Situation #179

[onyxfemme]

Ok so you go shopping out w/ your man. And he points out various womens asses to you. He looks and occasionally says dayyyyum! You say ok and dayum too because you seen the ass before he did. Plus YOU are bi....You carry own w/ your day.

So while in conversation you mention a nice looking dreadlocked light complected guy w/ a goatee that you saw early in the day.


HE FLIPS OUT! And tells you to never speak of it again and why do you remember so many details about the guy?


Why is the female in this situation wrong??????????


Discuss
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[IntelligentDyme]

The only thing she is wrong for is for forgetting that a man's ego is a lot more fragile than a woman's....

If she is bi then he probably thought pointing out other women was coool.. But he isn't bi so pointed out other men is entirely different to him....especially in great detail...

 

[onyxfemme]

The only thing she is wrong for is for forgetting that a man's ego is a lot more fragile than a woman's....

If she is bi then he probably thought pointing out other women was coool.. But he isn't bi so pointed out other men is entirely different to him....especially in great detail...

I thought I liked you..........



Thanks for the response!

 

[doggish_098]

going to the mall alone is horrible going to the mall with your girlfriend wife or jumpoff is a million times worst...

why would you point out another man you found attractive? what response did you expect from your dude? the women you were both checking out were common grounds. the dude you brought up was for your enjoyment only.

 

[onyxfemme]

going to the mall alone is horrible going to the mall with your girlfriend wife or jumpoff is a million times worst...

why would you point out another man you found attractive? what response did you expect from your dude? the women you were both checking out were common grounds. the dude you brought up was for your enjoyment only.

Hmmmmmmmmmm interesting perspective

 

[LeroyDibiase]

The only thing she is wrong for is for forgetting that a man's ego is a lot more fragile than a woman's....

If she is bi then he probably thought pointing out other women was coool.. But he isn't bi so pointed out other men is entirely different to him....especially in great detail...

^^^^from a dude's perspective

And he's pointing out asses to you as they appear, but they're forgotten seconds later. you're remembering a brother from hours ago in vigorous detail. Couple problems with that.

 

[onyxfemme]

^^^^from a dude's perspective

And he's pointing out asses to you as they appear, but they're forgotten seconds later. you're remembering a brother from hours ago in vigorous detail. Couple problems with that.

shut up w/ your occasional wisdom


Makes sense though

 

[JofromthaNO]

Ok so you go shopping out w/ your man. And he points out various womens asses to you. He looks and occasionally says dayyyyum! You say ok and dayum too because you seen the ass before he did. Plus YOU are bi....You carry own w/ your day.

So while in conversation you mention a nice looking dreadlocked light complected guy w/ a goatee that you saw early in the day.


HE FLIPS OUT! And tells you to never speak of it again and why do you remember so many details about the guy?


Why is the female in this situation wrong??????????


Discuss
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Others caught it, but the definite point is bringing up a brother earlier in the day vs. asses as they come and go...

Plus, he's not bi, the woman in question is...

Same reason as to why men are all open to bringing another woman into the bedroom, but don't want another brother in there...besides the homo implications

No one, especially a man, wants to think of his lady not considering him to be the finest, sexiest, best thing since sliced bread...for physical reasons or otherwise...

 

[onyxfemme]

No one, especially a man, wants to think of his lady not considering him to be the finest, sexiest, best thing since sliced bread...for physical reasons or otherwise...

well dayum......

 

[LoneStar29]

The only thing she is wrong for is for forgetting that a man's ego is a lot more fragile than a woman's....

If she is bi then he probably thought pointing out other women was coool.. But he isn't bi so pointed out other men is entirely different to him....especially in great detail...

^^^^from a dude's perspective

And he's pointing out asses to you as they appear, but they're forgotten seconds later. you're remembering a brother from hours ago in vigorous detail. Couple problems with that.

C/S both posts

At the same time I think he's being a bit selfish ... seems like ya'll open in your relationship ... if he can open up to you you should be able to open up to him too ... I mean it's just fantasy talk right just sayin'

 

[LeroyDibiase]

shut up w/ your occasional wisdom


Makes sense though

Occasional? You need to subscribe to the newsletter.

 

[onyxfemme]

C/S both posts

At the same time I think he's being a bit selfish ... seems like ya'll open in your relationship ... if he can open up to you you should be able to open up to him too ... I mean it's just fantasy talk right just sayin'

This is why you are my girl



Leroy....I'll try to follow more

 

[LeroyDibiase]

Your SO isn't going to appreciate the handsomeness of another dude the way you can, and do, appreciate that of another woman. It's sort of bonding moment (as corny as that sounds).

 

[mcguyver]

Wtf!!!



Hi Jo

 

[onyxfemme]

Your SO isn't going to appreciate the handsomeness of another dude the way you can, and do, appreciate that of another woman. It's sort of bonding moment (as corny as that sounds).

sighs heavily.............









McGuyver???? Post or get out!




Or rhyme, tap dance or something!

 

[mcguyver]

sighs heavily.............









McGuyver???? Post or get out!




Or rhyme, tap dance or something!

Your are stuk with whom you choose
I gave you enough clues to prove that nig wasn't smoothe.

​

 

[JofromthaNO]

Hi Jo

(waves back at him)

What up?!?

 

[IntelligentDyme]

C/S both posts

At the same time I think he's being a bit selfish ... seems like ya'll open in your relationship ... if he can open up to you you should be able to open up to him too ... I mean it's just fantasy talk right just sayin'

I don't see how this is selfish at all... there is a difference between open communication and an open relationship..

She likes pussy and he likes pussy (excuse the bluntness)...Him no likey the dick so why would he want to hear about his bi sexual woman talking about another man..especially the fact that she has marinated on this brother enough to talk about him hours after she first seen him...


Just because she has no problem with appreciating the female frame and he doesn't want to hear about the male frame, makes him a man not selfish...Personally if the man that I'm involved with took any interest in an appealing brother that happened to cross my way, Id give him the face and be the hell out.

I agree with Jo, women tend to forget that a man's ego needs extra stroking (along with other parts of his anatomy), though men may not admit to it, they are not as emotionally strong as women, and they want to know that you think they are the shit, they have the best dick ever, and that you never sucked or swallowed until you met them....and it is your responsibility to keep them delusional.... c'est la vie

 

[JofromthaNO]

I agree with Jo, women tend to forget that a man's ego needs extra stroking (along with other parts of his anatomy), though men may not admit to it, they are not as emotionally strong as women, and they want to know that you think they are the shit, they have the best dick ever, and that you never sucked or swallowed until you met them....and it is your responsibility to keep them delusional.... c'est la vie

So true, but much more blunt than I would ever put it

Can someone have an e-best friend...cause you my girl!

 

[LeroyDibiase]

sighs heavily.............

What did I do?

I don't see how this is selfish at all... there is a difference between open communication and an open relationship..

She likes pussy and he likes pussy (excuse the bluntness)...Him no likey the dick so why would he want to hear about his bi sexual woman talking about another man..especially the fact that she has marinated on this brother enough to talk about him hours after she first seen him...

Just because she has no problem with appreciating the female frame and he doesn't want to hear about the male frame, makes him a man not selfish...Personally if the man that I'm involved with took any interest in an appealing brother that happened to cross my way, Id give him the face and be the hell out.

I agree with Jo, women tend to forget that a man's ego needs extra stroking (along with other parts of his anatomy), though men may not admit to it, they are not as emotionally strong as women, and they want to know that you think they are the shit, they have the best dick ever, and that you never sucked or swallowed until you met them....and it is your responsibility to keep them delusional.... c'est la vie

She is VERY intelligent.

 

[Mr MajestiK]

The only thing she is wrong for is for forgetting that a man's ego is a lot more fragile than a woman's....

If she is bi then he probably thought pointing out other women was coool.. But he isn't bi so pointed out other men is entirely different to him....especially in great detail...

Good response, but the woman isn't wrong because bi or not the cat should be able to recognize that she may not necessarily approve of him checking out other chicks ass's.

 

[onyxfemme]

What did I do?

She is VERY intelligent.

Hit the nil on the head

Good response, but the woman isn't wrong because bi or not the cat should be able to recognize that she may not necessarily approve of him checking out other chicks ass's.

BINGO!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[sean69]

She's wrong

 

[LeroyDibiase]

Good response, but the woman isn't wrong because bi or not the cat should be able to recognize that she may not necessarily approve of him checking out other chicks ass's.

Perhaps but you missed this part of the OP.

Ok so you go shopping out w/ your man. And he points out various womens asses to you. He looks and occasionally says dayyyyum! You say ok and dayum too because you seen the ass before he did. Plus YOU are bi....You carry own w/ your day.​

She checkin and pointin out asses too.

 

[IntelligentDyme]

Good response, but the woman isn't wrong because bi or not the cat should be able to recognize that she may not necessarily approve of him checking out other chicks ass's.

She didn't say she had a problem with, instead she said damn too. IF she didnt like it she should have addressed it the same as he did and nipped in the bud. You can't go from saying damn about the ass with him to trying to fliip later on to work in your favor...

 

[cwhrmny]

your relationship is disfuctional anyway .you and him looking at women isn't even a relationship.it really doesnt matter

 

[CT's Finest]

Your SO isn't going to appreciate the handsomeness of another dude the way you can, and do, appreciate that of another woman. It's sort of bonding moment (as corny as that sounds).

True...

Your are stuk with whom you choose
I gave you enough clues to prove that nig wasn't smoothe.

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The only thing she is wrong for is for forgetting that a man's ego is a lot more fragile than a woman's....

If she is bi then he probably thought pointing out other women was coool.. But he isn't bi so pointed out other men is entirely different to him....especially in great detail...

I don't see how this is selfish at all... there is a difference between open communication and an open relationship..

She likes pussy and he likes pussy (excuse the bluntness)...Him no likey the dick so why would he want to hear about his bi sexual woman talking about another man..especially the fact that she has marinated on this brother enough to talk about him hours after she first seen him...


Just because she has no problem with appreciating the female frame and he doesn't want to hear about the male frame, makes him a man not selfish...Personally if the man that I'm involved with took any interest in an appealing brother that happened to cross my way, Id give him the face and be the hell out.

I agree with Jo, women tend to forget that a man's ego needs extra stroking (along with other parts of his anatomy), though men may not admit to it, they are not as emotionally strong as women, and they want to know that you think they are the shit, they have the best dick ever, and that you never sucked or swallowed until you met them....and it is your responsibility to keep them delusional.... c'est la vie

What did I do?



She is VERY intelligent.

Yes she is...

 

[kjxxxx]

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I agree with Jo, women tend to forget that a man's ego needs extra stroking (along with other parts of his anatomy), though men may not admit to it, they are not as emotionally strong as women, and they want to know that you think they are the shit, they have the best dick ever, and that you never sucked or swallowed until you met them....and it is your responsibility to keep them delusional.... c'est la vie

I don't know if I really care that she thinks I am the shit because I know in every area if she wanted she could find someone with it that might be better if she is focused on one specific thing. Something I got from the series on Showtime "Californication" when the wife gave the husband permission to fuck the porn actress to fill in on a movie but later when she went to rehab he fucked her again and fell in love. She told him it was over and that he ruined it. She told him she knew he wasn't the hunkiest, the biggest and he came quickly but he was hers and hers only. She was proud of that.

I assume that since the female is bi then she has brought another female in the relationship or have have had sex with a female while in the relationship. So while dude say ok to her with a female. He might still have the problem with the mine and mine only part but he justifies it with the fact that he fills the need for the male in her life and thus he thinks of it as he is the only man. So he thought he was being the liberated man and being open to a bi relationship but now he is wondering if open means he has to be more open and bracing himself for the day when the 3 some request is going to involve 2 guys. Seems she just tested him to see how open he was to the idea or maybe she was pushing the envelope to see if she could get him to go DL.

 

[onyxfemme]

THEY NEVER SHOULD HAVE LET YA'LL POST ON SOL!!!!!!!!!!!

True...

Yes she is...

She's wrong

You love pointing out what is right.....THIS TIME!
I like booties.....

Perhaps but you missed this part of the OP.



She checkin and pointin out asses too.

 

[jucurious]

Ok so you go shopping out w/ your man. And he points out various womens asses to you. He looks and occasionally says dayyyyum! You say ok and dayum too because you seen the ass before he did. Plus YOU are bi....You carry own w/ your day.

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Good response, but the woman isn't wrong because bi or not the cat should be able to recognize that she may not necessarily approve of him checking out other chicks ass's.

BINGO!!!!!!!!!!!

wait so does the woman have a problem with him checking out asses or not? i'm confused b/c ppl aren't mind readers. if i point out something and u cosign, I'm not going to think that you have a problem w/ it unless u make a disclaimer.

i mean unless she verbalized it or had SUPER telling body language after she cosigned a fat ass, he aint gonna know she don't like it. if you don't approve, don't cosign.

and ID...cosign all of your statements thus far lol

 

[onyxfemme]

Hey Ju!
She doesnt care because he keeps it moving and doesnt linger and eyeball the ass....BUT he shouldnt assume that she always needs him to point it out. They are in a relationship...
But you are right about the cosigning...Maybe she shouldnt all the time.....Unless the ass is like...........

Maybe IF he complimented her more and made her feel more secure then......She wouldnt mind the joint ass looking all the time though...

 

[sean69]

No one, especially a man, wants to think of his lady not considering him to be the finest, sexiest, best thing since sliced bread...for physical reasons or otherwise...

Bzzzzzzz!!!!
Wrong.
Or rather, partially right.
Any man that needs his woman to think of him like that has microwavable insecurity issues.

I don't see how this is selfish at all... there is a difference between open communication and an open relationship..

She likes pussy and he likes pussy (excuse the bluntness)...Him no likey the dick so why would he want to hear about his bi sexual woman talking about another man..especially the fact that she has marinated on this brother enough to talk about him hours after she first seen him...


Just because she has no problem with appreciating the female frame and he doesn't want to hear about the male frame, makes him a man not selfish...Personally if the man that I'm involved with took any interest in an appealing brother that happened to cross my way, Id give him the face and be the hell out.

Agree (with this part) 100%.

But, besides the drollery and rhetoric in this thread, wasn't this answer to the OP's "hypothetical" question so GOT DAMNED FUCKING OBVIOUS!!? . . .

I agree with Jo, women tend to forget that a man's ego needs extra stroking (along with other parts of his anatomy), though men may not admit to it, they are not as emotionally strong as women, and they want to know that you think they are the shit, they have the best dick ever, and that you never sucked or swallowed until you met them....and it is your responsibility to keep them delusional.... c'est la vie

Bullshit.

You keep saying that shit and I'm thinking what putrid septic land-fill is she digging this crap out of? LOL

What do you mean by "emotionally strong"?
That's ambiguous as fuck.
What emotion?
You mean, like, catching feelings n shit?
If so, I aint touching that 32 page thread debate.

But if you must, there's mad published literature available on controlled psych experiments examining congruency (or lack thereof) of gender stereotypes related to emotion.
But shit, even then, I've seen some of them and they're mad suspect and over simplified because gotta consider social context and individual differences.

If you ask me, I'd say it's all about the experience and expression of emotions.

Males tend to maintain control over their emotions whereas females tend to be more are emotionally expressive.

 

[IslandKing]

Males tend to maintain control over their emotions whereas females tend to be more are emotionally expressive.

Well put.

 

[LoneStar29]

Maybe IF he complimented her more and made her feel more secure then......She wouldnt mind the joint ass looking all the time though...

Good point ... did "she" tell "him" that???

 

[sean69]

Well put.

*breathes on spectacles, wipes with bow-tie, cocks bowler hat to the left, taps seasoned 1842 Welsh tobacco in cured Appalachian oak pipe ... lights it using a magnifying glass and sun-rays ... puffs ... adjusts suspenders and looks at compass*

"Ah yes. I'd say ol' Island chap."