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Fairytale syndrome and The whole "the man must make the first step" syndrome.
Fact is...all most women do now a days is focus on looking good...and not on how to have a good conversation which isn't about the usual cliche topics u see on television with a man.
I saw some bullshit on tyra the other night. She is saying that there are Three words to get a man to like you : " You are hot"
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women are born with vaginas. By default they are excluded from the approach because we have what they want. Couple that with ego, insecurity, and a lifetime of being put on the pedestal with the, "you're a queen, you're a princess, you don't have to work for shit" notion embedded in their brains, and there you have it. There's no need to present an approach, because 9 times out of 10 one will be provided.
the solution to this mental state? Money.
While it may seem shallow, it holds very true. It shakes the very foundation they're built on and nothing commands more respect than that. Get that paper, and they will approach. No matter how much they may not want to or know how.
I hear a lot of niggas talking about having game and we had the whole Mouthpiece Vs. Looks disscusion. But am I the only one noticing that a lot of chicks have no mouthpiece whatsover and that their main game is just looking good and hoping a nigga come scoop them up and marry them. They seem to just wait for a dude to say something but some don't even know how to let a dude know that they feeling him. A lot of women expect that you know when she is ready. Women will not go out of their way like men do to find their ideal men. So I guess it's all on us niggas to go out here and open our mouth and holla.
You see, often times, a woman that does make the first move is labeled forward or fast.
Hes saying that females want to scream equality only when it suits them. When it doesnt they want men to be chivalrus and place them on pedestals. If youre our equal, then you should approach us, much like you expect us to.
Simply just be yourself. You might get less women...shit you will get less numbers but the quality of women will change for the better.![]()
Another thing many young black women tend to over evaluate their looks, got 5's thinking in their heart, they are at least a good 9, its almost like they are convinced that their looks is the only thing they have to offer, and rather that deal with who they are, they'll rather lie to themselves and others, to make themselves feel more acceptable.
So why are you against simply saying "HELLO" to a man that you may find attractive?
Why do black women say that they can't find a decent man, when the refuse to even speak to a man first?
True, but at the same time, 9 times out of 10, women that make the first move get the type of man they want. As a result, they have more promising relationships than women that dont. Women that are afraid to be the aggressors in situations, will always find themselves settling for men they dont want. As a collective, I dont think the woman's ego is built for rejection, so its unlikely that the majority of them can play that position, like men do.
yes i think alot of women lack a mouthpiece...or what they think is a mouthpiece is consist of them barking orders
but honestly speaking tho i have found some men intimated or dumbfounded by a mouthpiece....yall say yall want the direct approach but get funny
This is what i've heard and seen as well. There will be alot of "not me's" springing up to say this. And there will be some "you were approaching lames". Springing up. But i still believe that it's not really a woman's place to approach a male like this. The female presents to the male, or he approaches the female. This is part of the way females can tell if this guy is going to be a decent provider or not.
granted in this day of feminine so called males. I do understand that many females are confused and don't know how to properly behave in this enviornment. It's an unnatural 1.
yes i think alot of women lack a mouthpiece...or what they think is a mouthpiece is consist of them barking orders
but honestly speaking tho i have found some men intimated or dumbfounded by a mouthpiece....yall say yall want the direct approach but get funny
i still believe that it's not really a woman's place to approach a male like this. The female presents to the male, or he approaches the female. This is part of the way females can tell if this guy is going to be a decent provider or not.
granted in this day of feminine so called males. I do understand that many females are confused and don't know how to properly behave in this enviornment. It's an unnatural 1.
thats what men say but they don't really want to be approached by a woman. men with no confidence, men who are afraid of women, men who lack charisma and men who are horrible at attractin women say they want a woman to approach but in the end even those douches don't want a woman to approach. because men are hunters at the core and if a woman approached she takes away that from him. when that is taken away from for the most part he looses interest quickly.
women have game but its no mouth piece game like men, its different. such men as discribed above want women to act like men by having mouth piece game thats rubbish. such men expect women to throw their emotions/feelings aside and just say how they feel, watch football with them and be just like one of the guys.
let women be women and men be men
its "women choose, men accept"...the "chase" is nothing but a man letting woman know tha
t she has been accepted before she chose him...and many men will accept another woman at the same time as well,women can choose all day long but if the men are not accepting it will be in vain...
checkout any bitter and desperate chick over 30 for confirmation...
lol u right..and its always the same deer in the headlight kinda looks
but i dont think there is anything wrong with being direct when needed....shouldnt be the default way to get things done as a woman....i feel like we have so many other ways to get what we want![]()
thats what men say but they don't really want to be approached by a woman. men with no confidence, men who are afraid of women, men who lack charisma and men who are horrible at attractin women say they want a woman to approach but in the end even those douches don't want a woman to approach. because men are hunters at the core and if a woman approached she takes away that from him. when that is taken away from for the most part he looses interest quickly.This is all i keep trying to say. smh Only the weak wants the prey to come to them. smh
women have game but its no mouth piece game like men, its different. such men as discribed above want women to act like men by having mouth piece game thats rubbish. such men expect women to throw their emotions/feelings aside and just say how they feel, watch football with them and be just like one of the guys.
let women be women and men be men
someone said it earlier...
women are conditioned to be passive or allow themselves to be prey when it comes to men
the aggressive ones are looked at like whores and often intimating
i think most men prefer a woman without a mouthpiece
I'm not sure where women are getting this foolishness from, but it is not true. This ideal likely came from other women, because women are quick to call another a woman a whore for doing things that she can't do for lack of courage or fear of rejection. If women get this out of their head they would likely have better chances at marriage or at having the man of their dreams.
no real pressure is put on a woman to be funny witty smart ambitious
its on her own if she is motivated to do so and if niggas kiss her ass
for being who she is then where is the strong motivation.
She has nothing to prove except that she can do her hair and dress.
thats the biggest difference
A sorry bitch will still get love.....a sorry nigga gets none.
I agree with the first bolded statement. I was always taught "men chase, women choose." That has, and will always be the doctrine. However, there is nothing wrong with a woman approaching a man, but IMO men should not expect this to be the general rule.I hear you. This is a new day and age. Not better. Just new.
In my experiences, I've found that women and men have very differing expectations when they make the first move. When my partnas and I were out on the hunt, we didn't have high expectations of the women we went at. Those expectations were allowed to progress naturally.
However, my home girls have all types of outlandish expectations when they step to a dude. Because a dude may satisfy their physical requirements, they start projecting what they would like that image to sound like, talk like, move like, etc before a "hello". So with regards to females who have mouth piece and the dude appears "rattled", shit that may just be who that brotha is, not the smooth, GQ response they imagined.
no real pressure is put on a woman to be funny witty smart ambitious
its on her own if she is motivated to do so and if niggas kiss her ass
for being who she is then where is the strong motivation.
She has nothing to prove except that she can do her hair and dress.
thats the biggest difference
A sorry bitch will still get love.....a sorry nigga gets none.
its "women choose, men accept"...the "chase" is nothing but a man letting woman know that she has been accepted before she chose him...and many men will accept another woman at the same time as well,women can choose all day long but if the men are not accepting it will be in vain...
checkout any bitter and desperate chick over 30 for confirmation...
C/S
As far as the thread topic, besides the whole who is pursued or pursuits, in terms of how women engage men, you can definitely make the case that women are lame. I've met chicks who had zero personality just in the way the conversation went. Just dull, bland, and boring. Call it social awkwardness. Call it whatever you want. Then you got the chicks who do talk alot with absolutely no substance. The worst ones are by the chicks who dont have no type of social/conversing skills but always feel the need to keep caling you and you have to pull teeth to get a conversation out of them. When I was younger didnt mind it so much but now that Im older that shit is for the birds.
Keep in mind the government made laws to try to stop niggas from leaving bitches.
which means its always been a problem
think about that deeply
you are in total control until you marry or nut in a woman.
She has only the leverage/power over you that you give her until then.
I call it player syndrome. Women mess with players that just want some poontang and they become lazy. He so-calls "puts it on them" so they do not have to do much but let him do his thang. These women in turn can not do a proper seduction or present themselves to a man properly. I have seen so many of these chicks that it makes me sick.I hear a lot of niggas talking about having game and we had the whole Mouthpiece Vs. Looks disscusion. But am I the only one noticing that a lot of chicks have no mouthpiece whatsover and that their main game is just looking good and hoping a nigga come scoop them up and marry them. They seem to just wait for a dude to say something but some don't even know how to let a dude know that they feeling him. A lot of women expect that you know when she is ready. Women will not go out of their way like men do to find their ideal men. So I guess it's all on us niggas to go out here and open our mouth and holla.
Yes but the feminist movement.. has rebuffed nature. Women have chosen not to play their natural roles, so hence here we are.
Our society has changed, to accomodate women in a variety of ways that go against the natural order of things.
So why are you against simply saying "HELLO" to a man that you may find attractive?
Why do black women say that they can't find a decent man, when the refuse to even speak to a man first?
On the contrary, I understand you completely. I have to play the game, but I still see flaws in it. Yes I understand that playing "eyetag," a smile, a "look," her walking close to you with out saying something is her telling you she wants your attention. But sometimes Ill ignore them just to see if they have the guts to speak. Those little "games" are for the birds, miss me with that shit. All you have to do is say hello and Ill do the rest, but some of you cant even do that. It seems like the vast majority of females overlook the fact that the ratio in most public places are atleast 2 to 1, so why play coy when you have more competition than I do???
yes i think alot of women lack a mouthpiece...or what they think is a mouthpiece is consist of them barking orders
but honestly speaking tho i have found some men intimated or dumbfounded by a mouthpiece....yall say yall want the direct approach but get funny
This is what i've heard and seen as well. There will be alot of "not me's" springing up to say this. And there will be some "you were approaching lames". Springing up. But i still believe that it's not really a woman's place to approach a male like this. The female presents to the male, or he approaches the female. This is part of the way females can tell if this guy is going to be a decent provider or not.
granted in this day of feminine so called males. I do understand that many females are confused and don't know how to properly behave in this enviornment. It's an unnatural 1.
Dhustlathats what men say but they don't really want to be approached by a woman. men with no confidence, men who are afraid of women, men who lack charisma and men who are horrible at attractin women say they want a woman to approach but in the end even those douches don't want a woman to approach. because men are hunters at the core and if a woman approached she takes away that from him. when that is taken away from for the most part he looses interest quickly.
women have game but its no mouth piece game like men, its different. such men as discribed above want women to act like men by having mouth piece game thats rubbish. such men expect women to throw their emotions/feelings aside and just say how they feel, watch football with them and be just like one of the guys.
let women be women and men be men
no real pressure is put on a woman to be funny witty smart ambitious
its on her own if she is motivated to do so and if niggas kiss her ass
for being who she is then where is the strong motivation.
She has nothing to prove except that she can do her hair and dress.
thats the biggest difference
A sorry bitch will still get love.....a sorry nigga gets none.
Ay! Sit down somewhere.love it...totally agree
Call me whatever you want, but I've never been great at reading people. I've missed out on tons of pussy because of it.Most of the time, I know when a woman is feeling me. I usually catch them hawking me heavy. Some of them actually initiate conversation with cool/mundane questions. The other chicks who keep starring but never even say a harmless what's up or hello to a nigga I deem as straight lame.
And this is what I'm talking about. One way to avoid these lame, wack women is to require more. Raise the stakes in an effort to get a thoroughbred! (Back when I was first coming up, I thought I was the problem... Like I wasnt asking the right questions, or something... Chicks would literally just hold the phone and not say shit. Call YOU and not really say shit!!! Then the once I started dealing with more mature, well rounded women I noticed that convos would just flow, regardless of the subject matter. Most females lead boring lives by male standards, so thats the real reason for it. I mean cliche questions are one thing, in depth convos are entirely different. Lame females expect males to dominate every aspect of their lives, so most chicks feel like the status quo of us approaching them is fine, because on some real shit... Most chicks are just wack to talk to, most dont have the balls to walk up to a random dude and even say hello, let alone "holla." Chicks are hypocrites, love to talk the talk, but cant/wont even lace up their shoes to try to walk it.So they like to keep the "old way" intact as to not have to grow up emotionally...
vvvvvvvvvvvvvWhat's lame about the majority of Chicks these days is that Pussy is all they got to offer. Bitches don't have fuckin' anything else to contribute. And most of them know it. So they think that this puts them in control.
But fact is many men are starting to know this, and no longer want to be bothered. So the game has changed. And these lame-ASS Bitches are having a hard time dealing with it. Many men nowadays are focusing on taking care of their business first and foremost. Most women can't stand not being the focal point.
The only way they can deal with it is by labeling a buy a "fag" and shit. But that just shows how extremely juvenile they are.
Either that or become GAY themselves.
Which poses extreme irony.
^^^^^^^^^^I hit on women, i come on to males only for fun. To goof off. When i do apply pressure, they buckle. I tell my young female charges constantly, always have. When you fully realize the power you have as a woman your force is quite formidable.
We have MANY ways to get what we want. MANY. And we have to teach our younger sisters the proper ways to use those abilities.