Checking your own lust.

[HarlemPerv]

I often find that I have to check my own lust. I'm married, yet I still have sexual dreams about other women. I guess its on my subconscious, whether I like it or not. I haven't stepped out, I dont wanna go that route, but for whatever reason as I get older, the opportunities present themselves more often. What's a ninja to do?

Do some of y'all have the same issues?

 

[tarriqq]

yea I understand, how long have you been married? As men get older esp if they work on their income game. The opportunities are infinite!!! Sooner or later you will break. Just be safe & do not fuck with hood chicks that will be at your door.

 

[dj unknown]

i feel the same thing at time just fuck your wife or beat that shyt to some porn and go to sleep or exercise. stay strong playa dont stray, you've made that promise to yourself, her and GOD.

 

[Autobot8655]

i feel the same thing at time just fuck your wife or beat that shyt to some porn and go to sleep or exercise. stay strong playa dont stray, you've made that promise to yourself, her and GOD.

word

 

[Cock Head Jones]

This is why I can somewhat understand why married cats trick on pussy.

I'm not saying its cool to be fucking around on the wife (to each his own) but if you are going to, it's probably better to pay for that quick nut and keep it moving than to be all on the phone, wining and dining the secretary at the office. Broads calling you on your "batphone", mad that you didnt text her back... bla bla bla.

 

[HarlemPerv]

yea I understand, how long have you been married? As men get older esp if they work on their income game. The opportunities are infinite!!! Sooner or later you will break. Just be safe & do not fuck with hood chicks that will be at your door.

6 years. That's what scares me brah! The opportunities actually get greater as I mature... its scary how easy it gets to talk to women as you get older.. But, I am scared of the threat of new pussy. I don't believe in messin with rats, like its against my religion. I'm trying to walk that straight and narrow, but even my boys is tellin me its gonna get worse, especially as things start to open up financially for a ninja.

 

[keone]

This is why I can somewhat understand why married cats trick on pussy.

I'm not saying its cool to be fucking around on the wife (to each his own) but if you are going to, it's probably better to pay for that quick nut and keep it moving than to be all on the phone, wining and dining the secretary at the office. Broads calling you on your "batphone", mad that you didnt text her back... bla bla bla.

you know what co effing sign

its obvious but i never thought of that well i hold on to that when i get married and my time comes

 

[HarlemPerv]

i feel the same thing at time just fuck your wife or beat that shyt to some porn and go to sleep or exercise. stay strong playa dont stray, you've made that promise to yourself, her and GOD.

That's part of the reason I'm on here... so I wont walk around with a loaded cannon (no homo)

 

[cnc]

I often find that I have to check my own lust. I'm married, yet I still have sexual dreams about other women. I guess its on my subconscious, whether I like it or not. I haven't stepped out, I dont wanna go that route, but for whatever reason as I get older, the opportunities present themselves more often. What's a ninja to do?

Do some of y'all have the same issues?

Man, I think about

-the respect I would lose (most important thing)
-the $$$$ I would lose (life is a lot easier on two incomes as opposed to one, amongst other things)
-the impact on my kids (don't have any yet, but if I did)
-the potential pitfalls (pregnancy, disease, etc)

It's just not worth it; a vow was made in front of God and close family and friends, and I fully plan to live up to that vow. I like my life as drama-free as possible, and stepping out only potentially adds drama. I'm cool on that shit; that's what college and the early and mid 20's were for.

 

[BigDaddyBuk]

let me break it down for you partner.

you are healthy, and what you're experiencing is nothing to be ashamed about.

healthy adults are attracted to the opposite sex. your body was meant to be attracted to anyone who meets your standards for beauty. if this were to cease you would be experiencing some sort of psychological/physical malfunction.

that said, just because you choose to be with one woman does not mean you will stop being attracted to other women. again, this is natural and the proof that you are a healthy sexually mature man.

the difference between animals and humans is that we are not slaves to our instincts. you can CHOOSE who you fuck, while animals simply hump anything available to sate their lusts.

we ALL get play from outside women. some of us get play from chicks we find to be more our type physically than our wives. this is okay too. you have to expect to be hit on by other women, they are simply doing what comes natural, and probably aren't meaning to "do wrong".

but once you've made the vow, you need to keep your sexual expression in house. you already know it's possible because you've already been doing it. it's cheaper to keep her, and if the wife ain't happy, NOBODY is happy.

and even if you stepped out, when you're done all you did was get a nut...and a nut isn't important enough to fuck up your home life.

 

[thetruth]

That's part of the reason I'm on here... so I wont walk around with a loaded cannon (no homo)

porn can only take you so far after awhile you just gonna say fuck it because the seemingly perfect situation is GOING to present itself. stress free buns is hard to find but when you find it or when it finds you what are you going to do. you got to catch a woman at the right time just got out of a bad relationship, just looking for fun, got her own shit that she is not wiling to lose. if both of yall got shit to lose then its great. dont fuck with someone that got nothing to lose then your shit is a WRAP

 

[HarlemPerv]

Man, I think about

-the respect I would lose (most important thing)
-the $$$$ I would lose (life is a lot easier on two incomes as opposed to one, amongst other things)
-the impact on my kids (don't have any yet, but if I did)
-the potential pitfalls (pregnancy, disease, etc)

It's just not worth it; a vow was made in front of God and close family and friends, and I fully plan to live up to that vow. I like my life as drama-free as possible, and stepping out only potentially adds drama. I'm cool on that shit; that's what college and the early and mid 20's were for.

I don't have any yet.. but its bugged out how opportunities stay presentin themselves... I had 2 passes made at me last year. No drama this year so far, but its only January. Plus knowing my luck, anyone I try and run up in on the side will wind up pregnant.

Why can't they just leave a ninja be? Its like females become MORE interested when they find out you married.

 

[cnc]

Why can't they just leave a ninja be? Its like females become MORE interested when they find out you married.

Man.....a miserable woman with no man HATES to see a happy woman with a good man on her arm. It's like a sick, twisted game.....as they say, misery LOVES company. The fact that you are married, in their eyes, means you're a) desirable, b) stable, c) a good person.....ALL of which are qualities they want, but either haven't found, or tricked away due to their own stupidity. So, since they can't find their own man, the next best option is to take someone elses.

More than anything, just enjoy the attention, and politely let them know the deal, then step back. Some chicks can't take no for an answer, and will even start trying to fuck up your happy home.

 

[HarlemPerv]

let me break it down for you partner.

you are healthy, and what you're experiencing is nothing to be ashamed about.

healthy adults are attracted to the opposite sex. your body was meant to be attracted to anyone who meets your standards for beauty. if this were to cease you would be experiencing some sort of psychological/physical malfunction.

that said, just because you choose to be with one woman does not mean you will stop being attracted to other women. again, this is natural and the proof that you are a healthy sexually mature man.

the difference between animals and humans is that we are not slaves to our instincts. you can CHOOSE who you fuck, while animals simply hump anything available to sate their lusts.

we ALL get play from outside women. some of us get play from chicks we find to be more our type physically than our wives. this is okay too. you have to expect to be hit on by other women, they are simply doing what comes natural, and probably aren't meaning to "do wrong".

but once you've made the vow, you need to keep your sexual expression in house. you already know it's possible because you've already been doing it. it's cheaper to keep her, and if the wife ain't happy, NOBODY is happy.

and even if you stepped out, when you're done all you did was get a nut...and a nut isn't important enough to fuck up your home life.

Thanks for that post. Man, sometimes you feel a lil crazy for not just taking something thats laid right in front of you. But, its all for a higher reason. Its not that bad now, but when the Spring hits, I get even worse urges. I have been good at controlling it such far. That side "Good-Good" will put me in a bad predicament.

And its not like I am LOOKING for a situation, it just comes to me every now and then. I'm not even gon' lie, I'm not even that high up the food chain when it comes to careers and it still happens.. so I am kinda scared whats gonna happen when my career does take off.

Sometimes, a ninja needs to get talked down.

 

[mal the magnificient]

this aint nothing new, beat off if u want to stay faithful, cheat if u wanna stay happy

 

[HarlemPerv]

Man.....a miserable woman with no man HATES to see a happy woman with a good man on her arm. It's like a sick, twisted game.....as they say, misery LOVES company. The fact that you are married, in their eyes, means you're a) desirable, b) stable, c) a good person.....ALL of which are qualities they want, but either haven't found, or tricked away due to their own stupidity. So, since they can't find their own man, the next best option is to take someone elses.

More than anything, just enjoy the attention, and politely let them know the deal, then step back. Some chicks can't take no for an answer, and will even start trying to fuck up your happy home.

It really is fucked up when you think about it. I'm going to take your advice seriously, along with everyone else.

I guess they really do like the idea of stability. When females are asking if they will get a chance to meet your wife, what is that about? Are they tryna size her up or somethin?

 

[jae_one]

Dude shit presents itself daily for me... The main thing that keeps me from stepping is the hurt I know it would cause my daughter and the disruption in her life... I think we will fight with that desire forever because the best pussy is always new pussy...

 

[BigDaddyBuk]

I guess they really do like the idea of stability. When females are asking if they will get a chance to meet your wife, what is that about? Are they tryna size her up or somethin?

man, SOME women are fucking evil. all they want is a chance to get close to your woman so they can fuck up what you have. don't buy into that messy ass shit.

when dudes have more than one woman we NEVER want those worlds to collide. there is no meeting the husband, other man, etc.

women be on that soap opera type shit.

 

[Coldchi]

yeah....it happens all the time when im in a relationship....whether im sleeping or not. hell i even fantasize about fuckin women while im in church....

 

[HarlemPerv]

man, SOME women are fucking evil. all they want is a chance to get close to your woman so they can fuck up what you have. don't buy into that messy ass shit.

when dudes have more than one woman we NEVER want those worlds to collide. there is no meeting the husband, other man, etc.

women be on that soap opera type shit.

I feel u. Its almost like.. I have to protect my relationship, because everybody is trying to get in and ask mad questions to find shit out.

I don't want my life to look like one of those tacky ass hood novels.

 

[onyxfemme]

It is cool...And it is expected
As long as you dont act on it, fantasizing and dreaming about other women while your married is cool.
Trust...Your wife dreams and fantasizes about other men.

 

[wutevabeotch]

lol... There's some good info in here...

 

[KILLER]

Man.....a miserable woman with no man HATES to see a happy woman with a good man on her arm. It's like a sick, twisted game.....as they say, misery LOVES company. The fact that you are married, in their eyes, means you're a) desirable, b) stable, c) a good person.....ALL of which are qualities they want, but either haven't found, or tricked away due to their own stupidity. So, since they can't find their own man, the next best option is to take someone elses.

More than anything, just enjoy the attention, and politely let them know the deal, then step back. Some chicks can't take no for an answer, and will even start trying to fuck up your happy home.

True dat.



@ O.P. Personally I would hit it otherwise in 5-10 years from now You may regret not having sex with some Hoes ,it's up to you.

 

[gameboy]

that's because marriage to 1 woman is not natural,,, as a male, you were designed to spread your seed,,, you can try your best to suppress those urges, but you can not change that which you are

 

[BigDaddyBuk]

True dat.



Now: Personally I would hit it otherwise in 5-10 years from now You may regret not having sex with some Hoes ,it's up to you.

a mature man ain't gonna regret some missed pussy.

you will not be able to fuck EVERYTHING that is offered to you, and grown men accept this fact.

kids look back and regret not fucking some chick. marriage MEANS you won't fuck other chicks. so when the pussy pops up, are you going to be surprised? news flash: wedding rings INVITE outside sex instead of warding it off.

i don't regret any pussy i passed over. again, when it's all said and done, it's just a nut.

hell, you can get those by accident in your sleep.

 

[gameboy]

yea I understand, how long have you been married? As men get older esp if they work on their income game. The opportunities are infinite!!! Sooner or later you will break. Just be safe & do not fuck with hood chicks that will be at your door.

any woman will be at your door if you are fucking her right, or she sees value in you,,, not just hood chicks

what i suggest for a married kat who wants to stay faithful is,,, close your eyes & pretend your wife is that other bitch that you want to fuck, while you are having sex,,, that chick you saw at the store today,,, that fine lady 2 houses down the block,,, that phat booty chick at work

doing this will also help you blow your wife's back out,,, after sex, she'll be like "gotdamn,,, what got into you!?"

 

[hussla's paradice]

man... don't do it.. I been known to have a wayward peter...

it's caused me a gang of problems

 

[PJN]

Man, I think about

-the respect I would lose (most important thing)
-the $$$$ I would lose (life is a lot easier on two incomes as opposed to one, amongst other things)
-the impact on my kids (don't have any yet, but if I did)
-the potential pitfalls (pregnancy, disease, etc)

It's just not worth it; a vow was made in front of God and close family and friends, and I fully plan to live up to that vow. I like my life as drama-free as possible, and stepping out only potentially adds drama. I'm cool on that shit; that's what college and the early and mid 20's were for.

Well spoken sir!

Practically what I tell myself every time these fine younger dimes throw the pussy at me. No drama, the easier life is. I see some ass that makes me want some, I just go home and fuck my wife.

 

[Iron]

Keep your dick in your pants. It's not worth it.


How would u feel if your wife was fucking another dude?

 

[gameboy]

this is also proof that many of you were suckered into marriage,,, ya'll knew damn well that you wanted to hit some new pussy when you got married,,, but your wife kept pressing the issue of marriage, then threatened to leave you, so you agreed to get married just to lock down the pussy

 

[HarlemPerv]

a mature man ain't gonna regret some missed pussy.

you will not be able to fuck EVERYTHING that is offered to you, and grown men accept this fact.

kids look back and regret not fucking some chick. marriage MEANS you won't fuck other chicks. so when the pussy pops up, are you going to be surprised? news flash: wedding rings INVITE outside sex instead of warding it off.


i don't regret any pussy i passed over. again, when it's all said and done, it's just a nut.

hell, you can get those by accident in your sleep.

That's the worst of it!

 

[BigDaddyBuk]

this is also proof that many of you were suckered into marriage,,, ya'll knew damn well that you wanted to hit some new pussy when you got married,,, but your wife kept pressing the issue of marriage, then threatened to leave you, so you agreed to get married just to lock down the pussy

oh come off it GB.

just cause you don't want to be married doesn't mean every man doesn't want it.

i PREFER marriage to single life. i was ALREADY turning down pussy before i got married cause i'm selective.

different strokes and all of that.

 

[gameboy]

oh come off it GB.

just cause you don't want to be married doesn't mean every man doesn't want it.

i PREFER marriage to single life. i was ALREADY turning down pussy before i got married cause i'm selective.

different strokes and all of that.

i didn't say "every" man,,, i said "many",,, if a man is worried about hitting some new pussy, then it probably wasn't his idea to get married,,, he was most likely pressured & rushed into it

 

[BigDaddyBuk]

i didn't say "every" man,,, i said "many",,, if a man is worried about hitting some new pussy, then it probably wasn't his idea to get married,,, he was most likely pressured & rushed into it

dude even if you are totally ready for marriage you are still going to be worried about strange coochie because it's ALWAYS around.

worrying about is a part of being married. it doesn't mean you were pressured into marriage, and it doesn't mean you don't love your wife or are unsatisfied with her.

it means you're concerned with being a faithful husband.

 

[clayizaiken]

tell your wife, that's what I do.