Would you marry a chick who can help you get where you're going....

[Upgrade Dave]

Marry one that can help you get where you're going. Building together helps strengthen your bond.

OR
A more cynical answer: if we build it together, if she leaves, she has earned her half. If I build it and she jumps on the bandwagon and still gets half, I might kill her.

 

[FAMU2g3]

this is one of the most profound posts i have yet encountered on bg. anyways, the answer is quite simple my friend. It would be DISASTROUS to marry a chick just because you think she can get you to where you want to be if you DONT love her. if you do, then you're cool.
I mean think about it. why would u want to marry someone youre not in love with anyways?
So, the ideal situation is to marry someone who first and foremost youre in love with, and secondarily, is going to bring something to the table (help you get to where you're going, be a good wife, etc etc). Not the other way around.

Nah, my post is based on actually feeling the chick, but feeling like I havent "balled out" enough on my own,,,,,you know,,,,the bigger bachelor pad, ,, the hot whips,,, bikes,,,mad bitches,,,VIP in the club, coming home w/ 3 bitches on some rich nigga shit...


This post is not based on marrying a bitch solely for guap....


Just asking if you should reach baller status alone and wild out first....or hit baller status w/ wifey,,,,

 

[elchoccolatte]

I want someone that's going to steer me STRONG, NOT steer me WRONG Ya Hurrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrddd...

 

[THE DRIZZY]

In the 21st century men should marry up, she should make 2x as much as you. This is a business contract, nothing more or less, and as a man in this day and age marry up.

Whats that, you make 6 figures and women like that are hard to find......................wtf you getting married for?

Bingo!

 

[^SpiderMan^]

Basically, a lot of whites "Marry Up" whereas most black men will marry a chick from the same social class or marry down
cause the bitch gotta big ass and can cook.

BULLSHIT.Im a firefighter and work with white folks 24 hours at a time.They are truly retarded when it comes to family life.They marry on looks(many have wives 10 years younger who dont do shit but shop),they put their friends before family(out with "the guys" every of day),and many of their wives boos them around like kids.By far, the most stable relationships are the brothers and sistas.A lot of times we subconsciously put white folks on a pedestal.When socioeconomics are the same we are fair far better when it comes to family.

 

[THE DRIZZY]

These cats don't hear you!
Every black woman wants to be a bride, but very few really want to be a WIFE.
Most women now think it is beneath them to cook for a man regularly, and treat the man with respect as head of the household.
Women seek to get married to validate themselves as a woman....and have 2 incomes to spend instead of 1.

Thank the feminist for this. Alot of sisters are always talking that empowerment shit. Then I'm like....

"empowered to do what?"

The feminist have really mindfucked our sisters. They complain about not being able to find a "good black man" and the reason why is that the feminist movement turned black women into the "good black man". No brother in his right mind would want a woman who puts career over family. Alot of sisters read publications like Essence and Ebony and watch shows like Oprah and The View and treat it as gospel. I will even go further to say that Feminism is aligned with white supremacy. Think about it......During the civil rights/black power era there was not a feminist to be found. Martin and Malcolm had the loyalty of the women already. Many times it would be the old black women who would get their ear and tell them what needs to be done. Corretta Scott King and Betty Shabazz was not on that feminist shit. They were clear in what their roles were and that was to be the pillar of strength for their husbands.

 

[Dallas Bueller]

Help me get where I'm going in what way? She got connections or something?

If you are marrying a chick for so-called motivation and emotional support, you are making a big mistake. Most chicks are wired to seek safety and security. Anyone knows that achieving a certain degree of success requires one to take calculated risks. Also, once time goes on her and patience wears thin because you still haven't got your shit together, she will likely seek the man who made the smart decision to focus on getting where they are going first.

 

[FAMU2g3]

Help me get where I'm going in what way? She got connections or something?

If you are marrying a chick for so-called motivation and emotional support, you are making a big mistake. Most chicks are wired to seek safety and security. Anyone knows that achieving a certain degree of success requires one to take calculated risks. Also, once time goes on her and patience wears thin because you still haven't got your shit together, she will likely seek the man who made the smart decision to focus on getting where they are going first.

Nah, my post is based on actually feeling the chick, but feeling like I havent "balled out" enough on my own,,,,,you know,,,,the bigger bachelor pad, ,, the hot whips,,, bikes,,,mad bitches,,,VIP in the club, coming home w/ 3 bitches on some rich nigga shit...


This post is not based on marrying a bitch solely for guap....


Just asking if you should reach baller status alone and wild out first....or hit baller status w/ wifey,,,,

 

[Dallas Bueller]

Nah, my post is based on actually feeling the chick, but feeling like I havent "balled out" enough on my own,,,,,you know,,,,the bigger bachelor pad, ,, the hot whips,,, bikes,,,mad bitches,,,VIP in the club, coming home w/ 3 bitches on some rich nigga shit...


This post is not based on marrying a bitch solely for guap....


Just asking if you should reach baller status alone and wild out first....or hit baller status w/ wifey,,,,

Hell yeah ball out first. Get that shit out of your system. You'll either find out you don't want to get married because you're having too much fun, or you will get burned out and retreat to one bitch.

It's the dudes who don't do that who end up having a midlife crisis. I have seen quite a few brothers sacrifice their dreams for the sake of getting married.

The wife ain't fucking, they're stuck in a damn cubicle somewhere trying to keep shit afloat, their whole swagger is gone, and they don't even have good memories to fall back on

If you really believe you are going to reach a certain level financially, then get there first and live it up before the wife comes in and start tracking your movements and telling you what you "aren't allowed" to do. Now mind you, I'm talking from the perspective of someone who has never been married, and likely never will, but i have heard more than enough horror stories.