Would you marry a chick who can help you get where you're going....
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the purpose of getting married should be finding a person that can help you get where you are going. there is never a good time to get involved with a go no where bitch.
Would you marry a chick who can't???
If you can't help each other and support each others goals then why get married in the 1st place. That loveydovey shit wears off eventually...and then you need a real friendship/ partnership to fall back on to make things work. At least that's my take on it. Never been married though so can't say I'm an authority on the subject.
If you can't help each other and support each others goals then why get married in the 1st place. That loveydovey shit wears off eventually...and then you need a real friendship/ partnership to fall back on to make things work. At least that's my take on it. Never been married though so can't say I'm an authority on the subject.
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Young man you may not know it but you've asked a very important and intelligent question.
Farrakhan once preached a light sermon on this (I'm not Muslim) but he said..."there are 3 things the white man has never taught the black man"
1. The Science of Business
2. The Science of Warfare
3. The Science of Mating.
In regards to the Science of Mating, most blacks marry one another from the "waist down" and from "matters of the heart".
But a lot of Whites and Asians marry one another from the "head up". A middle class White man of potential will intelligently seek out a wife from the Uppper Class. A Low Class white man (with potential) will seek out a wife from the Middle Class.
White women do the same thing.
Basically, a lot of whites "Marry Up" whereas most black men will marry a chick from the same social class or marry down
cause the bitch gotta big ass and can cook.
IMO, if you are a man from the lower class (but don't come off that way) who's looking to get married, I suggest you "Marry Up" and find yourself a wife from the Middle/Upper Class who can help take you where you need to get to in life.
Maybe I'm looking too much into the question, but the question implies that getting to where you're going is the dominant attribute in marrying her. Let me give a little advice:
You marry because you love her and that together you can build. You also have to realize that you want to marry someone that's looking to build, but you want the other things, too. You want the physical attraction, because you have to actually have sex with this woman, and you don't want to complicate your life with other women. You also want that good friendship, because your communication is key.
But if you are marrying her merely because she can help you make some money, don't marry that one. Give her a business plan, and make her a part of your team. But if the girl is fine, your communication is tight together, and you just want to settle down with her, that's the one you marry.
You marry because you love her and that together you can build. You also have to realize that you want to marry someone that's looking to build, but you want the other things, too. You want the physical attraction, because you have to actually have sex with this woman, and you don't want to complicate your life with other women. You also want that good friendship, because your communication is key.
But if you are marrying her merely because she can help you make some money, don't marry that one. Give her a business plan, and make her a part of your team. But if the girl is fine, your communication is tight together, and you just want to settle down with her, that's the one you marry.
And thats the concept that has Black relationships all fucked up in the game. What is wrong with your level?
I really feel what you saying my dude...but thats why white are robotic devils to me...
honestly you marry for love IMO....yes financial status and personality is included...
next I won't rely on anyone to get me anywhere in life.....tho I understand what you and honorable Louis farrakhan is talking about....
1. whites and asians are the two most dominant and powerful races on earth. taking a page outta their handbook to become wealthy and powerful should be recommended.
2. You just proved my point that blacks are more emotional cause we marry based on feelings. a lot of black people make decisions from the heart moreso from the head. (now there are a lot of intelligent black people who use their heads).
We go by what we feel because the foundation of black people is rhythm and rhythm is a feeling, an emotion.
- unfortunately, emotions do change and can cloud reasoning and good judgment.
Dumbest shit I ever read...
I am all for Farrakhan but it boils my skin to hear things like this. We need to wait for the white man to hold our hands in furthering our domestic life
this is one of the most profound posts i have yet encountered on bg. anyways, the answer is quite simple my friend. It would be DISASTROUS to marry a chick just because you think she can get you to where you want to be if you DONT love her. if you do, then you're cool.
I mean think about it. why would u want to marry someone youre not in love with anyways?
So, the ideal situation is to marry someone who first and foremost youre in love with, and secondarily, is going to bring something to the table (help you get to where you're going, be a good wife, etc etc). Not the other way around.
I mean think about it. why would u want to marry someone youre not in love with anyways?
So, the ideal situation is to marry someone who first and foremost youre in love with, and secondarily, is going to bring something to the table (help you get to where you're going, be a good wife, etc etc). Not the other way around.
right....
Now we have to marry for everything else but personal feelings...and if i do i'm wrong....?
yeah whites marry "head up"...how many divorces are there a year?
don't USA lead the world....foolish idea...next we don't always have to copy whites like they are the blueprint to sucessful life or/& marriage....
We don't need to wait for anyone. We have access to information and each other. We subliminally qand consciously build constantly on BGOL. It's up to us to forge what we know into a sword and shield.
That being said, marry the one that will be productive and supportive in your individual and combined endeavors.
That being said, marry the one that will be productive and supportive in your individual and combined endeavors.
In the 21st century men should marry up, she should make 2x as much as you. This is a business contract, nothing more or less, and as a man in this day and age marry up.
Whats that, you make 6 figures and women like that are hard to find......................wtf you getting married for?
Whats that, you make 6 figures and women like that are hard to find......................wtf you getting married for?
marrying for money IMO is a hoe move...
don't marry a broke female...but if she getting money whats the matter....?
sorry I need no female to take care of me....
I am talking about the BUSINESS CONTRACT, which is all marriage is. You can be with a life partner who makes less than you, or the same, but if you a man and gonna sign a non-beneficial contract, you better make sure she makes 2 times as much, cause 50% of them contracts fail and you will get cleaned out if she does not.
I say be happy with your life partner, why sign a fucked up business contract.
If you had a offer to take on a business partner only doing 30k a year and you doing 100k a year, would you enter into a contract splitting your earnings and belongings in half with that person..........................HELL NO. But men do it daily, thats why if you sign that contract................marry up.
C/S dudes post is WTF? on so many levels Bundaist The Messiah dude seriously WTF?
I am talking about the BUSINESS CONTRACT, which is all marriage is. You can be with a life partner who makes less than you, or the same, but if you a man and gonna sign a non-beneficial contract, you better make sure she makes 2 times as much, cause 50% of them contracts fail and you will get cleaned out if she does not.
I say be happy with your life partner, why sign a fucked up business contract.
If you had a offer to take on a business partner only doing 30k a year and you doing 100k a year, would you enter into a contract splitting your earnings and belongings in half with that person..........................HELL NO. But men do it daily, thats why if you sign that contract................marry up.
I lived in a household that ppl stayed together cuz it was financially better for them then seperating....but the ppl (my parents) were miserable....
so you agree with that...marrying a shitty partner cuz they make more money than you...
honestly i don't see marriage as a contract...courts do...not me...I'm old fashion when it comes to marriage...I won't marry anyone but a chick that has everything good...which includes a good career....
I think having a marriage based on a foundation of money is only setting ya ass up for a fall on ya face...thats goes for both genders...
no hate towards you....
No he's exactly right. Blacks have the highest EI (emotional Intelligence) it's actually part of the DNA. And it's horrible for war and evil strategy. One laymans example is how accepting blacks are, no matter what a group does to them, take eminem for example, Paul wall etc, Do you see any prominent country singers? Truly accepted? Fuck no, and on the rock side there's two in history, Lenny Kravizt and Jimi Hendrix. which is originally a black music so at least one of those doesn't count. Another example is the moorish empire, when white people defeat you they take EVERYTHING FROM YOU, PERIOD. YOUR CULTURE YOUR LANGUAGE YOUR HOMELAND EVERYTHING a lot of the time. The Moors should've destroyed certain European culture and denied them from speaking their own language, and should've raped all their women like how the spanish did the indians of the world. Catch my drift? we're too emotional and Nice overall, when judged as a whole. This can be seen in everyday life, we're way more accepting and even sometimes in defence of white a LOT. White people are not so quick to accept or defend you, naturally, and socially.
I am talking about the BUSINESS CONTRACT, which is all marriage is. You can be with a life partner who makes less than you, or the same, but if you a man and gonna sign a non-beneficial contract, you better make sure she makes 2 times as much, cause 50% of them contracts fail and you will get cleaned out if she does not.
I say be happy with your life partner, why sign a fucked up business contract.
If you had a offer to take on a business partner only doing 30k a year and you doing 100k a year, would you enter into a contract splitting your earnings and belongings in half with that person..........................HELL NO. But men do it daily, thats why if you sign that contract................marry up.
These cats don't hear you!
Every black woman wants to be a bride, but very few really want to be a WIFE.
Most women now think it is beneath them to cook for a man regularly, and treat the man with respect as head of the household.
Women seek to get married to validate themselves as a woman....and have 2 incomes to spend instead of 1.
your whole logic is flawed because it is a capitalist point of view that has no correspondence with true human biology. this fake matrix should not determine who you are with. matters of the heart are what fuckin matters.
with that said, i do not advocate the concept of "marriage" at all in this current era of society. this thread is moot as fuck.
just enjoy life and don't tie yourself down. if you wanna be with someone and they wanna be with you just leave well enough the fuck alone.
"Hell, yeah!!"
Hey!
Mock ye not!
That is the greatest love story that's ever been told!!!!!!
c/s.
but like a dude on here once said:
"do NOT stick your dick in a broke bitch."
i've got 4 sisters, and they married men based on looks, $$$, what they drove, and other random emotional bullshit. the nikkas married them cause they thought they were fine and can cook.
i even warned one nikka not to marry my oldest sister-cause she's crazy, but he did it anyway. now, they are divorced, she's even more crazy and she's driving his ass crazy. how everybody in the house gonna be on all them drugs and getting them "checks?"
