That scene needs to be posted in 90% of the threads in this forum.
It is very unfortunate and I suspect the reason why many don't post or respond is there's so little quality feedback on so many issues. I never thought this forum would have so few active participants.
Had to come out of lurk mode to shout out DD. I know he always has strong opinions on these matters
Excellent points. Nice thread CT- bump for you sir.
CT, no offense, but this topic comes up often. WOE is the black woman who is successful because she can't find a "good man."
We have movies, books, magazines, articles DEDICATED towards this topic...
BUT, I see tons of successful BLACK women around me everyday sustaining successful relationships, and not basing their self worth on their net worth...
I think, rather than just posting the video, you should have had some talking points around it...
But, honestly, the thread topic alone probably turns many of the women away
It is very unfortunate and I suspect the reason why many don't post or respond is there's so little quality feedback on so many issues. I never thought this forum would have so few active participants.
It is very unfortunate and I suspect the reason why many don't post or respond is there's so little quality feedback on so many issues. I never thought this forum would have so few active participants.
There's some truth to this but I was referring to the lack of women posting here. It is their forum. There's only a handful of posters that consistently post. Even the mods aren't very active. The exception of course being "Onyx the Hershey Wonder."
that I should get a better cooperation in this bitch! CT, no offense, but this topic comes up often. WOE is the black woman who is successful because she can't find a "good man."
We have movies, books, magazines, articles DEDICATED towards this topic...
BUT, I see tons of successful BLACK women around me everyday sustaining successful relationships, and not basing their self worth on their net worth...
I think, rather than just posting the video, you should have had some talking points around it...
But, honestly, the thread topic alone probably turns many of the women away
Jo, this isn't a video. It's an article that was posted on MSN.com about successful women in general. It wasn't geared specifically toward the black community. Please read it and then share your thoughts...
ah-ha...very funny, CT...either way it goes, I ain't watching that shit...who the freak wants to hear about the woes of black women AGAIN...
ah-ha...very funny, CT...either way it goes, I ain't watching that shit...who the freak wants to hear about the woes of black women AGAIN...
I agree with this completely. On the converse side, I have encountered men who, once they found out what I do/am doing, felt like this was a way for them to escape responsibility. I had one guy tell me, once he found about my career plans, "that's cool, so I don't have to worry about working, I'll just stay at home".
I have also date a successful professional male who used his wealth as a tool to convince me not to further my own career. "I work so that you don't have to". It sounds good in theory, but it's really a form of manipulation and control. Your mate should always support your goals.
As for the men in the article, they all seem to be very career oriented, so they will more likely than not, meet more women who are as well. This is really the biggest underlying problem: when you have two people that are driven, they tend to work long hours, are always busy, and so they never spend real time together. This is where priorities and communication come into play, something will have to give, and nobody will want to feel like they are giving up their career for the other person, this is probably where the who makes the most money and materialism, etc. etc. starts to rear its ugly head...
This is really why two really successful people have difficulties, the ability to compromise and communicate-well hell that's why most relationships are difficult. I also think it's important to say that financial success has no bearings on how well a man will treat a woman and vice versa. Being a doctor does not mean a person will not cheat, lie, or misuse you, so having degrees and businesses, at the end of the day, is of little benefit if you are dealing with an asshole. Chances are, most them were probably assholes long before the success, they just feel like now they have a real reason to be one. It is my belief that money or success doesn't change you, it just brings out who you really were all along.
