too many kids to date???

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ok the last two women I have met have had multiple children and it actually got me to thinking...

I always said I wouldnt date a woman if our combined child number was greater than four

so I meet this thick , pretty, and overall good personality chick but in gettin to know each other I find out shes 25 with four kids (all four by her former fiance)

and most recently I met a 37 year old ..petite, cute, nice lady and a good job and still goin to school to climb the ladder but she has six kids

so its an interesting question

how many kids is too much for you??
 
It's time to start dating white women my friend. Less stress, less hassle, no bad attitudes, NO KIDS, and no baby daddy drama. White women usually wait till they get married to have kids.
 
It's time to start dating white women my friend. Less stress, less hassle, no bad attitudes, NO KIDS, and no baby daddy drama. White women usually wait till they get married to have kids.

lol I actually wouldnt have a problem with dating a white girl..but all the ones I see that actully date black dudes around my area are either trashy or wigger types and neither are attractive to me..
 
two...if she is in her mid 30's and hav two kids then im ok with it..now is she is much younger then im still ok with it..but nothing over then 2..but none is much better..:yes:
 
It's time to start dating white women my friend. Less stress, less hassle, no bad attitudes, NO KIDS, and no baby daddy drama. White women usually wait till they get married to have kids.

Books?
 
i dont mind a woman with kids.....as long as they are well behaved. its the bad kids that drive me away from the women i've dated in the past that had em. if they can't respect or mind you......tha fuck they gone treat me? 2cents.
 
ok the last two women I have met have had multiple children and it actually got me to thinking...

I always said I wouldnt date a woman if our combined child number was greater than four

so I meet this thick , pretty, and overall good personality chick but in gettin to know each other I find out shes 25 with four kids (all four by her former fiance)

:smh::smh::smh:

and most recently I met a 37 year old ..petite, cute, nice lady and a good job and still goin to school to climb the ladder but she has six kids

:eek: :smh::smh::smh:

so its an interesting question

how many kids is too much for you??
1 is too many. Granted I'm young so that's obviously a factor. I think if you're in your 30s and you're ready to settle down, if you truly love that woman then 1/2 should be the limit but everyone is different.

Me personally, when I start a family I want to be married and for the woman to have NO kids.

A few years back, I met this banging black Colombian. I mean she was fiiiine. Smooth brown skin, long black hair that was all hers ( :lol: ) and hazel eyes. So we were really connecting (talking for hours) until she got a phone call. I asked her who it was, and she said her mother. I asked what for? To see if she could pick up her son.

:hmm:

Talk about killing the attraction. During that whole convo she failed to mention her kid up until then,

We still talk now and again and I did beat.... but it was more of a no strings attached relationship until I got back with my g.f.


If she didn't have a kid, I would've definitely wifed her.

I think men with kids shouldn't really be fussy about dating women with kids. Just saying.
 
lol I actually wouldnt have a problem with dating a white girl..but all the ones I see that actully date black dudes around my area are either trashy or wigger types and neither are attractive to me..

I know what you mean, I don't like wigger type women either. It depends on where you go to find them. Sometimes cities have hot spots for certain groups of people. Whether it be upper class professionals or what not. There was a club advertised on the radio here a few years ago just for professionals to kick it. I haven't heard anything about it since and don't know if it's still around. But it depends on where you look. Also you can try dating sites, they will hook you up with what you want. Cause honestly, 6 kids (that girl you were talking about) that is too much. That's a ready-made Brady Bunch.:lol:
 
It's time to start dating white women my friend. Less stress, less hassle, no bad attitudes, NO KIDS, and no baby daddy drama. White women usually wait till they get married to have kids.

i like white women to but to comment on your statement i just dropped a white girl off that i know to have an abortion(NOT MINE) 2 weeks ago , she already said she had 1 before and also has a daughter
 
If I were in that situation, 0. I couldn't date a woman with kids, I have a child of my own, it just wouldn't work. If things were to ever get serious with she and I we'd eventually live together and that includes her kids, I just wouldn't feel right playing in home daddy to her kids but not my own
 
If I were in that situation, 0. I couldn't date a woman with kids, I have a child of my own, it just wouldn't work. If things were to ever get serious with she and I we'd eventually live together and that includes her kids, I just wouldn't feel right playing in home daddy to her kids but not my own
Exactly how I feel
 
If I were in that situation, 0. I couldn't date a woman with kids, I have a child of my own, it just wouldn't work. If things were to ever get serious with she and I we'd eventually live together and that includes her kids, I just wouldn't feel right playing in home daddy to her kids but not my own

But you're more than happy for a woman with no kids to do the exact same thing you don't want to do? :confused:
 
i dont mind a woman with kids.....as long as they are well behaved. its the bad kids that drive me away from the women i've dated in the past that had em. if they can't respect or mind you......tha fuck they gone treat me? 2cents.

c/s 2 at the most and they have to have the same daddy.
 
But you're more than happy for a woman with no kids to do the exact same thing you don't want to do? :confused:

Are we assuming that my relationship soured and by some act of God I was able to win custody? Because without custody of the child I wouldn't be walking into the relationship with the same baggage a woman, who 9 times out of 10 has custody, presumably would.
 
Are we assuming that my relationship soured and by some act of God I was able to win custody? Because without custody of the child I wouldn't be walking into the relationship with the same baggage a woman, who 9 times out of 10 has custody, presumably would.

Ok, I wasn't aware of your situation. But nonetheless there is still a child in your life. I don't know your situation so I don't want to speculate... but don't you think at some point your child will still want to be apart of your life which would include your partner getting involved? It's still baggage... but again I don't know your situation so my bad if I've got the wrong idea.
 
Ok, I wasn't aware of your situation. But nonetheless there is still a child in your life. I don't know your situation so I don't want to speculate... but don't you think at some point your child will still want to be apart of your life which would include your partner getting involved? It's still baggage... but again I don't know your situation so my bad if I've got the wrong idea.

I'm engaged to my daughter's mother. I absolutely understand and agree that, in that situation, at some point you would have to include the new girl in your life and she would be a step mom. BUT I'm thinking more in terms of the bond I have with my daughter, I can't imagine what kind of devastating effects that would cause if I (me. I don't know about anyone else's situation) left our home to go play daddy somewhere else.

It's difficult to understand when you don't have kids. I'm sure it comes off as hypocritical, and I agreez because along with fat women who have a preference for athletic muscular dudes, people with kids that "had the nerve" to be picky used to irritate me... but now I understand.

I'd much rather exhaust my father/child time with my own kid and by night be the eastcoast JD Walker when it comes to women than to let my daughter even think I'd rather play house with some other kid(s)
 
I was messing around with this chic that had 3 kids by the same guy and the kids were cool and all but as I started spending more time with the mom the problems started to present themselves. She always asked me for money to help with her kids be it for school, christmas or birthdays, or just for herself. She also was 5 years older than me and she smoked plus her baby daddy was to get out of jail soon so that would of been a problem so I did like Silkk The Shocker and charged it to the game. So I guess 1 kid is cool, 2 is pushing it depending on what kind of kids they are ( i.e, bad, good, grimey, polite)
 
I'm engaged to my daughter's mother. I absolutely understand and agree that, in that situation, at some point you would have to include the new girl in your life and she would be a step mom. BUT I'm thinking more in terms of the bond I have with my daughter, I can't imagine what kind of devastating effects that would cause if I (me. I don't know about anyone else's situation) left our home to go play daddy somewhere else.

It's difficult to understand when you don't have kids. I'm sure it comes off as hypocritical, and I agreez because along with fat women who have a preference for athletic muscular dudes, people with kids that "had the nerve" to be picky used to irritate me... but now I understand.

I'd much rather exhaust my father/child time with my own kid and by night be the eastcoast JD Walker when it comes to women than to let my daughter even think I'd rather play house with some other kid(s)

True. I don't have kids so to be honest I could only imagine.
Glad you're marrying your daughter's mother. :yes:
 
None if you are childless. IF you have one, then one. If you have 2 or more, get with a women who is childless. Trust me, there are plenty of them for everybody.
 
Shit I can't blame you for that. Smart move if you ask me. You best believe as soon as that nigga got out he was comin to reclaim the pussy at all costs.

yea, plus the woman had said they were together for about 11 years before he went away.

None if you are childless. IF you have one, then one. If you have 2 or more, get with a women who is childless. Trust me, there are plenty of them for everybody.

I dont have no kids but now it seems damn near all these chics have at least one kid. Finding one with none is very,very rare.
 
One of my ex's had a kid (2 yrs old) and it was ok. The kid's father & his girlfriend were a pain in the ass. I wouldnt do it again.
 
when Halo says date white women , he is talking about the real white chicks that would never have a baby by a black guy.
watch out for the ghetto white trash women who would trap you and hit you for child support
 
any kid under 21 years of age are too many 4 me

Um, doesn't Tia/Tamara have a child?? :lol:

:yes: Less is more when it comes to shit like this. Zero is the magic number. But then you have dudes who get nervous about single women with no kids, especially if she is 25 or older. They start to assume the chick has "issues" (pyscho, immature, religious nut, closet lesbo) :dunno:

Um, yeah, they DO have issues. At first I wanted someone w/ no kids, but then again I wonder WHY they don't have kids if they are over 30. Either they are infertile or MESSED UP IN THE HEAD.
 
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