‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning him —

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Five years ago, a man named James called his father and came out to him as gay.

This week, James posted to the web forum Reddit the letter he says his father sent in response, which disowned his son forever, under the heading, “This is how hate sounds.”

“I hope your telephone call was not to receive my blessing for the degrading of your lifestyle,” it begins. “I have fond memories of our time together, but that is all in the past.”

In the letter, James’ father goes on to cut off contact with his son. “No communications at all,” he writes. “I will not come to visit, nor do I want you in my house.”

He continues, “You’ve made your choice though wrong it may be. God did not intend for this unnatural lifestyle.”

If his son chooses not to attend his funeral, he says, “my friends and family will understand.”

The brief, brutal letter ends with, “Have a good birthday and good life. No present exchanges will be accepted. Goodbye.”

James posted the letter to the atheism subforum of Reddit, where it was met with an outpouring of sympathy – though he said that’s not why he posted it.

He told the Daily News that he’s a “well-adjusted guy” at age 33, but many gay young people have difficulty coming out. “These people need serious help, compassion, and guidance, through what will unquestionably be one of the rockiest experiences of their lives,” he said.

James said he’s “not without a religious/spiritual point of view,” even though he posted his father’s letter to the atheism forum.

The controversy over gay marriage – brought to a fever pitch in recent weeks by the news of Chick-fil-A’s millions of dollars in donations to anti-gay groups – made him want to show another side of the story.

Anti-gay sentiments, James wrote from Los Angeles, “extend into families like mine.”

While most Christians won’t go so far as to completely disown their gay children, as James’ father did, he said gay-marriage foes contribute to “breaking the very family unit they hold so sacred.”


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[BrownTurd]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

I would never disown my child. I would be highly disappointed but would get over it

 

[EPDC]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

Why is this news? The son is attention whoring. Shit probably happens everyday in America. Again, if this is old, why is it newsworthy? Better yet, why is it on BGOL?

 

[rNubb]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

Why is this news? The son is attention whoring. Shit probably happens everyday in America. Again, if this is old, why is it newsworthy? Better yet, why is it on BGOL?

yes.

 

[Non-StopJFK2TAB]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

I would never disown my child. I would be highly disappointed but would get over it

Sohh once had a thread that questioned whether a father should disown a stupud whore of a daughter or a successful faggot as a son; BGOL has already shown who they would side with if presented with these options.

 

[Duval's King]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

Sohh once had a thread that questioned whether a father should disown a stupud whore of a daughter or a successful faggot as a son; BGOL has already shown who they would side with if presented with these options.

i knew you were an sohh member...thats explain a lot about you

 

[king_101]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

I'm sure this homo nigga will get over 6 figures in donations.

 

[Non-StopJFK2TAB]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

i knew you were an sohh member...thats explain a lot about you

sohh has far more quality posts and posters than this forum.

 

[kdub83]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

I don't understand disowning your kids. You may not agree with their decisions but that is still your child. I can't imagine just acting like my child doesn't exist.

 

[Traveler]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

I would never disown my child. I would be highly disappointed but would get over it

I agree

sohh has far more quality posts and posters than this forum.

I disagree

 

[Non-StopJFK2TAB]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

I disagree

Have you been to the-coli?

 

[Damn Right]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

so if his kid would've 'come out' that he believed in communism instead of capitalism, would his dad still disown him? or if he said (assuming the dude is white) that he 'came out' as a dude that preferred black women over white, would his dad still write that letter if he was against interracial relationships? your kids may do the opposite of what u think is right when they're adults, but u don't write um off because of it.

 

[rNubb]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

There are instances to (disown) disassociate with your offspring.

If you are fundamentally different then blood means nothing.

If your offspring is a serial killer, pedo, rapist, joins the klan, devil worshipper.

There are plenty reasons.

 

[lexdiamonnyc]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

I don't understand disowning your kids. You may not agree with their decisions but that is still your child. I can't imagine just acting like my child doesn't exist.

I'm not sure that I'd disown him, but I'd probably get depressed, and blame myself.....thinking that I went wrong somewhere along the line and my son became a fudge packer.....

maybe disowning his son is his way of not having to deal with what he may see as his failure, 'out of sight, out of mind'....


the one thing I can say for sure is that I'd never be ok with him bringing his 'lifestyle' near me or my other family members.......I'd don't want to see your boyfriend/partner/husband or adopted kids during the holidays or at any other time.

 

[moblack]

No one could be proud their son is a pillow biter.

 

[Traveler]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

Have you been to the-coli?

Nah but I remember when an influx of SOHH members started coming here years ago. I lurked there b4 it got hacked and more of yall came over here. The Ladies Room was cool on occasions but some of the most idiotic discussions took place in the hip hop forum.

If I remember correctly Dip Set had a cult following there.

There was also a black chick who posted that everyone hated, similar to Blunt.

Edit: Just googled the-coli. I'll check it out.

 

[Non-StopJFK2TAB]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

Edit: Just googled the-coli. I'll check it out.

The-Coli's Knowledge forum is always live.

 

[SNYC]

i knew you were an sohh member...thats explain a lot about you

Sent from my HTC_Amaze_4G using Tapatalk 2

 

[Lola]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

Damn. That's sad.

I have a friend whose moms did not want her to marry this one dude, because she had heard negative things about him. She told my friend if she married him, she would not speak to her again, and guess what? She never spoke to my friend again! Her moms never spoke to her again and a few years later, she died in her sleep, so they never got to reconcile.

It was the saddest thing ever. I remember her telling me she saw her shopping one day and her mom ducked into another aisle to keep from speaking to her!

That's some crazy shit. I just couldn't ever imagine. I thank God for loving parents.

 

[BigDaddyBuk]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

i never understood why gay men feel the need to inform others that they suck dick.

i wouldn't call my mother detailing my sexual encounters with WOMEN.

and dollars to donuts the gay cat already knew his pops wouldn't respond well, so why do it???

 

[Flawless]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

This is every Fags dream, to have their parents disown them after coming out so they can have their sob story to tell their friends because they get off at this type of shit

 

[Cock Head Jones]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

boo fucking hoo.

 

[Mr. Del]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

sohh has far more quality posts and posters than this forum.

12,500+ posts in 4 years says you're lying.

 

[Cock Head Jones]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

This is every Fags dream, to have their parents disown them after coming out so they can have their sob story to tell their friends because they get off at this type of shit

i doubt it.

i think most kids want to be loved and accepted by your parents.

 

[Non-StopJFK2TAB]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

12,500+ posts in 4 years says you're lying.

I got 13000 posts?

lemme call my mama

 

[Non-StopJFK2TAB]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

i doubt it.

i think most kids want to be loved and accepted by your parents.

Right?

The rationale of these posters is amazing. Ask them why they despise homosexuality and they can't give you a legit reason for their hatred.

What the fuck is natural?

 

[THREAD_CRITIC]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

12,500+ posts in 4 years says you're lying.

hilarious

 

[MadWun]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

sohh has far more quality posts and posters than this forum.

Then why the fuck are you here

 

[Non-StopJFK2TAB]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

Then why the fuck are you here

Sohh doesn't have direct links

 

[Mixd]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

Me and the wife discussed this shit cause we have a son and in the past had that what if convo about our son. He is no where near that but we were just talking.

My take is this, and I know some may feel a way about how I feel but, I feel like all this coming out and nonsense is not a "born with" behavior.

I feel like it is a learned behavior of society.

In all my years, I have never seen so much blatant battymanism in your face and in the media like it's commonplace now.

So a kid, confused, pissed at parents in adolescence, they think it's cool to go sleep with another man, fuck outta here.

I had a very close friend when I was a teen, confided mad shit to him, my close friend, and not once did the thought cross my mind to sleep with a man or him. We used fuck so many girls as teens that we used to make it a challenge as to how many chicks we could fuck the following month like it was a game.

WTF is wrong with society and this nonsense. Maybe I'm stuck in yesteryear, but it's too blatant. Two earrings, skinny jeans, jeggings, wearing zebra striped pants, high yellow tight pants or any of them florescent shits. My son will be disowned with any of that sweetness crap. I'm sorry, I can't handle that shit.

You were born a "MAN". So, go out, fuck pussy and live on your lineage, drop a seed and be prosperous.

Then at the end of the convo my wife drops some shit I can't answer like "what if your daughter is a lesbian"

 

[tuckdog]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

Why is this news? The son is attention whoring. Shit probably happens everyday in America. Again, if this is old, why is it newsworthy? Better yet, why is it on BGOL?

Obama has actually turned bgol slightly gay friendly. Fuck the fag. I feel for the dad. Hope that isn't his only son.

 

[Mr. Del]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

Right?

The rationale of these posters is amazing. Ask them why they despise homosexuality and they can't give you a legit reason for their hatred.

What the fuck is natural?

You've been protesting a lil' bit too much, though.

Something you want to get off your chest?

How did your father take it when he found out?

 

[tuckdog]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

Me and the wife discussed this shit cause we have a son and in the past had that what if convo about our son. He is no where near that but we were just talking.

My take is this, and I know some may feel a way about how I feel but, I feel like all this coming out and nonsense is not a "born with" behavior.

I feel like it is a learned behavior of society.

In all my years, I have never seen so much blatant battymanism in your face and in the media like it's commonplace now.

So a kid, confused, pissed at parents in adolescence, they think it's cool to go sleep with another man, fuck outta here.

I had a very close friend when I was a teen, confided mad shit to him, my close friend, and not once did the thought cross my mind to sleep with a man or him. We used fuck so many girls as teens that we used to make it a challenge as to how many chicks we could fuck the following month like it was a game.

WTF is wrong with society and this nonsense. Maybe I'm stuck in yesteryear, but it's too blatant. Two earrings, skinny jeans, jeggings, wearing zebra striped pants, high yellow tight pants or any of them florescent shits. My son will be disowned with any of that sweetness crap. I'm sorry, I can't handle that shit.

You were born a "MAN". So, go out, fuck pussy and live on your lineage, drop a seed and be prosperous.

Then at the end of the convo my wife drops some shit I can't answer like "what if your daughter is a lesbian"

Great post. And call it what you want but finding out one of my daughters likes chicks isn't nearly as bad to me. That's something that while it will hurt I can get over it. But knowing that my son, my seed, is taking it up the butt....

 

[tuckdog]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

sohh has far more quality posts and posters than this forum.

Bye bitch

 

[2 ONE 3]

Re: ‘You’ve made your choice’: Gay man posts dad’s brutal farewell letter disowning h

Had an uncle do this to my cousin when he found out he was gay.


Glad he came around and stopped being an jerk to his oldest son.

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