Toxic Relationships**Caution/Spiritual**

[onyxfemme]

Posting this because I actually just read this and wish I could have read it long ago-Hope this helps someone on here:

TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS
Toxic relationships!


'When a blind man leads a blind man, they both end up in the ditch'
(Matthew ) (15:14TM)

Your development, and in some cases your healing, can only take place when you walk with the right people!

Remember the story of the scorpion that asked a frog to carry him
across the river because he could not swim? How do I know you will not sting me? the frog asked. If I do, we'll both drown, he replied. So the scorpion hopped on. Half way across the river the scorpion stung him. As they were drowning the frog said, 'You promised you wouldn't. Why did you sting me? The scorpion replied, I cannot help it, it's my nature to sting.

Learn to recognize toxic relationships and walk away from them before they take you down with them. A toxic relationship is like a body part with gangrene; if you do not amputate, the infection will spread. Unless you have the courage to cut off what will not heal, you will end up losing much more.

You cannot partner successfully with someone who does not share your goals. When you feel passionately about something but they do not, it is like trying to dance the fox trot with
someone who only wants to waltz. You picked the wrong dance partner. Do not get tied up with someone who does not share your God-given purpose.


Some issues can be corrected through teaching and leadership, but you cannot teach somebody to care. And if they do not care, they will infect your environment, ruin your productivity and break your rhythm with constant complaints.

So ask God, 'Who belongs in my life?'​

 

[Andeyhollawho]

True.

 

[LoneStar29]

"The scorpion replied, I cannot help it, it's my nature to sting."

I will never forget that line for as long as I live ... hit me like a ton of bricks when I read that right now

Good post Onyx

 

[Tha Iron Fist]

Righteous. O

 

[Andeyhollawho]

"The scorpion replied, I cannot help it, it's my nature to sting."

I will never forget that line for as long as I live ... hit me like a ton of bricks when I read that right now

Good post Onyx

You never heard that one before? I think of that shit every time somebody does something messed up to me when I didn't expect it.

They just couldn't help it.

 

[MCP]

Some very useful info there Onyx.

 

[onyxfemme]

Just doing what I do.....While learning too...

 

[jucurious]

good post...i appreciate the message

 

[KingSE7EN]

GREAT POST!! Food for thought.

 

[P.L.]

Damn, this just made my eyes open up to seeing things different now. I always felt this way but didn't give up on people, but it's true, no matter how hard you try to change someone, they are who they are and no matter how hard you try to change them or yourself, we always go back to their true selves. Thanks alot for this Ms. O

 

[shanebp1978]

Funny, even though the article is slighted as such, everyone wants to see themselves as the hapless benevolent frog. Victim of a kind deed not going unpunished.

Boo fucking Who. People, YOU are the fucking scorpion.


I need people to understand this parable is not in it's original form, and it is presented to prove point.

Remember the story of the scorpion that asked a frog to carry himacross the river because he could not swim? How do I know you will not sting me? the frog asked. If I do, we'll both drown, he replied. So the scorpion hopped on. Half way across the river the scorpion stung him. As they were drowning the frog said, 'You promised you wouldn't. Why did you sting me? The scorpion replied, I cannot help it, it's my nature to sting.

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That does not show how it was a MUTUAL symbiosis. Indeed, much like a relationship, but lets know the whole story:
In the original the frog OFFERED, and also PROMISED not to DROWN the scorpion. The reason WHY the frog wanted the Scorpion was to scare away the stork on the other side, the Scorpion wanted to get to the other side.

But much like humans, even though self preservation is such a strong motivator, ( Proven in this thread by ya'lls Oh no, gotta watch out for Scorpions )!!!

That response also proves the self destruction of our nature. That mistrust, and fear is a daily basis destroyer of ourselves, our relationships, etc, etc, etc.





Some people like parables like this, presented in this manner, because it allows them to play the unwitting victim of uncontrollable outside forces, and reinforces, " It's not my fault. " Or their views of the opposite sex, it also supports, " Perfect match " syndrome, as if relationships, like anything else, should not require work.



Most likely, the toxicity is YOU. You are the common denominator in all your, " Toxic " relationships.

Stop stinging frogs and blaming them for your drowning also. Work on making yourself a better offering to someone, it's an ongoing process.

If your lucky, you'll find someone while your working on yourself, that you can trust to form a working symbiosis and the frog and the scorpion can get across that river of life.

But please don't fall victim to thinking your just a victim. You too can sting.

 

[jucurious]

Funny, even though the article is slighted as such, everyone wants to see themselves as the hapless benevolent frog. Victim of a kind deed not going unpunished.

Boo fucking Who. People, YOU are the fucking scorpion.


I need people to understand this parable is not in it's original form, and it is presented to prove point.



That does not show how it was a MUTUAL symbiosis. Indeed, much like a relationship, but lets know the whole story:
In the original the frog OFFERED, and also PROMISED not to DROWN the scorpion. The reason WHY the frog wanted the Scorpion was to scare away the stork on the other side, the Scorpion wanted to get to the other side.

But much like humans, even though self preservation is such a strong motivator, ( Proven in this thread by ya'lls Oh no, gotta watch out for Scorpions )!!!

That response also proves the self destruction of our nature. That mistrust, and fear is a daily basis destroyer of ourselves, our relationships, etc, etc, etc.





Some people like parables like this, presented in this manner, because it allows them to play the unwitting victim of uncontrollable outside forces, and reinforces, " It's not my fault. " Or their views of the opposite sex, it also supports, " Perfect match " syndrome, as if relationships, like anything else, should not require work.



Most likely, the toxicity is YOU. You are the common denominator in all your, " Toxic " relationships.

Stop stinging frogs and blaming them for your drowning also. Work on making yourself a better offering to someone, it's an ongoing process.

If your lucky, you'll find someone while your working on yourself, that you can trust to form a working symbiosis and the frog and the scorpion can get across that river of life.

But please don't fall victim to thinking your just a victim. You too can sting.

the rest of this and other stories can be found on www.truth.com

 

[onyxfemme]

Good observation Shane-I can respect that.

 

[shanebp1978]

Good observation Shane-I can respect that.

No doubt. I just think the author used the parable incorrectly. There is only one conclusion one can come to inconsideration of the meaning of the story.

The story is about self destruction, not being taken advantage of, because the Scorpion killed itself, there is little room to interpret it as anything else but self destruction.

 

[LoneStar29]

Funny, even though the article is slighted as such, everyone wants to see themselves as the hapless benevolent frog. Victim of a kind deed not going unpunished.

Boo fucking Who. People, YOU are the fucking scorpion.


I need people to understand this parable is not in it's original form, and it is presented to prove point.



That does not show how it was a MUTUAL symbiosis. Indeed, much like a relationship, but lets know the whole story:
In the original the frog OFFERED, and also PROMISED not to DROWN the scorpion. The reason WHY the frog wanted the Scorpion was to scare away the stork on the other side, the Scorpion wanted to get to the other side.

But much like humans, even though self preservation is such a strong motivator, ( Proven in this thread by ya'lls Oh no, gotta watch out for Scorpions )!!!

That response also proves the self destruction of our nature. That mistrust, and fear is a daily basis destroyer of ourselves, our relationships, etc, etc, etc.





Some people like parables like this, presented in this manner, because it allows them to play the unwitting victim of uncontrollable outside forces, and reinforces, " It's not my fault. " Or their views of the opposite sex, it also supports, " Perfect match " syndrome, as if relationships, like anything else, should not require work.



Most likely, the toxicity is YOU. You are the common denominator in all your, " Toxic " relationships.

Stop stinging frogs and blaming them for your drowning also. Work on making yourself a better offering to someone, it's an ongoing process.

If your lucky, you'll find someone while your working on yourself, that you can trust to form a working symbiosis and the frog and the scorpion can get across that river of life.

But please don't fall victim to thinking your just a victim. You too can sting.

Oh so the frog sorta used the Scorpio and got stung ... kinda set himself up or got what he deserved type thing ... is that what you're saying???

Edit:Ok after I read it about 3 more times I got it Yeah that was deep still ... some self-reflecting as opposed to blaming ... I get it

 

[Tha Iron Fist]

Dumb Frog and an even dumber Scorpion

 

[shanebp1978]

Oh so the frog sorta used the Scorpio and got stung ... kinda set himself up or got what he deserved type thing ... is that what you're saying???

Yes.

The story above gives no motivation for Kermit's ass wanting to cross the river?

Why take the chance with this guy on your back?

Read it this way:

A scorpion arrives at a river and sees a frog resting on a rock, the scorpion asks "What are you waiting for?" The frog replies "I can't cross the river because the stork over there will eat me".
The scorpion, needing to get to the other side as well, offers a solution to the frog and says "If you let me ride on your back, when we get there I will scare off the stork." Although interested, the frog asks "What would prevent you from stinging me?" The scorpion laughs and says "Why would I do something like that, If I kill you, we will both surely drown".
The frog and the scorpion shake hands and start off across the river; half-way across, the frog suddenly feels a sharp pain in his back. As his body starts to go numb, the confused frog looks around at the scorpion and asks "Why would you do such a thing, now we are both going to die!"
The scorpion looks down at the frog and says "I'm sorry, I really am, but it's what I do, it's my nature."

Still a tale of one not being able to overcome one's OWN nature, even if it opposes our own self interests.

The scorpion knew it would drown and die. Took the action anyway. The story is about the scorpio's self destructive nature.

 

[LoneStar29]

Yes.

The story above gives no motivation for Kermit's ass wanting to cross the river?

Why take the chance with this guy on your back?

Read it this way:

A scorpion arrives at a river and sees a frog resting on a rock, the scorpion asks "What are you waiting for?" The frog replies "I can't cross the river because the stork over there will eat me".
The scorpion, needing to get to the other side as well, offers a solution to the frog and says "If you let me ride on your back, when we get there I will scare off the stork." Although interested, the frog asks "What would prevent you from stinging me?" The scorpion laughs and says "Why would I do something like that, If I kill you, we will both surely drown".
The frog and the scorpion shake hands and start off across the river; half-way across, the frog suddenly feels a sharp pain in his back. As his body starts to go numb, the confused frog looks around at the scorpion and asks "Why would you do such a thing, now we are both going to die!"
The scorpion looks down at the frog and says "I'm sorry, I really am, but it's what I do, it's my nature."

Still a tale of one not being able to overcome one's OWN nature, even if it opposes our own self interests.

The scorpion knew it would drown and die. Took the action anyway. The story is about the scorpio's self destructive nature.

Uh huh ... and the frog shoulda known better too cuz stingin' is what Scorpions do eek:that rhymed lol) but for real the frog shoulda made a better decision ... he made himself the victim in this already knowing the Scorpions nature ahead of time

 

[P.L.]

Uh huh ... and the frog shoulda known better too cuz stingin' is what Scorpions do eek:that rhymed lol) but for real the frog shoulda made a better decision ... he made himself the victim in this already knowing the Scorpions nature ahead of time

No, not really. Think about it in the way you would help a person that you need just as much as they need you. You would normally think that if there's something major in it for the scorpion why would he be so stupid to sting and bring himself down with it. That's human nature, we try to think there is good in people, especially if there life would depend on it. But in the end, you just can't help some people no matter what good it will bring to both of you.

 

[Autobot8655]

Funny, even though the article is slighted as such, everyone wants to see themselves as the hapless benevolent frog. Victim of a kind deed not going unpunished.

Boo fucking Who. People, YOU are the fucking scorpion.


I need people to understand this parable is not in it's original form, and it is presented to prove point.



That does not show how it was a MUTUAL symbiosis. Indeed, much like a relationship, but lets know the whole story:
In the original the frog OFFERED, and also PROMISED not to DROWN the scorpion. The reason WHY the frog wanted the Scorpion was to scare away the stork on the other side, the Scorpion wanted to get to the other side.

But much like humans, even though self preservation is such a strong motivator, ( Proven in this thread by ya'lls Oh no, gotta watch out for Scorpions )!!!

That response also proves the self destruction of our nature. That mistrust, and fear is a daily basis destroyer of ourselves, our relationships, etc, etc, etc.





Some people like parables like this, presented in this manner, because it allows them to play the unwitting victim of uncontrollable outside forces, and reinforces, " It's not my fault. " Or their views of the opposite sex, it also supports, " Perfect match " syndrome, as if relationships, like anything else, should not require work.



Most likely, the toxicity is YOU. You are the common denominator in all your, " Toxic " relationships.

Stop stinging frogs and blaming them for your drowning also. Work on making yourself a better offering to someone, it's an ongoing process.

If your lucky, you'll find someone while your working on yourself, that you can trust to form a working symbiosis and the frog and the scorpion can get across that river of life.

But please don't fall victim to thinking your just a victim. You too can sting.

Well said shane

 

[Autobot8655]

No, not really. Think about it in the way you would help a person that you need just as much as they need you. You would normally think that if there's something major in it for the scorpion why would he be so stupid to sting and bring himself down with it. That's human nature, we try to think there is good in people, especially if there life would depend on it. But in the end, you just can't help some people no matter what good it will bring to both of you.

But what many dont realize is that they are not good themselves!!!!!!

 

[LoneStar29]

No, not really. Think about it in the way you would help a person that you need just as much as they need you. You would normally think that if there's something major in it for the scorpion why would he be so stupid to sting and bring himself down with it. That's human nature, we try to think there is good in people, especially if there life would depend on it. But in the end, you just can't help some people no matter what good it will bring to both of you.

Oooooooooooooooh ok I see what you're saying ... thanks for explaining

 

[P.L.]

But what many dont realize is that they are not good themselves!!!!!!

True, true.

Oooooooooooooooh ok I see what you're saying ... thanks for explaining

No problem I went through something similar a few years back. My sister in-law has 9 kids. So she would always let my wife claim 2 and me 1, well to make a long story short, she was approached by a young man who was briefly a friend of the family and she let him claim the 2 kids, 1 that i usually claimed and 1 from my wife. So she tells us this bullshit story of why we couldn't claim the kids, which we later found out was a lie, and the guy never gave her any money when he got his income tax. Now we had been giving her 500 per child and always paid when we got ours. Now who does she remind you of, the scorpion. And the killing part, he only promised to give her 150-300 per child. Now ain't that stupid. Yes i'm helping myself but nobody else was willing to give her 500 per child, but ? Now we both missed out on some money. And i never trusted her again.

 

[Eva Hornae]

Yes.

The story above gives no motivation for Kermit's ass wanting to cross the river?

Why take the chance with this guy on your back?

Read it this way:

A scorpion arrives at a river and sees a frog resting on a rock, the scorpion asks "What are you waiting for?" The frog replies "I can't cross the river because the stork over there will eat me".
The scorpion, needing to get to the other side as well, offers a solution to the frog and says "If you let me ride on your back, when we get there I will scare off the stork." Although interested, the frog asks "What would prevent you from stinging me?" The scorpion laughs and says "Why would I do something like that, If I kill you, we will both surely drown".
The frog and the scorpion shake hands and start off across the river; half-way across, the frog suddenly feels a sharp pain in his back. As his body starts to go numb, the confused frog looks around at the scorpion and asks "Why would you do such a thing, now we are both going to die!"
The scorpion looks down at the frog and says "I'm sorry, I really am, but it's what I do, it's my nature."

Still a tale of one not being able to overcome one's OWN nature, even if it opposes our own self interests.

The scorpion knew it would drown and die. Took the action anyway. The story is about the scorpio's self destructive nature.

this is deep, thanks bro!


very very interesting post, thanks!

great advice!

 

[onyxfemme]

bump

 

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It's alot to read, so here is the link...

http://www.rockyourday.com/5-people-who-secretly-control-your-life/

 

[spanishharlem]

Very Insightful ​

 

[Mo-Better]

Like the frog we elect to ignore the danger signs because we all want to believe. We ignore our instincts which are telling us there's a problem. Why?

If you meet someone who's sexually promiscuous how many of you really think you can change them? Make them settle down be true to you and only you? This is pretty much what the frog did, he knew the risk. Didn't follow his instincts and paid the price. The stork was only a threat, the scorpion was a sure thing.

Interesting story the trick is to put into practice the lesson the story teaches. We all recognize dangers and flaws in others. But how many of us actually take the steps to put distance between yourself and that person?

Great story Onyx.

 

[dHustla]

bump

you bumped this for me?

 

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