Ayesha Curry on Why You Should Put Your Marriage Before Your Kids
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Thats the risk you take...what if you go to get in your car and theres a drunk driver on the road...if you took care of your kids and did the best you could, you shouldnt have to worry about your kids taking care of you...on the other hand, you could do everything right in your marriage and your wife STILL cheats on you...
I think a few are making it a bit more complicated that it needs to be. I think she's saying when you become parents you get so wrapped up n the kids and work you forget or put your love and quality time for each other on the back burner. You still have to make time to keep your love going and keep the relationship fresh.
It seems everything with you comes down to some cheating wife. Not every woman out there is trifling. The fact is when your kids are grown they wont want to spend a lot of their time with you, but your spouse will be there.
The only thing I like about my marriage is my kids. They are literally the reason I am married.
I never understood the point of marrying young, if you are not going to have children.
You don't get married to make yourself happy, usually you go into a marriage to make your wife and kids happy.
Glad you found some happiness in the marriage, through your kids.
Makes sense
If y'all strong the house will be strong and it'll make raising kids easier right? If you on the same page with your wife and have a great relationship the kids can't strain it
If y'all strong the house will be strong and it'll make raising kids easier right? If you on the same page with your wife and have a great relationship the kids can't strain it
If that's how you feel about someone you said youd be with forever why you with her?
You said she'd always be your wife when you made vows to get married
Why hedge bets?
Nobody comes before your kids. Her sexy ass is out of her mind.
That man being real about his situation. It aint always about love, sometimes its business too. That's life.
Yeah, I get that. While the kids growing up, it's them first. Once they adults, I see it going back to how the couple was before the kid(s).
Her life is perfect. She's beautiful, millionaire, famous, quality husband and comes from a good family. Doesn't have the basic challenges as most of the world. So she's speaking from a different place. Plus she's still young.
HOWEVER, she's correct. Parents need to show a united front and be an example of togetherness in front of children. Children will try and play their parents against each other.
Remember, just because the spouse is put first doesn't mean placing the children second is putting them in the dungeon. For the most part we attempt to equally manage both.
HOWEVER, she's correct. Parents need to show a united front and be an example of togetherness in front of children. Children will try and play their parents against each other.
Remember, just because the spouse is put first doesn't mean placing the children second is putting them in the dungeon. For the most part we attempt to equally manage both.
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Heard every answer EXCEPT for "balance it out". It's like this question was setup to put a loving percentage on a loved one. Ridiculous! I'm loving my WIFE AND CHILDREN unconditionally without separating or giving a reason why I should answer this hypothetical.
I was asking a question not judging him
I'm not in any other person's relationship I wanted to know why he feels the way he feels about it and said my perspective that's it. His is different and I want to know more about it.
Do you think putting the marriage first is putting the kids 2nd? I'm asking you .. not judging you or insinuating anything
You're married I just want to know what you think
I feel sorry for this delusional bitch once Curry's simp ass realizes that he is crazy wealthy and there are waaaaay better looking hoes that will go above and beyond for him without the strings.
Look at Doug Christie
Look at Doug Christie
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Wouldn’t say I’m hedging bets. Just being realistic about life, or at least how i view it.
I been married for 2 years but with her for 10. I ain’t going nowhere .
As soon as my kid was born though, I dedicated myself to making his child hood better than mine.
Why would you put your kids before your wife? The parents are united & that strong bond protects the kids....
Ive heard couples from back in our grandparents day speak on it.
A man brings home his side kid( kid with another woman) the mother was just not mom material and bounced. His wife rasied the child as her own, said the child is not to blame and she'd rather love a person so they can have a good home.
She also said that her husband's mistake shouldnt break up their family, that keeping the family whole was more important than her pain. People from broken families have issues starting and keeping families.
I also heard from one man who did the same, his wife got pregnant but he didnt want to leave his family. They needed him, and he knew it.
That stuck with me. We are too selfish.
A man brings home his side kid( kid with another woman) the mother was just not mom material and bounced. His wife rasied the child as her own, said the child is not to blame and she'd rather love a person so they can have a good home.
She also said that her husband's mistake shouldnt break up their family, that keeping the family whole was more important than her pain. People from broken families have issues starting and keeping families.
I also heard from one man who did the same, his wife got pregnant but he didnt want to leave his family. They needed him, and he knew it.
That stuck with me. We are too selfish.
I understand
Do you think having a solid foundation with you and your wife will inherently make his life incredible?
It's a vague question. Putting your marriage first in what situation or scenario. Nothing or Nobody is more important then my children though.
when i say put it first i just mean making your relationship with your wife is solid and you're in agreement on things and you're in a good place together so you can raise the kids.
when i read the statement it reads like making sure we like each other and in love with each other and have an understanding together are in a good place and in the right mind..and once we're in those places raising the kids better? i dont know the word i want to use.
it felt like overall. it doesn't mean you neglect the kids cause yall need to go on a cruise lol
well not to me.
It's a combination of a lot of shit.
I won't go I depth on here tho. Maybe pm.
Yeah no worries man
I wish you the best I'd read a pm and keep it between us for sure
The statement applies to a value of love between husband and wife she has, not thinking about divorce, infidelity etc. She may have been raised in a two parent home. Remember back in the day, no one ate until dad came home, or most house hold decisions final say belong to the father. I think because of the family destruction in the black community it's hard to accept her thinking, but it's still like that in other racial groups. Not saying it's good or bad but I can understand her statement.
ThisThe only thing I like about my marriage is my kids. They are literally the reason I am married.
Blood over everything... 3.8 billion broads can be your wife..how many of the 7.6 billion can be your kids?
Again though
Why make her your wife and have children with a person you don't consider to be as high esteemed as blood
When you get married you're saying that this is my family now. We gonna make a family be together forever we gonna live this life together
This applies to wife not symbolic wife i mean actually married wife
If you're speaking about a woman you just had a kid with and y'all not married agree
But your wife? 3.8 billion broads couldn't be your wife only your wife.... This is all ideally
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