I want to make this short but at the same time this is almost impossible. This message is important to all men.
The friend zone/simp zone. Women make it,men fall into it. First understand why a woman wants the friend zone. I have been put in the friend zone plenty of times to notice somethings and here is what i have noticed.
Women NEED men. Not just for sex. But advantage reasons. When a woman needs a favor she is more likely to ask her male friend that's in the friend zone for help. She is less likely to ask a woman because, well women aren't very reliable and if they do a favor a woman is going to want something in return for the favor she is doing.
A man in the friend zone is more likely to do something nice if not out of the kindness of his heart, then it's for some ass. A woman will not do that most of the times.
So she needs men to rely on, to give her rides, spot her a few dollars here and there. Reliablity has allways been seen as a manly trait. Hence the phrase "i'm a man of my word".
Who do women call when they need favors...men. Need help with a car, men, need some nigga to beat up your girl's abusesive boyfriend she will call men. Help shoveling her snow...men men men. Bottom line is that the only guy that will do this is the guy that's in the friend zone. Women dont trust women. Notice how a woman will consider a female a friend but at the same time be scared that her "friend" will try to fuck her man so she doesn't introduce her man to her girlfriend? How can anyone seriously consider someone a friend when they know/think that said friend hasn't stabbed them in the back only because they haven't had the oppurtunity?
They dont trust each other and consider females backstabbing. So they need men. Some women only have to call the guy every now and then and listen to him and he gives her money. It's a lot of men out here like that.
Now the few times when a woman needs a woman she has trouble. IE baby sitter. A woman can't use a male baby sitter so she has to find a female baby sitter. She will have a hard time finding one. And a female will be reluctant to baby sit for another female saying something like "this aint my baby, i'm just the godmother that doesn't mean i watch the child all the dam time". She cant rely on women like that.
The second reason a female needs a man is for support.
Now this is for the men that arent simps. A woman needs simp friends then she need alpha male friends. I noticed somethings growing up that females do no matter dam near what age. They tend to lean on a man's shoulder. A woman usually wont lean on the shoulder of a woman that she feels will or would stab her in the back. When i was younger and my mother died and i went to live with family friends my sister would allways come to me when she got into trouble. Want me to hold her and everything. Whn i went to live with another family member my cousin would allways come to me when she was whooped or got in trouble and we'd end up laughing or whatever. Shit when i was 18 i had a 23 year old female friend that had a accidental collision with someone in a hall way in her school and she called me. I was the first person she called. No one can make a woman feel safe and protected the way a man can and they look for us to do that when they become friends with us. They want insight and advice from the male perspective on dating. But at the same time she doesn't want to fuck you. Why? Because if she fucks you she is affraid she will catch feelings, she is afraid you'll look at her differently and only talk and call her when you want sex.
Another thing i've noticed about being put in the friend zone is that when you are first talking to her and you're pursuing her and your game is hella tight, i mean ya'll talking for like 3 hours straight sometimes....she will open up to you. She will share things with you, she will slowly open herself up to you to see how you handle it and she may even be shy to approach and talk to you (meaning you have to do it first). But eventually you'll see will play games with you when you start trying to hook up. And after you put her ass on ignore she will chase you. Then after ya'll start talking again and realize you are not going to be a sucker she will do the famous 20% 100% rule and try to steer the friendship in that direction.
And what i mean by the 20% 100% rule is that she will stop giving you 100% of herself. At first ya'll was hella cool and talking good and making progress. Then she started to give you 20% of herself to you because she didn't want to catch feelings.
Now she still wants you to give her 100% of you. And the moment you go from giving 100% of yourself to 89% of yourself she will delete your number even though a 89% you is better then 100% of her friends. She will even call you and ask her "why dont you call me anymore" intead of calling you when she wants to talk to you.
So she wants to give 20% of herself while you give 100% of yourself and she thinks this can happen because 1)she's pretty and allways gets what she wants or 2)she think you would stick around hoping that you would think you could get some ass.
Examples of her giving 100% of herself to 20% is that she used to ask how you were doing, and how was your day, your week, ask about your experiences...she no longer does that. And if she does do that then it's quickly followed about how her day was and what she thinks and shit. She used to bring up subject matter and now she no longer does that. She used to laugh at your corny ass jokes and she no longer does that. She wants to talk about her. It's 100% about her. She doesn't want to go hang out with you when you want to hang out but instead she wants you to hang out with her when she wants to hang out. She needs your perspective and insight and convo but at the same time she doesn't want to connect with you because if she does she knows that those panties can come right the fuck off at any moment.
Word to the wise for my fellow men....the moment she puts you in the friend catergory (the moment she starts to show a lil less interest) give less of yourself to her. It will drive her crazy. She wont know that your actions are a reaction to hers.
Women need men and men need women. this is just the ways in which i know women need men.
[hide]I cant for the hot lotion on a whip cream sandwhich understand how a woman can consider herself friends with another female when she wouldn't take her boyfriend around that "friend" because she feels that they might fuck.
Not only that but how could you consider him your man....nvm...but how can you call her a friend when you feel the only reason she hasn't stabbed you in the back is because she hasn't had the oppurtunity?
I couldn't hang out with or be friends with anyone like that. I dont even talk to co-workers on that tip if i know they dirty. But as women, ya'll choose the worst friends sometimes. And choose the worst boyfriends sometimes as well (not saying men dont).[/hide]
The friend zone/simp zone. Women make it,men fall into it. First understand why a woman wants the friend zone. I have been put in the friend zone plenty of times to notice somethings and here is what i have noticed.
Women NEED men. Not just for sex. But advantage reasons. When a woman needs a favor she is more likely to ask her male friend that's in the friend zone for help. She is less likely to ask a woman because, well women aren't very reliable and if they do a favor a woman is going to want something in return for the favor she is doing.
A man in the friend zone is more likely to do something nice if not out of the kindness of his heart, then it's for some ass. A woman will not do that most of the times.
So she needs men to rely on, to give her rides, spot her a few dollars here and there. Reliablity has allways been seen as a manly trait. Hence the phrase "i'm a man of my word".
Who do women call when they need favors...men. Need help with a car, men, need some nigga to beat up your girl's abusesive boyfriend she will call men. Help shoveling her snow...men men men. Bottom line is that the only guy that will do this is the guy that's in the friend zone. Women dont trust women. Notice how a woman will consider a female a friend but at the same time be scared that her "friend" will try to fuck her man so she doesn't introduce her man to her girlfriend? How can anyone seriously consider someone a friend when they know/think that said friend hasn't stabbed them in the back only because they haven't had the oppurtunity?
They dont trust each other and consider females backstabbing. So they need men. Some women only have to call the guy every now and then and listen to him and he gives her money. It's a lot of men out here like that.
Now the few times when a woman needs a woman she has trouble. IE baby sitter. A woman can't use a male baby sitter so she has to find a female baby sitter. She will have a hard time finding one. And a female will be reluctant to baby sit for another female saying something like "this aint my baby, i'm just the godmother that doesn't mean i watch the child all the dam time". She cant rely on women like that.
The second reason a female needs a man is for support.
Now this is for the men that arent simps. A woman needs simp friends then she need alpha male friends. I noticed somethings growing up that females do no matter dam near what age. They tend to lean on a man's shoulder. A woman usually wont lean on the shoulder of a woman that she feels will or would stab her in the back. When i was younger and my mother died and i went to live with family friends my sister would allways come to me when she got into trouble. Want me to hold her and everything. Whn i went to live with another family member my cousin would allways come to me when she was whooped or got in trouble and we'd end up laughing or whatever. Shit when i was 18 i had a 23 year old female friend that had a accidental collision with someone in a hall way in her school and she called me. I was the first person she called. No one can make a woman feel safe and protected the way a man can and they look for us to do that when they become friends with us. They want insight and advice from the male perspective on dating. But at the same time she doesn't want to fuck you. Why? Because if she fucks you she is affraid she will catch feelings, she is afraid you'll look at her differently and only talk and call her when you want sex.
Another thing i've noticed about being put in the friend zone is that when you are first talking to her and you're pursuing her and your game is hella tight, i mean ya'll talking for like 3 hours straight sometimes....she will open up to you. She will share things with you, she will slowly open herself up to you to see how you handle it and she may even be shy to approach and talk to you (meaning you have to do it first). But eventually you'll see will play games with you when you start trying to hook up. And after you put her ass on ignore she will chase you. Then after ya'll start talking again and realize you are not going to be a sucker she will do the famous 20% 100% rule and try to steer the friendship in that direction.
And what i mean by the 20% 100% rule is that she will stop giving you 100% of herself. At first ya'll was hella cool and talking good and making progress. Then she started to give you 20% of herself to you because she didn't want to catch feelings.
Now she still wants you to give her 100% of you. And the moment you go from giving 100% of yourself to 89% of yourself she will delete your number even though a 89% you is better then 100% of her friends. She will even call you and ask her "why dont you call me anymore" intead of calling you when she wants to talk to you.
So she wants to give 20% of herself while you give 100% of yourself and she thinks this can happen because 1)she's pretty and allways gets what she wants or 2)she think you would stick around hoping that you would think you could get some ass.
Examples of her giving 100% of herself to 20% is that she used to ask how you were doing, and how was your day, your week, ask about your experiences...she no longer does that. And if she does do that then it's quickly followed about how her day was and what she thinks and shit. She used to bring up subject matter and now she no longer does that. She used to laugh at your corny ass jokes and she no longer does that. She wants to talk about her. It's 100% about her. She doesn't want to go hang out with you when you want to hang out but instead she wants you to hang out with her when she wants to hang out. She needs your perspective and insight and convo but at the same time she doesn't want to connect with you because if she does she knows that those panties can come right the fuck off at any moment.
Word to the wise for my fellow men....the moment she puts you in the friend catergory (the moment she starts to show a lil less interest) give less of yourself to her. It will drive her crazy. She wont know that your actions are a reaction to hers.
Women need men and men need women. this is just the ways in which i know women need men.
[hide]I cant for the hot lotion on a whip cream sandwhich understand how a woman can consider herself friends with another female when she wouldn't take her boyfriend around that "friend" because she feels that they might fuck.
Not only that but how could you consider him your man....nvm...but how can you call her a friend when you feel the only reason she hasn't stabbed you in the back is because she hasn't had the oppurtunity?
I couldn't hang out with or be friends with anyone like that. I dont even talk to co-workers on that tip if i know they dirty. But as women, ya'll choose the worst friends sometimes. And choose the worst boyfriends sometimes as well (not saying men dont).[/hide]
or was that sarcasm
. But that's my own dumbass fault but I knew I'd catch on though. Grrrr
