5 reasons women choose men

[Dannyblueyes]

My homie Zack says that there are only 5 reasons a woman will choose a man. Any relationship, whether it's a partner, a friend or a one night stand MUST provide at least one of the following

1) Protection
2) Money
3) Domestication
4) Opportunity
5) Validation

He claims that love and attraction are nothing more than the emotional justification for using a man to obtain these aims. In other words, if a woman has a psycho ex who's stalking her she will immediately fall in love with a man who is capable of dealing with that threat.

This makes a lot of sense to me, but what do the ladies of BGOL think?

 

[LoneStar29]

I don't really agree with that ... you're generalizing women too much ... we are not all exactly the same and we do not all want the exact same things ... the only things there that catches my eye are a man that can protect me, clean and cook ... I like other qualities too like a sense of humour and gentleman ... and that list doesn't really even cover the one thing that drives ALL WOMEN wild the most ... SEX .. c'mon ... everybody knows that good dick will drive any girl bananas And I don't look for the same qualities in a friend that I do a man ... that's what makes one my friend and one my man ... I think our own individual experiences have something to do with it ... no disrespect but you and your boy sound bitter

 

[yureeka9]

looks valid to me.

 

[LoneStar29]

looks valid to me.

Alright ... well I guess you're on the bitter bus with Dannyblueyes and Zack ... no disrespect ... but I'm sick and tired of hearing men say so many negative things about all females ... FUCK MAN ... you're the same ones who will be like "why do all women say all men are dogs" ... you guys do the same shit ... stop generalizing all females cuz of some shit one or two girls have put you through ... maybe if you change your attitide and put some positive energy out into this world you'll get a good woman in return ... ya'll got me tired and shit ... I'm going to bed

 

[Dannyblueyes]

I don't really see how this is negative at all actually. In fact if I'm about to go out with a woman it's good to know what her motives and expectations are. None of the 5 are bad things to strive for in a relationship so long as you're honest about it from the get go.

 

[Duece]

My homie Zack says that there are only 5 reasons a woman will choose a man. Any relationship, whether it's a partner, a friend or a one night stand MUST provide at least one of the following

1) Protection
2) Money
3) Domestication
4) Opportunity
5) Validation

He claims that love and attraction are nothing more than the emotional justification for using a man to obtain these aims. In other words, if a woman has a psycho ex who's stalking her she will immediately fall in love with a man who is capable of dealing with that threat.

This makes a lot of sense to me, but what do the ladies of BGOL think?

Sounds like nature to me, 5' 3" blank shooting slackers with no money, no education and no future get no women.

 

[LeroyDibiase]

My homie Zack says that there are only 5 reasons a woman will choose a man. Any relationship, whether it's a partner, a friend or a one night stand MUST provide at least one of the following

1) Protection
2) Money
3) Domestication
4) Opportunity
5) Validation

He claims that love and attraction are nothing more than the emotional justification for using a man to obtain these aims. In other words, if a woman has a psycho ex who's stalking her she will immediately fall in love with a man who is capable of dealing with that threat.

This makes a lot of sense to me, but what do the ladies of BGOL think?

"Men who sit around with their 'homies' and make lists about what women want in men....will soon sit around with their 'homies' and make lists about what THEY want in men."​

 

[b0010100]

@ some of these replies!

I think he wants to know what are your top 5 reasons to choose a man.

whether he's bitter or not, I think it might make a pretty interesting list.

 

[sakinnuso]

Sounds like nature to me, 5' 3" blank shooting slackers with no money, no education and no future get no women.

The amusing thing about this response is how casually height is thrown into such obvious negatives as 'blank shooting', slackers, lack of money, and no education. It's really hilarious when people so quickly retort that "height doesn't matter", but will usually throw it in with the worst of the worst things a man can be.

Good lookin' out. This quote made my day.

 

[LoneStar29]

I don't really see how this is negative at all actually. In fact if I'm about to go out with a woman it's good to know what her motives and expectations are. None of the 5 are bad things to strive for in a relationship so long as you're honest about it from the get go.

C'mon ... read what you wrote again ... who goes into a relationship for opportunity or validation ... and not one of those qualites represents any male friends I have ... and I thought one night stands were just about attraction and sex??? And motive ... what's that all about??? To say women don't really love they are just in it for a motive ... meaning their own selfish reasons ... is negative. Women and men alike are more complex than that ... can't narrow every woman in the world down to just those 5 reasons ... our experiences is what's going to determine our reasons. Now I've read some other posts of yours and I understand you've been hurt so I'll give you a pass but your boy Zack is wackthat rhymed

 

[CT's Finest]

Alright ... well I guess you're on the bitter bus with Dannyblueyes and Zack ... no disrespect ... but I'm sick and tired of hearing men say so many negative things about all females ... FUCK MAN ... you're the same ones who will be like "why do all women say all men are dogs" ... you guys do the same shit ... stop generalizing all females cuz of some shit one or two girls have put you through ... maybe if you change your attitide and put some positive energy out into this world you'll get a good woman in return ... ya'll got me tired and shit ... I'm going to bed

I don't know if these brothers are bitter about what women have done to them or not, but you've got to admit there are plenty of women who hold grudges against us for what some knucklehead did in the past. How many, websites, songs, threads, ect. are there out there talking about how (black) men ain't shit? TOO DAMN MANY...I'm not accusing you of being one of those angry women, but I am hoping that you are willing to take your own advice. As you said in your response to the thread starter,learning from and letting go of the past and putting positive energy in to the universe is the key to a successful relationship...

LOL!
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Its always a BAD IDEA to get your love advice about women from another man... Did he happen to use the term "Homies over Hoes" when he gave you this list?

-TonyaTko

Since it's a bad idea to get advice about women from another guy, can we as men depend on the advice and thoughts of women? I think it is useful to turn to women for advice on this subject. I actually do it in myself. I have plenty of female cousins and friends who I turn to in dealing with women. I ask them what something might have meant, or how they would feel in certain situations. I also ask them for advice on how to make a young lady feel special as well. For example, I may have something in mind, that seems fly to me, but I'll ask a woman to see how one may react to what I have in mind...With all that said I still check with the fellas about things because they can offer good insight as well. The brothers I hang out with are also very good at interpreting things. They can also talk about their experiences in dealing with women...

My question to TKO and to every woman who will read this is, how often to do you all discuss your relationships/dealings with men, with men? Do you have guys who you can talk to and bounce ideas off of in order to get a better understanding of us and how to successfully interact with us? Taking relationship advice from your angry girlfriend who has been single since 1999 is not the way to go. Obviously what that chick says and thinks about relationships doesn't work... Finally, I wanna say, that no matter how much advice we get from outside sources it's up to each one of us to decide what's best for us...

"Men who sit around with their 'homies' and make lists about what women want in men....will soon sit around with their 'homies' and make lists about what THEY want in men."​

 

[LoneStar29]

I don't know if these brothers are bitter about what women have done to them or not, but you've got to admit there are plenty of women who hold grudges against us for what some knucklehead did in the past. How many, websites, songs, threads, ect. are there out there talking about how (black) men ain't shit? TOO DAMN MANY...I'm not accusing you of being one of those angry women, but I am hoping that you are willing to take your own advice. As you said in your response to the thread starter,learning from and letting go of the past and putting positive energy in to the universe is the key to a successful relationship...




Since it's a bad idea to get advice about women from another guy, can we as men depend on the advice and thoughts of women? I think it is useful to turn to women for advice on this subject. I actually do it in myself. I have plenty of female cousins and friends who I turn to in dealing with women. I ask them what something might have meant, or how they would feel in certain situations. I also ask them for advice on how to make a young lady feel special as well. For example, I may have something in mind, that seems fly to me, but I'll ask a woman to see how one may react to what I have in mind...With all that said I still check with the fellas about things because they can offer good insight as well. The brothers I hang out with are also very good at interpreting things. They can also talk about their experiences in dealing with women...

My question to TKO and to every woman who will read this is, how often to do you all discuss your relationships/dealings with men, with men? Do you have guys who you can talk to and bounce ideas off of in order to get a better understanding of us and how to successfully interact with us? Taking relationship advice from your angry girlfriend who has been single since 1999 is not the way to go. Obviously what that chick says and thinks about relationships doesn't work... Finally, I wanna say, that no matter how much advice we get from outside sources it's up to each one of us to decide what's best for us...

I agree that there are women who hold grudges as well ... my point is that the women normally were hurt a couple times and guys usually turn sour after the first break-up in like highschool or sometime long ago like that ... I'm definately taking my own advice ... I wouldn't say it if I've never lived it ... I think getting girl advice from other girls or guy advice from other guys is the best way to go ... you get more insight that way cuz it'll sort of be a first hand account ... I've gotten my best man advice from male friends of mine ... the only problem with that is a woman has to be careful which guy she asks for advice ... if he has sexual feelings for her his advice may not be 100% honest ... he may say things to put a better light on himself like "oh don't worry about that guy ... you need a man like me" type shit ... I think the fellas can only give you advice from their own experiences ... yeah ... bitter girls do give bad adviceeverything starts and ends with "they're all dogs"c/s it's our choice in the end ... good post CT's Finest

 

[CT's Finest]

I agree that there are women who hold grudges as well ... my point is that the women normally were hurt a couple times and guys usually turn sour after the first break-up in like highschool or sometime long ago like that ... I'm definately taking my own advice ... I wouldn't say it if I've never lived it ... I think getting girl advice from other girls or guy advice from other guys is the best way to go ... you get more insight that way cuz it'll sort of be a first hand account ... I've gotten my best man advice from male friends of mine ... the only problem with that is a woman has to be careful which guy she asks for advice ... if he has sexual feelings for her his advice may not be 100% honest ... he may say things to put a better light on himself like "oh don't worry about that guy ... you need a man like me" type shit ... I think the fellas can only give you advice from their own experiences ... yeah ... bitter girls do give bad adviceeverything starts and ends with "they're all dogs"c/s it's our choice in the end ... good post CT's Finest

^^^^^ Thanks, I try...

I feel you overall, but there are plenty of ladies who turned sour after one bad relationship. Like I said earlier it might be Ms. 1999, who had a bad experience back then and decided to trash every man and relationship that comes her way...Also, I think we should be careful of the advice we get no matter who it comes from. When it comes to you and other women getting advice from women, you have to consider what their intentions are as well. Is she trying to see you become as single and miserable as she is? Is it possible that she wants your man? I saw a comedian joke about the differences between men and women when it comes to things like this. He said that when man look at his friend's girlfriend or wife, he feels that he would want a woman like her. On the other hand, he said, when a woman looks at her friend's man she decides that she wants him (her so-called friend's man). These are pretty general, but I think they make sense. As a man I know from experience that I can look at the relationship another man has with his woman and feel that is something I would like to have. That can be a result of their interaction or it could be my understanding of the type of woman she is. I have actually said "I want a chick like that...". I also know how competitive and petty (some) women can be. So what that comedian said is true in some cases...

 

[LoneStar29]

^^^^^ Thanks, I try...

I feel you overall, but there are plenty of ladies who turned sour after one bad relationship. Like I said earlier it might be Ms. 1999, who had a bad experience back then and decided to trash every man and relationship that comes her way...Also, I think we should be careful of the advice we get no matter who it comes from. When it comes to you and other women getting advice from women, you have to consider what their intentions are as well. Is she trying to see you become as single and miserable as she is? Is it possible that she wants your man? I saw a comedian joke about the differences between men and women when it comes to things like this. He said that when man look at his friend's girlfriend or wife, he feels that he would want a woman like her. On the other hand, he said, when a woman looks at her friend's man she decides that she wants him (her so-called friend's man). These are pretty general, but I think they make sense. As a man I know from experience that I can look at the relationship another man has with his woman and feel that is something I would like to have. That can be a result of their interaction or it could be my understanding of the type of woman she is. I have actually said "I want a chick like that...". I also know how competitive and petty (some) women can be. So what that comedian said is true in some cases...

Yeah ... I actually can't argue with that ... girls are more green eyed bandit envy yours types ... which is a joke cuz if he did it to her ... well you know the rest ... I hate when girls put down a good thing another girls got going on just cuz they don't have it ... too much hatred and jealousy ... then they say some did shit like "how come I don't have that?" ... it's cuz you're a hater ... DUH Personally I know I have my own bad qualities but being jealous and being a hater is not one of them ... I'm happy for anything good someone else has going on ... what's hating them gonna do besides give me bad charma???

 

[CT's Finest]

Yeah ... I actually can't argue with that ... girls are more green eyed bandit envy yours types ... which is a joke cuz if he did it to her ... well you know the rest ... I hate when girls put down a good thing another girls got going on just cuz they don't have it ... too much hatred and jealousy ... then they say some did shit like "how come I don't have that?" ... it's cuz you're a hater ... DUH Personally I know I have my own bad qualities but being jealous and being a hater is not one of them ... I'm happy for anything good someone else has going on ... what's hating them gonna do besides give me bad charma???

Co-Sign 100%!!!

 

[Eva Hornae]

My question to TKO and to every woman who will read this is, how often to do you all discuss your relationships/dealings with men, with men? Do you have guys who you can talk to and bounce ideas off of in order to get a better understanding of us and how to successfully interact with us? Taking relationship advice from your angry girlfriend who has been single since 1999 is not the way to go. Obviously what that chick says and thinks about relationships doesn't work... Finally, I wanna say, that no matter how much advice we get from outside sources it's up to each one of us to decide what's best for us...

im currently going on a sexcapade with my Mr Aqua this weekend and im asking my male fren what i should bring to spice up this weekend's treat

 

[HoneyDip]

LOL!
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Its always a BAD IDEA to get your love advice about women from another man... Did he happen to use the term "Homies over Hoes" when he gave you this list?

-TonyaTko

I dont agree with that list... we look for men for alot of different reasons depending on the female and what she wants

 

[Eva Hornae]

Yeah ... I actually can't argue with that ... girls are more green eyed bandit envy yours types ... which is a joke cuz if he did it to her ... well you know the rest ... I hate when girls put down a good thing another girls got going on just cuz they don't have it ... too much hatred and jealousy ... then they say some did shit like "how come I don't have that?" ... it's cuz you're a hater ... DUH Personally I know I have my own bad qualities but being jealous and being a hater is not one of them ... I'm happy for anything good someone else has going on ... what's hating them gonna do besides give me bad charma???

preach it lady!

 

[CT's Finest]

im currently going on a sexcapade with my Mr Aqua this weekend and im asking my male fren what i should bring to spice up this weekend's treat

As in Aquarius? You can never go wrong with one of us. We may be hard to figure out at times, but we take care of our own. We also know how to treat a lady when she deserves it... Aquarius is where it's at.

 

[Eva Hornae]

As in Aquarius? You can never go wrong with one of us. We may be hard to figure out at times, but we take care of our own. We also know how to treat a lady when she deserves it... Aquarius is where it's at.

Yes!

DAYUM, my imagination is running wild at the moment!

I wanna fucking freak him out. OMG!!

 

[CT's Finest]

Yes!

DAYUM, my imagination is running wild at the moment!

I wanna fucking freak him out. OMG!!

That's what's up! It sounds like he's in for a wild ride, I hope he's ready. Don't hurt him too bad...If you do, you've gotta nurse him back to health...

 

[LoneStar29]

im currently going on a sexcapade with my Mr Aqua this weekend and im asking my male fren what i should bring to spice up this weekend's treat

DAAAAAAANG ... don't hurt 'em homegirl

 

[Eva Hornae]

That's what's up! It sounds like he's in for a wild ride, I hope he's ready. Don't hurt him too bad...If you do, you've gotta nurse him back to health...

i wont, not yet anyway!

DAAAAAAANG ... don't hurt 'em homegirl

i promise i'll be good in a bad way.

 

[Duece]

The amusing thing about this response is how casually height is thrown into such obvious negatives as 'blank shooting', slackers, lack of money, and no education. It's really hilarious when people so quickly retort that "height doesn't matter", but will usually throw it in with the worst of the worst things a man can be.

Good lookin' out. This quote made my day.

Height always matters, whether you're a quarterback or an everyday man, women will say it doesn't matter but it does.

 

[AlexandMorgan]

My homie Zack says that there are only 6 reasons a woman will choose a man. Any relationship, whether it's a partner, a friend or a one night stand MUST provide at least one of the following

1) Protection
2) Money
3) Domestication
4) Opportunity
5) Validation
6) BIG DICK
He claims that love and attraction are nothing more than the emotional justification for using a man to obtain these aims. In other words, if a woman has a psycho ex who's stalking her she will immediately fall in love with a man who is capable of dealing with that threat.

This makes a lot of sense to me, but what do the ladies of BGOL think?

 

[destrehan]

LOL!
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Its always a BAD IDEA to get your love advice about women from another man... Did he happen to use the term "Homies over Hoes" when he gave you this list?

-TonyaTko

 

[DigitalAngel2007]

That Boondocks episode is the truth!!!

Don't let me catch you in some skorts and a man bag!

 

[Dannyblueyes]

C'mon ... read what you wrote again ... who goes into a relationship for opportunity or validation ... and not one of those qualites represents any male friends I have ... and I thought one night stands were just about attraction and sex??? And motive ... what's that all about??? To say women don't really love they are just in it for a motive ... meaning their own selfish reasons ... is negative. Women and men alike are more complex than that ... can't narrow every woman in the world down to just those 5 reasons ... our experiences is what's going to determine our reasons. Now I've read some other posts of yours and I understand you've been hurt so I'll give you a pass but your boy Zack is wackthat rhymed

LOTS of women go into a relationship for opportunity. America is still a relatively sexist society where even the most ambitious women face a glass ceiling. To deal with that a lot of women choose partners and male friends that are either superiors in their chosen fields or equals aspiring to the same goals. (i.e. Hillary Clinton, Marie Curie, Stephanie St. Clair,) You also have women who seek a man with position so that they can also share that position vicariously (a lot of preacher's wives fall into this category). finally you have women who have one night stands with their male superiors in order to coerce a promotion.

Even more women seek out validation. How many times have you or your friends gone to a club and led a man on that you had absolutely no intention of sleeping with just to see if you "still got it"? How many straight women will bump and grind with each other on the dance floor just to see how big of a male crowd they can draw? Then you have cougars, sugar mommas, and more commonly, women who stay with a man because they "just can't bear the shame of being alone."

As for attraction and sex, if a woman is reasonably attractive herself then finding an attractive partner or lover is already a given. It's her other needs that swing the balance between a yes or a no.