Date Like A White Girl

[JofromthaNO]

In November of 2009, Essence Magazine printed an article entitled, "Date Like A White Girl." The article speaks about rewriting the conservative Black girl dating rules. A snippet follows below:

“Yes, I’m stereotyping White girls as footloose and free based on my first introduction to courtship (Kelly Kapowski on “Saved by the Bell”) and the White women in the cubicle next to me who don’t live in fear of some looming man shortage.”

I decided to stop screening every guy to determine whether he'd be my shot at beating the Black girls odds of getting down the aisle. Under my new rules I went out with a valet. The old me would have turned him down for fear that if "happily ever after" ever came, he wouldn't be able to keep the lights on in our fairy-tale castle. But just hearing his Jamaican accent as he placed his order was worth my time.

In face, most of my dates I went on were worthwhile. None of them was Mr. Right, but I was happy to have a Mr. Right Now to join me at a Yankees game or for brunch. A date is a date. And even when it's a dud, I won't feed into fears that love and marriage and beyond this Black woman's reach.

Do black women need to start "dating like white girls?"
Is this really how white girls date?
Do white women understand the rules of dating better than black women?​

 

[LeroyDibiase]

In November of 2009, Essence Magazine printed an article entitled, "Date Like A White Girl." The article speaks about rewriting the conservative Black girl dating rules. A snippet follows below:

“Yes, I’m stereotyping White girls as footloose and free based on my first introduction to courtship (Kelly Kapowski on “Saved by the Bell”) and the White women in the cubicle next to me who don’t live in fear of some looming man shortage.”

I decided to stop screening every guy to determine whether he'd be my shot at beating the Black girls odds of getting down the aisle. Under my new rules I went out with a valet. The old me would have turned him down for fear that if "happily ever after" ever came, he wouldn't be able to keep the lights on in our fairy-tale castle. But just hearing his Jamaican accent as he placed his order was worth my time.

In face, most of my dates I went on were worthwhile. None of them was Mr. Right, but I was happy to have a Mr. Right Now to join me at a Yankees game or for brunch. A date is a date. And even when it's a dud, I won't feed into fears that love and marriage and beyond this Black woman's reach.

Do black women need to start "dating like white girls?"
Is this really how white girls date?
Do white women understand the rules of dating better than black women?​

Snippet seems like a part of a decent article. IMO White women aren't looser or easier like a lot of Black people think, they just don't have the social hangups that some of us seem to have in terms of dating and sexuality. Every date doesn't have to be with your future husband. The Black women I've seen that date for date's sake and not necessarily husband-seeking tend to have vibrant social lives.

P.S. Kelly was a slut She dumped Zach twice for older men, one was a stat rape case and the other was a teacher. And he still wifed her up. Simp.

Edit: And I don't think White women "understand" dating better than Black women, it's just that the numbers issue is a REAL issue for Black women. There's just purely more White men in America, plus the chance of interracial dating is higher as well. If you're looking for a job and you get called to one interview, you're gonna take that interview real seriously, perhaps TOO seriously. But if you get called back to 20 interviews, you're like oh well if one or two don't go well cause you got so many to fall back on.

Good topic.

 

[melonpecan]

I have to ask, what are the conservative Black girl dating rules?

 

[JofromthaNO]

I have to ask, what are the conservative Black girl dating rules?

I didn't write the article, and can't find the article on the essence.com site in full...

HOWEVER, I'm sure they have to deal with not giving it up too soon, dating a man if ONLY you could see a future with him from the get go, etc...

 

[Cleopatra_J]

I have thought about that idea don't turn any dates down and don't put pressure on myself.. I never thought of it as white girl dating rules

 

[Mo-Better]

I can't believe what I'm reading even harder to believe Essence Magazine printed garbage like this. Date like a white girl? What kind of nonsense is that? What makes black women think white women don't have problems dating? White women have problems too. White women do not belong on a dating pedestal and they are not the black woman's benchmark for dating success.

I'm sure everyone has heard the term "know thyself." The black woman needs to stick with that, know yourself. Don't compromise who you are just for a date.

Being a gym rat I'm around younger black men on the regular and from the conversations I hear I understand the black woman's frustration in dating. (Hell I fear for my daughter everyday.) Many young black men are confused, without direction and clueless when it comes to dating and relationships. But I said many not all!

I was listening to a discussion on whats needed to redirect and refocus the black male. It was determined the black woman is the key. You want a strong black man who is focused and has a plan for life its up to you to put him on track. He's out there the same confused, directionless, clueless brothers I spoke of are that way because the black woman permits it. You deserve better and the only way to get better is to stop lowering your standards when it comes to dating. You know what you want in a man, demand it!

The black woman holds the key to the future. This doesn't just apply to dating it extends to the future existence of the black family and our communities. This is why you can't compromise who you are. Be strong and demand better it will happen.

 

[JofromthaNO]

I can't believe what I'm reading even harder to believe Essence Magazine printed garbage like this. Date like a white girl? What kind of nonsense is that? What makes black women think white women don't have problems dating? White women have problems too. White women do not belong on a dating pedestal and they are not the black woman's benchmark for dating success.

I'm sure everyone has heard the term "know thyself." The black woman needs to stick with that, know yourself. Don't compromise who you are just for a date.

Being a gym rat I'm around younger black men on the regular and from the conversations I hear I understand the black woman's frustration in dating. (Hell I fear for my daughter everyday.) Many young black men are confused, without direction and clueless when it comes to dating and relationships. But I said many not all!

I was listening to a discussion on whats needed to redirect and refocus the black male. It was determined the black woman is the key. You want a strong black man who is focused and has a plan for life its up to you to put him on track. He's out there the same confused, directionless, clueless brothers I spoke of are that way because the black woman permits it. You deserve better and the only way to get better is to stop lowering your standards when it comes to dating. You know what you want in a man, demand it!

The black woman holds the key to the future. This doesn't just apply to dating it extends to the future existence of the black family and our communities. This is why you can't compromise who you are. Be strong and demand better it will happen.

I understand what you're saying here, Mo Better. I hoped the intent of the article was to not put the white woman's dating habits on a pedestal, but to simply recommend that black women stop putting so much pressure on each date they make with a black man.

For example, I know many sisters who won't consider dating a man that makes underneath their salary, not understanding that maybe that man's occupation, over time, has more earning potential than theirs ever will. I also know women who haven't dated EVER, and have been just jumping from one relationship with a friend to another. I think, getting the experience of dating under your belt and enjoying the company of a man can help hone your dating skills and make you a better dater, if that makes any sense. Shucks, practice makes perfect... so, how do you know how to conduct yourself on a date if you've never really allowed yourself TO date? How do you know what questions will or won't turn a man off, in general, if you've never had the experience of asking them?

I know it may not be the norm, but women going on dates, asking 20 questions of a man, BECAUSE they're putting so much emphasis on "is he the one?," and "Can I take him home to meet my mother?" can scare men away. I think, in a bad way, this article was simply asking black women to allow themselves - and their dates - breathing room on a date.

 

[HALO2]

Let's put our differences to the side. Real talk, All women are the same. They all want to be cared for, they want to be loved. They want to get married and raise a family.They want a husband to grow old with.

One: white women are not submissive and will do anything you tell them to do.

Two: not all black women are hoochie baby making machines with weave and gold teeth.

There is really no such thing as dating white or black. A man and woman are born to be with eachother and to mate regardless of skin color.

The trick is like everyone knows is to find the one you want. Everyone has prefferences. Like some people like driving Nissan's instead of Toyota's. You go after what you like. You go after what you are accustomed to and what gives you the least amount of trouble.

If any man lives with his mom and has 4 kids and is unemployed and tells you he wants to marry you leave the relationship. It ain't going anywhere. Do better for yourself.

If a woman has a bunch of kids from different men, no college education and spends more time at clubs than with you. Leave her before you get her pregnant and have to be linked to her for 18 years.

Skin color does not matter, there are degenerates that are of all backgrounds. The thing men and women need to do is to find their mate. And by mate I mean the person that completes them.

 

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[Mr MajestiK]

Let's put our differences to the side. Real talk, All women are the same. They all want to be cared for, they want to be loved. They want to get married and raise a family.They want a husband to grow old with.

One: white women are not submissive and will do anything you tell them to do.

Two: not all black women are hoochie baby making machines with weave and gold teeth.

There is really no such thing as dating white or black. A man and woman are born to be with eachother and to mate regardless of skin color.

The trick is like everyone knows is to find the one you want. Everyone has prefferences. Like some people like driving Nissan's instead of Toyota's. You go after what you like. You go after what you are accustomed to and what gives you the least amount of trouble.

If any man lives with his mom and has 4 kids and is unemployed and tells you he wants to marry you leave the relationship. It ain't going anywhere. Do better for yourself.

If a woman has a bunch of kids from different men, no college education and spends more time at clubs than with you. Leave her before you get her pregnant and have to be linked to her for 18 years.

Skin color does not matter, there are degenerates that are of all backgrounds. The thing men and women need to do is to find their mate. And by mate I mean the person that completes them.

Real talk.

 

[LeroyDibiase]

So you're saying that most Whites and Blacks don't have different mentalities when it comes to certain things? Why do Black people, especially men, tense up more around cops? Because of our experiences, so it's not a stretch to say that the average White and Black woman has a different outlook on how they approach dating.

 

[Mo-Better]

I understand what you're saying here, Mo Better. I hoped the intent of the article was to not put the white woman's dating habits on a pedestal, but to simply recommend that black women stop putting so much pressure on each date they make with a black man.

For example, I know many sisters who won't consider dating a man that makes underneath their salary, not understanding that maybe that man's occupation, over time, has more earning potential than theirs ever will. I also know women who haven't dated EVER, and have been just jumping from one relationship with a friend to another. I think, getting the experience of dating under your belt and enjoying the company of a man can help hone your dating skills and make you a better dater, if that makes any sense. Shucks, practice makes perfect... so, how do you know how to conduct yourself on a date if you've never really allowed yourself TO date? How do you know what questions will or won't turn a man off, in general, if you've never had the experience of asking them?

I know it may not be the norm, but women going on dates, asking 20 questions of a man, BECAUSE they're putting so much emphasis on "is he the one?," and "Can I take him home to meet my mother?" can scare men away. I think, in a bad way, this article was simply asking black women to allow themselves - and their dates - breathing room on a date.

If I met a sista that asked a bunch of probing questions on a first or second date or wanted to take me home to meet mom I would run too. You build up to those type questions with time. I hear what your saying and your right. But let me say this, after a period of time someone who has your best interest at heart wouldn't feel pressured by those questions. If a brother is turned off by your questions there's no future there. He's wasn't the right one to begin with.

As for these sista's who set specifics on the men they date I say to them good luck. They are only limiting their options literally painting themselves into a corner where few if any men would want to reach out to them. I know someone like that and they are very lonely and will remain lonely. There can be flexibility without settling for less.

I don't think there's any set guidelines to dating everyone is different and every relationship will be different. What worked for your GF probably won't work for you. The dating game is just that a game. Dating experience means little because everyone you meet will be different. I don't think practice makes perfect because people aren't perfect and relationships are not perfect. No matter how well a couple may seem suited for each other.

Men don't want to be pressured into a relationship anymore than women want to be pressured. I think new relationships fail because people are unrealistic about who they are and what they want.

As for Essence that article title is just wrong. The best experience in dating is to get to know the other person and enjoy their company and your time together. Time will reveal what you will need to know about the other.

 

[actinanass]

I have to ask, what are the conservative Black girl dating rules?

I don't think she means "rules", she means approach. A lot of black women have a funny way of approaching a date.

 

[JofromthaNO]

As for Essence that article title is just wrong. The best experience in dating is to get to know the other person and enjoy their company and your time together. Time will reveal what you will need to know about the other.

I agree with this. The writer set a terrible tone in implying that white women date differently than other races. Interestingly enough, I think white women are pretty calculated in who they date, and rarely will you see a white woman dating outside of her income bracket or education level. HOWEVER, as Leroy previously stated, there are more white females (and males) than black females and black males. So, maybe they don't feel as limited either, if they chose to date within their own race

However, when articles such as this, and Dateline specials are always trying to prove the "Woe is me, Black woman" mentality when it comes to dating, it can't help but make a black woman reflect on are WE doing something wrong when it comes to "the dating game." Conversely, though, our black male counterparts are making their own decisions about not wanting to marry and/or opening themselves up to dating outside of the [race] box.

All in all, I think women SHOULD have fun while dating. I've dated all kinds of men, all shades/hues, all heights, etc. and I enjoyed MOST of the experiences with them because they all intrigued me. Some of my girlfriends wondered why I gave some men the time of day, but I know I gained some unique experiences (and learning opportunities) from dating them...

 

[JofromthaNO]

I don't think she means "rules", she means approach. A lot of black women have a funny way of approaching a date.

Please elaborate on what you mean by a funny way of approaching a date...

 

[HALO2]

So you're saying that most Whites and Blacks don't have different mentalities when it comes to certain things? Why do Black people, especially men, tense up more around cops? Because of our experiences, so it's not a stretch to say that the average White and Black woman has a different outlook on how they approach dating.

Not to go off topic but I think that anyone that has warrants or has done something wrong will tense up around police. I don't see why someone should feel intimidated if they did nothing wrong.

 

[Crown&Coke]

I understand what the article is tryin to say. And its true, alot of black women do take dating way too serious. I went to a movie with a girl I met a while back and after one date she was talkin like she wanted to get married and was looking waaayyy too deep into it when I was just thinkin "I thought we was just chillin having fun​

 

[Mo-Better]

I agree with this. The writer set a terrible tone in implying that white women date differently than other races. Interestingly enough, I think white women are pretty calculated in who they date, and rarely will you see a white woman dating outside of her income bracket or education level. HOWEVER, as Leroy previously stated, there are more white females (and males) than black females and black males. So, maybe they don't feel as limited either, if they chose to date within their own race

However, when articles such as this, and Dateline specials are always trying to prove the "Woe is me, Black woman" mentality when it comes to dating, it can't help but make a black woman reflect on are WE doing something wrong when it comes to "the dating game." Conversely, though, our black male counterparts are making their own decisions about not wanting to marry and/or opening themselves up to dating outside of the [race] box.

All in all, I think women SHOULD have fun while dating. I've dated all kinds of men, all shades/hues, all heights, etc. and I enjoyed MOST of the experiences with them because they all intrigued me. Some of my girlfriends wondered why I gave some men the time of day, but I know I gained some unique experiences (and learning opportunities) from dating them...

I too agree with Leroy, there are more white females (and males) than black females and black males. But I still see no reason to panic, I don't see any shortage of black men or women within my (its mixed) neighborhood. So I can't accept the notion there's not enough black men worthwhile dating. They do exist as I said before they may need a little guidance, a little help but they do exist.

We cannot sit and believe everything we see and hear. This is especially true with the mainstream television networks, the news, news magazine shows, in this case Essence and now even more importantly talk radio. We have to learn to think for ourselves, to read between the lines, to question and not blindly accept what we see and hear. Whites paint a negative picture of black people everyday.

"Woe is me" is exactly how these medias want us thinking. The media has its own agenda and to shed positive light on the non-white minority is not part of their agenda.

As I said earlier the black woman is the key the foundation of the black community. If she buys into the negative crap presented in the media daily it won't just be woe is me it will be woe on all of us. I think that's why I responded to the thread title the way I did. That title reeked of desperation.

 

[Blunt]

I understand what the article is tryin to say. And its true, alot of black women do take dating way too serious. I went to a movie with a girl I met a while back and after one date she was talkin like she wanted to get married and was looking waaayyy too deep into it when I was just thinkin "I thought we was just chillin having fun​

And white women don't do that too??

 

[Andeyhollawho]

Aight I haven't read through all of the comments so if I'm rehashing forgive me.

What I took from the article is what I find to be true between black and white women. White women tend to date men they are attracted to or that they find intriguing period. Don't really go much beyond "I think I will have a nice time with this guy if we go out." That don't mean she fucking him but it means there is something about him that makes her want to know more and she will just give him a chance so she can find out.

Black women. I'm sorry! Black women will not date a man based on so many far fetched ass reasonings that it is mind boggling. I met him at the check cashing place, he work at a department store, his shoes are old! Black women try to get to know a man within the first five minutes of knowing him and if he don't meet standard grade he is out. You got to run game, be slick, present yourself like you have money, etc. Most black women would look over a brother dressed like Bill Gates for one dressed like Billie Dee Williams. Passing up Microsoft for that Colt 45!

Now I know this is unpopular opinion here and I plan on getting flamed but it's true.

 

[jerzrep22]

Not to go off topic but I think that anyone that has warrants or has done something wrong will tense up around police. I don't see why someone should feel intimidated if they did nothing wrong.

u make a valid point but as we all kno sometimes u dnt have 2 do somthing wrong to get picked on by the cops a.k.a racial profiling this happening everday in america whether ur a criminal or not

 

[Crown&Coke]

Aight I haven't read through all of the comments so if I'm rehashing forgive me.

What I took from the article is what I find to be true between black and white women. White women tend to date men they are attracted to or that they find intriguing period. Don't really go much beyond "I think I will have a nice time with this guy if we go out." That don't mean she fucking him but it means there is something about him that makes her want to know more and she will just give him a chance so she can find out.

Black women. I'm sorry! Black women will not date a man based on so many far fetched ass reasonings that it is mind boggling. I met him at the check cashing place, he work at a department store, his shoes are old! Black women try to get to know a man within the first five minutes of knowing him and if he don't meet standard grade he is out. You got to run game, be slick, present yourself like you have money, etc. Most black women would look over a brother dressed like Bill Gates for one dressed like Billie Dee Williams. Passing up Microsoft for that Colt 45!

Now I know this is unpopular opinion here and I plan on getting flamed but it's true.

You are right. . . .may be an unpopular opinion with women but its truth​

 

[Nzinga]

Let's put our differences to the side. Real talk, All women are the same. They all want to be cared for, they want to be loved. They want to get married and raise a family.They want a husband to grow old with.

One: white women are not submissive and will do anything you tell them to do.

Two: not all black women are hoochie baby making machines with weave and gold teeth.

There is really no such thing as dating white or black. A man and woman are born to be with eachother and to mate regardless of skin color.

The trick is like everyone knows is to find the one you want. Everyone has prefferences. Like some people like driving Nissan's instead of Toyota's. You go after what you like. You go after what you are accustomed to and what gives you the least amount of trouble.

If any man lives with his mom and has 4 kids and is unemployed and tells you he wants to marry you leave the relationship. It ain't going anywhere. Do better for yourself.

If a woman has a bunch of kids from different men, no college education and spends more time at clubs than with you. Leave her before you get her pregnant and have to be linked to her for 18 years.

Skin color does not matter, there are degenerates that are of all backgrounds. The thing men and women need to do is to find their mate. And by mate I mean the person that completes them.

what ever, your signature and your love of white women is well known.

 

[JofromthaNO]

Black women. I'm sorry! Black women will not date a man based on so many far fetched ass reasonings that it is mind boggling. I met him at the check cashing place, he work at a department store, his shoes are old! Black women try to get to know a man within the first five minutes of knowing him and if he don't meet standard grade he is out. You got to run game, be slick, present yourself like you have money, etc. Most black women would look over a brother dressed like Bill Gates for one dressed like Billie Dee Williams. Passing up Microsoft for that Colt 45!

Now I know this is unpopular opinion here and I plan on getting flamed but it's true.

Alright, I'll bite and comment on what you wrote...

Do I think it applies to black women? SURE. Do I think it applies to ALL black women? NO!

But, yes, I agree that women, in general, try to size a man up before he even steps to them...we see you approaching and, in our minds we're thinking, 'Wonder what this brother got to say...' Call it a bit overprotective, but you have to understand, women get approached nine different ways, some blatantly ignorant, on a daily basis. I feel you, though, on not judging too early, but we want to make certain we're providing our number to someone who's not going to be a stalker/bug-a-boo or something even worse...

 

[sean69]

Let's put our differences to the side. Real talk, All women are the same. They all want to be cared for, they want to be loved. They want to get married and raise a family.They want a husband to grow old with.

One: white women are not submissive and will do anything you tell them to do.

Two: not all black women are hoochie baby making machines with weave and gold teeth.

There is really no such thing as dating white or black. A man and woman are born to be with eachother and to mate regardless of skin color.

The trick is like everyone knows is to find the one you want. Everyone has prefferences. Like some people like driving Nissan's instead of Toyota's. You go after what you like. You go after what you are accustomed to and what gives you the least amount of trouble.

If any man lives with his mom and has 4 kids and is unemployed and tells you he wants to marry you leave the relationship. It ain't going anywhere. Do better for yourself.

If a woman has a bunch of kids from different men, no college education and spends more time at clubs than with you. Leave her before you get her pregnant and have to be linked to her for 18 years.

Skin color does not matter, there are degenerates that are of all backgrounds. The thing men and women need to do is to find their mate. And by mate I mean the person that completes them.

Great scotts Batman! This changes everything! .

Man STFU.

Seriously.

 

[HALO2]

what ever, your signature and your love of white women is well known.

The reason I am the way I am is because I have been in alot of mess with black women. The children and the baby father's are so much to deal with. When I started dating white women there was nothing to worry about. We could hang out and do things at the spur of the moment, we didn't have to worry about finding a baby sitter. No kids, no baby father's to threaten me or ruin the relationship by using the child to come in between me and his ex. I've gone through so much crap I just said forget it. It's really difficult to date a woman that has 2 kids from 2 different men. That was the last black woman I dated.I'm not saying all black women are that way, this has just been my experience.

 

[Andeyhollawho]

Alright, I'll bite and comment on what you wrote...

Do I think it applies to black women? SURE. Do I think it applies to ALL black women? NO!

But, yes, I agree that women, in general, try to size a man up before he even steps to them...we see you approaching and, in our minds we're thinking, 'Wonder what this brother got to say...' Call it a bit overprotective, but you have to understand, women get approached nine different ways, some blatantly ignorant, on a daily basis. I feel you, though, on not judging too early, but we want to make certain we're providing our number to someone who's not going to be a stalker/bug-a-boo or something even worse...

Nothing applies to every woman or every person ever. But on a scale of skepticism of the opposite sex black women have got to be on the most skeptical side.

I got female cousins who sit around all damn day playing "the one who got away" game. That shit is sad! They just sit around talking about how they turned this guy down and now he this and how this guy is now that and how they could have been with him. Now they want to date any and everything but they seriously still have the same hang-ups that put them in this position in the first place.

It's just a date ladies! Get a google voice number if you want to. Once you get one you can change it every day if you want to. Tell the guy you will drive your own car and meet him at the date spot. But get to know some of these guys you dissing for real. You might be missing out.

 

[Blunt]

It's really difficult to date a woman that has 2 kids from 2 different men.

Now just imagine how black women feel when every black man they meet has multiple kids by multiple women, and don't even take care of them (the way black women take care of their kids). Kinda limits your [black] options.

 

[Andeyhollawho]

Now just imagine how black women feel when every black man they meet has multiple kids by multiple women, and don't even take care of them (the way black women take care of their kids). Kinda limits your [black] options.

If they are not taking care of them why would that affect your dating? Might affect if you want to date them knowing the potential but a man with kids who don't bring them around is not the same as a woman with kids who has them around.

I understand you are trying to be 'counter' here but you're off base with that one.

 

[DeSiRe]

i saw that article in essence...annd i was like...yeaaa this might be good

after reading the whole thing i was like

i agree with the part you posted...us as black women take dating waaay too seriously sometimes

they essentially say in the article...if u like doing something...go with a man and let him pay for it....even if u can barely stand the guy

being that marriage is higher among white women i imagined the article to be a little different...thats all

 

[Adam Knows]

Let's put our differences to the side. Real talk, All women are the same. They all want to be cared for, they want to be loved. They want to get married and raise a family.They want a husband to grow old with.

One: white women are not submissive and will do anything you tell them to do.

Two: not all black women are hoochie baby making machines with weave and gold teeth.

There is really no such thing as dating white or black. A man and woman are born to be with eachother and to mate regardless of skin color.

The trick is like everyone knows is to find the one you want. Everyone has prefferences. Like some people like driving Nissan's instead of Toyota's. You go after what you like. You go after what you are accustomed to and what gives you the least amount of trouble.

If any man lives with his mom and has 4 kids and is unemployed and tells you he wants to marry you leave the relationship. It ain't going anywhere. Do better for yourself.

If a woman has a bunch of kids from different men, no college education and spends more time at clubs than with you. Leave her before you get her pregnant and have to be linked to her for 18 years.

Skin color does not matter, there are degenerates that are of all backgrounds. The thing men and women need to do is to find their mate. And by mate I mean the person that completes them.

what ever, your signature and your love of white women is well known.

Great scotts Batman! This changes everything! .

Man STFU.

Seriously.

so what exactly was incorrect in what he said?????

 

[harlem1nyc]

I have to ask, what are the conservative Black girl dating rules?

To date a man who can potentially be her husband, in respect to her fantasies.....Looking for the 10/10 when she's a 4/10 on the Black Man's Dating Rule List!

 

[sean69]

so what exactly was incorrect in what he said?????

OK. Normally I wouldn't bother mostly based on dudes played out corny posting "character" on the board ... but eh ... I'll indulge you here.

Let's put our differences to the side. Real talk, All women are the same. They all want to be cared for, they want to be loved. They want to get married and raise a family.They want a husband to grow old with.

^^^
Your classical example of played out overbearing patronage. Why? For several reasons but most especially because he goes on to contradict this in everything else he says below.



One: white women are not submissive and will do anything you tell them to do.

Idiot.



Two: not all black women are hoochie baby making machines with weave and gold teeth.

No shit Sherlock. Want a Templeton Medal? FOH.



There is really no such thing as dating white or black. A man and woman are born to be with eachother and to mate regardless of skin color.

The trick is like everyone knows is to find the one you want. Everyone has prefferences. Like some people like driving Nissan's instead of Toyota's. You go after what you like. You go after what you are accustomed to and what gives you the least amount of trouble.

If any man lives with his mom and has 4 kids and is unemployed and tells you he wants to marry you leave the relationship. It ain't going anywhere. Do better for yourself.

Yeah. Men just suddenly materialize out of thin air into a woman's life with an engagement ring, two strollers and a diaper bag. FOH.



If a woman has a bunch of kids from different men, no college education and spends more time at clubs than with you. Leave her before you get her pregnant and have to be linked to her for 18 years.

Awesome analysis Montel.
I'm positively sure you're not stereotyping here. Nooooo, you couldn't possibly be just characterizing sistas here. Come on. Your posting track record here makes that manifestly obvious.


Skin color does not matter, there are degenerates that are of all backgrounds. The thing men and women need to do is to find their mate. And by mate I mean the person that completes them.

I don't know which is more pathetic, that he actually wrote this epistle or the fact that his bullshit escapes some of ya'll. LOL.

 

[Adam Knows]

OK. Normally I wouldn't bother mostly based on dudes played out corny posting "character" on the board ... but eh ... I'll indulge you here.




I don't know which is more pathetic, that he actually wrote this epistle or the fact that his bullshit escapes some of ya'll. LOL.

despite what looked like a typo/omission of a word, it's a simple statement.

i still question the apparent negativity to his statement. would it have been more reasonable if someone else said it?

 

[sean69]

despite what looked like a typo/omission of a word, it's a simple statement.

i still question the apparent negativity to his statement. would it have been more reasonable if someone else said it?

Even if the "typo" was corrected it would actually make the statement densely stupider.

And no.
Jesus could have said it and it would still be a bunch of intra-connected patronizing sterotyping bullshit and contradiction. The fact that HALO said it only makes it less remarkable and right now it appears that I've devoted way to many words to his post.