If a guy can't get women until he is sucesful what does that say about him?

[Delta7]

I started off 2010 working 2 jobs, the dude that pm'ed me a couple months back to ask how I'm doing knows the deal.

Last year was rough, very rough and I had mad money issues and other problems... 2008 was better and 2009 was probably the worst ever.

As for settling, I don't see it like that. You won't be 100% happy with any chick, you'll find something wrong with her.

 

[D-TOWN REP]

 

[Top_Bunk]

Gene dropping that real shit as usual

 

[ron_mexico]

The Mike Jones, the 50's, the Jay-z. All have said back then they couldn't get a woman.

I think this will be interesting to see how BGOL handles this.

I'm just trying to get this. If you can't get a woman it's you that have a problem.<<< That's the concensus on BGOL give or take what day. And if you have a mouthpiece, game you can get any woman.

But also i hear on here "you passed up the good nigga for a thug nigga".

Timeout. Wasn't that "good nigga" a lame because the women passed up on him?
[HIDE]That's a dam lie but anyways

I mean isn't he still a lame with a degree? If he has to be sucessful to get women what does that say about him?

I mean after all BGOL is full of macks and playas so if you can't get a girl you're a lame. [/HIDE]



So he was dogged out by women before and now that he on he getting that salary. Showed up in the dubbed out bugy ha?

It's not necessarily money that attracts woman, it's status. It is pretty much mandatory in this society either way you can get it. You can be broke, but if you have status in your circles, then you will get the girl.

Obvious examples are athletes and thugs have status. For most other dudes, Money equals status. But for the average cat who wasn't a D1 prospect and stayed away from the thug life, he had to wait for status. That's why alot of sucessful dudes are bitter when they get older, cause they know they better than anyone the diffrence status makes in dealing with woman.

 

[Top_Bunk]

It's not necessarily money that attracts woman, it's status. It is pretty much mandatory in this society either way you can get it. You can be broke, but if you have status in your circles, then you will get the girl.

Obvious examples are athletes and thugs have status. For most other dudes, Money equals status. But for the average cat who wasn't a D1 prospect and stayed away from the thug life, he had to wait for status. That's why alot of sucessful dudes are bitter when they get older, cause they know they better than anyone the diffrence status makes in dealing with woman.

you lost me right there.

But what does it say about a woman if she could get men and date them but after she is sucessful she can't find a good man?

 

[Mentor B]

I'm at birthday party bored and posting from the bb. But man I wish I could be one of the first to respond to these types of threads.

I remember when I first moved out on my own. My mom's was like, "If a chick don't want to be down with you b/c you're driving an escort, got a one-room apartment, and sleeping on an air mattress, you don't want nothing to do with her anyway. Without a doubt, I will always better myself. But I get with the women who like me for ME!!!

 

[8/11Streetz]

to many variables to this situations



i think anyone can get a woman now if its quality then thats a different story

 

[HarlemPerv]

I'm at birthday party bored and posting from the bb. But man I wish I could be one of the first to respond to these types of threads.

I remember when I first moved out on my own. My mom's was like, "If a chick don't want to be down with you b/c you're driving an escort, got a one-room apartment, and sleeping on an air mattress, you don't want nothing to do with her anyway. Without a doubt, I will always better myself. But I get with the women who like me for ME!!!

Exactly! I feel like if you can't share McDonalds with me, then don't come around when I can afford steak.

 

[Mentor B]

to many variables to this situations



i think anyone can get a woman now if its quality then thats a different story

Yeah but a dude is more likely to get a quality chick when he broke than when he is well-off. I hate to use a movie as a reference, but Coming to America serves as a good example. Bottom line - just get the women who are feelin, you for you and you ain't gonna have no problems.

 

[Rossini]

I'm at birthday party bored and posting from the bb. But man I wish I could be one of the first to respond to these types of threads.

I remember when I first moved out on my own. My mom's was like, "If a chick don't want to be down with you b/c you're driving an escort, got a one-room apartment, and sleeping on an air mattress, you don't want nothing to do with her anyway. Without a doubt, I will always better myself. But I get with the women who like me for ME!!!

I dont give a damn if a bitch like me for me, all i want is the pussy then she can keep it movin.

 

[SKATTA]

Says if they're smart enough to realize it, its a win win situation for them.

because even if the chicks not there they still have money.

 

[D-TOWN REP]

I dont give a damn if a bitch like me for me, all i want is the pussy then she can keep it movin.

a lot of these cats are older and lookin for a wife though..not just a bitch to smash

 

[Top_Bunk]

Exactly! I feel like if you can't share McDonalds with me, then don't come around when I can afford steak.

No woman wants a broke man.

Some might settle for a broke man but no woman wants one.

Can't knock a woman for having standards can you? Aren't you going to tell your daughter to go for a man with a good job, nice car, makes you happy....

 

[Rossini]

a lot of these cats are older and lookin for a wife though..not just a bitch to smash

aahh yes I forgot most of BGOL are in their 50's.

 

[Rossini]

No woman wants a broke man.

Some might settle for a broke man but no woman wants one.

Can't knock a woman for having standards can you? Aren't you going to tell your daughter to go for a man with a good job, nice car, makes you happy....

NO, im gonna tell my daughter to find someone with potential and stick with him.

 

[oolong tea]

No woman wants a broke man.

Some might settle for a broke man but no woman wants one.

Can't knock a woman for having standards can you? Aren't you going to tell your daughter to go for a man with a good job, nice car, makes you happy....

Yeah, but we're thinking like the bare necessities type of dude, they're thinking like the type to out ball the next dude.

Sounds okay but it's overly misinterpreted. Or is it? The brand name jobs they'll make your daddy in law (provided daddy ain't leave) are doctor, accountant, lawyer, banker, engineer and architect, aren't they?

 

[oolong tea]

NO, im gonna tell my daughter to find someone with potential and stick with him.

I wanted to give you props for this statement but...

I dont give a damn if a bitch like me for me, all i want is the pussy then she can keep it movin.

 

[ron_mexico]

you lost me right there.

But what does it say about a woman if she could get men and date them but after she is sucessful she can't find a good man?

I had a little typo in my previous post. What I meant to say was, a man who had status later in life knows better than anyone what a diffrence status makes in dealing with woman.

As far as woman who can't find a man after she becomes sucessful.

I would say it's a woman's tendency to attempt to date upwards. Many feel entitled to this. Most woman feel that the more they accomplish, the more likely they will meet the sucessful man. Another persons sucess is relative to how sucessful you are.

So in reality thier dating pool becomes smaller because they aren't actually looking for a "Good Man" they are looking for a "sucessful" man.

 

[Mr.Chuckles]

Man i'm put it like this a lot of men that have problems getting women need to ask yourself a few questions.

1. Do you only look for black women to date,.... if so this can be a big problem as of early year 2001 black culture has been overridden by the bling bling and thug era and it drives our women to only see a man as what he got FIRST then who he is on the inside last, it's sad when a decent man working a steady job can't get a quality woman just by talking some sense to her and not GAME ((WHAT THE FUCK I GOT TO TELL A WOMEN A WHOLE BUNCH OF SHIT FOR TO MAKE HER FEEL BETTER ABOUT BEING WITH ME FOR))i've been affected by this personally,most of these guys that spit game to women turn out to be DUDS and fall short of their target 90% of the time, do it make me mad to see this shit happen FUCK YEAH cause then this causes the next problem the bitter bitch syndrome but, now that i got older and more mature i begin to see it for what it is CULTURE.

Back in the 70's early 80's blacks had better CULTURE which produced a better man and female thats my only envy i have in this world, is that those days i couldn't be apart of it, if you meet most black men in there mid 40's to 50's and get a chance to meet there wives you will notice a big difference in them as opposed to our men and women of today, This may be the one or the main reason why successful black men in our current era date women of different races, i really don't think it's 100% because they want to but they may be looking for that subconscious balance in there lives that they didn't see in the black Culture community, as most of us bgolers who are men have grown up more than likely in a single parent home (( raises hand))

I know this is touchy but fuck it, i'ma say my peace cause i'm walking that road of success and for any brother on this board that's walking this path you need to pay attention to the women you interact with NOW and learn, now i'm not saying all black women are bad, or no shit like that it's just the DIAMONDS are hard to find for both black male and female, FUCK THERE'S NOT ENOUGH DIAMONDS TO GO AROUND SO THIS IS WHY YOU HAVE A LOT OF GOOD BLACK MEN WITHOUT WIVES AND GOOD BLACK WOMEN WITHOUT HUSBANDS,we hear allot of bitching from both sides of the aisle on this subject, women calling it the black mans fault and vise versa but one only has to look at our culture and wonder how much COAL is being passed AROUND.

2. Do you date outside your race,...... Man let me tell you i've met some of the most beautiful minds outside of sista's, never be afraid to take a chance on a women of a different race, black women are my first love but i'm getting older i can't wait till i'm 50 or 60 to find that black diamond, so instead i'll settle for a red one or yellow one or even a white diamond. You can't control time and it only go's forward!!!!!!

3.What are you really looking for in a woman,.............. well by trial and error i know what i'm looking for Culture being the main thing next she must be a free thinker everything else we can compromise.

Well i could go on and on but, collin just walk up behind me and told me to hurry up and hit the post button or else................................................I know some brothers and some sistas that read this will disagree but it's cool with it, maybe if we could control time things could be different.

 

[HarlemPerv]

No woman wants a broke man.

Some might settle for a broke man but no woman wants one.

Can't knock a woman for having standards can you? Aren't you going to tell your daughter to go for a man with a good job, nice car, makes you happy....

NOPE! Because that would just encourage her to be materialistic.

Why is it that either a man is broke or balling? What if you are somewhere in between?

 

[Costanza]

Man i'm put it like this a lot of men that have problems getting women need to ask yourself a few questions.

1. Do you only look for black women to date,.... if so this can be a big problem as of early year 2001 black culture has been overridden by the bling bling and thug era and it drives our women to only see a man as what he got FIRST then who he is on the inside last, it's sad when a decent man working a steady job can't get a quality woman just by talking some sense to her and not GAME ((WHAT THE FUCK I GOT TO TELL A WOMEN A WHOLE BUNCH OF SHIT FOR TO MAKE HER FEEL BETTER ABOUT BEING WITH ME FOR))i've been affected by this personally,most of these guys that spit game to women turn out to be DUDS and fall short of their target 90% of the time, do it make me mad to see this shit happen FUCK YEAH cause then this causes the next problem the bitter bitch syndrome but, now that i got older and more mature i begin to see it for what it is CULTURE.

Back in the 70's early 80's blacks had better CULTURE which produced a better man and female thats my only envy i have in this world, is that those days i couldn't be apart of it, if you meet most black men in there mid 40's to 50's and get a chance to meet there wives you will notice a big difference in them as opposed to our men and women of today, This may be the one or the main reason why successful black men in our current era date women of different races, i really don't think it's 100% because they want to but they may be looking for that subconscious balance in there lives that they didn't see in the black Culture community, as most of us bgolers who are men have grown up more than likely in a single parent home (( raises hand))

I know this is touchy but fuck it, i'ma say my peace cause i'm walking that road of success and for any brother on this board that's walking this path you need to pay attention to the women you interact with NOW and learn, now i'm not saying all black women are bad, or no shit like that it's just the DIAMONDS are hard to find for both black male and female, FUCK THERE'S NOT ENOUGH DIAMONDS TO GO AROUND SO THIS IS WHY YOU HAVE A LOT OF GOOD BLACK MEN WITHOUT WIVES AND GOOD BLACK WOMEN WITHOUT HUSBANDS,we hear allot of bitching from both sides of the aisle on this subject, women calling it the black mans fault and vise versa but one only has to look at our culture and wonder how much COAL is being passed AROUND.

2. Do you date outside your race,...... Man let me tell you i've met some of the most beautiful minds outside of sista's, never be afraid to take a chance on a women of a different race, black women are my first love but i'm getting older i can't wait till i'm 50 or 60 to find that black diamond, so instead i'll settle for a red one or yellow one or even a white diamond. You can't control time and it only go's forward!!!!!!

3.What are you really looking for in a woman,.............. well by trial and error i know what i'm looking for Culture being the main thing next she must be a free thinker everything else we can compromise.

Well i could go on and on but, collin just walk up behind me and told me to hurry up and hit the post button or else................................................I know some brothers and some sistas that read this will disagree but it's cool with it, maybe if we could control time things could be different.

Damn, all that writing and two of your three points are "date other races" with the last point being a vague trial and error non-point?

 

[beof]

With all these bad and quality black broads out here, you dont need a penny to pull a bad one. Hell , you dont even need no game, cuz the black ones know there are supposedly slim pickings if you want a black man. Easy as hell to pull bitches in 2010, them rappers have been full of shit since jump anyways in the name of trying to sell albums.

 

[2 ONE 3]

@ only getting hoes because of your bank account.



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[Mr.Chuckles]

Damn, all that writing and two of your three points are "date other races" with the last point being a vague trial and error non-point?

i'd be amazed to know how many o these dudes 30+ still waiting on a good black women

 

[D-TOWN REP]

Damn, all that writing and two of your three points are "date other races" with the last point being a vague trial and error non-point?

thanks for the summary fam, I started reading it but im getting throwed over here

 

[nyeleman]

Why does it have to be something wrong with the guy , why not look at the other side coin and look at the women. Too many of you are taking things personal for whats happening in women's minds as if it's your fault they are not choosing you.These women of today are not exactly good choosers and the ideal measuring stick for yourself. If they are not choosing you then you can focus on self improvement . I think most guys that are not chosen are way luckier than the ones being chosen because most of these men I see around's downfall is always these no good women.

 

[2 ONE 3]

I dont give a damn if a bitch like me for me, all i want is the pussy then she can keep it movin.

Talking like that...

You're bound to end up being that old ass nigga still in the club trying to holla at 20 yr olds well into your 50s.




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[Costanza]

thanks for the summary fam, I started reading it but im getting throwed over here

I didn't read that shit, I just looked at the numbered points and noticed that #1 was 70% of the post, that #2 said the same shit as #1 and that #3 was just added because it sounds better having a third point if you're going to number them.

 

[Mr.Chuckles]

I didn't read that shit, I just looked at the numbered points and noticed that #1 was 70% of the post, that #2 said the same shit as #1 and that #3 was just added because it sounds better having a third point if you're going to number them.

............... then move on then or read the whole thing

 

[HarlemPerv]

Why does it have to be something wrong with the guy , why not look at the other side coin and look at the women. Too many of you are taking things personal for whats happening in women's minds as if it's your fault they are not choosing you.These women of today are not exactly good choosers and the ideal measuring stick for yourself. If they are not choosing you then you can focus on self improvement . I think most guys that are not chosen are way luckier than the ones being chosen because most of these men I see around's downfall is always these no good women.

Another good and different way of looking at it. Sometimes, not being chosen aka overlooked is a blessing in disguise.

 

[Costanza]

i'd be amazed to know how many o these dudes 30+ still waiting on a good black women

You seem bitter...

Da_snitch asked "So why do women get bashed for passing that guy up when he was in college or before he got a deal?"

My answer:

Because who's doing the bashing?

Bitter men who ain't getting it.

"Every action has an equal and opposite reaction." I don't know if that's totally true but it applies here.

Place the word "black" before women and that's where you're coming from... I don't date any race exclusively but even if you do, if you perceive a whole race of women to be the problem, the problem's probably you.

 

[Costanza]

............... then move on then or read the whole thing

Am I mischaracterizing the post? Nope...

There's this skill, it's called skimming and the purpose is for analyzing bullshit without wasting time reading all of it.

 

[Rossini]

Man i'm put it like this a lot of men that have problems getting women need to ask yourself a few questions.

1. Do you only look for black women to date,.... if so this can be a big problem as of early year 2001 black culture has been overridden by the bling bling and thug era and it drives our women to only see a man as what he got FIRST then who he is on the inside last, it's sad when a decent man working a steady job can't get a quality woman just by talking some sense to her and not GAME ((WHAT THE FUCK I GOT TO TELL A WOMEN A WHOLE BUNCH OF SHIT FOR TO MAKE HER FEEL BETTER ABOUT BEING WITH ME FOR))i've been affected by this personally,most of these guys that spit game to women turn out to be DUDS and fall short of their target 90% of the time, do it make me mad to see this shit happen FUCK YEAH cause then this causes the next problem the bitter bitch syndrome but, now that i got older and more mature i begin to see it for what it is CULTURE.

Back in the 70's early 80's blacks had better CULTURE which produced a better man and female thats my only envy i have in this world, is that those days i couldn't be apart of it, if you meet most black men in there mid 40's to 50's and get a chance to meet there wives you will notice a big difference in them as opposed to our men and women of today, This may be the one or the main reason why successful black men in our current era date women of different races, i really don't think it's 100% because they want to but they may be looking for that subconscious balance in there lives that they didn't see in the black Culture community, as most of us bgolers who are men have grown up more than likely in a single parent home (( raises hand))

I know this is touchy but fuck it, i'ma say my peace cause i'm walking that road of success and for any brother on this board that's walking this path you need to pay attention to the women you interact with NOW and learn, now i'm not saying all black women are bad, or no shit like that it's just the DIAMONDS are hard to find for both black male and female, FUCK THERE'S NOT ENOUGH DIAMONDS TO GO AROUND SO THIS IS WHY YOU HAVE A LOT OF GOOD BLACK MEN WITHOUT WIVES AND GOOD BLACK WOMEN WITHOUT HUSBANDS,we hear allot of bitching from both sides of the aisle on this subject, women calling it the black mans fault and vise versa but one only has to look at our culture and wonder how much COAL is being passed AROUND.

2. Do you date outside your race,...... Man let me tell you i've met some of the most beautiful minds outside of sista's, never be afraid to take a chance on a women of a different race, black women are my first love but i'm getting older i can't wait till i'm 50 or 60 to find that black diamond, so instead i'll settle for a red one or yellow one or even a white diamond. You can't control time and it only go's forward!!!!!!

3.What are you really looking for in a woman,.............. well by trial and error i know what i'm looking for Culture being the main thing next she must be a free thinker everything else we can compromise.

Well i could go on and on but, collin just walk up behind me and told me to hurry up and hit the post button or else................................................I know some brothers and some sistas that read this will disagree but it's cool with it, maybe if we could control time things could be different.

 

[D-TOWN REP]

@ only getting hoes because of your bank account.



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thinking its ok and shit

 

[Rossini]

Talking like that...

You're bound to end up being that old ass nigga still in the club trying to holla at 20 yr olds well into your 50s.




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That probably will be me