows little about Women.

 

[vainglorious]

Here's what you do homie:
1) DONT INITATE COMMUNICATION wit this chick again!
She say she got something to do this weekend, let her do it and leave her alone. She'll hit you when she's good and ready.
2) Like it was said above, YOU need to make up your mind and CONTROLL WHERE THE RELATIONSHIP GOES so if/when she hits you up, you know what the fuc you are doing. If you feelin her but act like you aint sure about her, she will play your ass. If you aint feelin her and just want her as JO status, you dont want her smotherin you and becoming possessive.

Thats basically it! YOU are the man and as such have the power to controll what goes on. Chick LOVE when men take the lead, so LEAD! But you gotta know what YOU want first. To tell you the truth though, from what you described, coming over to your house off the break and smashing.....sounds like she wanted the booty call.

 

[Non-StopJFK2TAB]

You're really starting to sound like someone who knows little about Women.

i guess.

 

[KTD]

So about 2 weeks ago, I got into contact with an old friend from middle school about 10 years ago. Over those years, she got fine as hell so I'm thinking damn, lets see what's up with her. We got to talking mostly over Blackberry Messenger the first week or so and she was really cool. She was talking about how I always used to clown and tease her in middle school and how much of an asshole I was but it was cool.

Eventually, we took it to the phone and we'd talk late into the night. I usually just like getting at bitches on BBM but she was really cool, so I didn't mind. She's a really smart girl, 2 degrees, she knows how to hold a convo. So during these phone conversations, she'd talk about the guys she used to deal with in the past and how they all kind of played her. They would just be nice at first, try to smash and keep it moving or just try to put her on the team. None of them wanted to make it official with her. I'd tell her, that's your own fault for letting those guys do you like that and not holding yourself to a higher regard. She didn't really disagree but said she was done with that and now wanted more, especially after talking to me and seeing the level I;m on.

Really, I just had it in my mind to smash and keep it moving but talking to her more and more, I started feeling her and last night she came over. Before she even came over, she had said that she really liked me and was feeling like she wanted to be with me even though it was so soon. I wasn't trying to go there yet but I didn't mind taking my time and seeing where it went.

So while she was here last night, we really kicked it off and I ended up hitting. Usually after I smash, I'll go play PS3 and kind of wait for the girl to get the picture and get ready to go and I was feeling to do that but she was like "hold me" so I did and it was whatever. We were laying in bed for a few hours just talking and doing shit off and on.

So around 3 in the morning, she says she's gonna take off and I'm like cool. The whole night she was cheesing and just all happy and shit lol. So she gets in the cab, I tell her to call me so I know she gets in safe. She hits me on BBM 20 minutes later and says she's home. So we had a really short awkward conversation on BBM before I said I was going to bed and that was that.

Reading this, you're probably thinking, "okay and?" lol but there was a few uncomfortable moments last night where she'd be like "I wanna be with you but I don't know, I don't know" and get all quiet. Not that I really cared because I had already smashed at that point lol and then the awkward BBM conversation right before bed. Before we even met up last night, we made plans to do something on the weekend but last night, she said something came up and she couldn't (which sounded like bullshit) but I was like whatever.

I know BGOL is full of pimps and playas and I'm just a young nigga looking for some insight from the fam. This could really mean nothing but I'm just getting this weird vibe from this situation. I already hit, so I'm thinking I should just keep it moving before shit gets really awkward. I'm also thinking that she feels kind of shitty that she let me hit so soon and now thinks thats all I want (she did say something similar last night).

Fam, what do you think?

I Colin Powell your shit because my brain froze for a minute. Anyway, I had a similar situation. It's a trap ninja keep it moving she already know what the fuck it is. You wasn't the first or last ninja to hit on the first meet and greet. Before you know it, that second hit will turn into a relationship that you're trapped in trying to figure out how the fuck it went from 2 nights to this shit and before you know it she have full control of the relationship.




Keep it moving. >>>>>>>>

 

[UptempoDro]

 

[Real2DaC0re]

yup couple more months and your next thread is "i fucked up got her pregnant right wrong?"

 

[kwazdog]

she was like "hold me" so I did and it was whatever.

 

[T_R_O_N_I_X]

*stolen*

 

[Anthony-Cruz]

Look playa,

You knew something was up because her body language, tone of voice, or etc changed which drew a red flag in your brain...you're not crazy. The interesting thing about that is that many times we as humans give off signals subconsciously which means she probably didn't even realize that she was making things awkward between you two. This is why I bring things like these to their attention so that we can talk about them and hopefully come to an understanding. Basically the bottom-line here is that you know something changed and it has you puzzled which is why you came here in the first place.

word. that's some real shit.

props on the responses y'all, appreciate that.

at this point, Imma just keep it moving. My main objective was to smash and I did that, so I aint gonna message or call her. If she hollas at me, I'll take it from there but I'm not gonna check for her like that.

 

[pizat]

Yeah, I guess I didn't make myself clear in the original post.

I won't even try to front, I do like her but after last night, the vibe just feels weird now, even though I did hit. I almost feel like I should just have her as a jumpoff and keep it moving like that.

I think some girls as girlfriend material and some are strictly jumopoff material and before meeting her, I had it in my mind that she would probably be a good girl but after last night, she could possibly be in the lane of a jumpoff. I could be completely wrong because it is soon but that's the vibe I'm getting.

How long did it take u to fuck her? And how long b4 she was on the I wanna be witcha chit?

 

[pizat]

word. that's some real shit.

props on the responses y'all, appreciate that.

at this point, Imma just keep it moving. My main objective was to smash and I did that, so I aint gonna message or call her. If she hollas at me, I'll take it from there but I'm not gonna check for her like that.

Bing young grasshoppa u got it....

Just PYP wit this broad.

 

[FiveKnuckleShuffle]

Make her your woman, marry her and raise an intelligent black family.

 

[cozmic33]

If she didn't tell u that shit about other dudes playin her u wouldn't even be makin this thread...u lettin her project her personal problems onto u..that's some shit u gotta let her deal with herself

 

[bighurt2k7]

Fuck and keep it moving. That's why you should alway have a stable of women. If you're fucking a number of different women routinely, you won't even have time to worry about stupid shit like this.

Don't initiate contact. If she doesn't contact you, then you didn't make the team. Keep it moving.

 

[Les W]

She is in your head .... you should have never "held" her after you smashed...that's for wifeys not BBM jumpoffs ...

also what's with this "PS3 till she leaves" foolishness? Be a man about yours, if you want her to leave, respectfully ask her to do so .... instead you sent her mix signals so now she bout to lock on the target ... YOU

I also agree you don't know what to do with this broad at all... AND you seem to be emotionally sympathetic to her

Personally I would have got in my lane then smashed instead of smashin then trying to figure out a lane

Kwaz u cole mang

 

[KTD]

word. that's some real shit.

props on the responses y'all, appreciate that.

at this point, Imma just keep it moving. My main objective was to smash and I did that, so I aint gonna message or call her. If she hollas at me, I'll take it from there but I'm not gonna check for her like that.

My dude.



Watch for the bitches that make you wait forever too cause they are also extremely dangerous. Trust me. You can't win with them just listen to your intuition pimp and you should be ok. If your intuition(6 sense tell you this bitch ain't worth it, keep it moving same thing with anything with anything in life just keep it moving.)

 

[Theo_Huxtable]

Anything you say or do on BGOL can be used against you.

Why do y'all niggas blog on BGOL, for real???​

 

[quickflip]

All this is unnecessary, dude said he met her in middle school. He claims she has 2 degrees which is probably a lie because its hard to get 1 degree before 24 let alone 2 while she apparently likes to go dick hunting.

I dont know man I know a fine ass hatian chick who just turned 24 and she already has her masters degree