Can you reclaim a woman's respect once its lost

[John Million]

I saw a news program last night about how gender roles are changing during this recession. The program showed a man who lost his job that now stays at home with the kids and his wife works while he's unemployed.

The wife says that she has totally lost respect for him. She hates being the breadwinner and looks down on him when she sees him in an apron. She said something like that.

So I wonder once things turn around will this women still be able to respect her husband once he goes back to work and things go back to way it was before.

I believe its very very difficult once a woman loses respect for a man for her to go back to respecting him.
I'm not sure the respect will ever be fully regained by the man.

Women let me know how you feel about this.
Fellas chime in too.

Were in a relationship where your respect was lost?
Could you be in a relationship where the other person didn't respect you?

 

[jucurious]

man fuck her and her respect

that's some LAME shit to say towards your husband

be happy SOMEONE is the bread winner and be happy that he is helping out on the other end instead of walking away or completely shutting down

if this is real...she lost respect for him a long time ago



as for me personally...if I didn't respect you...as matter of fact, if I FELT that coming, I would end it

 

[LoneStar29]

WTF kind of wife is that??? Your man loses his job and now you don't respect him cuz you gotta hold the fort down for a bit???

Seems as if she only respected his money in the first place so she's a chickenhead as far as I'm concerned

As for me I wouldn't lose respect for my man unless he stopped working and never wanted to go back again or something like that ... and respect can be earned again I think

 

[Iron]

yeah i say fuck her too. Ungraethful slut.

cosign Ju.

 

[Mack10]

He should've lost respect for her after that. Relationships are supposed to be a team effort. I've been through the exact same thing, what the hell ever happened to, "through thick and thin?" Definitely not wifey material.

 

[nukdollars]

man fuck her and her respect

that's some LAME shit to say towards your husband

be happy SOMEONE is the bread winner and be happy that he is helping out on the other end instead of walking away or completely shutting down

if this is real...she lost respect for him a long time ago



as for me personally...if I didn't respect you...as matter of fact, if I FELT that coming, I would end it

WTF kind of wife is that??? Your man loses his job and now you don't respect him cuz you gotta hold the fort down for a bit???

Seems as if she only respected his money in the first place so she's a chickenhead as far as I'm concerned

As for me I wouldn't lose respect for my man unless he stopped working and never wanted to go back again or something like that ... and respect can be earned again I think

yeah i say fuck her too. Ungraethful slut.

cosign Ju.

He should've lost respect for her after that. Relationships are supposed to be a team effort. I've been through the exact same thing, what the hell ever happened to, "through thick and thin?" Definitely not wifey material.

Bless you all...

 

[Mo-Better]

Did you say "go back to respecting him?" Seems like she had some respect issues prior to him losing his job. For the wife to say she's totally lost respect for him especially with job uncertainty the only constant the last 9 years says little for her.

She sounds selfish like her place in life is upon a pedestal. If anything he needs to find a job and then lose her.

 

[John Million]

here's the link to the story

http://abcnews.go.com/search?searchtext=gender roles&type=

its the first video

 

[kjxxxx]

The sad thing is they have kids and I feel she will divorce him. There are lots of women out there like her and I hate them. They will break the family up rather than see it as him still contributing to the family unit. She also know that should the shoe be on the other foot he would have no problem with it. She wants to be his equal while she demean the role that women have long be playing when the man starts playing it. They want the male jobs and money but the males should not have their jobs and the pay that they fought and received in their old jobs.

I hope the court system will start turning around and awarding the men custody of the children the same way they used when the men were working and the women weren't and have them pay child support.

I hate bigots

I have been talking about this shit for a while on this board and got blasted for it but I don't give a shit. Men are the first ones to lose their jobs when the downsize begins. There are more men laid off than women in this whole thing. This is not a new phenomenon during the tough economic times.

I saw a news program last night about how gender roles are changing during this recession. The program showed a man who lost his job that now stays at home with the kids and his wife works while he's unemployed.

The wife says that she has totally lost respect for him. She hates being the breadwinner and looks down on him when she sees him in an apron. She said something like that.

So I wonder once things turn around will this women still be able to respect her husband once he goes back to work and things go back to way it was before.

I believe its very very difficult once a woman loses respect for a man for her to go back to respecting him.
I'm not sure the respect will ever be fully regained by the man.

Women let me know how you feel about this.
Fellas chime in too.

Were in a relationship where your respect was lost?
Could you be in a relationship where the other person didn't respect you?

 

[LoneStar29]

The sad thing is they have kids and I feel she will divorce him. There are lots of women out there like her and I hate them. They will break the family up rather than see it as him still contributing to the family unit. She also know that should the shoe be on the other foot he would have no problem with it but she wants to be his equal while she demean the role that women have long be playing when the man starts playing it. They want the male jobs and money but the males should not have their jobs and the pay that they fought and received in their old jobs.

I hate bigots

Very true

 

[BigATLslim]

To answer your original question, if she wishes to regain the respect once you have put in the effort to do so, yes you can.

In this particular case, it appears the respect was misplaced, there was none genuine to begin with, and he should be looking to reasess his relationship once the family structure has stabalized.

 

[APOPHIS]

This is an off topic comment, but do any of you have a problem with a woman who earn more work income than you do?

I know it shouldn't matter but it does.
I fault my own insecurity...

 

[LoneStar29]

This is an off topic comment, but do any of you have a problem with a woman who earn more work income than you do?

I know it shouldn't matter but it does.
I fault my own insecurity...

I've been in relationships where I made more but I don't see it as a biggie as long as the other person holds their weight

 

[sean69]

 

[SickMyDuck]

man fuck her and her respect

that's some LAME shit to say towards your husband

be happy SOMEONE is the bread winner and be happy that he is helping out on the other end instead of walking away or completely shutting down

if this is real...she lost respect for him a long time ago

as for me personally...if I didn't respect you...as matter of fact, if I FELT that coming, I would end it

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[toslane1]

 

[!!*10der*!!]

I've been in a relationship where the dude couldn't find a job after a move. He stayed home and *took care* of the kids. I honestly didn't have a problem with that and if my King lost his job today I would do whatever it took to hold him down cause best believe I know he'd have my back in that same situation.

OK so back to the dude, did I lose respect for him? Yep, sure did! but not because he was home unemployed. It was because he wasn't on the grind looking for a J-O-B, he let the TV babysit the kids, his non-employed "boys" was at the house with his ass playing games and eating all the food, he still bought Weed like he worked two jobs, he bought new kicks, clothes and a brand new truck (that I took back) and worst of all when I arrived home after working 10 or more hours he would head out the door to play basketball, not even giving me enough time to take off my uniform and relax.

Needless to say, that dude is history! Oh and two years later he FINALLY got a job.​

 

[aek_54]

This is an off topic comment, but do any of you have a problem with a woman who earn more work income than you do?

I know it shouldn't matter but it does.
I fault my own insecurity...

ask toslane.
his wife dumped for that very reason.

 

[Darrkman]

This is an off topic comment, but do any of you have a problem with a woman who earn more work income than you do?

I know it shouldn't matter but it does.
I fault my own insecurity...

If a woman making more money than you fucks you up in the head then then you got serious problems and need to better understand what manhood really is.

My wife makes DOUBLE my salary and I'm cool with it. Why....because that means my overall lifestyle is better. Get your priorities in order bro or you'll always be hating on someone who is doing something better than you.

 

[JofromthaNO]

If a woman making more money than you fucks you up in the head then then you got serious problems and need to better understand what manhood really is.

My wife makes DOUBLE my salary and I'm cool with it. Why....because that means my overall lifestyle is better. Get your priorities in order bro or you'll always be hating on someone who is doing something better than you.

Not only is your overall lifestyle better, but the overall lifestyle of your family and security is greater. Doesn't matter which partner in the relationship it comes from, if you ask me. I always laugh at the, "Oh, my partner has to be making as much as me or more." Job security, especially in this economy, is more important than the actual dollar signs. AND, a person making less money than me may be in a more stable job than I ever am...

 

[Dannyblueyes]

You can say all the "it's not fairs" and "she's a chickenheads" you want. The reality is that most women will never respect a man again once he loses his job for any great length a time (i.e. a month or more).

It's easy to understand why. This woman, through no fault of her own, is now forced to scale back her lifestyle. She also has to deal with her man staying home and interfering with her "me time".

She becomes resentful of things that she would normally accept. For instance, if he has a weekly night out with the boys it now becomes proof that he's an alcoholic. If he plays poker he now has a gambling problem. Visiting a strip club means he's a cheater and so on.

Even if the man gets a new job that pays equal or greater to what he made before the damage is already done. Worst of all he'll be seen as an inconsistent provider. Fear takes over and she realizes that the only way to have her man's steady support is through court ordered alimony and child support payments. Fortunately for her there's grounds for divorce in every marriage.

"Stand by your man" only holds water when things are going well. The moment they don't love, loyalty and respect get thrown out the window. It's unfair, but that's life. If you can't accept it, stay single.

 

[itzmotto]

imma say no....

 

[sean69]

I've been in a relationship where the dude couldn't find a job after a move. He stayed home and *took care* of the kids. I honestly didn't have a problem with that and if my King lost his job today I would do whatever it took to hold him down cause best believe I know he'd have my back in that same situation.

OK so back to the dude, did I lose respect for him? Yep, sure did! but not because he was home unemployed. It was because he wasn't on the grind looking for a J-O-B, he let the TV babysit the kids, his non-employed "boys" was at the house with his ass playing games and eating all the food, he still bought Weed like he worked two jobs, he bought new kicks, clothes and a brand new truck (that I took back) and worst of all when I arrived home after working 10 or more hours he would head out the door to play basketball, not even giving me enough time to take off my uniform and relax.

Needless to say, that dude is history! Oh and two years later he FINALLY got a job.​

Just curious, how long did you stay with the first dude while he was unemployed and fucking up?


And to address this issue, it obviously depends on the relationship's ego-dynamic of the couple regardless of who makes more money. If she loses respect for him if he loses his job it's just symptomatic of a fundamental flaw in their relationship. That's all. IMO.

 

[!!*10der*!!]

Just curious, how long did you stay with the first dude while he was unemployed and fucking up?

I stayed a total of 2 years AFTER he started fucking up. That was my bad ​

 

[dHustla]

You can say all the "it's not fairs" and "she's a chickenheads" you want. The reality is that most women will never respect a man again once he loses his job for any great length a time (i.e. a month or more).

It's easy to understand why. This woman, through no fault of her own, is now forced to scale back her lifestyle. She also has to deal with her man staying home and interfering with her "me time".

She becomes resentful of things that she would normally accept. For instance, if he has a weekly night out with the boys it now becomes proof that he's an alcoholic. If he plays poker he now has a gambling problem. Visiting a strip club means he's a cheater and so on.

Even if the man gets a new job that pays equal or greater to what he made before the damage is already done. Worst of all he'll be seen as an inconsistent provider. Fear takes over and she realizes that the only way to have her man's steady support is through court ordered alimony and child support payments. Fortunately for her there's grounds for divorce in every marriage.

"Stand by your man" only holds water when things are going well. The moment they don't love, loyalty and respect get thrown out the window. It's unfair, but that's life. If you can't accept it, stay single.

See... this shit here.. its true! And so fucking trifling it ain't funny. The thing that fucks with me is that women can have this "I need security, support, someone to provide for me." And feel like they're entitled to it(first issue) even though they don't have as much stock to trade(second issue).

Then let's address the disloyalty part. It's ok for a woman to jump from dick to dick, figuratively and literally, because she "feels" like the man she's with is an "inconsistent provider" or because SHE'S insecure about the man that 'SHE'S WITH'S' capabilities? This shows how inconsistent her decision making is and a lack of accountability.
It ain't just "stand by your man", it's also "stand by your decision" and "stand behind your choice". These women wanna be fickle and the brunt of the weight from their insecurities and unaccountability falls on the MAN! BY NO FAULT OF HIS OWN!

We are human just like y'all, women. We take falls, we take losses, WE ARE ONLY MADE OF FLESH!

So because I like to drink beer when you cook tacos... I'm an alcoholic?

Because I like to watch attractive women dance for entertainment means that I'm a cheater?

Get real lil lady!

Lastly, I'm going to say this....... Oftentimes we forget that relationships are a lot about ourselves rather than about what we are getting from another person.
For instance, how you interact with someone says more about you than it does about them. The person you choose to be with is a reflection you. How you handle your relationship also speaks to your character. Same goes for what you expect, what you bring to the table, what you offer, what you are willing to sacrifice, etc.

 

[dHustla]

And for the record.... I'm staying single!


Until I come across a woman, a lady that will offer me just as much as I will offer her. And best believe the scale on her side will have to include loyalty because without it...... no woman measures up to a man, as far as stock and trade goes.