Paternity Testing....?
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Bro it's not a big deal. The take a cotton swab much like the one you use to clean your ears except the stick is longer and rub it against your cheek, throat, somewhere in the mouth. They rub one against the kid cheek the same way. Painless, no hurt, no shame.
I want to warn you that once you've taken the paternity test and it comes back that the kid is yours then you can't use the kid is not mine defense anymore just because it is ugly like the mom and looks nothing like you.
Just being a clown. But it sure beats taking care of a kid for 10 or more years only to find out you could have been vacationing in the islands on that money all these years. It also gives you the confidence in knowing that you are 99.9999% sure that it's your kid and the saying "mothers baby and fathers maybe" doesn't apply to you"
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Yea I know the procedure itself, watched Maury one too many times. But I'm curious about all the other aspects of it, it's not for me; it's for my man and his exes kid. I just wanted to know if they have to be there at the same time and how long results take and all that....
i will definitely get a paternity test when the time comes....if the time comes
if the woman that Im with at the time is offended, then I wont sign the birth certificate and will not claim the child until science says its mine.
One cat who I know was taking care of a daughter that wasnt his for like 10 years.
The fucked up thing is that he was married to the mother...and she made him think that the child was his for the entire marriage of 10 years.
To top it all off they were both very active in church
Fucking sad...i really feel sorry for dude, because he was a good man.
There is no greater fear for a man than to have to raise someone else's child when you think its your own seed....at least thats my personal fear.
if the woman that Im with at the time is offended, then I wont sign the birth certificate and will not claim the child until science says its mine.
One cat who I know was taking care of a daughter that wasnt his for like 10 years.
The fucked up thing is that he was married to the mother...and she made him think that the child was his for the entire marriage of 10 years.
To top it all off they were both very active in church
Fucking sad...i really feel sorry for dude, because he was a good man.
There is no greater fear for a man than to have to raise someone else's child when you think its your own seed....at least thats my personal fear.
LoneStar29
Banned
I would be very insulted if my man didn't trust me and wanted a paternity test ... but since I can see all the triflin' shit some women do I wouldn't blame him for wanting one so I would just do it to make him happy ... plus I aint got shit to hide
I mean I can understand taking the test theoretically and would do it b/c I have nothing to hide BUT what happens when it comes back and IT IS his child and the women is like I TOLD YOU SO!
that would realllllllly bother me and would be very insulted! you 2 years deep into ya marriage and your like "we're pregnant" and he is like YAY blah blah blah..oh yeah I want a paternity test when ya pop the baby out, your like WTF?
all the damn ppl on Maury had evidence that the person was cheating as MOST people do, but didn't want to admit it. If yall were broken up and they messed w/ another person, there were cheating issues then I could understand, yall haven't fucked in like 2 months or like in the Dr.'s case, you previously took care of a kid that wasn't yours...understandable...but otherwise might be problematic.
I guess this is something that needs to be discussed in the relationship before hand...damn.
The answer to that question is no. All parties does not have to be there the same time. Them all being there at the same time makes it easier for the lab though. To prove my point. Take the case where the father or the child is dead. They collect the specimen, do their magic on it and then they get a picture/chart and they compare certain things on the charts.
That's horrible. It's messed up how the good men out there get taken advantage of by shitty women. How did they come about finding out the child wasn't his? Did he suddenly want a test??
c/s
i didn't think so but I wanted to be sure. I just can't stand the thought of him and that bird in the same state let alone the same room. He would have to travel to another state if they were to do it at the same time...
Had noooo idea! How accurate are they though?? Guess I have some more research to do...
my son looks like me so....
you know what honestly I have been contemplating this very issue. I have three kids and for a fact I know two of them are mine. by time my third one came we had went through so much shit its ridiculous. Plus at the alledged time of conceiving we were separated. Now I was just going to put it in the back of my mind but after all the shit I found out she did behind my back and in my face leads me to think otherwise. Plus I spoke to my mother about the issue and what she thought. She didnt want to say anything to me, but since I brought it up she says that my third child does not look like my other two children, which I have noticed. She does not look like me at all nor does she look like any of my nieces. Now I did bring this issue up with my ex to see what she had to say. She obviously denies it, but what I have noticed is now everytime my daughter does something she instantly says see she ACTS just like you. Its always acts never looks because she knows like I know she doesnt look like me. Over time She doesnt even bring that up anymore, but I am debating doing it. Originally it was mainly for child support reasons, but as of lately its really bugging me to know.
I think you should do it. In some cases dudes end up taking care of kids even if it's not theirs, but to get peace of mind that's the only way. If you were to find out she isn't yours what's your plan of action?
funny you say this cause my women says the same thing. Honestly I am sure my ex has contemplated this also. she knows i love my kids so she has a way of emphasizing daddy around them because she knows that i love them and that doing so makes it harder for me to want to do a test. Honestly I dont know. When I am calm I would say I dont want to change certain things. but when I am upset with her I would throw it in her face. So honestly im not 100 on what I would do, but I do know I need to decide before things get to deep. My youngest the one im talking about is going to be 5 this year
I know what you mean. After 5 years too, a part of me wouldn't want to know even if she wasn't mine. By that point like that IS your daughter you know. If you found out she wasn't then you'd probably be heartbroken every time you saw her. Then it's like, when you see your other kids she's the odd one out? How you supposed to treat her? It's messed up.
Not for nothing but a woman should at least have enough respect for herself and her kids to be able to tell the possible father whether he might be or not. The situation is going to be worse in the end if he finds out last minute...
I tell you what Ive almost considered not saying anything beyond my own thoughts just for that reason alone. I mean what is gonna happen.
Scenario: I pick up my kids, the ones i know for a fact, and then leave her there crying wondering why she cant come.
that shit right there would kill me. Even though most mofos would say thats the mothers problem, well being a father or at least the only father shes known I feel its my responsibility to think about her feelings as well. I love her like my own, but it does bug me in the back of my mind when I look at her because I just know something is off.
Exactly. Shit is tough. Maybe your best bet is to just leave it alone then. You'll just have to work on getting the what if out of your head though. Because if you find out she's not yours and feel you can't treat her as your own still, then your hurting more than just yourself. If you're strong enough to know she's not yours but still want to be her father then you've been added to list of real men! It takes a lot to raise another persons child...
You need to figure out what's more important, knowing for a fact if she's yours or not, or just her happiness...and you being her daddy!
you should be insulted. If you have nothing to hide then you shouldn't have to prove you have nothing to hide.
He shouldn't be in a relationship at all if he doesnt trust women. That's a deal breaker anywhere anytime any place.
LoneStar29
Banned
Yo if you have any doubt whatsoever take the test ... if it is just a coincidence that she had the baby while you were seperated and that the baby doesn't look like your other kids then let her prove it ... I think there is enough evidence there for a test
If BGOL has taught me anything it has been that there are an unbelievable amount of triflin' women out there ... if I can put my mans mind at ease that I aint one of them by taking one test ... then I'll do it ... but after I am proved right he owes me
utter and complete bullshit and that is the logic that a scandalous woman would use to guilt a man into not taking the test.
If there is nothing to hide, then take the test.
If a brawd is willing to break up with me because I want the child tested, then it is very obvious that she is breaking up with me for a different reason.
A man deserves peace of mind.
if you have doubt in if indeed your child is yours then you have a SERIOUS problem.
Trust is always the Key is relationships.
Trust is always the Key is relationships.
well trust as far as my ex wife goes went out the window a long time ago.
damn...
Really?? Hmmm.... Good looks...
you know what real talk and this is the shit my ex wife used on me to get me to question my respect as being the father of these kids. Its been eating at me.Sounds like she already have your name on the birth certificate so you don't need her permission to take he/she/them. You only need you and the kid to get the test complete. Just take him one day and head straight there. If you got the money. Get all three. Trust me that you will be proud and confident and your love will have no hesitation on it. You will kill for them because you will have no doubt whatsoever. No one can look at you and tell you jokingly or seriously that it's not your kid and put doubt in your mind after that.
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Why does it always have to be about you? Why are you taking it personally? Be upset at the women who has caused the men to have doubts. We all would like to trust that our partner will be with us for life. Most of us would like to trust that when we impregnate a female that we are forming a family bond for life and not till she gets bored or not till the chips are low or what ever excuse she may use.
BUT THE REALITY IS...........
IT"S NOT PERSONAL LS. There is a Plus side in it for you. He will trust you even more after he verifies. A consistent track record of things he verified will lead him to verify less or occasionally.
BUT THE REALITY IS...........
IT"S NOT PERSONAL LS. There is a Plus side in it for you. He will trust you even more after he verifies. A consistent track record of things he verified will lead him to verify less or occasionally.
Soooo.....turns out no dam test is needed bc the dam bird been lying about being pregnant this whole time!!! I been through hell for months bc this psychotic bitch want to have her ex man believing she's giving him a son (what he wants most in life). This crazy hoe stole pics off google of sonos and newborns and had the balls to leave him a vm with a baby crying in the background saying it was his son!!
I'm laughing at this how more than I'm even mad at this point.
I'm laughing at this how more than I'm even mad at this point.
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