So my girl and I have a long distance relationship (the full East-West coast variety). We recently noticed that although our conversation is amazing, our physical connection is still developing. Given both our sexual histories, it's not because we we're not freaks, far from it. Instead, we think that it's because the ratio of time spent talking about everything in the world (including our feelings for each other) we spend less time being sexual. We've had three visits and the sexual chemistry is progressing, as our sexual familiarly develops.
Given our desire to create more shared experiences (since we generally don't share dates, or experiences from sharing time together) we said we would start reading books together and discussing them. Our first book was an e-book ("Submission 101") which sparked a wonderfully sexual conversation - and more sexual familiarity. Given how well the first book reading and discussion went, we decided to read another. The book we read for tonight is, "For Freaks Only" another e-book.
After reading the short novel, I signed into BGOL and thought I might pose the question to a group, "What are your favorite erotic novels?"
I'm sure there will be many who will 'diss' me as soft in one way or another (mostly the over masculine homophobic men who seem to spend more time with porn then they do with people), needless to say, I have no interest in that kind of conversation. Frankly, I'm a grown man, a professor an an elite Ivy League institution, and although I celebrate my sexual desires and interests (i.e., enjoy being the freak that I am), I see no need to debate juveniles on the nature of my masculinity.
So, for those with a mature appreciation of black erotica and down right freak nasty shit (which is a combination usually found on the Sisters' feed), what do you think? Also, and relatedly, do you think the fact our sexual relationship is off to slower start means 'it's not there' or do you think that, given the much smaller amount of time we spend together in person, it's fair that it develop more slowly? Is this a sign of a mature relationship growing, or a lack of chemistry that just can't be created?
Given our desire to create more shared experiences (since we generally don't share dates, or experiences from sharing time together) we said we would start reading books together and discussing them. Our first book was an e-book ("Submission 101") which sparked a wonderfully sexual conversation - and more sexual familiarity. Given how well the first book reading and discussion went, we decided to read another. The book we read for tonight is, "For Freaks Only" another e-book.
After reading the short novel, I signed into BGOL and thought I might pose the question to a group, "What are your favorite erotic novels?"
I'm sure there will be many who will 'diss' me as soft in one way or another (mostly the over masculine homophobic men who seem to spend more time with porn then they do with people), needless to say, I have no interest in that kind of conversation. Frankly, I'm a grown man, a professor an an elite Ivy League institution, and although I celebrate my sexual desires and interests (i.e., enjoy being the freak that I am), I see no need to debate juveniles on the nature of my masculinity.
So, for those with a mature appreciation of black erotica and down right freak nasty shit (which is a combination usually found on the Sisters' feed), what do you think? Also, and relatedly, do you think the fact our sexual relationship is off to slower start means 'it's not there' or do you think that, given the much smaller amount of time we spend together in person, it's fair that it develop more slowly? Is this a sign of a mature relationship growing, or a lack of chemistry that just can't be created?
