Am i being cold...?

owl

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Alright...there is someone that i enjoy conversing with, she is very intelligent and witty, but, i can't afford to make her my priority. i told her that she wasn't my priority, and she became distant. Am i being cold?
 
No, You Just Keepin It Real... Obviously She Dont Want The Truth.

OTHER PPL HAVE A PLACE YES, BUT YOU ARE THE ULTIMATE OBSEVER IN YOUR LIFE. WHY PLACE ANOTHER ABOVE? MAYBE YOU JUST HELLA JADED LIKE ME FAM, AND JUST CAINT FEEL NO MO.... LETS SEE WHAT THE FAM SAY, I PROLLY AINT THE BEST MO FO TO ASK....
 
Alright...there is someone that i enjoy conversing with, she is very intelligent and witty, but, i can't afford to make her my priority. i told her that she wasn't my priority, and she became distant. Am i being cold?

A little, but you were honest and that is all that matters:cool:
 
No, You Just Keepin It Real... Obviously She Dont Want The Truth.

OTHER PPL HAVE A PLACE YES, BUT YOU ARE THE ULTIMATE OBSEVER IN YOUR LIFE. WHY PLACE ANOTHER ABOVE? MAYBE YOU JUST HELLA JADED LIKE ME FAM, AND JUST CAINT FEEL NO MO.... LETS SEE WHAT THE FAM SAY, I PROLLY AINT THE BEST MO FO TO ASK....

...but naw, i feel you. and you are right, some people are just going to be more "experienced" than others, and although you've dropped the baggage, the lessons are a package deal you can't afford to let go of...

btw we got better shit to do than counsel weak cats owl ;) :lol:

...my mu'fuckin' homegirl...you a'ight? i know these bgoliens can be kind of...eh hemmm...cold...lol...



...please...don't ever post that video in a response to my post...please...i'm just sayin'...

can't get mad at the truth lol

...we do it all the time...
 
She doesn't see it that way though. She is throwing innuendo like i am not considering her feelings.....

well thats too fucking bad then. you were honest. wtf you supposed to do lead her on and waste time with bullshit?
 
Alright...there is someone that i enjoy conversing with, she is very intelligent and witty, but, i can't afford to make her my priority. i told her that she wasn't my priority, and she became distant. Am i being cold?

She doesn't see it that way though. She is throwing innuendo like i am not considering her feelings.....

At least you were straight to the point and honest. Unfortunately, she did not get the message. Better sometimes to be direct and cold than to risk the situation dragging, her becoming stalker-ish, and even more bitter and vengeful when she finally realizes down the line...




Thank you for wasting 4 minutes of my life I will never get back . . . :lol: My ears have still not yet forgiven me ...
 
She doesn't see it that way though. She is throwing innuendo like i am not considering her feelings.....

hmmmm it seems kinda crazy to throw innuendos after someone blantantly tells you that you can't be a priority

she needs to be appreciative that you told her now instead of later

sometimes you gotta let a mofo know what the deal is, cut n dry

well thats too fucking bad then. you were honest. wtf you supposed to do lead her on and waste time with bullshit?

damn bi you on fire tonight :lol::lol:

At least you were straight to the point and honest. Unfortunately, she did not get the message. Better sometimes to be direct and cold than to risk the situation dragging, her becoming stalker-ish, and even more bitter and vengeful when she finally realizes down the line...




Thank you for wasting 4 minutes of my life I will never get back . . . :lol: My ears have still not yet forgiven me ...


bingo on the dragging it out part

and BINGO on your anger towards Andey for that video :angry:! i mean, what kind of fucked up friends does she have? oh, yeah, the ones doing their imitation of the bankhead bounce in the background :hmm: :smh:
 
I think you did the right thing. I can definitely respect a person who is honest about their intentions, but some people can't handle something not going the way they intended.

Being lead on and lied to will help you appreciate an honest person.
 
OWL you already know that you did what was best for you. You are NOT responsible for her own inadequate feelings.
Keep doing you. Reality at some point "should" set in for her.






Peace
 
Cold? no... Her ego is a little bruised but she'll get over it. Honesty is a rarity and people can't handle it when they do get it.
 
Provdiding that you did not tell her to fuck off, then you are just being real

My problem is that I have been way too nice with women and ended up being put into the friendzone

Then I realised "Why am I texting and being a shoulder to cry on and a confidante to women, when they can't even give me a handjob"?

Now, any relationship has to be reciprocal. I need something in return

Got enough female friends; need one to share my bed with, not just my thoughts

Keep your head up; she's probably got a back up man as any average woman usually has a bunch of guys trying to get into her drawers

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^^^yeah, her feelings were hurt badly...

i don't want to generalize here, but it seems this is the problem with a lot of brothers dealing with women. Many women will dismiss a "passive" brother, but when a brother makes blunt, (and i'll even go as far as to say that i was untactful), statements then we are accused of being inconsiderate. Some women don't like the "beat around the bush" type of man, but get easily offended by the antithesis in flesh...
 
That's my mentality...i guess it doesn't work like that across the gender aisle...
 
Alright...there is someone that i enjoy conversing with, she is very intelligent and witty, but, i can't afford to make her my priority. i told her that she wasn't my priority, and she became distant. Am i being cold?
Not being cold. Her behavior tells you that she does not have time for a man who does not make her a priority. We make time for the people we value.
 
Not being cold. Her behavior tells you that she does not have time for a man who does not make her a priority. We make time for the people we value.

...and that is why men lie and/or sugarcoat...i just hate being the "example"...
 
Alright...there is someone that i enjoy conversing with, she is very intelligent and witty, but, i can't afford to make her my priority. i told her that she wasn't my priority, and she became distant. Am i being cold?

Commandment 3 of the 16 Commandments of Pussy

III. You shall make your mission, not your woman, your priority

Forget all those romantic cliches of the leading man proclaiming his undying love for the woman who completes him. Despite whatever protestations to the contrary, women do not want to be “The One” or the center of a man’s existence. They in fact want to subordinate themselves to a worthy man’s life purpose, to help him achieve that purpose with their feminine support, and to follow the path he lays out. You must respect a woman’s integrity and not lie to her that she is “your everything”. She is not your everything, and if she is, she will soon not be anymore.
 
Owl,

Reading your original comments for me suggests that maybe she was thinking that you were 'special' to her. On hearing your response to this she has now starting to become cold and distant.

You know what, she will respect you if not now, most definatley later due to your bluntness on the situation.
 
...and that is why men lie and/or sugarcoat...i just hate being the "example"...
I don't get it... She's not your priority so she's not making you hers. The only reason I could see for a man to lie about/sugarcoat that is if he was not looking for a partner but wanted to keep his benefits.
 
I don't get it... She's not your priority so she's not making you hers. The only reason I could see for a man to lie about/sugarcoat that is if he was not looking for a partner but wanted to keep his benefits.

Followup,

I would see it as he is trying not to hurt her feelings on this.

Maybe I'm wrong on this one...
 
^^^yeah, her feelings were hurt badly...

i don't want to generalize here, but it seems this is the problem with a lot of brothers dealing with women. Many women will dismiss a "passive" brother, but when a brother makes blunt, (and i'll even go as far as to say that i was untactful), statements then we are accused of being inconsiderate. Some women don't like the "beat around the bush" type of man, but get easily offended by the antithesis in flesh...

Not to be to lone voice of dissension here..and not knowing the full extent of the situation. It really does sound like she had some emotional investment in this. So when she realized (or was told) that the investment wasn't mutual she got hurt. Which may have been compounded by your bluntness. Sometimes how we hear something is harder than what we hear. :dunno::o
 
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