Interesting Article on "Open" Relationships...

[Black Sexxxploitation]

http://planetill.wordpress.com/2009/07/06/are-you-the-odd-woman-out/

Are You The Odd Woman Out?

By G.I.N.A. (Game Is Not Allowed)

As a single woman I’ll admit it’s hard to remain optimistic about finding that special someone. The dating scene can be very discouraging . Having multiple sex partners seems to be the norm and many people have no rules when it comes to sexual behavior and its boundaries in their relationships. Anything goes and monogamy is becoming an ancient practice.

Recently I listened as a popular radio personality did a segment on open relationships. Special guests were invited to speak positively on the topic, the host shared his personal story, and listeners called in to express their views. I was waiting for more people to call in appalled and irate, because surely the rapid rise in newly diagnosed cases of HIV, Aids and other STD’s is scaring people straight. However, the arguments against partner swapping were few, which is probably why the numbers of infected continue to climb. We’re in the midst of a revolution and it seems only the sexually liberal will survive.

Infidelity has long been a thorn in the side of many suckers for love, it’s nothing new. What is unfortunate is that (some) folks view this as a common (!!) and acceptable (?!) occurrence. Not only are both men and women willing to share their bed buddies, both genders are becoming more carefree and open about their sexual appetites. There are swingers (couples and singles who engage in swapping of sex partners) and polyamorists, (those who have more than one romantic relationship at a time) which are nothing more than fancy names for cheaters. While these groups will insist their actions are consensual amongst those involved, we know this isn’t always the case. As the popularity of these sexual cults rises, the institution of monogamy continues to vanish.

So what does this erotic free for all mean for the rest of us? Do we conform to society’s standards by lowering our own? Can monogamy survive in modern day Sodom and Gomorrah? I don’t know but what I am sure of is this is not what God intended for us. With the rise of sexually transmitted diseases, this can’t be what we want for ourselves.

Even our youth are being affected by this phenomenon. They are being inundated with music celebrating girlfriends having girlfriends and men more than happy being “boyfriend number two”. We are inviting young people into a convoluted world of questionable sex practices and distorted views on relationships.

I still believe in the basic fundamentals of relationships (an old soul trapped in modern times), the most important being monogamy. I often feel outnumbered on this topic, as I encounter more people willing to be involved in an affair than those who frown upon it. No matter what words are used to dress it up, a cheater is a cheater, and this is one matter I refuse to compromise on. Yes I know I’m probably considered a prude by today’s standards but I take pleasure in being the odd (wo)man out. For those (fleeting few) who agree maybe we’ll meet one day on the high road to sexual morality.

http://planetill.wordpress.com/2009/07/06/are-you-the-odd-woman-out/

 

[BigDaddyBuk]

i tell you what homes...

i love the idea of being married and having one side piece to do the shit my wife can't do...but the idea of her submitting to some other ninja's dick makes me mad enough to whoop a couple of strangers on GP alone.

so i keep it all in house.

now if one day she just up and gave me permission while promising to not creep herself...welll...um...HMMMMM....

 

[Blu Diablo]

If monogamy were a natural human trait there would never be infidelity, yet somehow throughout history, there it is. Hmm....

 

[bwb]

i tell you what homes...

i love the idea of being married and having one side piece to do the shit my wife can't do...but the idea of her submitting to some other ninja's dick makes me mad enough to whoop a couple of strangers on GP alone.

so i keep it all in house.

now if one day she just up and gave me permission while promising to not creep herself...welll...um...HMMMMM....

chuuuuch

 

[Blu Diablo]

I'm not religious at all (esp. being on a porn board) but the far right wing equate it to being SIN

Homey when the right wing practices what it preaches I can begin to take their opinions seriously but they are some of the biggest hypocrites goin'.

That said, monogamy and infidelity does not adhere to religion, party lines, race, gender, or any other socio-economic markers.

 

[Genetic]

In a open relationship you have to have rules and boundaries otherwise it will never work. Some people just don't like to follow rules. Like for example:

1.Wearing protection is a must (Not many follow this rule),

2.Never spend any money on your outside partner if bills or inside partner needs are not met (again not too many people follow this one either).

3.Limit your time, never mislead a person on to get attach, let it be known it is strictly a fuck thing(too many people fall in love with their side partners or spend too much time with them).

and the list can go on but people need to be carefull how they approach the open relationship thing.

 

[DASK]

i tell you what homes...

i love the idea of being married and having one side piece to do the shit my wife can't do...but the idea of her submitting to some other ninja's dick makes me mad enough to whoop a couple of strangers on GP alone.

so i keep it all in house.

now if one day she just up and gave me permission while promising to not creep herself...welll...um...HMMMMM....

That sir, is called eating your cake and having it. But its nice to think about though...

 

[4ce of n8ur]

this article isn't that interesting. the writer is so emotional and hell bent on weaving her own turmoil into the writing that she forgets to keep a consistent thread through the article.

she maintains that open relationships are still "cheating" even though partners are both aware of the circumstances of their relationships.

she seeks to impose her own sense of morality and pushes it from a victim's perspective to hid her inability to change with the times and adapt to circumstances.

men are more adaptable in this manner because sex is the primary objective and this revolution means more of it and more variety.

the women who struggle under this paradigm are the women who subconsciously feel like they fail to compete on the open market for top shelf partners - who are outcompeted.

It's the "I will not lose, so they try and help him cheat?"

She's like, am I the only moral one left? Based on what, bitch? polygamy has a longer history in humanity than monogamy does so by any measure. the bible never explicitly states that monogamy is the one true path - it's a modern convention. so even on that she fails.

She tries moral. she tries religious. she tries condescending. None work. Incidentally this type of behavior is the shit that keeps you from holding down a nigga.

if you're so much better than the rest of us than who better to go without?

good luck being barren.

 

[dHustla]

That article bases the boundaries for a relationship on what is "socially acceptable" instead of what each individual, consenting adult wants.

A relationship is what you make it.

I am open and honest with everybody I deal with, most can't handle it and some embrace it.

If I'm not looking to be in a (exclusive) relationship with anybody, then that includes them. So I shouldn't want to have sex without having a relationship?

Also, I use protection religiously. I have only had unprotected sex like 12-15 times in my life, only had like 2 meaningful relationships and even with those I didn't treat them as such at the time. I'm ok with using protection 100% of the time in a relationship as well as outside a relationship.

My trust issues are out of this world and I really don't think it's natural to trust somebody with your life just for the sake of sex.

I feel like my Tuesday chick has absolutely no bearing or effect on my Friday bitch. What I do with one has nothing to do with what I do with the other. And yes, I tell them I'm not exclusive.... sometimes repeatedly, so they get the point.

I'm very responsible with my words and my actions.

 

[dHustla]

she maintains that open relationships are still "cheating" even though partners are both aware of the circumstances of their relationships.

Exactly! How is it cheating when there is no deception and everyone is in the know, as well as partaking in the same behavior?

the women who struggle under this paradigm are the women who subconsciously feel like they fail to compete on the open market for top shelf partners - who are outcompeted.

Out-competed is the right word. As is insecure and self-centered

if you're so much better than the rest of us than who better to go without?

Damn.... SO PROFOUND!

 

[John_Gault]

The writer of the article is simply blind to the REAL original ways of man. Her whole concept of relationships is deeply couched in bible based rhetoric. i.e. "what god has intended" . . . like SHE (or anyone else for that matter) would know.


I've been saying this shit for almost 20 years . . . glad to see my thoughts vindicated in the transforming landscape of relationships.


Live your fucking life and the hell with what others are doing . . . in their relationships. Create your OWN rules, fuck a historical document written by long dead motherfuckas

SKEET-MothaFUCKIN'-SKEET BITCHES!

JG

 

[JD Walker]

Fuck this bitches, in every sense of the word.

Why be in a relationship in the first place?

Bitches just want male pets, nothing more.

 

[kinglickk]

The writer of the article is simply blind to the REAL original ways of man. Her whole concept of relationships is deeply couched in bible based rhetoric. i.e. "what god has intended" . . . like SHE (or anyone else for that matter) would know.


I've been saying this shit for almost 20 years . . . glad to see my thoughts vindicated in the transforming landscape of relationships.


Live your fucking life and the hell with what others are doing . . . in their relationships. Create your OWN rules, fuck a historical document written by long dead motherfuckas

SKEET-MothaFUCKIN'-SKEET BITCHES!

JG

John Gault - You are a wise man.

 

[Les W]

this article isn't that interesting. the writer is so emotional and hell bent on weaving her own turmoil into the writing that she forgets to keep a consistent thread through the article.

she maintains that open relationships are still "cheating" even though partners are both aware of the circumstances of their relationships.

she seeks to impose her own sense of morality and pushes it from a victim's perspective to hid her inability to change with the times and adapt to circumstances.

men are more adaptable in this manner because sex is the primary objective and this revolution means more of it and more variety.

the women who struggle under this paradigm are the women who subconsciously feel like they fail to compete on the open market for top shelf partners - who are outcompeted.

It's the "I will not lose, so they try and help him cheat?"

She's like, am I the only moral one left? Based on what, bitch? polygamy has a longer history in humanity than monogamy does so by any measure. the bible never explicitly states that monogamy is the one true path - it's a modern convention. so even on that she fails.

She tries moral. she tries religious. she tries condescending. None work. Incidentally this type of behavior is the shit that keeps you from holding down a nigga.

if you're so much better than the rest of us than who better to go without?

good luck being barren.

Not to bring up old topics but since it pertains here I will hint at it...From 'the grass eaters' you seemed to shun changes in traditional relationships and social behaviour So are you with the progressives now?

I've been saying this shit for almost 20 years . . . glad to see my thoughts vindicated in the transforming landscape of relationships.

Same lifetime marriage is unrealistic or rather VERY rare for two people to be that engaging for all those years

Why be in a relationship in the first place?

Bitches just want male pets, nothing more.

And lots of men are willing to do tricks to be kept as pets too

 

[PointyHeadPimp]

The funny thing to me is that people are claiming that a religious mate is a good mate, because they won't cheat...I have a homboy that fucked atleast 15 women in his church...brainwashed sheeple

 

[Genetic]

The writer of the article is simply blind to the REAL original ways of man. Her whole concept of relationships is deeply couched in bible based rhetoric. i.e. "what god has intended" . . . like SHE (or anyone else for that matter) would know.


I've been saying this shit for almost 20 years . . . glad to see my thoughts vindicated in the transforming landscape of relationships.


Live your fucking life and the hell with what others are doing . . . in their relationships. Create your OWN rules, fuck a historical document written by long dead motherfuckas

SKEET-MothaFUCKIN'-SKEET BITCHES!

JG

C/S

 

[Costanza]

"Can monogamy survive in modern day Sodom and Gomorrah? I don’t know but what I am sure of is this is not what God intended for us."

My letter to the author:

Dear dumbass,

Was monogamy even a practice in the actual time of Sodom and Gomorrah?

Costanza

 

[LoneStar29]

"Open relationships" might be the way to go since the majority of people have no clue how to be faithful and honest in relationships nowadays anyways

It's sad really IMO

 

[JD Walker]

"Open relationships" might be the way to go since the majority of people have no clue how to be faithful and honest in relationships nowadays anyways

It's sad really IMO

I want you, you the single unemployed statistic with bastard child in hand, to explain to all the men of BGOL why YOU are worth spending a monogomous lifetime with.

 

[Autobot8655]

utter and complete bullshit.

When you are in a relationship, let it be known the standards that you EXPECT to be followed.

Fuck this "everybody is doing it so I will too" mentality.

Monogamy is whats best for me and whatever woman that I choose to date.

If she is not down with monogamy, there are several other women out there willing.

Fucking stupid ass pop-culture bullshit.........and the SIMPS who follow it

 

[HarlemPerv]

How would you handle being a dude in an open relationship while your sig other is getting dicked down left and right? Its way easier for a woman to get fucked then for us to get ass, on the average.

Your average Open week- Your girl brings home about 2-3 dudes
You- still struggling to convince 1 its cool.

How do you win with odds like that?

 

[BigDaddyBuk]

How would you handle being a dude in an open relationship while your sig other is getting dicked down left and right? Its way easier for a woman to get fucked then for us to get ass, on the average.

Your average Open week- Your girl brings home about 2-3 dudes
You- still struggling to convince 1 its cool.

How do you win with odds like that?

i have never understood this mentality/experience.

can you explain this???

are you 5' 2" and 600lbs?

 

[JD Walker]

How would you handle being a dude in an open relationship while your sig other is getting dicked down left and right? Its way easier for a woman to get fucked then for us to get ass, on the average.

Your average Open week- Your girl brings home about 2-3 dudes
You- still struggling to convince 1 its cool.

How do you win with odds like that?

Don't get in to a relationship.

 

[JD Walker]

i have never understood this mentality/experience.

can you explain this???

are you 5' 2" and 600lbs?

After you finish owning him I will start a thread entitled: Walker 101: Teaching Simps how to get LAID.

 

[Costanza]

How would you handle being a dude in an open relationship while your sig other is getting dicked down left and right? Its way easier for a woman to get fucked then for us to get ass, on the average.

Your average Open week- Your girl brings home about 2-3 dudes
You- still struggling to convince 1 its cool.

How do you win with odds like that?

Its not even a relationship, these people are basically fuck buddies.

Open is synonymous with "non."

 

[NorthsideOKC]

How would you handle being a dude in an open relationship while your sig other is getting dicked down left and right? Its way easier for a woman to get fucked then for us to get ass, on the average.

Your average Open week- Your girl brings home about 2-3 dudes
You- still struggling to convince 1 its cool.

How do you win with odds like that?

i could because i dont give fuck. Im not emotional when it comes to that. only a certain type of dude can do it

 

[BigDaddyBuk]

After you finish owning him I will start a thread entitled: Walker 101: Teaching Simps how to get LAID.

man i don't even want to clown dude...but that shit he said perplexes me.

 

[HarlemPerv]

Its not even a relationship, these people are basically fuck buddies.

Open is synonymous with "non."

Basically.

 

[4ce of n8ur]

Not to bring up old topics but since it pertains here I will hint at it...From 'the grass eaters' you seemed to shun changes in traditional relationships and social behaviour So are you with the progressives now?




Same lifetime marriage is unrealistic or rather VERY rare for two people to be that engaging for all those years



And lots of men are willing to do tricks to be kept as pets too

what did i say in that thread? grass eaters?? them niggas were homos. i'm opposed to homosexuality in the black community because it reduces biodiversity which reduces the race's ability to survive.

next question.

 

[Entrepronegro]

 

[HarlemPerv]

You simply can't ... and it's why more and more men are the ones being first to say FUCK NO to marriage. I for one am a big fan of marriage but these days I already know that shit is slim to none a chance of working out.

The modern feminist female will have a couple side dudes and one night stands with some fuck buddies all mixed in while expecting me to be faithful ... and if I don't and "cheat on her" it's straight to divorce court where I'm getting legally raped

This makes sense.... Most men especially Black men feel as though they have nothing to gain and everything to lose from marriage.

 

[BigDaddyBuk]

The modern feminist female will have a couple side dudes and one night stands with some fuck buddies all mixed in while expecting me to be faithful ... and if I don't and "cheat on her" it's straight to divorce court where I'm getting legally raped

then don't get a "modern feminist female".

get you a chick who has the characteristics you need in a woman, and leave the rest alone.

 

[Megazell]

First off this article is too focused on "God" to be of any relevance to the masses. The view point is narrow - I think she is talking to herself.

If this author is seriously having trouble finding a mate that is monogamous. Chances are there is more to her problem than what other people are doing or not doing.

Most people who are into "Open Relationships" are not like the common people out there looking to get laid.

We first and foremost - Prioritize life at home first with rules and regulations all things major and minor.

Second - We test regularly and only mess with partners that will also test regularly.

Third - They - 9/10 - have a greater sense of emotional control. They do not get angry, envious or controlling with their partners like others do. So it's all touch and go.

Most people want to believe they are damaged. That they are somehow fucked up and that this is their release. While that may be true for some (they are probably fucked before they even started down the "Open Road") it usually not true.

Here is a story from something I experienced.

This chick that I was really digging and I decided to get serious (2 years dating - 1 year just dating each other) - Moving in.

I sat down with her and was like "Look - You and I both have serious sex drives - If you think you are going to step out on me - Let's talk about that now (vice-versa) - In other words - Maybe we should keep it open - I can handle the truth upfront you know - So long as you come back to me and I to you....etc"

She was adamant and was like "We are going to do this - You and I only - We can make this work."

I said - Ok - You sure - Alright let's continue.

One day several months later - She was like - Yo - I am going out with "Female Friend" - Girls night out - I will be back at this time. I was like word - Peace.

Few moments later - Female Friend stops by - I am like - Ok - Keeps mouth shut.

Got a call @ 7:30 PM EST - "Yo I am here with "Female Friend" - This club is popping - See you soon"

I was like - Cool - Female Friend still @ my crib an been trying to get at for the entire time - @ 7:43 PM EST - I had all of my ex-girl's shit packed up. Made a sandwich. Got a metro card with 1 fare on it. Placed all her stuff out my door - Neatly packaged - Changed locks (always have extra locks - Change my locks every 6 months) - Fucked the shit out of her "Female Friend" from 7:54 PM EST to 1:13 AM EST - When she came to the door. Ask her Female Friend to leave - They crossed eyes. - She started to blabber some thing about her ex - Closed my door - Finish reading a novel - Went to bed.

Many people around me was like - How come you not mad? How come this and that? My answer has always been "For What?"

She lied - She lost - I moved on. Never been the type to get emotional over that type of stuff.

Now if I see an injustice, neglected child/elderly/handicapped person and/or things of this nature - Then that is something worth my emotions and actions.

Found someone that is very similar to me and we are making our relationship awesome.

If your mentality is not there - This is not for you. Just as monogamy is not for everyone. Though some people want EVERYONE to do exactly as they do - So that they can feel better and safe

 

[Les W]

what did i say in that thread? grass eaters?? them niggas were homos. i'm opposed to homosexuality in the black community because it reduces biodiversity which reduces the race's ability to survive.

next question.

Nah your answer ITT says all , I never discussed no homos in black community as far as I know so I don't know wtf that is...

 

[dHustla]

How would you handle being a dude in an open relationship while your sig other is getting dicked down left and right? Its way easier for a woman to get fucked then for us to get ass, on the average.

My man...

I always use protection, so I really don't give a fuck who or how she is fucking other niggas