How Do You Pull Women...

[Andeyhollawho]

I ask this because I have a homeboy who really needs some advice that I am not giving him. Here's the story.

My theory on women is that most women make a split second decision on if they are attracted to you or not. This goes in stages for me.

First - Overall attractiveness. Could be looks, clothes, attitude, body or whatever. If you catch her eye you move on to stage two.

Second - Presentation. How you approach them. The opening (or forgive me pick-up) line is crucial. How you come across sets the mood for the third stage.

Third - Hygiene. Yes hygiene. You can look and dress like Shemar Moore and speak like Billy Dee but if your breath or you stank it's a done deal.

Fourth - Conversation. This is the trick shit. Holding a woman's attention.

Here's where me and my homeboy get bogged down. If we are at a club and he sees a girl he may motion to her or walk over to her and try to strike up convo. Most girls are polite and flattered about it and will respectfully turn you down if they are not feeling you. My homeboy has a problem of believing that his approach was wrong. So if the girl turns him down he is prone to go into a REAPPROACH. This reapproach may happen like 3 or 4 times before the girl in question becomes a stuck up bitch in his eyes and wasn't feeling game!

I laugh but do ladies like this shit? Does this ever work on you ladies. I see it as if I speak to a girl and she is like "I'm with someone" or "I'm not interested" that is one for the books and that is that. Not this dude. He may step to the back, regroup and come back again with "Look I just thought you were beautiful." Turned down. Five minutes later. "Hey you want to get out of here and go for a spin." Turned down again!

Am I wrong ladies? Is that first initial turn down an indicator of not being interested or the man just not coming hard enough? Seriously?

 

[shaddy45]

mouthpiece

 

[maddcat]

Ya mean like this

All that shit is way to conplicated for me.

Shower,tooth paste,Smile politeness,jokes Freindlyness all work for me.



Here's the downside you'll never fuck every beautiful woman you meet.

Just roll with someone that's right for you. Quit tyin to be a pimp.

 

[Crown&Coke]

If I get turned down I keep it moving. U look extra thirsty if you steadily tryin to holla at a girl who aint feeling you.

Most people get rejected alot more than they want to but oh well. ​

 

[onyxfemme]

I dont mean any harm, but it seems as if a lot of women on this site are single. This is a question that you ask women who have men. So here is my answer-First YOU never settle for less than what you want. Now having said that you better be able to bring something to the plate. 2nd dont see a pretty face then just run up to her. Check her out for a minute-just by waiting 2 minutes to observe her you can tell alot about a women. Then make eye contact...If she glances back and smiles-approach her.
Thats all I have for now....

 

[JofromthaNO]

I dont mean any harm, but it seems as if a lot of women on this site are single. This is a question that you ask women who have men. So here is my answer-First YOU never settle for less than what you want. Now having said that you better be able to bring something to the plate. 2nd dont see a pretty face then just run up to her. Check her out for a minute-just by waiting 2 minutes to observe her you can tell alot about a women. Then make eye contact...If she glances back and smiles-approach her.
Thats all I have for now....

I don't think it's necessarily a question you ask women that have partners, etc. I think it's good to get a gathering on opinions for different women on how they do or don't like to be approached, because every woman is different. And, every woman has been approached by a man at least ONCE before in her life...

As for me, Crown put it best in saying that it can make the guy appear very thirsty. I mean, a guy should first check out body language, eye contact, etc. to see if the woman is even open to wanting to talk to someone else, first of all. Then again, I know some ladies whose body language may convey a different idea than what they mean it to.

All in all, if a woman, after a small conversation doesn't seem interested or blatantly tells you she isn't interested, keep it moving. There is truly nothing more a man can do or say after being rejected on a first impression to make the woman second guess her decision.

 

[Mo-Better]

I dont mean any harm, but it seems as if a lot of women on this site are single. This is a question that you ask women who have men. So here is my answer-First YOU never settle for less than what you want. Now having said that you better be able to bring something to the plate. 2nd dont see a pretty face then just run up to her. Check her out for a minute-just by waiting 2 minutes to observe her you can tell alot about a women. Then make eye contact...If she glances back and smiles-approach her.
Thats all I have for now....

He should post the question on BGOL where you can get more male responses.

This has never been a problem for me. Guess I'm just lucky. But it would seem from what Andy described this is an attitude problem.

 

[DeSiRe]

damn ur boy is looking desperate...after the club on the way home hes the one they are all gonna laugh about in the car

approaching women at the club vs out and about are two different scenarios that warrant 2 different approaches

regardless confidence is a must...

 

[Andeyhollawho]

I dont mean any harm, but it seems as if a lot of women on this site are single. This is a question that you ask women who have men. So here is my answer-First YOU never settle for less than what you want. Now having said that you better be able to bring something to the plate. 2nd dont see a pretty face then just run up to her. Check her out for a minute-just by waiting 2 minutes to observe her you can tell alot about a women. Then make eye contact...If she glances back and smiles-approach her.
Thats all I have for now....

I made that question kind of long so I appologize. The gist of it is I feel like if you approach a woman and nothing has interested her about you after that first convo and she has rejected you do you continue to engage her. Do women like to be continually engaged from different angles by the same guy? Do you as a lady if you were single feel like a man can say something on the second or third try to change her first opinion on you?

 

[sean69]

If I get turned down I keep it moving. U look extra thirsty if you steadily tryin to holla at a girl who aint feeling you.​

Most people get rejected alot more than they want to but oh well. ​

Troo dat.
It's all about guaging. You can get turned down in different ways from stright getting clowned and embarassed to the subtle snub. Which all depends on how much you put yourself out there.
I ask you for you fax number and you start acting brand new, FUCK you. Snobby bitch. And i'm out. Fuck that shat. Shit.

 

[Andeyhollawho]

I don't think it's necessarily a question you ask women that have partners, etc. I think it's good to get a gathering on opinions for different women on how they do or don't like to be approached, because every woman is different. And, every woman has been approached by a man at least ONCE before in her life...

As for me, Crown put it best in saying that it can make the guy appear very thirsty. I mean, a guy should first check out body language, eye contact, etc. to see if the woman is even open to wanting to talk to someone else, first of all. Then again, I know some ladies whose body language may convey a different idea than what they mean it to.

All in all, if a woman, after a small conversation doesn't seem interested or blatantly tells you she isn't interested, keep it moving. There is truly nothing more a man can do or say after being rejected on a first impression to make the woman second guess her decision.

This is my thinking right here Jo. Nail on the head. After that you are really just trying to give a girl gas and keys to the car to run your ass over. No offense to the ladies but there are plenty of you out here for me to be begging one who doesn't want my attention for it. I try to get this through to him. No one has said yet that this is flattering.

 

[Andeyhollawho]

damn ur boy is looking desperate...after the club on the way home hes the one they are all gonna laugh about in the car

approaching women at the club vs out and about are two different scenarios that warrant 2 different approaches

regardless confidence is a must...

He do the same thing at Wal-mart and gets clowned all the damn time. I hate to roll with him! I keep asking him if he thinks this shit really works or has it in the past.

I get no response.